YMMV - Need Help

[buggernot 588]

From my side of things, I love a beard. I think they're hot. That's a personal pref, but even if that weren't my preference, it still wouldn't bother me. I kind of like soaking someone's beard in my juices.

 

Oooh, I love the soaked beard smell after...it's like sniffing panties with every snort you take. Not that I sniff panties, that's just depraved ;) Too bad I can't be a kid again and not wash for days after. Can't have my colleagues telling me I reek of snatch...

[VedaSloan 119179]

Oooh, I love the soaked beard smell after...it's like sniffing panties with every snort you take. Not that I sniff panties, that's just depraved ;) Too bad I can't be a kid again and not wash for days after. Can't have my colleagues telling me I reek of snatch...

 

Don't lie, you're as depraved as they come ;)

[fortunateone 156618]

My question is this what is the best way to respectfully ask about the services offered before the appointment begins?

Secondly - what do you do if the services are not what you are expecting?

 

1. You have to ask before booking the appt. No other way. Are you making appts with indies, or thru agencies. If agencies, then stop and for now deal only thru the sp directly. The items you are looking for are most likely listed in her advertising. If you don't see what you are looking for she does not provide it; time to either go ahead knowing that or move on. Once you do find someone you like, then using her preferred method of contact, tell her you are interested, approx day and time, and let her know that you are specifically looking for x & y and you are just confirming that the info in her ad is still current (sometimes it isn't and if it is not, she will appreciate the question. Also, gives her something to reply about.)

 

Once she confirms the services, then if they are not provided or she changes it on arrival, you have the right to leave before you start. You hear now and then about the sps who say yes they do that, but when you show up suddenly they are "out of condoms" or "just back from the dentist" or whatever else is they should have let you know when you confirmed the appt the day of.

 

2. If the services are not as advertised and confirmed, and you don't find this out until mid-way I suggest you just mention it once in a non-confrontational way, like Oh, I think you emailed me that you do X & Y, give her the chance to realize that that was you who she promised it to, and fix it. If she makes an excuse, then you go with the flow, relax and just know that you aren't going to repeat. No need to make a big fuss or make your situation worse. But she will know by the fact that you brought it up that she had the opportunity to fix it and chose not to.

 

To maximize your encounters, when you are there for the very first time and the sp offers you the opportunity to freshen up, you do it. If there is mouthwash available, you use it. You never ever say no thanks, I'm good, no matter if you are still damp from the shower before arrival. Most sps will take your lack of acceptance as a reason to keep their distance. No hand washing = no digits and limited touching. No mouth rinse = light kissing, or avoidance, and probably no daty.

 

You get the picture.

 

Also you are trying to replace a reg. Your expectations may be out of whack, trying to replicate something that evolved over time and comfort. There is no way to be completely relaxed on a first visit, no matter how good the sp is. The only way to come close to this level is to find someone you are willing to work with to get to that place. On first visits she has to wonder is he going to be a problem, has he shortchanged me, is he too rough.

[JoePlumber 112]

brinston2004 - Other than point out that you didn't answer Ava's questions about what was wrong, perhaps I could offer this advice to both you, and SPs. For you, there are many established, and well written SPs that are on this board, and not very hard to identify. Any of them will give great service. If you are trying to match a picture of what you want (browsing the pic profiles) and a single review here or there, it is not surprising that the result is less than optimal.

 

For SPs, perhaps you would consider offering a client makeover for the shy guys. Starting with entry level lessons in 'girl etiquette', kissing, oral etc, this might allow some guys out of their shell, right up to full blown taking them out shopping and a haircut to fine tune their look. Hmm... sounds interesting...

[Guest s******ecan****]

Any SP I have been with has been more than willing to discuss what I like. Some more directly than others LOL. Its their profession after all, and most enjoy making their clients (especially good ones) happy.

 

As for services offered most are OK with respectfully worded inquiries through PM or email once you have introduced yourself properly and established permission to proceed.

 

It sounds like you are trying to "guarantee" some level of satisfaction in advance, this of course is impossible in a situation where the main dynamic is interpersonal relations of a very intimate nature. To me YMMV means that the level of chemistry and intensity that one experiences with an SP may (likely will if you ask me) be different. There are so many factors from the obvious ones already discussed ad nauseum to more subtle ones like attraction, energy level, time of day, what happened to the SP/hobbiest earlier in the day yadda yadda yadda. A review can only cover specific services offered and engaged in during the visit.

 

As for the second part of your question if you're not happy with the results of the visit don't post a review and don't rebook.

 

As an example if I write a glowing review of an SP because not only was I satisfied with the services offered but I also describe it as an incredible experience, the YMMV is a caveat to others that you may enjoy her, get all the same services, but just find that the intensity wasn't the same and that the SP was just OK.