Freezing 100 Report post Posted January 23, 2014 Hey everybody. I'm really sorry if this is not the appropriate place to post this, but I got really overwhelmed looking at some of the big posts in the general section and thought asking local people might be more helpful. I'm completely new to this (no experience) and have no idea what I'm doing or what to expect and maybe some of you would be kind enough to answer some questions or give me a general idea as to what could happen? Is the any benefit to in-calls over out-calls? Is one safer? What can I do to keep myself safe? Are there risks I should know about? Does the "clock" start counting as soon as we meet or is there an allotment of pre and post time on-top of the time booked? Is there anything specific to Winnipeg that I should know about? I'm interested in fetish/bdsm, is there anything I should know about that? Once again, I'm really sorry if this post is not appropriate. I'm just really nervous and looking for help. Thank you so much in advance!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whiterabbit 485 Report post Posted January 24, 2014 I remember my first time and all the thought input into it and how nervous I was. I think the key is to look for someone who has been in the industry for some time. There's lots of good recommendations in the WPG section of the site. I have my favourites and others have theirs. Incall is good but not all incalls are the same, it really depends on the lady. I like a good incall as it means your SP will be comfortable but then most pros are just as comfortable showing up at a nice hotel. I like visiting escorts when I travel and love the knock at the door. Getting the room ready to set the mood is all part of the fun. If it's your first time I'd recommend emailing a few ladies you are curious about and let them know you have some questions and are a virgin at this... I'm positive many ladies will find that attractive. I once saw an SP in Montreal and it turned out I was the very first client she had ever seen professionally... Fuck that was awesome... One of the best nights I ever had. Have your donation ready, make it classy and give it in an unsealed plain envelope. If an SP is coming to see you then leave the donation in an area where she will notice it upon arrival. This way you don't need to discuss money. Most pros will not watch the clock and manage their time accordingly... You won't have to worry about that. The most important thing is to keep in mind that this is kinda normal and many people involved in this industry really enjoy what they do so don't over think it and have fun. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Freezing 100 Report post Posted January 24, 2014 Thank you so much for your response! I'm somewhat of an anxious individual so having some idea of what will happen is extremely helpful. I also don't want to inadvertently waste someones time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted January 25, 2014 (edited) Is the any benefit to in-calls over out-calls? Is one safer? Do NOT have anyone visit your house until you have seen them several times at their place. I've had problems with bad visitors. What can I do to keep myself safe? Are there risks I should know about? Besides using a condom? Think about the area you are going into. If it is sketchy and you are uncomfortable don't go. Don't carry more money than you plan to spend. Don't carry valuables with you. Don't wear a gold Rolex or carry your company cell phone. Does the "clock" start counting as soon as we meet or is there an allotment of pre and post time on-top of the time booked? Kind of depends on the SP, if she likes you and feels like chatting you may go overtime. Some shoo you out as soon as possible. Of course a lot depends on your behaviour too. If you are a nice guy you may get more time. If you are a jerk you definitely won't. Another thing, if you are a jerk or cheapskate, you may find her "busy" next time you try to book. And word gets around, girls talk. Just as girls can have a reputation, guys can too. Is there anything specific to Winnipeg that I should know about? Just study the reviews and recommendations carefully. Look for someone who matches your desires as closely as possible. Don't get sucked in by fab pics on online ads. Practice safe sex all the time. Always. There is a big thread in the General Section for newbies. Read it! Edited January 25, 2014 by cinelli 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wolfkat 838 Report post Posted January 25, 2014 welcome to cerb and the hobby. whiterabbit and cinelli summed it up pretty good. I am still pretty new myself but the best advice I got starting out is stick to cerb and EC. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Something I've seen a lot of lately: SPs wanting you to buy a cam session before meeting you. They want your credit card info. NEVER GIVE THEM YOUR CC INFO! No matter what they say. Do not do it. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Freezing 100 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Cinelli, thank you so much. I probably wouldn't have even thought about not taking anything of value with me as I always carry the same things out of habit. I actually had assumed that having an SP to your place would be safer, but if you say there place for the first few times I will trust your experience. Safe sex is definitely a must for me. I'm guessing that if a SP doesn't insist on safe sex stuff, that would be a red flag? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Freezing 100 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 What is the safe way to pay for a cam session, if one were so inclined? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whiterabbit 485 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 I've seen this too. This issue creeps up when you're scouring BP looking for a last minute hook up... I've been asked for cam payment upfront which is fucked. Never concede to that. Better to plan ahead and/or see gals you know are legit or have a well reviewed reputation. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 I actually had assumed that having an SP to your place would be safer, but if you say there place for the first few times Do you let every Tom, Dick and Harry into your house? Of course not. So why would you let someone you have never met into your house? If you have a major disagreement and things get heated it is best to have it at her place and not yours. Some ladies are really nice and have all the best intentions but may be a little indiscreet. Last summer I had a gorgeous lady pop in wearing a tight blouse, miniskirt and spike heels. Fortunately I am a single guy...but if I had been married it would have been bad. Another thing, seeing a lady at her place gives you an idea about her level of professionalism. Is the place nice and tidy, clean sheets/towels? Or are there clothes and laundry strewn all over the floor? Hmmm. Once you get to know a lady it is great to have them come over! I find I am never as comfortable anywhere as I am in my own home. I have a big gym in my basement. One of my best-ever sessions was with an SP who just wanted to workout with me and ended up going all the way. Hot chick in tight sweats...workout...hot tub...massage...full meal deal. I'm guessing that if a SP doesn't insist on safe sex stuff, that would be a red flag? Look at it this way: you aren't just having sex with her. You are having sex with everyone she has ever had sex with. If she doesn't insist on playing safe? That would end things right there for me. Additional Comments: What is the safe way to pay for a cam session, if one were so inclined? Use paypal instead of giving them your actual credit info. Go to one of the bigger porn sites like freeones. You can find real pornstars doing them there. A lot of pornstars have their own sites too. Cam sessions from some low budget online ad won't be very good. If you get anything at all! Many of those ads are just trolling for cc info. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted January 28, 2014 Wow, I feel dirty after reading this thread! Heads up. Reputable, well reviewed ladies are the ones you should be looking to spend your time with. There are many discussions about ladies screening requirements but the same goes for you gentlemen. If you want to toftt then don't complain! Iny opinion, there are enough ladies out there that are legit, beautiful, and deliver as promised. If you want to venture into unknown territory then all the power to ya and tell us about the gems! Sorry, just read the whole thread and feel worse. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zoe Zee 13876 Report post Posted January 28, 2014 What is the safe way to pay for a cam session, if one were so inclined? Email money transfer is the best way to exchange money if not in person. There are honest, local ladies that have been successful in Winnipeg. I have never "ripped anybody off." Your best bet is to see who has positive reviews and has been around for a while. We are not all out to get you.... Well maybe to get you to have some fun ;) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carrie Moon 68826 Report post Posted January 28, 2014 While I offer cam sessions.. that's because I have a large following of porn fans who can never realistically visit me in person. I never require a cam session to meet. There's a lot of scam advertising online I've noticed where cam sites are pretending to be a girl available locally as an escort so even if you booked a cam session you wouldn't ever get to meet her in person. Avoid those of course.. and as Meg said stick to girls who are well established and have reviews or recommendations. Good luck! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
