spud271 47779 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 In April I found out that I have cancer and the prognosis was not good. I had known for a while that something was wrong, but being the person I am, I just shrugged it off as being over 40 and not a big deal. Clearly it was. Instead of dealing with the issue at hand and informing those I care about and love, I decided to keep things to myself. When I finally started to tell those people depression and anger had set in to my heart. It had become obvious to those around me that I was no longer myself, the positive attitude and sense of humour were gone. I was trying to push those I love and care about away so I could be left alone. I was a fool! After telling my father of the situation, he realized that darkness and despair had filled my heart. He flew over here on Friday to spend a solid couple of days with me. Knowing this I thought it was time to tell him everything about my life since I left home at 18 and joined the Royal Navy. He has always been a pillar of strength in my life, there to listen and never judge. I am sure there are things that I told him over the last couple of days that he never wanted to hear, but he never wavered and just listened. This morning as I told the last of what I wished to tell him, he put that gigantic paw of his on my shoulder, looked me in the eyes and said..."get your goddamn head out of your bleeping ass"!!!! He's right!!! After more words of wisdom from my father, I realize now that it is time to enter the fight. I want to say I am sorry to those I care about and love, I should have been stronger from the start and told you the situation. That was my mistake. Thanks to my father I have my positive attitude back and sense of humour. I do not want anyone's sympathy, for it is an emotion that commandos have little value in. What I want is for people to smile and laugh, that is what gives me strength and always has. Though there will be times where I will obviously not be around while I deal with certain things, those of you who I am in contact with and consider to be my friends will know the situation and where I am. I will not keep you in the dark any longer. Now to leave this on a funny note. ;) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DdeLUA0Fms http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLpO-OvJU74 Spud271 30 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest webothscore Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Smile and celebrate we will, at your future success! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mister T 45020 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Thanks for sharing this with us Spudsmeister ... Here's one for the Scotsman in you ... ;-) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Two Thirty 1422 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 In my eyes it took a lot of courage to broadcast this news of yours. I applaud that, and the obvious strength of character it took to do so. Fight til the end, man, right til the end! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest a**4* Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Thank you for sharing keep up the fight Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Ohhh My dear friend, You have an awesome sprit and I know you have a lot of fight in you! You have a big impact on many people in our community, you have showed strength to us in many ways, and I do not doubt for a second that you get all the support back! I am happy your father was there for you, and from what I read, the apple didn't fall far from the tree! This is too big to handle by yourself, and we all stand here for you! You would do the same for any of us! Love you!! I will see you soon! xoxoxo 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
olderguy 5797 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Although every situation is different, some of us have fought Cancer and survived (at least so far). It will be tough (and I think you are a very tough individual) but don't give in. And don't give up hope. I wish you the very best on this journey - it is a long and winding road. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cato 160314 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 All the best to you, spud! You are a fighter. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McGuinessDraft 2240 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Thanks for the post. Takes a lot of courage to to open yourself up in this medium and be so honest. Im wishing the best for you, stay strong and don't give up the fight brother! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luckyme 41401 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Thanks for sharing this with us, Spud. I wish you all the best....and do fight like a marine! Your relative young age, fighting spirit and the tough military training will all be in your favour. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steveyK 4311 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 I know you'll fight hard, I'll be thinking of you as you battle this enemy! Stay in touch... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 All the best to you! If there is one thing I admire about the Royal Marine is their tenacity in the face of an enemy any enemy. Fight on spud! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Thank you for sharing and may this be the last battle you'll have to fight. Wishing you only the best. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lowdark 5613 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 To paraphrase Christopher Walken-don't just fight it, kick its ass! