first time, with an SP...

[tepic 91]

This might be an odd question, but i'm going to wade in anyway...

 

Been doing my research, been on an off the site for a couple years (great resource btw :) everyone seems friendly here too) This is another one of those "first time with an SP" questions...but a little different

 

It would be my first time....period.

 

I was always in the camp of "waiting til marriage, it will be worth it" (not that I've been totally locked up. I've been to a couple MPs, try to come out of my shell a little bit). But i'm believeing that a lot less now.

After deep discussions with a good friend, i'm starting to believe it is actually HURTING my interactions with women (I didn't develop the confidence that other guys do with success.. plus all the pent-up energy and such..and being almost 30 there's a LOT pent-up :P), and it's more of a negative than a positive *shrug*

 

So I guess i'm wondering, would SPs avoid a virgin? Is there any good advice approaching an SP about this? Is it that uncommon?

[roamingguy 300292]

If there is a lady that interests you, contact her (using her preferred method of contact) Tell her that not only is it your first time seeing a professional companion, you are a virgin and it's your first time.

As long as you are respectful when contacting the lady, my guess, you'll find a companion who will see you. And the ladies, despite how beautiful they are, are good at making you feel at ease

Couple things, book a longer encounter, maybe two hours. That will allow time for you and the lady to sit down over drinks and get to know one another. Don't just expect you'll be tearing off each other's clothes when you (or her, depending on whether incall or outcall) show up

And give the lady a tip and gift. Usually a lady's website gives ideas for gifts

Good Luck

RG

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

No SP's would avoid a virgin however most would want to have that information up front in original conversations. As much of a cliche it is, everyone remembers their first time and it should be a great experience. For many, it's not.

 

Only you can know if it's hurting your social interactions. Your friend can offer an opinion but you are the only true expert on your life. If you feel waiting is important to you, do it and screw what your friends think. If you feel that you can't relate to women on certain levels or with a certain confidence because you have not ventured into sexual territory, then making a date with an SP is a wonderful way to delve into the unknown. If you do your research and find someone who excites you, she can provide a great experience and show you everything involved in the sexual/sensual side.

 

Be open and honest with yourself and follow your heart. Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

[cinelli 22184]

waiting til marriage

Life too short, don't waste your time waiting!

it will be worth it

Unless you are marrying a super SP...it won't. Top notch SPs know what they are doing...they aren't still trying to figure things out.

 

Get out there and enjoy yourself!

[Athos 108589]

I too would urge you to go out and enjoy yourself. I'm fairly confident that if you wait until marriage, whoever you marry will likely not have waited for you. Celibacy until marriage is simply not part of our culture anymore (thank god!)

 

So you might as well get some experience, know what you are doing, and have a lot of fun along the way. Even if you don't want to see a SP, go out, date, have sexual and non-sexual experiences, and enjoy yourself. Life is, indeed, far too short.

 

Porthos

[Frank7 3939]

I was more or less in the same situation. At 22 i got my first kiss after dating a girl for 3 months (but it was mostly a last chance test to see if she could fall for me). So at 23, after being tiring of waiting, i went to see an SP.

 

While i wasn't the "wait till marriage" type, i'm a romantic and i really wanted my first time to be with a girl i love. After lots of failure, i was willing to settle for a one-night or a fuck-buddie but i wasn't able to find it.

 

My first time wasn't that good. Mostly because i was so nervous and there was no chemistry between me and the SP i choosed. She was really friendly, made me as comfortable as she could, but there was something missing. However i'm very glad i did it and got the burden away. If i had known the futur, i would have done it quicker.

 

If you're like me, you probably won't get much confidence from the "success" cause there isn't really a success. You didn't really seduce her in the traditionnal way. On the other hand, you'll get a lot more confidence about sex! You won't be scared of being a bad kisser, you'll have done your newbie mistakes (if you were to make some) and you'll finaly know what sex is. That was a very big stress for me, not knowing how i'll react to having sex, if i'll know what to do, being scared of cumming too quickly( ended up having the opposite problem lol), etc.

 

 

When i did it, i didn't tell the SP i was a virgin. I didn't want her treating me any differently. I did end telling her in the middle, during a break we took. Still not sure if it would have been better to tell her first or not. It's up to you to decide. Either way, i strongly suggest at least telling her at the end. To avoid worrying her that she did something bad because you were nervous (or if you have any problems)

 

Hope this help, and if you have further questions, don't hesitate.

[b-roc 110]

The first time i was with an sp i was real nervous and everything we did for me was uncomfortable. It was straight to the foreplay and i didnt really get to know the sp. I didn't know how the interaction would be just bc i'd never had a one night stand before. So it was a lot different then with gf's in the past.

 

I suggest you find someone who will put you at ease first with some good conversation. Then when it comes down to the foreplay/sex it wont be as awkward or nerve wrecking. I'm glad i never stopped after the first encounter bc after it has been wonderful.

[Eric Northman 16522]

Dad at Health Clinic: You know what your problem is? You're putting the pussy on a pedestal.

- The 40 Year Old Virgin

 

I think you're probably right about it hurting your interactions. Not necessarily badly or permanently but it's kind of like living alone for a long time. You become set in your ways, your opinions and habits become hardened, you think that 'your way' of doing things is the best or only way. Then you suddenly have a partner and have to unlearn everything.

 

I think that by not jumping in, you'll be getting all your (mis)information second hand, whether from porn or just other peoples stories. This might set you up for confusion or disappointment in the future. No matter what it is you're doing, there ain't no replacement for experience.