Hi, new member here, why not say hello?

[dolphinxxx 130]

Hello everyone!

 

I'm a new member here and wanted to both introduce myself and start a conversation. My long time relationship status is changing and it seems like now I will be able to spend some quality time with escorts for the first time ever.

 

I've been doing a lot of research and reading and have had raging emotions from sheer excitement to sheer terror. Maybe that's common, I don't know.

 

When I found this site I was very pleased. It is *so* refreshing to see something positive about sex, sex workers, women and relationships. I feel like this is a place I can get honest information and hopefully find some ladies that I can feel comfortable and safe spending time with.

 

Of course as a noob to this, I am apprehensive a little. I'm sure its been asked a million times on here but of course I have a fear of STIs. One part of me says that a professional escort will certainly be more careful and knowledgeable than just someone random I could hook up with, but another part of me says that the number of partners increases your risk too, so I'm unsure.

 

Can someone point me to a good post on this or perhaps could some of the lady providers pipe in and tell me their views? I'd appreciate that.

 

On a related note, on this forum I was reading a thread about the idea of mandatory testing for escorts. It was interesting. It changed my view significantly. I think its not entirely fair to force that on anyone...plus if we would force that on escorts why not clients as well? At the end of the day I think its simple. Each person must make their own decisions but they absolutely need to be honest and open with each other (provider and client).

 

Wow, that was a long post. Apologies to the mod who has to read it. :-)

 

Thanks everyone,

 

Be happy because everyone deserves to be happy.

[cyclo 30131]

Of course as a noob to this, I am apprehensive a little. I'm sure its been asked a million times on here but of course I have a fear of STIs. One part of me says that a professional escort will certainly be more careful and knowledgeable than just someone random I could hook up with, but another part of me says that the number of partners increases your risk too, so I'm unsure.

 

Can someone point me to a good post on this or perhaps could some of the lady providers pipe in and tell me their views? I'd appreciate that.

 

Yes, potential risk increases with the number of sexual partners you have. It's not the most significant risk however.

 

There are lots of other more significant risk actors which the women and men on this Board avoid. These include intoxication from drugs and alcohol while having sessions. Why? Impairing inhibitions and judgment for example... results in higher risk sexual behaviours. You'll also see clients and providers avoiding bare back intercourse and anal, both of which are high risk activities.

 

My point isn't to review all of the STI risks, it's just to quickly point out that you shouldn't focus primarily upon the number of sexual partners as your primary STI "prevention" concern/strategy. Secondly, once you become better informed, you'll then have to decide what "your" risk tolerance is (e.g. bbbj or cbj).

 

There are various threads on here where people have discussed STI's. My advice is to go to the websites and publications of various public health agencies, where you will get information directly from knowledgable public health and medical professionals. These days the information is provided in a non-judgemental and non-moralistic manner.

 

Here's a couple of sites. The first one is the Public Health Agency of Canada, covering the full range of STI's and STD's, with links to all sorts of other provincial and international agencies such as the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Since you live in Ontario, the second link is to Sexual Health Ontario.

 

Good luck and enjoy yourself :-) And... be just as concerned about protecting your partners health as you are about protecting yours.

 

http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/std-mts/faq-eng.php

 

http://sexualhealthontario.ca

[Guest webothscore]

Hi Dolphinxxx,

 

Welcome to the Board. Have fun, be safe and always respect your peers and the providers. I will guess that you know to dome up for vaginal and anal intercourse. As far as oral goes, you have choices to make, either accept bbbj or not, or dine at the Y or not. You have to read and accept any and all associated risks, no matter what the percentages. Also, depending on the provider, the choice could already be made for you. Have a great day.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Hi Dolphinxxx - welcome to cerb:) I will say all you need to do is be yourself, research, read the rules-carefully- and have fun:) As a provider I would like to ensure you that a gentleman's discretion, desires and comfort will always be my first

concern, as for my health, that is more personal, something that goes beyond providing. Something I take great care of and try to protect to the best of my ability. Of course there are risks when anyone has multiple partners, but in the end all you can do is use protection and trust that the person you choose to be intimate with has great respect for his or her health as well.

[dolphinxxx 130]

Cristycurves,

 

That's why I'm on this forum...to find providers who are not only great at what they do but also have great respect for themselves and their health. From my perspective, frankly, if I was with someone who does not care about themselves I would not feel comfortable and would not enjoy the experience. It would just feel wrong be to with someone like that...everyone deserves to be happy and safe and feel good about themselves.

 

That's why this community seems so awesome. Everyone is so positive and supportive. I'm very impressed so far.

 

Thanks again for your reply. I'm getting a lot of good information to digest over the next little while.

 

Hi Dolphinxxx - welcome to cerb:) I will say all you need to do is be yourself, research, read the rules-carefully- and have fun:) As a provider I would like to ensure you that a gentleman's discretion, desires and comfort will always be my

concern, as for my health, that is more personal, something that goes beyond providing. Something I take great care of and try to protect to the best of my ability. Of course there are risks when anyone has multiple partners, but in the end all you can do is use protection and trust that the person you choose to be intimate with has great respect for his or her health.

[fortunateone 156618]

A visit to the clinic is not just suggested to get information. Info you can get from reliable online sources. What you are going for is to get tested, a complete and full workup, not just HIV. :)

 

When you see providers, you want to know your status already. When you see providers, you want to make sure that you aren't bringing any unwelcome guests with you, in the case that this is an sp that does offer higher risk activity, you want to be sure that you are not one of the guys increasing her risk factor even higher.

 

it is also a good idea, in the case you have a scare, you won't automatically blame the first sp you see, when in fact you may have had something for the past 10 years.

 

A lot of sexually active teenagers contract something, and a lot of them either don't know or don't get tested or think it has gone away when the symtoms subside. They carry that with them into the population mentioned above, the promisicuous non-prostitute population who are running around infecting numerous people, some of whom then become sps or clients of sps.

[dolphinxxx 130]

All great points fortunateone. I'll be taking care of all that early next week. Thanks!