Fresh start 17467 Report post Posted October 10, 2013 I'm wondering how important it is to you, to please your partner? How much of a role does it play for achieving orgasm for yourself afterwards? I know most guys find it a huge turn on but what about you ladies? Knowing that you're driving a man wild does that help you in anyway? I can say for myself that I find it very difficult and cannot achieve orgasm if I feel that the woman not enjoying herself. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted October 10, 2013 I can totally relate. Being a long time compassionate muffin man (look it up in the urban dictionary) I find my own level of excitement is directly proportional to the pleasure of my partner. Also, I was taught from a very young age, that ladies come first. I try to live by that code always. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WriteOn 3250 Report post Posted October 10, 2013 I gotta believe that 99% of men want to please the woman they're with. I'm sure there are some very selfish guys who don't care but I have to believe it's a small minority (maybe > 1%). It's a turn off for me if I think they are faking being turned on. In the end I can still orgasm though :) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest realnicehat Report post Posted October 10, 2013 Personally, I love a mutually enjoyable experience. That being said, if we are discussing the idea in the context of this industry I have come to realize that I can not base my pleasure on that of my partner. As much as I love the idea of turning on the lady I'm with I understand that ultimately she is "at work" and for any number of reasons I may not be able to get her "there". As long as I feel like we are both in the moment and enjoying ourselves then I am happy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S*rca****sid Report post Posted October 10, 2013 As far as myself, it's a top priority that I please my partner. Plus, it's a bonus knowing that I have accomplished something. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pumpkin 649 Report post Posted October 10, 2013 I, like the majority want to please my partner as much as I can, and I think the real key is open communication, when two people (or more lol) can express in words what they like/dislike/want/need etc... It can't help but be a pleasureble experience for both no? :-) 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spencer2 278 Report post Posted October 10, 2013 I agree with most, My greatest pleasure and satisfaction is to bring my partner to orgasm. I have met ladies who will tell you about " whip it in, whip it out and wipe it kind of guy. Regardless if the lady is "in the business" as someone said, if you made emotional contact, I found that most ladies will feel comfortable, relax and open up. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MightyPen 67414 Report post Posted October 10, 2013 It's really crucial for me to believe that my partner is enjoying herself (a lot!), though I understand that orgasms themselves can just sometimes be elusive so that's not my exclusive yardstick for the encounter. I like my own excitement and orgasms (no kidding!), but the truth is I can experience those just about anytime all by myself. One of the unique appeals about an encounter with an SP is spending time with a wonderful, sexy woman and sensing HER excitement. That makes the encounter "us" and not just "me", which is kinda the point. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *Ste***cque** Report post Posted October 10, 2013 I'll be honest and say when I am with an SP I am mostly concerned with my own urges. I just expect that they are not looking for an orgasm and are more looking to get me off. Truthfully, I'm ok with that. I'm not sure if that means I'm selfish. I'm very generous with my time and money in my personal life. I put my employees before me and work hard to make work an enjoyable place. In my normal life I can be a bit of a pleaser. I don't like being that way as it indicates insecurity but it is sort of how I am around people. Maybe that's one reason why I enjoy being on my own so much. I think sex is the one area in my life where I feel it is only about me. Didn't mean to overshare. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted October 11, 2013 Great sex imo involves two people being into one another:) I have met some men though that just want to get off and aren't interested in pleasing anyone other than themselves and that's fine but for those who love it to be mutual, yum!! 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarveySpecter 1908 Report post Posted October 11, 2013 It's easy for myself to get off on my own. I mean , put some porn on, get arosed and stroke myself to cum and bam! done! But that is no fun every time. So being in this is all about exploring how I can please a lady while pleasing myself. No better way that seeking a professional where its easier to express interesting ways in having fun that is beneficial for both of us. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lastchance69 914 Report post Posted October 11, 2013 Totally agree it's a lot more fun when you're both into it. I guess that's why I'm not a trio kinda guy, I like that 1-on-1 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sphinx 120 Report post Posted October 11, 2013 Oh gosh...I'm having a very intimate encounter with another spirit..not a blow up doll. I'm so into my partners vibes...but that's me..My pleasure I hope is all her's too. It turns me off to be.. just.. moving through the motions. Oceans of emotions..rivers of LOVE! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
qwertyaccount 15793 Report post Posted October 11, 2013 As a gentleman, I believe it's important for the lady to finish first and finish often. If she isn't having a good time, neither am I. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fresh start 17467 Report post Posted October 11, 2013 Great sex imo involves two people being into one another:) I have met some men though that just want to get off and aren't interested in pleasing anyone other than themselves and that's fine but for those who love it to be mutual, yum!! Was curious if you know you're pleasing and really getting him hot and wild for you. Does this play a mental or physical factor in you getting off? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carrie Moon 68826 Report post Posted October 11, 2013 Was curious if you know you're pleasing and really getting him hot and wild for you. Does this play a mental or physical factor in you getting off? For me..Absolutely! I think this is normal. For almost anything you do.. even cooking for someone. I enjoy my meal more if the people I cook for enjoy it enthusiastically. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest M****ella's C****s (retire Report post Posted October 11, 2013 I agree with what has been said so for. As for me I find it a great turn on when I know I'm hitting someones hot spots. I love the tease and the build up to a great leg shaking orgasm. I think there is something very arousing when I can hear, see, or sense that the other person is enjoying themselves as much as I am. And as far as someone wanting to please me...Heck yes! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted October 12, 2013 I think it is more fun to explore a woman's body. I enjoy making her cum first. I can't enjoy myself until she cums first. Like I always say. I'm a gentleman and the woman always cum's first. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted October 12, 2013 Was curious if you know you're pleasing and really getting him hot and wild for you. Does this play a mental or physical factor in you getting off? Both. I don't think I could have one without the other. If I get a sense a man is truly into me it relaxes me, gives me extra confidence and that in turn allows me the ability and desire to want to get off. If you are with someone and you get the feeling they aren't into you I would think then you'd just go through the motions as well, which would be no fun. Pleasure should be shared, given and taken:) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frank7 3939 Report post Posted October 12, 2013 Very important! Saddly, here it's hard to know. Not every SP are willing to be honnest if you're doing it right or wrong. And you never know if she's just saying what she thinks you want to hear. =( 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest realnicehat Report post Posted October 12, 2013 Very important! Saddly, here it's hard to know. Not every SP are willing to be honnest if you're doing it right or wrong. And you never know if she's just saying what she thinks you want to hear. =( I don't think that statement applies exclusively to SPs ;) Actually, I've found a lot of them are far more willing to offer direction. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fresh start 17467 Report post Posted October 12, 2013 Very important! Saddly, here it's hard to know. Not every SP are willing to be honnest if you're doing it right or wrong. And you never know if she's just saying what she thinks you want to hear. =( Sp or not If she faking it and I'm not aware, well sorry her loss. I feed off her enjoyment real or not as long as I believe she enjoying herself. Here's an example I've never orgasm during a blow job, sure it good foreplay but I literally can't. I've tried but it's like something missing. I've been to several ma's it's the same thing I rarely get there. Doesn't mean I don't enjoy going for other fun reasons. To me its important not for the woman sake but for mine as well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bianca Jaguar 39183 Report post Posted October 12, 2013 Very important! Saddly, here it's hard to know. Not every SP are willing to be honnest if you're doing it right or wrong. And you never know if she's just saying what she thinks you want to hear. =( I'm sure experienced SPs will let you know...not always easy to say it the right way coz you dont want to cut the mood...but i did many times say "oh please go gently..." some gent can be more rough...I guess its just passion or excitement building up lol communication is really the key... As for the OP...I'm totally turned on when i know my Partner is...either by hearing his moans... body language...hip movements...whispers in my ears... Thanks to all the gentlemen who like to please and think its a mutual experience...so much more fun...mmmm BJ xxx 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spencer2 278 Report post Posted October 15, 2013 I do believe that it is very important. In fact, for me it is the most important of a satisfying meeting. This is why it absolutely necessary to be able to communicate freely and openly in a relaxed and comfortable setting. When we first meet , we have to somehow take time to get to know each other and relax. Try to meet the client in the nude instead of wearing some elaborate "teasing" outfit. This a great way to remove some layers of pretense. I found this approach works all the time and goes a long way to speed up the get acquainted process. For example, when I visit my favorite lady, after she opens the building's door, she unlocks her door and lays naked on the bed....I come in, undress and "wake" her up, we have a nice intimate cuddle and I open the wine and we chat and cuddle some more in a comfortable trusting environment. bottom line: open communication and you will find that most women will enjoy and desire getting full satisfactory conclusion to any sexual encounter....After all, what is sex without orgasm? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ChantalSummers Report post Posted November 17, 2013 Extremely important above and beyond my own. The wonderful journey of exploring and sensuality is the most intriguing part rather than the end result. Exploration and getting to know one another is key for me ;). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
