Judgement

[Guest wi***w]

Okay, I enjoy reading the boards and appreciate everyone here who posts and keep things interesting but I am so annoyed I thought this was the best place to vent. I don't post here very often but am so fed up with this issue I had to get it out..

 

I have been a provider for approx 5 yrs. I have truly enjoyed myself and am grateful that I can be so successful given that I am a "mature" escort and entered the biz "late" in life.

 

What I am pissed about is lately I have been hearing and seeing references made about how "thin" I am. I am naturally petite, have been my entire life. Even at my age, I am 5'3" 105 lbs which is porportionate to my petite frame. It really annoys me when I see/hear comments like I am annorexic, bulliemic, or sick. I have heard comments from clients stating that another sp is saying that I have Chrohn's, herpes..etc.

 

I am healthy, happy and just naturally thin. I love food and eat whenever and whatever I choose. I am an honest, respectful, sweet person who would step up to help anyone in need. I have never bothered anyone and don't think I deserve this..I have never dieted in my life nor have I had any disorder or disease that would cause me to be thin.

 

This is the reason I have never befriended another provider. I am shy and want my life to stay private so I try to stay under the radar as much as possible. I have never uttered a bad word about any other providers and in fact have given clients references of who to see when I am unavailable. I've never met nor talked to another provider. I find this very malicious and mean.

 

 

There are lots of women here and everywhere that like me are naturally thin and no matter what they eat they do not gain weight...being thin/petite does not automatically mean sick.

 

Thanks for listening

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Sorry i said you were thin...i never think of that word meaning anything bad....i will remember to say petite from now on when i recommend you...i think highly of you and am sorry if i offended you...

Emma A

[otto erotik 100]

Okay, I enjoy reading the boards and appreciate everyone here who posts and keep things interesting but I am so annoyed I thought this was the best place to vent. I don't post here very often but am so fed up with this issue I had to get it out..

 

I have been a provider for approx 5 yrs. I have truly enjoyed myself and am grateful that I can be so successful given that I am a "mature" escort and entered the biz "late" in life.

 

What I am pissed about is lately I have been hearing and seeing references made about how "thin" I am. I am naturally petite, have been my entire life. Even at my age, I am 5'3" 105 lbs which is porportionate to my petite frame. It really annoys me when I see/hear comments like I am annorexic, bulliemic, or sick. I have heard comments from clients stating that another sp is saying that I have Chrohn's, herpes..etc.

 

I am healthy, happy and just naturally thin. I love food and eat whenever and whatever I choose. I am an honest, respectful, sweet person who would step up to help anyone in need. I have never bothered anyone and don't think I deserve this..I have never dieted in my life nor have I had any disorder or disease that would cause me to be thin.

 

This is the reason I have never befriended another provider. I am shy and want my life to stay private so I try to stay under the radar as much as possible. I have never uttered a bad word about any other providers and in fact have given clients references of who to see when I am unavailable. I've never met nor talked to another provider. I find this very malicious and mean.

 

 

There are lots of women here and everywhere that like me are naturally thin and no matter what they eat they do not gain weight...being thin/petite does not automatically mean sick.

 

Thanks for listening

You look fantastic Willow . Petty jealousy from people sometimes provokes nasty comments ,,especially if they struggle to keep weight down. Do you ever come to Ottawa?

[buggernot 588]

It is so true that people jump to those conclusions. Maybe it has something to do with society's fixation on weight, and the fact that it is very uncommon for someone of your age to still have that slight figure.

 

But I have noticed that many people generally make those assumptions because quite often, the person in question does have some type of illness, so they learn to assume that it is likely the case for everyone to be like that.

 

No doubt it is annoying, but you can take solace in the fact that it isn't true and that you don't have the reverse problem. Makes me angry when anyone makes the assumption that a big girl is probably the way she is because all she does is eat ice cream and buckets of fried chicken. Most often, you are what you are because that's your metabolism and you can't change it.

 

I will admit to having these thoughts myself sometimes, but I don't jump to conclusions or ask invasive questions. To be honest, I recall seeing your pics here and then seeing your age and was exasperated because the 2 things did not seem to go together!

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Sorry i said you were thin...i never think of that word meaning anything bad....i will remember to say petite from now on when i recommend you...i think highly of you and am sorry if i offended you...

Emma A

 

ps-at least you don't get "old hated whore " that's what i get all the time in Halifax from some chickie...she likes to call and say nasty things but never revels herself...she apperently is supposted to be another sp...oh well we know better...

[Guest]

Hello, Willow

I understand. I have never been call those thing here. I makes me sad for you. That you would even have those problems. People think that only large girls get made fun of because their size. I have been threw this too. In high school I was made fun of because of how small I was. I have also had my size brought up at the work place. Little comments like oh, your so small, you should eat a little more or the best one, you should get some meat on your bones.

