voltio8836 100 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 I know in this bussiness there are clients that you enjoy having and clients you don't enjoy having, physically. So, I am just wondering, what percentage of clients are you physically attracted to and actually enjoyed the experience with? Plz only SPs vote. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123368 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 There is a difference between Physical attraction and sexual attraction...that said i have been very lucky in both...but as far as physical attraction goes i voted over 50% ..damn i love my {hate the word JOB} experiences...kisses Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NatalieWood 6427 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 honestly, with men what turns me on most is their charm, intelligence and personality. I'm more physically attracted to ladies than men. If you're super hot but act like a super douche, well, you're just a douche. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123368 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 honestly, with men what turns me on most is their charm, intelligence and personality. I'm more physically attracted to ladies than men. If you're super hot but act like a super douche, well, you're just a douche. lmao so tue and funny....:-D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ariane Valmont 332 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 There is a difference between Physical attraction and sexual attraction... Exactly. BIG difference. voltio, I'm not sure what you meant with your question. Are you talking about a physical attraction strictly based on looks? Or are you in fact talking about getting turned on by your partner? Because as far as I'm concerned, depending on the exact meaning of your question, my answer will vary greatly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
voltio8836 100 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 Exactly. BIG difference. voltio, I'm not sure what you meant with your question. Are you talking about a physical attraction strictly based on looks? Or are you in fact talking about getting turned on by your partner? Because as far as I'm concerned, depending on the exact meaning of your question, my answer will vary greatly. Could you explain the difference? Are you saying there is someone that you think is hot but you wouldn't want to have a sexual relation with and conversely someone that you want to have a sexual relation with but you think is ugly? btw since we are in the context of the SP world, an emotional attraction would be a joke as you only met the client for 3 minutes. P.S. This is to everyone: yes I know this is a recommendation forum so maybe some replies will be "faked" to garner more clients into thinking you love all clients, but at least be truthful in the votes as they are anonymous? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123368 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 Are you saying there is someone that you think is hot but you wouldn't want to have a sexual relation with and conversely someone that you want to have a sexual relation with but you think is ugly? ****yep....most women are very different from men in that we are not as visual as men are...to us it is more important for you to be kind and polite and treat us with respect..then to be HOT. btw since we are in the context of the SP world, an emotional attraction would be a joke as you only met the client for 3 minutes. P.S. This is to everyone: yes I know this is a recommendation forum so maybe some replies will be "faked" to garner more clients into thinking you love all clients, but at least be truthful in the votes as they are anonymous? ****3 mins??...noone even mentioned emotional attraction..is there such a thing? ****I think gentlemen can tell when a lady is having a good time ...they know who is faking and who is not..;-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted November 13, 2009 What a good answer little lady and so incredibly funny. I would have to put the same. Warning all douche bags, move on. I just had to add that, teehee. As to clients I would have to say again. That a good attitude goes a long way. There is nothing more stimulating than a guy who is really into you. Just my 2cents. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 What a good answer little lady and so incredibly funny. I would have to put the same. Warning all douche bags, move on. I just had to add that, teehee. As to clients I would have to say again. That a good attitude goes a long way. There is nothing more stimulating than a guy who is really into you. Just my 2cents. BTW I had to throw this in... from my perspective, there is nothing more stimulating then when you have women like, Littlelady, Peachy,Emma and Ariane and of course many more that are really into you as well:69: There is an emotional and physical attraction but I'm sure it is a lot longer then 3 minutes, especially when you spend very sensual and erotic time with them or you had more then 1 date with them. Signed I don't think I'm a douche bag..lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 Could you explain the difference? Are you saying there is someone that you think is hot but you wouldn't want to have a sexual relation with and conversely someone that you want to have a sexual relation with but you think is ugly? btw since we are in the context of the SP world, an emotional attraction would be a joke as you only met the client for 3 minutes. P.S. This is to everyone: yes I know this is a recommendation forum so maybe some replies will be "faked" to garner more clients into thinking you love all clients, but at least be truthful in the votes as they are anonymous? whoa whoa now....why create a poll if you think the SPs participating are just going to lie to please their clients? polls after all are pretty anonymous as you said....so why would SPs fake their answers to sway clients into thinking something? as for the SP world having an emotional connection of only 3 minutes per session, perhaps