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kyra.Graves 23779 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Cheers to you handsome, may you have many more battles in your future and look upon this one as just one more you've conquered. I will not try to blow roses or smoke up your ass, that kinky stuff will cost you a good deal more (sorry no pity discounts for you!) and I am sure this will be a struggle but from all that I have gleaned of you over the years I am sure you will find the strength to face this head on. Whatever the prognosis you have been given I do hope you realise there are always some that beat those odds and a good many people are on your side to support you and be sure you are one of those people. Take care of yourself first and post to us when you need it, want to or just feel like blowing off some steam. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest fi****ek Report post Posted August 5, 2013 You might want to look into adopting a ketogenic diet. I have seen reports of a ketogenic diet being successful in reversing cancer. Cancer cells thrive on glucose. So, eliminate as many forms of glucose/frutcose/sugar from your diet that you possibly can. A brief excerpt from an article. The Ketogenic Diet All cells, including cancer cells, are fueled by glucose. But if you deprive them of glucose, they switch to the alternate fuel, ketone bodies. Except cancer cells. A defect prevents them from making the switch to using ketone bodies as fuel and therefore, cancer cells can only survive on glucose. All other cells can use either glucose or ketone bodies. "Your normal cells have the metabolic flexibility to adapt from using glucose to using ketone bodies. But cancer cells lack this metabolic flexibility. So we can exploit that," Dr. D'Agostino explained. People like Hatfield, who want to deprive their cells of glucose and fuel them with ketone bodies instead, eat what's known as a ketogenic diet. It consists of almost zero carbohydrates, but lots of natural proteins and fats. This is one of those treatments where it doesn't cost you anything to try it. It just represents a different way of metabolizing food. I've personally cut back on carbs and upped my intake of healthy fats and vegetables. Despite drinking homo milk, cooking with organic butter and olive oil, eating eggs, avocados, salmon, plenty of nuts, etc, I've gained no weight, in fact, the opposite has happened, I'm the lightest I've been in 20 years. I've had sizeable inflammation symptoms reduced as well. My last psa test was high, my doctor wanted me to immediately get a prostate biopsy. I declined. The test is mired in controversy and there were certain abnormal circumstances particular to me, that would've led to a high psa score. I operate under the assumption, that I may have cancer of the prostate. Hell, all men, if you live long enough will succumb to prostate cancer. So, what I'm doing is pro-active, cutting carbs, increasing fats, getting more sunshine, vitamin D is also important in cancer prevention, and exercising. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 I'm certainly glad that you had a visit with your dad, even though the reasons for it not so good Wishing you all the best in this battle. Stay strong, be positive, and my thoughts will be with you RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pipercub 795 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Wishing you all the best in what may be the most important battle to date. Being that my significant other was diagnosed in march with cancer I know that you have a long road ahead of you as we do. I can tell you do not hesitate to rely on friends and family for support for there will be times you need it. You will find that the professional medical people whom will guide you through this journey of hell truly remarkable. The cancer centre in the Civic and it's staff are second to none. Best of luck and kick ass. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EvaAdore 7767 Report post Posted August 5, 2013 Thanks for sharing, and wishing you a speedy recovery! You are a strong person, I have no doubt you will kick this in the ass! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzitup 5652 Report post Posted August 6, 2013 I wish you nothing but success in the challenges you will be facing. Good luck with this Spud. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted August 6, 2013 Spud, thank you for sharing. Sending you strong fighting angels to keep you safe and loved. Stay strong and fight this battle. Your father sounds like an amazing man, and I am glad you had a good visit. xoxo 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted August 6, 2013 Wow, your situation takes a lot of strength. I wish nothing but the best for you. Sounds like you don't have to fight alone anymore. A great support system can only make you stronger. Glad to hear that this has helped to bring who you are back. XoXo Peachy/Val. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted August 6, 2013 Since a few people asked yesterday, here is the ethos by which Royal Marines live by. Courage, Unity, Determination, Adaptability, Unselfishness, Humility, Cheerfulness, Professional Standards, Fortitude, Commando Humour. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted August 7, 2013 Your courage and strength are very evident in your post and don't be afraid to fight it all the way. It is amazing what positivity can do to help during these times. You will be in my thoughts. xo 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted August 7, 2013 It's nice to see you still have a positive attitude and can use humor in your everyday life! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites