someguy 67067 Report post Posted November 2, 2013 I just wanted to know that you've noticed any changes in your life since you started seeing MA's or SP's. I know in my case that I used to by shy with women and now I'm not. I seem to have more confidence in myself and walk with my head up more. I've started noticing women looking at me and smiling at me more often :). I've also started looking after my health more. I've lost a lot of weight and am more fit. Probably the best shape in my life since high school. Learning to be a better lover. Have fulfilled several fantasy in my bucket list. Have experience things that I could only dream about. Learnt to appreciated women more and how to satisfy them. Have learnt that women actually like being with me :) What changes have you seen since you started meeting MA's / SP's 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest c**io**m7 Report post Posted November 2, 2013 Good topic!! All of the above and... Have made some new friends Have learned that providers are not drug-addicted, dirty whores Have learned a great deal about the industry and gained an incredible respect for all the ladies here. Have learned that providers, both sp and ma, are unfairly judged and stereotyped by society In a nutshell, hobbying has opened my eyes and my mind. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest R**3*9 Report post Posted November 2, 2013 I've certainly had any preconceived notions of what this business is about blown out of the water...I think that people actually make connections...there is much more respect between providers and clients than I ever would have imagined. I expected I would be faceless and forgotten within minutes of leaving a date. The first SP I met made me feel....well special. I was not expecting that. She didn't forget me even months later and she had so many wonderful things to say about me I was a little overwhelmed to be honest. I started this hobby to help me break down the last barrier I have with respect to being able to release my full personality on the world...LOL. I'm starting to believe that my happiness is just as important as that of the people around me and I can be OK with pursuing it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted November 2, 2013 The one major stereotype that I had about this lifestyle was completely wrong...that seeing companions was just about anonymous sexual encounters. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact some ladies don't just know my personal information needed for verification/screening, a couple know even more more Trust issues, the majority of ladies I see I trust, a couple I completely trust without reservation. To put in perspective I work in a law enforcement field (and isn't everyone in law enforcement supposed to be trustworthy and above reproach?). I find the ladies I see FAR MORE trustworthy than the vast majority of people I work with Definitely with the caveat that ALWAYS respect a lady's boundaries, but when I began in this lifestyle, I never thought a SP/Client could be friends. I thought that the relationship despite it's intimate nature stayed professional. What a pleasant surprise that in some cases friendships can develop, friendships as important as those in "civilian" life. And encounters are far more than just about sex. I personally like longer encounters, it has allowed dates to have time for a social, conversation, connection time. And it has made sex more enjoyable, being intimate with a woman you have spent time getting to know and she know you. This lifestyle has me involved in the most honest, healthy, meaningful and upfront relations I have had with women with no strings, no guilt and no drama A quick rambling RG 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted November 2, 2013 I really pity the guys I know in horrible marriages, who are obviously desperately horny. If they could just go out and get laid it might save their marriage. Other times, I hear guys going on and on about how they like to do (insert disgusting sex act here) to some attractive young woman...I think no wonder your wife won't let you touch her. They waste hours looking at porn or fantasising about someone they will never score with, and that harms any real relationship they have. Seeing escorts gives you a unique viewpoint on sexual relations. For guys who don't do it, their sexual frustrations cast a shadow over their entire existence. An escort can take all that pressure and frustration off your shoulders and let you focus on other more productive things. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted November 2, 2013 Can't say that it has in any tangible ways. I had an idea going in and it's pretty much played out as expected. Peace MG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frank7 3939 Report post Posted November 3, 2013 Learned a lot of the ladies here and the misconceptions. (though that was before my first jump) Now i know what sex is! I'm comfortable kissing a ladie. I'm less shy and able to ask random girls for there numbers without having to know them for months first. Fullfilled a few fantasy too. ;) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted November 3, 2013 Well when I think about it ....YUP ! I have sex now ;) I smile more, I laugh more, I am much HAPPIER. I travel more, I have sex more, did I mention that already?, and my business has expanded to Ontario ?? Go figure. Ha Oops My grandpa always said head West young man but the damn plane seems to go East !!! ;) We are all different as hobbyists.....but the thing that has changed my life the most is the friendships and bonds that I have developed over time. Pretty darn awesome and priceless. