Why does this happen?

[DavidO 120]

I had a meeting recently with a young woman who was visiting Ottawa. She'd been well reviewed, pictures looked nice, all seemed fine and rather up-market. I wanted to treat myself.

 

We traded PMs, and that seemed fine. She allowed as how she'd cater to my clothing request without a problem (I asked her to wear a short skirt and pantyhose, no bra or panties). Nothing *too* weird, but I'm fussy, I admit :-)

 

We set up a meeting time, no prob. I confirmed the details (including wardrobe) the night before by PM, no prob. She pointed me at her phone number, and I gave her mine.

 

I tried to call to get the location details, no answer, left a message. She eventually called me after I PM'ed her, apologized, we set up a new appointment for an hour and a half after our original one, and she asked me to call her when I got to a general area.

 

Phoned when I got to that area, no answer, left another message. She called me back a few minutes later, gave me a location and room number.

 

I arrived, and was disappointed; it's a motel. Oh well, knock on the door, and she answers wearing, yes, a matching bra and panty set. No skirt, no pantyhose (She told me that "They didn't have any." ). Sigh.

 

Anyhow, no money traded hands, the date did not proceed, but it really made me wonder. Why take requests if you won't follow up? Why market yourself as upscale and then stay in a motel?

 

DavidO

[Parker 19761]

(short skirt and pantyhose, no bra or panties). Nothing *too* weird, but I'm fussy, I admit :-)

 

she answers wearing, yes, a matching bra and panty set. No skirt, no pantyhose ("They didn't have any." ). Sigh.

 

DavidO

 

Did you ask her for no bra or panties or a matching set?

 

I don't think there's one reason why someone would say they'll wear something (for example) and then not... It could be she just doesn't care... maybe she forgot.. or it could be a simple error in communication.

 

xo

[geo007 203]

Interesting. I have encountered the same type of situation. From a hobbyist's perspective, it is a huge letdown which can influence the whole encounter. I'd like to hear the SPs perspective taking into account that they already have the information and the clothes as their pictures have revealed. It's important so what is the f!!!ing problem????

[etasman2000 15994]

Why market yourself as upscale and then stay in a motel?

 

I can't answer the first one but as to the motel that could have been an honest mistake especially if she is visiting and unfamiliar with Ottawa.

[sexnonstop724 1727]

If she was in a hurry and didn't get a chance to change. Watching her change into the desired outfit could be a real turn on too.

 

SNS724

[whatsup 11893]

Wow Dude

 

Somebody that actually joined before me.

 

I can understand your disappointment in the locale, but was the clothing request that off base, sounds pretty hot to me :grin:

 

You could of asked her to change into the desired attire and had a lovely evening.

 

My 2 cents :wink:

[Cowboy kenny 50799]

This sort of behavior is the type of thing that happens with providers who aren't concerned about their clients, they also usually aren't in for the long haul. For many people, it's the atmosphere, environment and ambiance that takes a date to a whole new level. The SP who takes the time to make that happen for her client is focused on her clients happiness. I recently had a visit with a lady who surprised me with some chilled wine and a wonderful outfit, that was both pleasing and teasing. She could have simply opened the door in her bath robe and pointed me to the bedroom, but we had been waiting sometime to finaly meet. These steps made the occaison even more memorable and exciting.

 

I've been known from time to time when meeting with someone totally new to make a request, a simple one to see if they will follow through, if they don't then it's likely that she wont be as accomodating to other requests in the bedroom.

[Mister C 1725]

This sort of behavior is the type of thing that happens with providers who aren't concerned about their clients, they also usually aren't in for the long haul. For many people, it's the atmosphere, environment and ambiance that takes a date to a whole new level. The SP who takes the time to make that happen for her client is focused on her clients happiness. I recently had a visit with a lady who surprised me with some chilled wine and a wonderful outfit, that was both pleasing and teasing. She could have simply opened the door in her bath robe and pointed me to the bedroom, but we had been waiting sometime to finaly meet. These steps made the occaison even more memorable and exciting.

 

I've been known from time to time when meeting with someone totally new to make a request, a simple one to see if they will follow through, if they don't then it's likely that she wont be as accomodating to other requests in the bedroom.

 

Well said.

[DavidO 120]

If she was in a hurry and didn't get a chance to change. Watching her change into the desired outfit could be a real turn on too.

 

SNS724

 

Yep, coulda been, except that she didn't *have* the desired outfit, in spite of telling me that she'd remembered.

 

Sigh...

[DavidO 120]

Wow Dude

 

Somebody that actually joined before me.

 

I can understand your disappointment in the locale, but was the clothing request that off base, sounds pretty hot to me :grin:

 

You could of asked her to change into the desired attire and had a lovely evening.

