What's your age limit?

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Well, for me, I won't see guys younger then 18 and guys no older then 100. These are hard and set rules, and I won't sway from them.

 

Maturity is what matters to me. Age means nothing. (However, I still id guys if they appear under the age of 21 - just to make sure).

[Moviefan 1238]

Imo, As long as both are consenting adults. Who am I to judge, society does enough judging about sex trade workers and their clients.

 

Personally I wouldn't meet any sp under the age of 25. But if by some cosmic event a hot twenty year old, was coming on to me ( like one of those stories you read about in playboy ) I wouldn't think twice about it.

[Guest realnicehat]

I've never had an age limit (high or low) in regards to the ladies I choose nor have I ever had a "type".

 

My tendency is to book attractive, intelligent, sexy, witty women regardless of age, hair colour or body type. I rarely make appointments on a spur of the moment basis so I have the luxury of time to read ads and posts, really giving me a feeling for who any particular lady is.

 

Now, the question at hand, would I consider seeing an 18 or 19 year old service provider? While I don't think it very likely I honestly have no moral or ethical objection to it. I'll ask you to think about your favourite providers for a moment but I'll use a couple of mine as examples. Should a 19 year old provider appear on the scene with the same intelligence and sensuality as Nathalie or the raw sexuality and wit of Cleo do I simply rule her out because of her birthdate? Personally, I think not.

 

Now to be honest, I would be very surprised to find this woman. After all, experience does count for a lot in this industry and no, I don't just mean sexual experience.

[Miss Jessica Lee 43328]

Age is just a number ...

 

My parents are 18 years apart in age..... my mother being the older of the two. I have absolutely no problem with that at all because them make eachother very happy.

 

However, I don't see clients under 30 because my personal preference is for a man my own age or older.

 

Whatever floats your boat.... :)

[andflemcol 3975]

I think it is not so much the age as it is the experience in the industry. The real young (teenagers) do not have as much experience as a SP who has been in the industry for a few years.

 

I don't necessarily go for the SP's that are in their lower 20's rarely in their teens (I don't remember the last teen if at all). If they are in their lower 20's I prefer to see SP's that have been in the industry for a significant period of time. Those are girls that have seen all kinds of clients and are used to the variety. There is nothing worse than to see your SP cringe at first glance where you know they are thinking " I can't believe I have to have sex with this guy". That kind of look to me is the ultimate contraceptive. I suppose this has to do with the maturity of the SP.

 

If the SP has a few years under their belt, I have a sense that they are comfortable in the industry. If they are comfortable in the industry, I feel they have the attitude that age, race, appearance etc. does not matter to them. They appear to embrace the job no matter who the client is because they have seen it before and they know what to expect. If my age does not appear to be an issue to the SP, then I expect that the session will go well regardless of their age.

 

The chances of booking an SP that has a comfortable attitude are greater for SP's that are just a bit older and are comfortable in the industry.

[Philander39 3705]

I never really thought I had an age limit but after reading this thread I'm seeing that I do have an age limit but it is hidden behind what to me are some key points when I make a decision to see an SP.

 

I tend to prefer to visit SP who have incall locations. I seem to drift to the more articulate SPs, mainly the ones who post on CERB but I also take a look at websites and/or blogs. With those sort of requirements, I have by default taken most of the 18-19 year old SPs out of my search string.

 

Thinking about it more, I probably still wouldn't book with a younger SP. I would feel more comfortable with an older SP. I guess I can relate to a 25-30 year old better than to a teenager.

 

A very interesting thread definitely got me to think about this issue.

[canuckhooker 19203]

Again, age is just a number. I have met some very mature young folks and some older folks who have never grown up. I usually see the latter when I look in the mirror. I tend to get along and hang out with people a lot younger than me.

 

As for a lower limit, I used to joke by using the sporting metaphor "if there is grass on the pitch, then I am playing". (that was a joke, I am not advocating pedophilia) I think if the person is intelligent, and mature then I see no problem in relating in a physical manner.