I too eat like a man and enjoy food. I could never think of depriving myself of that. So being called annorexic or bulliemic is just plain hurtful. I had a friend who was annorexic. It is scary and no laughing matter.

 

I am a little shy and insecure too because of this. You learn how to cope with it. I have always been small to. There is something my mother always said to me and I hope it helps. She said that I would always be small and that it would always be hard for me. That people would always push their weigh around on me. She told me to fight anyway. She told me that my opinion counts. Also that the bigger they are the bigger they fall.

 

No one should feel bad because of their body type. This is how you are. Be proud, walk tall and keep the smile on your face.

[geo007 203]

Willow, I'm glad you decided to vent here because it will clarify your situation to any who may have had misconceptions about your health. And it will take some pressure off of you. As Peachy described, everyone is different and we go through life dealing with our particularities.

 

I've viewed your pics and you look great to me. Enjoy who you are and have a great holiday period.:grin:

[Hornee69 4851]

I luv your looks & UR body. So much so that a few years back I was very disappointed when U & I were unable to hook up due to a bout of bronchitis that U had. This was back in Manitoba. I think U R perfect & i just hope I can to Halifax someday. We did speak on the phone & I found U very delightful & remarkably honest & would never hesitate to see U.

 

Good luck & continued success.

 

Graham

[Guest wi***w]

Thanks you guys who have responded and given me great advice. I knew that I was not alone and that many women big and small are judged. I've had many experiences of people telling me to gain weight..eat more...they would never go up to a heavy person and tell them they are fat and to stop eating..we do all come in different sizes. I've been questioned if my pics are real or photoshopped cause a woman 'my age" would never be so teenie. There is a myth that older woman are all wrinkled, fat and out of shape

My pics are all real, recent and untouched and if anyone doubts that I'd be happy to meet with them to prove I am who I am....

 

Emma I did not post this thread to be aimed at you for your response to a pooner looking for "petite" women. I hadn't even seen your post until after I posted it and when I saw your response I went and checked the threads to see what you were referring to..I understand that you too are a "mature" sp and I thin you are very beautiful, in shape and successful..I've only heard wonderful things about you. I know you would never be so rude..

 

Peachy, thank you so much for your openness and honesty. Your pics are beautiful and I can see that you also belong to the "teenie weenie club"...LOL Your mother's advice is very wise and I will remember her words..

 

I am proud to be 47 (and a half), look good enough to attract clients half my age and still turn heads on the beach...lol..Not too shabby for a gramma...LOL..

 

I care about my body, my health and try to take good care of it...I will stand tall and stand proud at whatever size I am.

[Cato 160314]

Great thread, my appreciation for the thoughtfulness of the comments of all who contributed.

 

I know Peachy is gorgeous, and I've admired the pics of Willow and Emma on here. You're beautiful. Inside as well as out.

[Andee 220524]

For what it's worth and not having met you personally, from your pictures, I think you look fabulous! I do not think there is anything wrong with saying you are thin, but you are definitely not "too thin", so yes, perhaps Petite is a better word to describe yourself. You are, as you say, proportioned to your frame.

 

It's unfortunate you haven't been able to befriend any other SPs. I have met some very supportive SPs over the years. I have also met the catty types. But I can understand the tendency to not want to invest in something and possibly get burned.

[wade 101]

You are gorgeous. Never let anyone judge you. Your the only one qualified to do that. Ever come to ottawa. I would love the to meet with you.

[redmachine 1916]

. It really annoys me when I see/hear comments like I am annorexic, bulliemic, or sick. I have heard comments from clients stating that another sp is saying that I have Chrohn's, herpes..etc.

 

Willow very sorry that this has happened to you.I have not yet had the pleasure of meeting you but have heard nothing but good things about you from different people and that includes more than one sp.

 

This is at least the second time here in Halifax recently that I have heard of another sp either spreading lies or harassing another sp. What makes it most unfortunate is that this person seems to be targeting the most well respected sp's in the area who have never had a bad word to say about anyone.

[cat 262460]

I find the diversity of our species to be incredible and awe inspiring. The stereotypical version of "perfection" is so transient because every shape is desirable if it is seen for exactly what it is...real. Willow, I think you look amazing and those that find a reason to berate only do so because the insecurity they have comes out. Not one of us is built exactly the same, even identical twins have minute differences and if we stop and really look there is something attractive in even those that our time says are imperfect. You are right to stand proud. You have what so many of us strive for but never achieve. Never apologize for something that is, especially when what is - is so appealing to the eye.

 

Words only have the power to hurt if we personalize them and make them real. Hateful behavior can only exist in the dark, once the light is shone on it, it will dissipate. Every time the light shines, it is good for all...

 

Cat

[CourtesanCassandra 167]

Ya know, I find women of different shapes & sizes quite appealing. That's the beauty of them, the variety in curvage!

