sonoma 431 Report post Posted October 7, 2009 Hello ladies and gent I'm wondering if what i'm looking for exist in Ottawa... I've always been into D/s put have no one to play with lately so are there any sp who are into submission? Also i'd like to get into bondage are there sp that are into bondage, that would let me practice that art on them? or maybe even teach me? Thanks! Sonoma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sonoma 431 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 i guess with the amount of reply it just doesn't exist in the NCR... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 i guess with the amount of reply it just doesn't exist in the NCR... There are some that would and only with trusted regulars. After all any bondage/submission puts the ladies in a far more vulnerable position then normal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Redseductress 9358 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 I used to offer this service. Unfortantley there are always the few that ruin it for the rest :( I no longer advertise these type of sessions, but still am willing to play the sub role as long as I feel safe and confident with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 PM sent... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sonoma 431 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 I completely agree D/s is about trust but before the trust there has to be an interest in the lifestyle, then the trust can be work on. So my message was to see if there are any ladies around with an interest in the lifestyle, after if i find ladies that have the same interesthas me we can work towards the trust. Hope this all make sense lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 There are some that would and only with trusted regulars. After all any bondage/submission puts the ladies in a far more vulnerable position then normal. Yes, exactly. Which is why I'm glad, among other reasons, even though I'm open to a lot of stuff and have done a lot of stuff, I'm not really into the BDSM thing. For me, sharing pure pleasure among equals always works best, rather than someone always in the dominant role. Hey, sorry to be a bit judgmental there, but we all have our own viewpoints. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sonoma 431 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 Off course everyone is allowed there point of view on any topics and thank you for sharing yours positive point on this topic, which as as you say, you have no interest in. Just one thing if you call a Women or a Man who is into Domination a " controlling sexist mean-spirited shit" what do you call a man or a womem who is a sub? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Bardot 99339 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 I think we should just refrain from making statements about our own preferences that put down others. Simply put, "that's not my deal" is quite enough. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted October 9, 2009 I think we should just refrain from making statements about our own preferences that put down others. Simply put, "that's not my deal" is quite enough.Posted via Mobile Device agreed, Theres been enough threads with some posters even in this thread posting their defense to their preferences....it would be hypocritical to jump on others for their's. tisk tisk Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted October 10, 2009 For me, pure pleasure among equals always works best, not controlling sexist mean-spirited shit, even for "fun". A dom/sub relationship is a relationship of equals. Both rely on the existence, trust and mutual respect of each other. Personally I would argue that if there is an inequality it is the sub who is in a position of power. Abusive doms don't get to be doms for long. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Labrador 248 Report post Posted October 10, 2009 To each their own. We should not judge other! It is only kinky the first time then it is normal. I think we should just refrain from making statements about our own preferences that put down others. Simply put, "that's not my deal" is quite enough.Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ragnaglar 440 Report post Posted October 10, 2009 I think it's easier to say that " I do not understand that kind of relationship" than say anything else that can be misinterpreted or be hurtful. We are all on a journey, we take different paths, who is to say which path is best or better. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redmachine 1916 Report post Posted October 11, 2009 I think it is very unfortunate that someone on this site would use these words to describe someones personal sexual preferences.I am sure the MANY sp/ep who provide these services do not consider it "sexist mean-spirited " and would take some offence to these words.Was it not that long ago (and rightfully so) that certain members of the poly group were complaining about other people trying to impose there morals on them? Whats the saying?.........Those who live in glass houses! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sonoma 431 Report post Posted October 11, 2009 etasman2000 I completely agree with your statement, it's very well said Sonoma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted October 12, 2009 I think that anyone that thinks that these young hot ladies are doing it with us old fat wrinkly guys for "pleasure" is living in a delusional world. Also BDSM can be done many many ways it is about giving control and pushing limits. General kidnaping and rape are more in the area of "controlling sexist mean-spirited shit" BDSM role playing is no less as much a part of this as us old men having our way with the young ladies being rape. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
m**k 153 Report post Posted October 12, 2009 I think that anyone that thinks that these young hot ladies are doing it with us old fat wrinkly guys for "pleasure" is living in a delusional world. Also BDSM can be done many many ways it is about giving control and pushing limits. General kidnaping and rape are more in the area of "controlling sexist mean-spirited shit" BDSM role playing is no less as much a part of this as us old men having our way with the young ladies being rape. What do you mean they`re not doing it for pleasure...Are you saying that all those orgasms were fake? :rolleyes: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redmachine 1916 Report post Posted October 12, 2009 No I don't believe that these lovely ladies do it with me for pleasure however I do believe that no matter what we do in our time together that we have mutual respect for each other. I have great respect for any lady who totally gives of them self during a true gfe.The day that I even remotely believe that anything that I have done has crossed over to "controlling sexist mean-spirited shit" is the day I will find a new hobby. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted October 12, 2009 Sonoma, I'm no expert but I do believe what you seek exists in Ottawa, you just have to find it. As others have said, it involves a lot of trust. It's hard to trust anyone on here, let alone a new user like yourself with only 8 posts and no 'friends'. A good starting point might be to get involved in this community, meet some people, meet some SP's, make some friends and contribute.....then and only then will an SP from here, the type you're seeking, learn to trust you and open up about what they're willing to do and not willing to do. YMMV and this is just my opinion. Good luck and be sure to let us know what you find! Caring is sharing! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted October 12, 2009 No I don't believe that these lovely ladies do it with me for pleasure however I do believe that no matter what we do in our time together that we have mutual respect for each other. I have great respect for any lady who totally gives of them self during a true gfe.The day that I even remotely believe that anything that I have done has crossed over to "controlling sexist mean-spirited shit" is the day I will find a new hobby. And that is the point if both sides are into it or agree to the terms and if the two fell happy after the results than it was a good session, even if it was spent guessing how many jelly beans in a jar and then pouring out the jar and counting to see was closest!! It does not mater what the acts were. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
