Kissing after a BJ

[castle 38816]

Normally I don't mind at all...But I had a girlfriend once with whom I outright refused to let her kiss me after a bj. But that was a matter of principle...not taste. Hear me out!!

 

She would absolutely refuse to let me kiss her anywhere on the face after DATY until I had thoroughly washed my face and rinsed my mouth. She was clean and everything...so I don't get what her problem was. And yet, she had no problems kissing me after a bj. I thought that was kind of a double standard so I put my foot down and said "No smooch for you!". Yeah it's silly...but what the hey...I was young.

 

Now the thing is, my DATY skills are.....noteworthy...to say the least and it was always in demand (yes, tooting my own horn here :p). And she was an absolute oral fiend who absolutely could not stop herself from going down on me......so needless to say, there was not a lot of kissing going on in that relationship lol.

[PistolPete 61421]

Since nobody has mentioned this yet, I also love giving DATO(rimming) IF she is into it, of course most women that offer this are SO squeaky clean, you can run your tongue right up there, and guess what??? Yes you are correct, there is DATY there DFK and there simply outstanding juices from head to toes....ahhh yes I will suck her toes off too if loves it, and most ladies just love a good foot massage a toe licking and sucking, nothing like after a shower/bath together and watching her play with her pussy while I'm devouring her sexy painted clean toes. TRIPLE YUMMY :) :)

[JackShagsJill 225]

I'm pretty much game for anything she might be into (whomever 'she' is atm), and like to go with the flow as she pushes my boundaries, and I her's - as for details, well, of course: A gentleman doesn't kiss and tell, now does he? (Even if he spitballs with her ;-) )

 

Happy MUAHS!!

[spoondog90 100]

Firstly, PistolPete, apologies if I've singled you out, I'm trying to respond to this whole thread. I'm not 100% clear on how reply works.

 

Back to the topic at hand. I think it's awesome how open most of you seem to this particular reciprocal act, but it seems a misleading to say you always have to do whatever your partner does or you're a being a hypocrite. If you're a submissive, and your partner is a dom, neither of you would find the option of switching positions appealing. That doesn't necessarily require that you find what the other person is doing is repugnant, just that it's not for you.

 

I like my sexual partners to have boobs, and from what I can tell my girlfriend would prefer that I not have boobs. It seems to me that as long as you're able to communicate your affection for your partner in some way, you don't have to do it exactly the way that they do.

[Guest B**na***oy]

I think it's all about our individual boundaries and appreciation of intimacy. Everyone have their own comfort zones. For my part, I love intimacy very much and the wetter the better, regardless were the fluid comes from.

 

But I will always respect the limitations others may have. Maybe they are not ready yet and if you insist too much you may turn them off forever.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

This is the kind of dumb shit "boys" I fooled around with in high school said. It's immature and stupid. And I would actually question how good the sex life of a grown man really is, if they have that kind of lame inhibitions about something like that. To each their own, sure, but if you can kiss and you can get a BJ, you can kiss after a BJ too. Most people learned that cooties were not real when they were like 7. :icon_rolleyes:

[Frank7 3939]

First time I got asked the question, I paused to think about it. I was still a virgin and I wasn't sure. The girl suggested I try tasting my own cum to see if i'd like it. Since then, haven't had a problem with the idea. In fact, i'd love to snowball with a sexy lady. Not the porn-spitting type(that I find weird....), but just kissing while her mouth is full and sharing it.

 

Of course, you got to respect everyone's limits. But seems egoistical and stupid to me when guys want BJ but won't DATY or when they want the girl to CIM or swallow but won't even kiss after a BJ. Likewise, if you expect her to accept your dick in her ass, you better be okay with her sticking something in yours. =P

[Guest S***dst***]

I've been on the opposite end of a few times.

 

There have been a few ladies who wouldn't let me kiss them after pleasuring them.

 

One lady even stopped me from going down on her because she still wanted to be able to kiss me; and would not do so after I went down on her.

 

It felt weird in every case.

Granted I've met women who just don't like oral in any form as well... that was weirder

[Motorbykerider 4754]

One lady even stopped me from going down on her because she still wanted to be able to kiss me; and would not do so after I went down on her.

 

Now that sounds far to familiar...

[NotchJohnson 214123]

I've been on the opposite end of a few times.

 

There have been a few ladies who wouldn't let me kiss them after pleasuring them.

 

One lady even stopped me from going down on her because she still wanted to be able to kiss me; and would not do so after I went down on her.

 

It felt weird in every case.

Granted I've met women who just don't like oral in any form as well... that was weirder

I have had the same happen to me and I was sad and mad that she would not let me kiss her after going down on her. I have to admit also that she smelled wonderful and had a sweet taste so I wonder why did she refuse to kiss after?

This could be another thread all together....

[McGuinessDraft 2240]

I would be completely turned off if a man didn't want me to kiss him, after I'd had HIS OWN COCK in my mouth. If he thought that made my mouth gross, I'd have a simple solution - I wouldn't put his cock in it.