 

That's too bad that some folks do feel the need to spread such baseless rumors. It shows their insecurities indeed.

 

And for someone to call up an sp & call her an old hated whore show some definite instability on their part. Sorry you ladies have to suffer this.

 

And Willow, on a side note, that red & white number with the white stockings & red bows on you is positively smashing ;)

[hunknhot 1067]

Dear Willow,

 

You are lovely and perfect. It is clear from your posts that you not only beautiful from the outside but you have a wonderful inner beauty as well.

 

I for one am proud to see you stand and speak for yourself. Your message was full of charater and class.

 

I dated someone very similar to you, no matter what she ate, what proteins she took etc.. she remained petite and thin. She was teased to no end but more frustating I believe was the no-stop unsolicited commentary of what she should eat and what presumed behaviours she had. She did not stand up for herself as you did and I believe it caused her great psychological pain.

 

Good for you for taking a stand. You are a wonderful woman and quite elegant (and we have yet to meet but I suspect my intuition is correct ;)) I am always insipred by posts like these and all the support you have recieved.

[alberta 222]

Don't worry about what some small minded individual(s) said about you Willow, rest assured, that view is not shared. Hell I nominated you in the best album thread, and I think I have a pretty good idea what beautiful women look like.

[Guest S***e]

I understand totally where you are coming from on this as I am slim and athletic for someone in their 60s. Over the years, I have had people ask me if I have cancer, HIV or if I'm using drugs. No to all of these questions. People can be very rude and cruel and this all comes from acquaintances and so-called friends. Willow, you know yourself and your body...it's your perception that matters and yours alone.

 

 

Okay, I enjoy reading the boards and appreciate everyone here who posts and keep things interesting but I am so annoyed I thought this was the best place to vent. I don't post here very often but am so fed up with this issue I had to get it out..

 

I have been a provider for approx 5 yrs. I have truly enjoyed myself and am grateful that I can be so successful given that I am a "mature" escort and entered the biz "late" in life.

 

What I am pissed about is lately I have been hearing and seeing references made about how "thin" I am. I am naturally petite, have been my entire life. Even at my age, I am 5'3" 105 lbs which is porportionate to my petite frame. It really annoys me when I see/hear comments like I am annorexic, bulliemic, or sick. I have heard comments from clients stating that another sp is saying that I have Chrohn's, herpes..etc.

 

I am healthy, happy and just naturally thin. I love food and eat whenever and whatever I choose. I am an honest, respectful, sweet person who would step up to help anyone in need. I have never bothered anyone and don't think I deserve this..I have never dieted in my life nor have I had any disorder or disease that would cause me to be thin.

 

This is the reason I have never befriended another provider. I am shy and want my life to stay private so I try to stay under the radar as much as possible. I have never uttered a bad word about any other providers and in fact have given clients references of who to see when I am unavailable. I've never met nor talked to another provider. I find this very malicious and mean.

 

 

There are lots of women here and everywhere that like me are naturally thin and no matter what they eat they do not gain weight...being thin/petite does not automatically mean sick.

 

Thanks for listening

[Guest S***e]

Peachy:

 

It's not the size of the dog in the fight; it's the size of the fight in the dog that matters!! Somehow, I think we would have been great friends in school (if we went at the same time period).

 

 

 

Hello, Willow

I understand. I have never been call those thing here. I makes me sad for you. That you would even have those problems. People think that only large girls get made fun of because their size. I have been threw this too. In high school I was made fun of because of how small I was. I have also had my size brought up at the work place. Little comments like oh, your so small, you should eat a little more or the best one, you should get some meat on your bones.

I too eat like a man and enjoy food. I could never think of depriving myself of that. So being called annorexic or bulliemic is just plain hurtful. I had a friend who was annorexic. It is scary and no laughing matter.

 

I am a little shy and insecure too because of this. You learn how to cope with it. I have always been small to. There is something my mother always said to me and I hope it helps. She said that I would always be small and that it would always be hard for me. That people would always push their weigh around on me. She told me to fight anyway. She told me that my opinion counts. Also that the bigger they are the bigger they fall.

 

No one should feel bad because of their body type. This is how you are. Be proud, walk tall and keep the smile on your face.

[PistolPete 61421]

I think your signature says it best..

 

Willow..Your..Sweet..Petite..Treat

 

I have always admired your pictures, you are a gorgeous lady!

and I know you can STILL turn heads walking down a beach;-)

 

Never mind what others say, it is always human nature of some to be negative and just rude.

 

Kudo's to all members for jumping in on this thread, and being supportive to Willow.

 

(BTW Emma you are a very sincere, honest and gorgeous lady ;))

[Guest S***e]

(BTW Emma you are a very sincere, honest and gorgeous lady ;))

 

Agreed PP and she doesn't have a mean bone in her body.