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted November 3, 2013 What changes have you seen since you started meeting MA's / SP's I get much better with age and experience ( or should that be experiences? ) I have much more staying power, and I enjoy my sexual experiences. My sensuality has grown vastly :) by spending time with beautiful women, and friendships are plentiful. Not much more to say. ;) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WhiteKnight 1413 Report post Posted November 4, 2013 Most of what has been said already, plus: - Old wounds have been healed through the help and support of wonderful ladies. My heart and soul are happy and open. - My understanding of women has completely changed - My understanding of what women find attractive in me also has changed - I now can appreciate and enjoy more fully women's rich erotic universe - My own erotic palette has become richer, and can now adapt more easily to various women's sexual desires - Dating is now fun and exciting! Things I still have to improve: - Be a better communicator (verbally and non-verbally): convey in a warmer, friendlier and more concise manner my feelings, desires and values - Better at organizing dates lol. Keep it simple and smooth :) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted November 20, 2013 Wanted to add that, I've seen more beautiful women then I ever imagine that I would. Experience things that I never thought I would do. And add excitement to an otherwise boring life :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted November 20, 2013 Without a doubt my experience in the last year as a hobbyist has changed my life....to say the least the last few years have been tough for me personally and seeing an SP for me was intended to be a brief distraction from it all. Instead I have met some amazing people who I now consider my friends in the truest sense if the word. Hey and the sex is amazing :). You know who you are... Thank You. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted February 10, 2014 Another new year. And already I've met a handful of new women and all sessions have been great. Looking forwards to seeing what the new year will bring. Their seem to be a host of new SP's and MA's entering the business this year. Hope to meet some of them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted January 31, 2015 Another year and I've met a many amazing women here on Cerb. I've gotten to know a couple of them really well. Hopefully most of them will stay around so that I can repeat with them again. I have gotten in great shape and have my confidence has developed around women. I understand them better and know what they like now :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny Canuck 5347 Report post Posted February 1, 2015 For me, my life has changed in the sense that I have become more aware of this industry and have met a lot of really nice people. In the hobbyist aspect, it has made more open minded and a lot better interacting with women in general. Kind of like coming out of my shell. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vader75 999 Report post Posted February 1, 2015 I has changed my life. In ways I cant thank enough. This is the true meaning of selflessness. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldblueeyez 15475 Report post Posted February 2, 2015 It's made me happy in that I don't have to put up with the bullshit drama of relationships anymore just to get the prize. And when I look back at all of my encounters, both civilian and professional, the professional ones are always the most vivid and satisfying. So thank you for the memories! A long time ago I used to think that hobbyists were losers, but hey, we're winners! We're living life on nobody's terms but our own and you can't do any better than that! To me some of the biggest losers are the so-called Alpha males who marry a trophy wife who soon makes them miserable, but due to kids and finances they're locked into that marriage unless they attempt a very costly escape. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest A**aTo**h Report post Posted February 4, 2015 I don't know if it has changed my life, but it has certainly made me happier :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted September 24, 2015 The women I meet the more that I want to meet. This hobby has made my life more fun and interesting. Spend a lot of time on Lyla.com. Reading interesting articles and learning more about the other members. Enjoy reading about other members adventures and encounters. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jafo105 39057 Report post Posted September 24, 2015 I think I am more relaxed and comfortable about women and sex. I am even more interested in exploring my fantasies. Which I would never have done five years ago. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
johnybird 4391 Report post Posted September 25, 2015 How could it not! I have met some really great women that otherwise I don't think our paths would have ever crossed. Some that I would consider friends and I know we will still keep in touch after one of us retires from this business. And like I mentioned in a few threads, after a rough end of the year this business has brought me back to happy :) I love all you wonderful ladies for what you do. You don't even realize the impact you have on some of us. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted October 15, 2017 After 7 years here. And it was suppose to be a one time experience lol. I still find it fun. Makes life more interesting and each experience is different and something I look forwards to. I have met many amazing women here and have made some very good friends with them. It makes my humdrum life more exciting then my day to day life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CornyM53 1030 Report post Posted October 18, 2017 Was always a shy guy around women and people in general. Into the hobby for a while off and on. One thing that this hobby has given me that I would not have enjoyed outside of it, is a menage-a-trois. Being with two women at the same time is the ultimate especially if you had seen them individually before and got along great with them. Mind blowing to say the least. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest J**ck*9 Report post Posted October 18, 2017 I learned a lot about myself ... 1 - That being a great lover isn't always about the physical act of sex (more specifically coitus) it's about the various levels of intimacy through touch..... oral pleasures..... intimate communication .... kissing.... cuddling ... the afterglow ... but most importantly ... knowing how to be attentive to a woman's needs and desires and connecting with her on many levels 2 - being more secure about myself as a lover 3 - understanding a woman's point of view 4 - met a fair number of beautiful and interesting women on Lyla 5 - women in our community are intelligent and quite insightful 6 - I realized that I'm still a student of love and intimacy and I look forward to further developing my ongoing and evolving approach to same. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GoinDown 3669 Report post Posted October 18, 2017 your life will definitely change if you get caught ! always have a watertight alibi have a drop phone or text app keep your lies simple have fun ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