 

 

It would be kind of hypocritical to ask a lady to go down on you then push her away from a kiss afterwards because "it's gross" Fair is fair in the bedroom, and kissing your partner after getting head is a completely different story from tasting your own load. For sure there's a certain comfort that needs to be associated with that, but you can't expect to be successful in the future if you don't even kiss her after she just gave you the time of your life.

[Brad 49548]

Would I personally run away from a kiss after getting a blowjob? No.

 

But I also understand that people don't have much control over what turns them on--or what turns them off.

 

While I don't avoid post-bj kissing, the taste/texture of my own semen isn't something that I particularly enjoy. But then again, neither is hummus or cooked asparagus. Yet just because I don't enjoy these things doesn't mean I judge or have any issue with those who do or think they're doing something gross. And hey, if my partner happens to like cooked asparagus I could enjoy whipping her up some even if I'm planning on eating something else.

 

I've been happy to notice on this board that there is very little judgement against people over what kinks and turn-ons they may happen to have. Everyone seems to understand that what excites someone isn't something they necessarily choose, and as long as actions are between consenting adults, it's all fair game.

 

So shouldn't this understanding work the other way too, when it comes to turn-offs?

 

If a man or woman doesn't like the idea of tasting their own cum, I'm willing to respect that. It's not something they can necessarily choose to like or dislike, and as with turn-ons to each their own.

 

Now if a person is judgmental about the act that's another story! It's one thing to not participate in a given act yourself (we all have boundaries) but it's another to judge, condemn, or belittle someone else for enjoying it.

 

So to answer the OP's questions, while I'd say your friends have the right not to do this act if they so choose, they have no right to judge or dissuade you from it if you're comfortable or interested. If it doesn't appeal to them, they probably can't help that. What they can help is perpetuating the idea that it's inherently gross or unmanly.

[roamingguy 300292]

Firstly, PistolPete, apologies if I've singled you out, I'm trying to respond to this whole thread. I'm not 100% clear on how reply works.

 

Back to the topic at hand. I think it's awesome how open most of you seem to this particular reciprocal act, but it seems a misleading to say you always have to do whatever your partner does or you're a being a hypocrite. If you're a submissive, and your partner is a dom, neither of you would find the option of switching positions appealing. That doesn't necessarily require that you find what the other person is doing is repugnant, just that it's not for you.

 

I like my sexual partners to have boobs, and from what I can tell my girlfriend would prefer that I not have boobs. It seems to me that as long as you're able to communicate your affection for your partner in some way, you don't have to do it exactly the way that they do.

 

The gist of the OP's thread was that his friends wouldn't kiss a lady after she performed a bj on him because it was gross. No one is saying the guy, or for that matter the lady either have to kiss or do anything. But if a guy thinks kissing a lady after she performs a bj on him is gross, (one of the most intimate and giving acts she can do IMHO btw), then isn't it just as equally gross for the lady to perform a bj. BTW I hope it isn't for the ladies.

And me, I don't kiss a lady right after a bj because I feel it is required. I kiss a lady before, during and after because I like kissing the lady I am seeing and it is one way to show the lady I like her. And it is IMO more enjoyable for two people to just go with the flow, enjoy the moment, and let the encounter unfold naturally , rather than worry about things that really are not worth worrying about, if that makes sense. I'm fortunate I guess, none of the ladies have done anything I worried about, in fact worry is one emotion I haven't had in this lifestyle at all

But no one is saying you or anyone has to do anything. One cornerstone of this lifestyle is everyone respects everyone's boundaries. But that said, a guy who has certain boundaries like no kissing after a bj might just find a lady will have certain boundaries with him to, like no bj. After all, if he finds kissing her after a bj gross, she is going to have to wonder what it is about his penis that he knows about, that is so gross to begin with

A rambling

RG

[PistolPete 61421]

Hello spoondog90!

 

No apology necessary.When you want to respond to a post by a member simply hit the reply with quote button, that way you answering the members post.

At the topic at hand, you absolutely correct, no one says you have to do what your partner does. If you aren't into kissing after receiving a BJ that is the individuals choice, no doubts about it. The clarity in this post is to show that exchanging saliva from one area on the body to other is not gross and is part of a session with a lady, but than again it is individual taste. :)

 

 

Now using the Dom and submissive as an example, well the individual could be a "switch" and enjoy either being submissive or the dominate, partners may switch roles based on their mood,desire or allow each partner to experience their preferred activity. I personally love *switching* positions and find it very appealing either being submissive or dominate, you just got to make sure there is great trust between partners.

 

No different than trusting a lady in a session, what works for me, may not work for others, as always *ask* and YMMV.

 

Cheers!

 

 

 

 

Firstly, PistolPete, apologies if I've singled you out, I'm trying to respond to this whole thread. I'm not 100% clear on how reply works.

