bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 My brother called this morning. My brother who never calls. The one who lives in town with my parents. Mom has gone into a nonresponsive state. She's done this before but the doc thinks this may be it. If her situation changes she won't be getting better. There is no "better" to get to. We agreed there's no point in traveling right now. As he put it, there's no possibility of meaningful interaction. So I'm keeping Air Canada on speed dial. My mood matches the weather. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Surf_Nazis_Must_Die 8958 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 A family member or loved one in trouble is never fun, so sorry to hear you're having to face such a crappy event. Best of luck and take care! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 Bcguy42, my heart goes out to you. Been there myself, so I get it. Stay busy, keep occupied and stay strong. And one more thing. If it's raining and miserable outside, stop looking out the window! We're with you brother. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 Thinking of you and sorry for your situation. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
andflemcol 3975 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 Sorry to hear. Hang in there. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cometman 35115 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 It's a terrible, helpless feeling to watch a loved one die, so cherish the good times that you had together. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 ... so cherish the good times that you had together. Yup... doing that. She's 89. We had 88 really good years (ok.. I didn't have all 88 since I'm not that old.. but you get what I mean). I've learned a lot from her and she left me a clear path to follow. She's a writer and a poet and right now I'm remembering a poem she wrote in February, 1957 on the passing of her mother. There is a line in it that goes something like "And so I do not fear Death for what is Death but a door through which she has passed before me". And speaking of rain, she wrote the following: The rain falls on the just and the unjust. But why do the unjust always seem to have umbrellas? I like it... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brad 49548 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 Best wishes to you in a rough time. It's never fun feeling helpless but I'm glad you can keep happier moments in mind. Be well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luckyme 41401 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 Thinking of you, and do stay strong. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted September 21, 2013 I love the saying and with permission, would like to use it in an email to a family member! My thoughts are with you sweetie and I know you will use your strength to cherish all of the wonderful memories you obviously have! Hugs to you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted September 22, 2013 Same brother called this morning. Mom woke up, had breakfast and is entertaining friends. Go figure. Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and wishes. We shall see what the morrow brings... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chanel Reign 28097 Report post Posted September 22, 2013 Mothers are special. And they will surprise you at every turn. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