[Guest **cely***r***ne]

Personally, I must add that in my own heart of hearts, and down to my soul.. I do not think a girl of 18 is ready for the industry and everything that comes with running ones' own business and starting a career. But that is just my opinion and I may have a slight case of ahem here...but maturity does play a slight role. You can be as mature as a good bottle of scotch at 18 or as mature as a 100 year old leather bag, but you still have to have a business head on your shoulders and life experience to back yourself up.

 

I am sorry but there is just WAY more to being an SP than laying down and having sex! You have to be ORIGINAL and keep it that way, come up with fresh and personally owned advertisements and websites, handle schedules, record keeping, book keeping, banking, taxes so on and so forth, and being fresh out of or still in highschool where your schedules and papers are handed to you is just well...there is no business experience or sense of seriousness there. Only an opinion..and hopefully no one takes this as a angry post either! I love my career, and will defend it and all the hard work that goes into it until the day I am too old to do it!

 

SO after all that.. I will answer the OP's question..

 

I think if you are just looking to quickly "take a load off", who cares how old she is as long as she is of legal age.. I would still ask for I.D. though, BUT if you're looking for a memorable worth your buck experience...

 

For me I am always surprised when the young bucks book me! I am not entirely sure why I am surprised but never the less I remain flattered. However, I am 31 and as a general rule do not entertain gentlemen under 30. We have lived at this age, and are more understanding of nature and life and are way more intune with our sexual beings. And may I add it only gets better with age.

[HarveySpecter 1908]

I've never had an age limit (high or low) in regards to the ladies I choose nor have I ever had a "type".

 

My tendency is to book attractive, intelligent, sexy, witty women regardless of age, hair colour or body type. I rarely make appointments on a spur of the moment basis so I have the luxury of time to read ads and posts, really giving me a feeling for who any particular lady is.

 

Now, the question at hand, would I consider seeing an 18 or 19 year old service provider? While I don't think it very likely I honestly have no moral or ethical objection to it. I'll ask you to think about your favourite providers for a moment but I'll use a couple of mine as examples. Should a 19 year old provider appear on the scene with the same intelligence and sensuality as Nathalie or the raw sexuality and wit of Cleo do I simply rule her out because of her birthdate? Personally, I think not.

 

Now to be honest, I would be very surprised to find this woman. After all, experience does count for a lot in this industry and no, I don't just mean sexual experience.

 

Very much in agreement with most of this.

 

Though the thread starter is referring to seeing teenagers in the business, I tend to think it is a "whatever floats your boat" encounter most hobbyist seek.

If anything the internet has certainly helped alot in masking/unmasking women to help decide if there is any connection to share via a fantasy, fetish or just simple chatter.

Boards where we engage in various topics, Ladies posting ads of various tones, websites, blogs and off course pictures all help in exuding ones qualities that would peek my interest in a lady really.

So age is not of concern to me, quite the last factor I look at or bother about but more on how the lady presents herself online especially or first contact through text, email or PM.

[oldblueeyez 15475]

Rarely tempted to go under 30.

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I guess I should give my opinion since I asked the question. My limit is 21 and I'm more comfortable around mid 20's and above. I'm in my 50's and although age is just a number I still factor in maturity when I book an SP.

 

You don't become fully mature on your 18th birthday. Maturity is a lifelong process and teenagers are just learning their way. Yes, there are some very mature 18 year olds but the exception doesn't make the rule for me. I prefer to err on the side of caution because the consequences would be unbearable for me.

 

For me it's never been just a legal issue. I want to know that the person understands and accepts this lifestyle on a level of maturity that I don't think is typically well developed at 18 or 19.

 

This is just my personal opinion.

[Guest realnicehat]

Personally, I must add that in my own heart of hearts, and down to my soul.. I do not think a girl of 18 is ready for the industry and everything that comes with running ones' own business and starting a career. But that is just my opinion and I may have a slight case of ahem here...but maturity does play a slight role. You can be as mature as a good bottle of scotch at 18 or as mature as a 100 year old leather bag, but you still have to have a business head on your shoulders and life experience to back yourself up.

