What to do...

[Flipmatic 214]

So, I've decided to go back to school, and after my first day back, a wonderful thing happened, I saw an SP I had seen a couple of times with which I had a great time but haven't seen her in awhile except sporadically someone would mention her name. I know she had gone independent as she had been with an agency before. After she had gone independent she was looking for specific clientele which she had seen before and I was lucky enough to make the cut except that I had no opportunity to schedule an appointment. So after not hearing from her for a little while, and now seeing her at school ( I didn't make contact with her there, except a courteous smile as I'm sure she saw me looking at her). So if I get to see her in the hall again and she's not with anyone and she has a moment, is it a good idea to ask her if she's still in the business, and how would be the best idea without drawing attention to the fact that she used to be an SP to anyone walking by...

 

 

any help would be appreciated.

 

Thanks, Flip

 

( i won't be saying where we go to school, her name, her agency because that's not my place to say)

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

NO! Remember "THE GOLDEN RULE!" She is there in her Civilian Life! Stay away! You would be intruding on her private life! Smile perhaps but keep on moving. You have your private life and she has hers! This would make her uncomfortable for her and perhaps you as well! Move on!

[Cato 160314]

If she recognises you and wants to approach you, she will. Let her take the initiative. Otherwise, leave it.

[piano8950 32577]

What Excaliber said. Don't approach her for that reason. I can't say if it's a good idea to see her even if she does still advertise her services. Privacy is a huge component in this industry for both parties involved, and it might make her uncomfortable.

[fortunateone 156618]

And she will think a lot more of you if you leave her alone than if you approached her asking about services, believe me. She will recognize that you respect her privacy and discretion, which if she is working under a new name she may approach you one day to let you know.

 

In the meantime ignore her and pretend you have never met her before under any circumstances. Should your paths cross, treat her as you would any random stranger. If you know someone who knows her from school and you cross their paths and your friend decides to introduce you to each other, say, hi nice to meet you, and carry on with your day.

 

You will earn a ton of respect and good will from her that is invaluable.

[Flipmatic 214]

Thank you very much guys for the response, I'm glad I asked about it on the boards before I went ahead and talked to her the next time I saw her. I know I would be discreet about it either way, but now knowing its something that I shouldn't talk about outside the boards or bp, I'll obviously refrain.

[randyzak 3600]

I agree wholeheartedly with the advice you have received above.

 

Since you felt the need to approach her and since you cared enough to post the question on the board, then I am going to read between the lines a bit and take a guess that you really like this woman -- and perhaps you feel that her return to school means that you might not be able to enjoy her company as an SP.

 

My advice to you is to be patient young grasshopper.

 

I do know an SP or two who have made the return to school but during some down time (such as after exams, holidays, and the summer break), she will return to the profession temporarily... who would want to give up such pleasure, positive attention, and income, really?

 

If lady luck shines upon you and her, then here's hoping she does run a BP or CERB ad during her down time and you have the opportunity to reconnect! When that happens, you might wish to discuss an exclusive client-SP relationship where you can arrange to see her even if she isn't running ads (I have this very arrangement with one of my favourite SPs).

 

Hmm, now that I look at the calendar, I see March Break is just around the corner, and summer ain't that far away... ;)

[Guest P*rry]

I wouldn't broach the subject with her. For one, I see it as respect for her privacy. And, you may think you're being discrete, but you never know who may be within earshot.

[CoolCucumber 2610]

So, I've decided to go back to school, and after my first day back, a wonderful thing happened, I saw an SP I had seen a couple of times with which I had a great time but haven't seen her in awhile except sporadically someone would mention her name. I know she had gone independent as she had been with an agency before. After she had gone independent she was looking for specific clientele which she had seen before and I was lucky enough to make the cut except that I had no opportunity to schedule an appointment.

 

Here's the thing. Although you didn't mention who it is, I know exactly who you are talking about based on what you said. When she went independent, I also was a private client who she would email or text her schedule to. At one session, I mentioned I was participating in a research project school X (which is either a university or college, I won't be too specific for the same reasons as OP). When I asked for another appointment by email afterwards, I was told that I now made her uncomfortable and she no longer wanted to see me as a client. I later saw her on campus and put two and two together. I suggest if you want to ever see her again as an escort that you stay far away from her in her civilian life because she is very uncomfortable with even the thought of coming into contact with her clients outside of her hotel room.