 

My 2 cents :wink:

 

 

I didn't make myself clear originally -- though I'd asked specifically for her to wear a short-ish skirt and pantyhose, and no bra, no panties, and she'd told me by PM that she had remembered, when I got there she told me that "They didn't have any pantyhose". No idea who "they" are :Cool:

 

I'm not sure how I've been a member for so long with so few posts -- I was sure I was more voluble on here than apparently I have been...

 

DavidO

[Guest s******ecan****]

To answer your question why does this happen?

 

Poor service thats all. Could have been an honest mistake or just a lack of interest on her part of going all out to please the client. Poor service affects all industries and this one is no different.

[capitalman 3861]

If the clothing the girl is wearing is so specifically a turn on for you, that if she's not wearing it you won't follow through with your date, then you had better be sure to tell the girl this in really clear terms.

 

I have not met anyone else on here that would not follow through because the girl is not wearing the clothing they requested. I'm not saying it's weird or unusual, but if it's that important to you......you'd better communicate that clearly to the girl and let her know that you won't be following through if your specific request isn't met. That's how I see it.

[sexnonstop724 1727]

Too bad my friend, but I wonder how many outfits an out of town SP brings along.

 

Some of the more established local SP might be a better bet. So many great SPs in town to choose from!!

 

Good luck on your next one!!

 

SNS724

 

Yep, coulda been, except that she didn't *have* the desired outfit, in spite of telling me that she'd remembered.

 

Sigh...

[fortunateone 156618]

Pantyhose is not something that I always have on hand as it tends to get unwearable after one session :sm185:

 

If she is visiting she may not know the best place to stay, or even where to get the item. I have had clients show up with pantyhose for me, but that is when I have made it clear I may not have any if they are arranging a meeting on short notice.

 

Even if she was already in them, bringing along another pair with you (from dollar store or similar), means you are prepared, plus you are replacing the pair that she is wearing lol.

[Sentimental 281]

Kenny: I am in total agreement with your comments..... atmosphere, environment and ambiance are extremely important. BTW let me know who was the SP who

who surprised you. I would be most interested in meeting her !!

[TracieGold 282]

Give the lady a chance....things may have happened to her...did you bother DavidO to ask her what was the problem?, yes, and she said "they"(whoever she was referring to) adid not have any pantyhose....well, there is a chance she did not have the money to buy it, and there is also the possibility she forgot.

Please forgive her and if I was you, next time you have a request with an SP, I would call her a couple of hours before the rendezvous and ask her if everything is on track....if she says "no, I could not get the pantyhose" ask her if she would like for you to get it"

Life is simple, and money walks.....do not trash the lady, even if you are not saying her name, she may be reading the posts and may be feeling very bad....

DavidO, send me a pm and I will tell you more of my thoughts.....

xoxoxo

Trace8)

[cordsboy 184]

While everyone hase their own opinion on these types of encounters she whould be like a Blue Jay batter in my books: 3 strikes and you are out...

 

Strike 1 - scheduled time not respected.

Strike 2 - does not abide by clients request that she agreed to.

Strike 3 - if there was a reason for 1 & 2 she did not attempt to give it (according to post).

 

Just bad client service, we all know stuff happens in life but there is always time for common courtesy.

[Seymour 3970]

Not to detract from the topic at hand, but a quick sidebar on the 'upscale' and motel comment from the original poster. Sometimes shit happens and ladies have to make alternate arrangements for their location until such time as they become better established to have their own private location.

[MandalayBay 575]

When you're charging $200 plus (the average, it seems) you should accommodate all requests within reason. Where else can a woman make that kind of money?

 

It appears like she simply didn't care about giving good service. I hope this doesn't turn you off hobbying as there are so many wonderful ladies out there who give incredible service. :-)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I can understand why you are upset about her not complying with your request for certain attire but in reference to her checking into a motel.... I don't think this this necessarily relates to whether or not she is upscale. Being upscale is almost like an illusion. What is upscale? I marketed myself like this for years. It's not necessarily logisitics but more in how you carry yourself. Now what type of motel are we referring to? Montreal Rd type motels ( insert a cockroach here ;) or one that belongs to a chain of respectable hotels?

 

If you're referring to the latter then one has to take into consideration that higher end hotels are expensive and considering the way the economy is right now and how it affects the escorting industry, an SP may have to cut out a few luxuries and get back to the basics provided the service is still exceptional.

 

I recently stayed at a few motels ( not the seedy ones mind you) because I don't meet 2-3 clients a day maybe 1 or 2 clients a week now so there are times where I'm not going to book a higher end hotel in upwards of $150 or more per night. Especially when no appt is ever guaranteed and no shows are rampant. I don't take those chances anymore especially since it's coming out of my pocket to begin with. Just an escort's perspective...end of rambling.