 

I am sorry but there is just WAY more to being an SP than laying down and having sex! You have to be ORIGINAL and keep it that way, come up with fresh and personally owned advertisements and websites, handle schedules, record keeping, book keeping, banking, taxes so on and so forth, and being fresh out of or still in highschool where your schedules and papers are handed to you is just well...there is no business experience or sense of seriousness there. Only an opinion..and hopefully no one takes this as a angry post either! I love my career, and will defend it and all the hard work that goes into it until the day I am too old to do it!

 

I couldn't agree with you more Penelope. This is exactly what I meant when I said that experience counts and that I'd be surprised to meet an 18 year old with these skills. I wish I'd had the time and the words to better explain. Thank you for doing it so eloquently.

[loopie 15358]

I don't think there is anything wrong with an older man having consensual sex with a pubescent girl. I think many young teenage girls want sex and know exactly what they're doing when they pursue it. I think if a teenage girl wants to have sex, it doesn't make any difference to me whether she has sex with a boy her age, or an old man.

However, I still believe in a minimum legal age to work as a sex trade worker. This is mostly for the reasons Penelope mentioned in her post. I realize that in believing this, I am guilty of some of much of the same hypocrisy as those who oppose a legal sex trade altogether. As George Carlin put it, why should it be illegal to sell what you can legally give away?

As for my personal tastes, I am a man in his mid 30s, but I look a lot younger. I am a Michael J. Fox type guy who will probably look 15 his entire life. I tend to go for SP's in their late 20s. Yet I in my relationships, I have never in my life had a girlfriend younger than myself.

I am full of contradictions.

[bcguy42 38594]

Do you think seeing a teenager in this business is ethically wrong, even though it may be legal?

 

The response to this thread has been most interesting. It has threatened to go off the rails a time or two but sudden fits of civility have pretty much kept it on track. I think everyone automatically filled in the brief phrase that was missing from the OP. "... is ethically wrong for you, ..."

 

"Ethics" as a whole is an attempt to resolve questions of human morality - good vs evil, right and wrong, crime and justice. Group ethics can be standardized. Lawyers, engineers, and doctors maintain codes of ethics.

 

And then there are your own ethics. Is it wrong, according to your personal ethics, to keep that fiver the person ahead of you in line just dropped?

 

Some of the respondents have said they have some pretty clear lines and have gone on to explain why those lines are there for them. I get that. Or at least most of them. I'm still trying to work out someone who will see an early-20s SP if she's had a few years experience. As I understand the word "few", that would mean she started under-age but maybe that's just my head playing with words. It does that sometimes.

 

As to responses that indicated concern that the SP doesn't really know what she is in for in terms of this being a career choice, my understanding of the nature of the SP/Client relationship does not involve the client evaluating the life choices of the provider. Maybe she doesn't fully comprehend the whole thing. Maybe she is doing it for not the best of all reasons i.e. needs major money now and Tim Horton's doesn't pay that well. As a client, while I care about her well-being as one person to another, unless she whispers in my ear "Help me! I'm being forced into this.", I'm not sure that in the course of an hour I would be able to divine enough information about her life to get into all that. I vaguely remember reading a thread on What Not To Ask Your SP that covered some of this.

 

Having said all that, where do my ethics lead me in the context of this discussion? I evaluate each person on her merits as I perceive them based on the information gleaned from her ads, her posts, her PMs and so on. If, based on this information, there is an interest, I will pursue it.

 

I have had some holy-sweet-jaysus experiences with 18 and 19 year olds. I've had some truly devastatingly bad experiences with 30s and 40s women. And I have experienced the reverse.

 

Age is one of the things I consider. If she is quite young in the industry, I look for other qualifying factors. If she is at the other end of the age spectrum, there is a different set of factors.

 

So, as an absolute answer to the original question, my ethics do allow for 18 and 19 year old SPs.

 

And here is where I add all the IMHO, YMMV, and so on. I speak only for myself and my life and, just to keep it really interesting, I sometimes do a lousy job of speaking for myself.

[Motorbykerider 4754]

As the father of 2 girls, 15 and 18 there is no way I could ever see an SP under the age of 20. Even 25. I know it's different for everyone but for me personally, I couldn't do it. If my daughters were 25 and 28, I'm not sure how I would feel.

 

30-40 seems just about right, for me.