you are seeing the wrong SPs, lol generally when you get to a certain point where you can be selective about who you see as an SP, you DO love all your clients. :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted November 13, 2009 whoa whoa now....why create a poll if you think the SPs participating are just going to lie to please their clients? polls after all are pretty anonymous as you said....so why would SPs fake their answers to sway clients into thinking something? as for the SP world having an emotional connection of only 3 minutes per session, perhaps you are seeing the wrong SPs, lol generally when you get to a certain point where you can be selective about who you see as an SP, you DO love all your clients. :-) Exactly. I have seen hot young guys who stink, and whose attitudes stink. I could care less what they look like, or how great they think they are, that crap oozes of of them which makes them really unattractive. Usually my screening weeds thru this, but there is the odd one who will suggest that it must be pretty nice for me (older) to see a young guy like them (as tho the majority of the people I see are necessarily not younger than me). Since I was 15, younger guys have been following me around -- it is the older guys I have trouble with lol. Clean, smiles, and happy to be here -- there is nothing more attractive than that. No chiseled abs or great hair is ever going to replace that. :smile: Excepting for the clean part (not always able to control that lol), my experience and opinion is that over 90% ove the people I see are extremely attractive. They have to be attractive on first contact in order for me to see them: polite, nice, interested, not arrogant, not pushy, not rude. From there it is all good. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted November 14, 2009 btw since we are in the context of the SP world, an emotional attraction would be a joke as you only met the client for 3 minutes. P.S. This is to everyone: yes I know this is a recommendation forum so maybe some replies will be "faked" to garner more clients into thinking you love all clients, but at least be truthful in the votes as they are anonymous? I think you need to work on your soft skills.... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cordsboy 184 Report post Posted November 14, 2009 btw since we are in the context of the SP world, an emotional attraction would be a joke as you only met the client for 3 minutes. Wow and I thought I was quick...:butt: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted November 14, 2009 Most of us on this board have the privilege of being able to be selective in who we see, thus there is more potential for attraction (physical, mental or otherwise). And we certainly don't need to lie to keep the clients thinking we love them. Being genuine isn't a rarity you know, for most of us, that's what comes naturally. Even three minutes is enough to know whether you'll click with someone or not. Personality always wins out over looks. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
voltio8836 100 Report post Posted November 14, 2009 someone said that sexual attraction is different from physical attraction. Could you please explain the difference? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted November 14, 2009 someone said that sexual attraction is different from physical attraction. Could you please explain the difference? Well for me, initially, upon meeting a gentleman I might find him very attractive, physically. But he might have the personality of a thermos in the sack, in which case, the sexual attraction (or chemistry) is ZERO. Alternatively, I might open the door to someone I'm not initially attracted to physically but who can push all the right buttons and I end up lusting after them long after the appointment. Chemistry or sexual attraction can occur without being physically attracted to someone. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lou 9208 Report post Posted November 14, 2009 We all say that any man could be a client. Well, when I am in a public space, I may find 5% of the guys attractive. So if we mean here strictly physique and look, it's the same thing for the men I encounter as an escort. That said, if you are clean and respectful, you will all be treated equally, I am not in the business to treat myself (tho I have a lot of great times), I am here primarily to treat my clientele. And after all, the man I met that fitted my taste the most in regards to look and physique smelled so bad that it was not much exciting as you can all imagine... And just like you littlelady, I find women way more attractive than men. But such as men, if the woman is superficial, arrogant and not much interesting and fun, it wont do it for me. In my opinion, charm is the key and it comes from a mix of personality, brain, kindness and the way a person is capable of making me feel desirable. Finally, I have to admit that escorting as permitted me to open myself way more to people to whom a priori I would not be attracted to. Look and physique are now without any doubts secondary when i am looking for personal fun. Lou Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ariane Valmont 332 Report post Posted November 14, 2009 Well for me, initially, upon meeting a gentleman I might find him very attractive, physically. But he might have the personality of a thermos in the sack, in which case, the sexual attraction (or chemistry) is ZERO. Alternatively, I might open the door to someone I'm not initially attracted to physically but who can push all the right buttons and I end up lusting after them long after the appointment. Chemistry or sexual attraction can occur without being physically attracted to someone. Well said! That's how I feel also. voltio, as an escort, it happens all the time that I become attracted to guys who I find average looking. I would say that around 10% of the men I meet are my type physically but I become sexually aroused during, more or less, 90% of my encounters (I'm being conservative here as I was tempted to put 95%!). What does that say? Simple: attitude is everything. Either I know how to pick them or I attract good people but rarely do I meet a man who I feel zero chemistry with. To be able to achieve a level of closeness with someone you barely know, you need to feel comfortable. So in a context where I have to create instant intimacy, I'll take a great personnality over great looks anytime of the day. And if on top of being a nice guy, my partner is a passionate lover... I could hardly ask for more! Like most women, I'm much more sensitive to the way a man touches me, kisses me, etc, than the way he looks. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted November 15, 2009 someone said that sexual attraction is different from physical attraction. Could you please explain the difference? I agree with Erin. Sometimes I can look at a guy who I find physically attractive and he turns out to be a dud (in personality or the bedroom). Some of my best lovers have been men I would not have looked at twice if I passed them them on street... So you just never know.... For myself, it's not something I really think about, but I would say that for the most part, the clients I find most attractive are the ones I "click" with on different levels. I have had some really interesting conversations, and been pleasantly surprised by some guys who possess certain skills. As harsh as it might sound, my question is, "what does it really matter whether we're attracted to our clients". It might make our job easier, but hey, it's the client dime..... Unless you're a total loser with really bad hygiene or manners or behaviour, I'm not going to turn you away. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted November 15, 2009 As harsh as it might sound, my question is, "what does it really matter whether we're attracted to our clients". It might make our job easier, but hey, it's the client dime..... Unless you're a total loser with really bad hygiene or manners or behaviour, I'm not going to turn you away. not harsh at all. thats just plain reality. funny....when I was in my early 20s and late teens I dated all sorts of guys, but the ones I would end up with usually would be guys my friends would say "really? HIM?' to. we'd be described as the awkward couple etc....my love interests were never good looking to most at first glance...but they made me laugh, or had a great charisma, were very intelligent etc etc etc.... people would tell me, you cant be serious? what do you see in him?? and in response I'd refuse to have to validate our relationship and say "and this is your business *because*...??" I get a similar feeling when I read the constant confusion or need for clarification or validation in this thread as to why certain clients just "do it for us". it doesnt have to make sense to anyone exept those involved in the relationship. true we could list hygene and ettiquette as obvious factors....but sometims things just "click"....physical attraction is only skin deep. but I also dont feel its anyone's business on "the rest" or that we need to validate why a relationship that isn't based on looks somehow works. (after much thought) just my two cents Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123368 Report post Posted November 15, 2009 someone said that sexual attraction is different from physical attraction. Could you please explain the difference? Physical attraction= being good looking on the outside Sexual attraction=chemistry kisses, Emma A Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ariane Valmont 332 Report post Posted November 15, 2009 As harsh as it might sound, my question is, "what does it really matter whether we're attracted to our clients". It might make our job easier, but hey, it's the client dime..... Well... I can understand that for some guys, the whole experience is more exciting and fulfilling if the escort has some kind of attraction to them. If I were a client, I would feel this way too. It's nice to be desired. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted November 15, 2009 (edited) I refuse to live my life in-authentically. 95% of the time I know long before someone walks thru the door if we are in the same head space. There needs to be something there in his words that makes me think. I have had guests that look like Danny DeVito and Woody Allen rock my world and pretty boys that left me wishing I could have that time back. I find myself now imagining men I meet in social situations in bed and it's seldom the pretty ones that catch my attention. Sometimes I sit in a room full of men and spend a minute in my happy place with each one of them naked. It's a fun way to spend 30 minutes when I don't have to participate in the discussion at hand. I most certainly can be attracted emotionally to someone in 3 minutes, it can happen instantly. The twinkle in a eye, or that smile that comes from inside charm. I do not feign warmth with my guests and I do not fake enjoyment. The quality of my time and my existence is mine for the making. If I do not feel there is a connection worth nurturing, I do not book a second appointment, but it doesn't mean I didn't enjoy the initial meeting. The key piece of wisdom this industry has brought to my life is that I create my reality and I happen to love my world and the people in it for who they are. I have found it brings out the best of each moment. Would I put all of my clients in a Playgirl centerfold? No, because the thing that makes them sexy to me may elude the camera. It doesn't mean they don't float my boat! Cat Edited November 15, 2009 by cat grammer! 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted November 15, 2009 I have had guests that look like Danny DeVito and Woody Allen rock my world Cat Wow, so there's hope for me yet! Lol. You always write so well Cat. And always have such insightful things to say. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TRman 536 Report post Posted November 17, 2009 For those that had under 50%, was it because someone was smelly or something? Was it a real wham bam thank you maam, or you are just not interested in whoever it is. Just some thoughts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