 

Back to the topic at hand. I think it's awesome how open most of you seem to this particular reciprocal act, but it seems a misleading to say you always have to do whatever your partner does or you're a being a hypocrite. If you're a submissive, and your partner is a dom, neither of you would find the option of switching positions appealing. That doesn't necessarily require that you find what the other person is doing is repugnant, just that it's not for you.

 

I like my sexual partners to have boobs, and from what I can tell my girlfriend would prefer that I not have boobs. It seems to me that as long as you're able to communicate your affection for your partner in some way, you don't have to do it exactly the way that they do.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Would I personally run away from a kiss after getting a blowjob? No.

 

But I also understand that people don't have much control over what turns them on--or what turns them off.

 

While I don't avoid post-bj kissing, the taste/texture of my own semen isn't something that I particularly enjoy. But then again, neither is hummus or cooked asparagus. Yet just because I don't enjoy these things doesn't mean I judge or have any issue with those who do or think they're doing something gross. And hey, if my partner happens to like cooked asparagus I could enjoy whipping her up some even if I'm planning on eating something else.

 

I've been happy to notice on this board that there is very little judgement against people over what kinks and turn-ons they may happen to have. Everyone seems to understand that what excites someone isn't something they necessarily choose, and as long as actions are between consenting adults, it's all fair game.

 

So shouldn't this understanding work the other way too, when it comes to turn-offs?

 

If a man or woman doesn't like the idea of tasting their own cum, I'm willing to respect that. It's not something they can necessarily choose to like or dislike, and as with turn-ons to each their own.

 

Now if a person is judgmental about the act that's another story! It's one thing to not participate in a given act yourself (we all have boundaries) but it's another to judge, condemn, or belittle someone else for enjoying it.

 

So to answer the OP's questions, while I'd say your friends have the right not to do this act if they so choose, they have no right to judge or dissuade you from it if you're comfortable or interested. If it doesn't appeal to them, they probably can't help that. What they can help is perpetuating the idea that it's inherently gross or unmanly.

Thank you Brad for giving such a well stated response. Its wrong to bash anyone for liking or disliking a particular sex act. Just because you or I like something or dislike something doesn't make it right or wrong, gross or not gross. We all need to do what we are comfortable with . Who is anyone to say what's acceptable, immature, tasteful etc, other than those involved and by the way cooties are real it's a term used for lice and as far as I remember most schools had cootie checks from time to time and still do:) Kiss before, or after a bj, or don't, its all good. Just don't condemn me for liking or disliking what you do or don't!!

[oldblueeyez 15475]

As others have said, snowballing is hot!

[Guest B**na***oy]

As others have said, snowballing is hot!

 

When within their boundaries. ;-)

[oldblueeyez 15475]

When within their boundaries. ;-)

 

Or if she wants to order me to lick it out of her hand, I'm game for that too! :P

[piano8950 32577]

I was going down on a lady. Right after the big O just came up, with a somewhat dazed and very satisfied look and kissed me like no tomorrow. One of the hottest memories I have. Why deny her the same sense of satisfaction.

 

My penis is super clean. I'd suck it if I could, and if I had a fascination with such things, but I can't and I don't.

[cometman 35115]

All I can say is "hell, yeah"! Love kissing, no matter when.

[LeeRichards 177238]

Well girls.... Sex is good :) I wanna wine you and dine you and 69 you !! ....and then make out and kiss and kiss and kiss like we were in high school ;) Good times ! It's all good !!!

[cometman 35115]

Guys.....watch this. LOL

Girls.......that ain't me........promise!

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_BYtkRFnS4o

[Motorbykerider 4754]

That was awesome!

Thanks for posting and putting a smile on my face.

[Wolf Knight 29667]

Me, I LOVE kissing and actually prefer it to as BJ and have pulled ladies up from a BJ because I wanted to taste her lips so badly. Likewise, I've kissed ladies after DATY specifically because I wanted her to taste herself off my lips. I'm pretty much game for anything when it comes to sexual exploration. Some things I prefer more than others but all in all I'll try some pretty f**ked up stuff by most peoples standards. Some of the things that SP's and clients would excitedly engage in would make some others cringe. That's ok, we're all different and have different wants and needs.

 

However, when it comes to sexual preferences I'll never say that there is a right or wrong. Some people have issues with some things (some rational, some irrational) but in a business/industry built on "pleasure" I'm not sure that anyone should be frowned upon for preferring not to engage in any act that they might happen to find unpleasant (for whatever reason). I rather not take a tit for tat perspective when it comes to sex. If a person prefers not to engage in a particular act, be it kissing after BJ or anything else I think that communication is the key between partners to avoid raised eyebrows or even hurt feelings.

[Ice4fun 78407]

Ok.... my wonderful lady has just given me an amazing BJ of course i want to kiss her deep and passionate.... i can't even imagine not wanting to.... and yes after i give her oral... i want to kiss her.... hell i want to kiss her before during and after everything.... she has an amazing mouth and lips that drive me crazy.

 

Fuck now i wish she was here so I could kiss here right now