[Maverick 2873]

As a very young guy, 22, I am okay with the idea of seeing a young service provider but I can understand that it might be a tricky issue for older hobbyists, especially ones with younger sisters, nieces, or children.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Well, I tend to get on best with people around my own age, give or take a decade. There are exceptions though.

 

Quite apart from personal taste, there's another significant issue here: staying away from the people advertizing as being only just legal gives you more of a buffer against meeting up with someone who's underage. This isn't an issue if you're fairly conservative about who you see and stick to ladies who are recommended by others or advertize in forums that verify the age of their advertisers, but I'd imaging it's far more of a risk if you're inclined to constantly seek out the new arrivals in the industry. And getting it wrong just doesn't bear thinking about.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I don't think there is anything wrong with an older man having consensual sex with a pubescent girl. I think many young teenage girls want sex and know exactly what they're doing when they pursue it. I think if a teenage girl wants to have sex, it doesn't make any difference to me whether she has sex with a boy her age, or an old man.

 

 

I am hoping you are misunderstanding the word Pubescent and consent:

 

Definition

Pubescent - arriving at or having reached puberty.

 

Puberty - the age at which puberty occurs often construed legally as 14 in boys and 12 in girls

 

The age of consent for sexual activity is 16 years. It was raised from 14 years on May 1, 2008 by the Tackling Violent Crime Act.

 

However, the age of consent is 18 years where the sexual activity "exploits" the young person -- when it involves prostitution, pornography or occurs in a relationship of authority, trust or dependency (e.g., with a teacher, coach or babysitter). Sexual activity can also be considered exploitative based on the nature and circumstances of the relationship, e.g., the young person's age, the age difference between the young person and their partner, how the relationship developed (quickly, secretly, or over the Internet) and how the partner may have controlled

or influenced the young person.

 

A pubescent child cannot give consent - no matter what she or he says, she/he is unable to give consent before the age of 16 years.

 

I am hoping this was just a misunderstanding in your statement.

[Ashley Ann 75247]

There is something very very wrong when a grown man has no issues about having sex with an underage girl...even if she does want it. So wrong...

[CristyCurves 169032]

I don't think there is anything wrong with an older man having consensual sex with a pubescent girl. I think many young teenage girls want sex and know exactly what they're doing when they pursue it. I think if a teenage girl wants to have sex, it doesn't make any difference to me whether she has sex with a boy her age, or an old man.

 

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I do think in your post when you say "pubescent girl" you meant younger-18+ at least I hope:) But the next sentence is the one that worries me. Young girls do want to have sex but I don't think they always know what they are doing when they pursue it and *some* will have sex with anyone that gives them the right attention. It is for that reason my mothering-protecting instincts are ignited.

I know when I was at that age I slept with a lot of guys, I was searching for affection, love and mistook sex as affection. The repercussions of those encounters deeply affected me, the affects of which really never arose to later in my life. I'd hate to see that happen to anyone. Being a young sp can in *some* even cause more regret, since especially today your past lingers forever in this techno world, if you are not completely grounded and resigned to the affects this lifestyle can have on ones future. I am in no way defaming this profession as its one I embrace but for those just starting out, beginning their lives and not thinking long term, who you have sex with, how many times, when and where can leave a trail mentally and physically you may not be mentally prepared or mature enough to deal with at such a young age.

As we age and gain life experience we are better prepared and more able to deal with unconventional choices, make better decisions and have a better idea of what we want or don't want our future to hold.

[sparhawk 4169]

As I am in my early 40's my age limit is from 25 years to about 50 years old. Many ladies who are 25 are very mature and tend to have a University education. They have a certain sophistication and elegance about them. They also tend to be knowledgeable about a variety of subjects to enjoy some wonderful conversations with.

Many 18 year olds lack the maturity to make an informed decision about whether or not to have sexual relations. Like Christy said some mistake sex with love. Something I did many times when I was that age. I find it morally wrong when a 50+ gentleman pursues a relationship with a lady that has only just turned 18 even if she was the one to initiate it. I guess it was the way I was brought up and it's just my opinion.

[conquistador 18487]

I like to keep it within my age range, so from 25 to 40 and will adventure over 40 if i really like someone, no problems there. It's all about the person and how they act for me. I just find i prefer someone in that age group but always open about things. But won't go below 25 or so as i'm just more comfortable with that.

[Wolf Knight 29667]

I've enjoyed the company of with ladies as young as 19 and so far as old as 45 (only because I haven't been given the opportunity to go older). Do I have a limit? Yes, now I do and it's mid 20's and older. In my experience so far, the ladies under mid twenties have lacked a level of maturity to interact with me on a level beyond the sex that I've discovered I enjoy in my encounters. Beyond that I don't choose companions based on age I do so based on physical and emotional attraction.

[loopie 15358]

I see that a number of you have replied to my opinion on this matter. Instead of quoting all of you, I'll try to respond in a general way.

 

Like I said in my original post, I do believe that there should be an age limit for working as a sex trade worker. I think one should be at least 18 years old to do this type of work for some of the reason you have all mentioned as well as age hopefully making one more wise to the dangers that one would face in this occuption. But there is no law that can ever completely prevent people from doing things they later regret.

 

Do I think there is something "wrong" with an adult man who will have sex with a girl under 18? I'll admit, when I was in high school and a lot of the girls I knew would date men in their 20s, my gut reaction was to find those guys "sleazy", and I would probably still react that way today, but when I try to explain what's wrong about it, I come up blank. It's a feeling, but not one I can really defend with any concrete logic. When I think about it, a boy her own age can be just as bad as an older one.

[cat 262460]

I have found this thread really interesting. I started work at 18 by my own volition and never found the clients I serviced to be seedy or slimy. That said, I looked in my mid 20's and seldom was I asked about my age. I knew what I was getting into, had given it a couple of years of thought before hand and I've never regretted the decision. I have a fairly strong personality and have never had a problem handling men even at 18. I could have easily worked at 16 from an emotional maturity stand point. The foundation for my business today was there already as a teenager and I've changed little in the way of customer service since I started.

 

On a personal level, I'm divided by the "18 is acceptable" mentality. At 16 I started dating older men in their late 20's whom I met thru my older sister. I looked well over 18 and they never asked my age until we had been dating awhile. Most times I lied about being older and it was never questioned. By the time I was 18, I graduated to men over 40 and I have preferred men at least 15-20 years my senior ever since. Boys my own age held no interest for me. I didn't want to go to parties where everyone drank themselves into oblivion and pawed at me; I didn't want to hang out watching videos and making out on the couch or driving around. I wanted to go and do things. I loved live theater, racing of any sort, good restaurants and intelligent conversation. I wanted to travel and see the world outside of the little bit of swamp I grew up in. Boys my own age didn't do those sorts of things. The sex part of the dating was secondary to me. The intimacy was fun, I learned so much and I would do it again in a heart beat. I think older men can offer a better quality relationship because they are experienced. That said, there needs to be more on the mans mind than just getting into a young girls pants. Predators are always disgusting but I don't think we should paint all men with the same brush just because they end up in a relationship with a younger than 18 year old woman.

 

Two of my daughters are involved with older men and I would say it's been a good thing. My 21 year old has lived with a man 17 years her senior for 3 years and is helping raise his 3 sons while attending University full time. They met when she was 17 and she moved in on her 18th birthday. Many were appalled and her step mom tried to have him arrested before she turned 18. I know my daughter, this man didn't take advantage of her; if anything, she took advantage of him. She has had the best 3 years of her life since 9/11 hit and the sky fell in on our family. My other daughter is 23 and dating a man my age. He provides her with opportunities she would never have on her own or dating a man her own age. He adores her and she him. They aren't marriage minded but they live together and seem happy. She's learning about being a grown up from someone she will listen to (God knows she doesn't listen to me or her father) and seems to be getting pretty good advice from him.

 

Our society seems to forget that teenage girls mature faster than their male peers and some of these young ladies are more than ready to experience life with someone who can show them what's out there. The only relationship I had with someone my own age was with the father of my children and while I don't regret it on any level, I do think my life today would be very different if I had stayed true to my nature and married someone more mature...

 

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