oldblueeyez 15475 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Is it just me, or do many civilians not know how to have good sex? I guess I've been spoiled by the experts. I've wasted too much time and money on dating in the past year or so. I'm jumping back in where I belong! Hobbying, there's no life like it! :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Regent 35404 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 People get a lot of really terrible and unhealthy messages about sex and their bodies, including many messages that stigmatize or discourage clear and honest communication between partners. It's really sad and not surprising that a lot of people have unsatisfying sex with their partners. Beyond that, sometimes there's just a lack of sexual chemistry or compatibility. Human sexuality is so diverse, chancing into someone who is a great fit for you can take a while, even if you're able to communicate well with each other. If dating isn't enjoyable any more then it sounds like a great time to take a break from it. Welcome back to hobbying :) 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Oldblueeyez, I do believe you are right! :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FunValerie 8573 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 With hobbying, the lady has a strong interest in making sure that you leave happy. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest c**io**m7 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Valerie took the words out of my mouth. I see it this way. It is rare to get two compatible hearts that are able to consistently have fireworks in the bedroom. I will be 45 this year and I have had the pleasure of experiencing this rare phenomenon...once. Sadly, she got away but...the memories in my heart, and my loins, remain. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frank7 3939 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Not sure since i've never had civilian sex, but i think a huge part of it must be that the SP is there mostly for you. Sure she'll get enjoy it too, but between your pleasure and hers, she'll favorise yours. In civilian, your favorite activities and hers might not be the same and you'll have to meet half-way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Good and great sex happens when two people are into one another, civilian or not, paid or not. We all react to energy, good and bad. If you want to get great sex with a woman make her think or be into her and vice versa. Then watch the sparks fly;) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Civilian sex usually ends up with strings attached Seeing a professional companion, no strings Yes seeing a professional companion you pay, but civilian sex YOU PAY:-) RG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
6dave9 4008 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Civilian sex usually ends up with strings attachedSeeing a professional companion, no strings Yes seeing a professional companion you pay, but civilian sex YOU PAY:-) RG Indeed RG !! well put... and just to go a touch further... "but civilian sex YOU PAY" .. but also it is the ULTIMATE in YMMV... My 2c C. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Is it because we are looking for sex like in "porno's"? I agree with what you are all saying, I have dated many girls in my short life so far and very seldom had one who offered the generosity of wild sex like we get with many of the Cerb ladies. When it comes to sex my biggest organ(my brain) takes over and I let it control everything, I'm not looking for only missionary and wham bam thank you mam. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted January 27, 2014 So.....once one is used to having great sex as it is in the industry (probably also true for us escorts) it is often a let down with a "civilian?" That actually makes a lot of sense. It also puts me in mind of the discussions I have had with young guys who prefer older women who have told me that once they experienced sex with an older woman, that they found sex with younger women a disappointment. I have been told the younger girls (in civilian sex, I would imagine) are often more passive, leaving all the "work" up to the guy; or .... they just haven't had enough experience to have learned all the "sweet spots," be imaginative, and/or confident to take the lead at times. Interesting...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S*rca****sid Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Sex, like many things, is different with everyone. I wouldn't make any generalizations. As the expression goes... "Don't judge a book by it's cover." I have had my share of surprises in life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomer 33202 Report post Posted January 27, 2014 For a number of reasons I have not made a serious attempt to find another partner so I have chosen to satisfy my intimate needs with paid companions after loosing my wife to cancer. It turns out to be a mixed bag, sometime good, but not always. I look back with some regrets, that maybe I didn't work harder at my relationship back then, in maintaining a good healthy sex life with her. As part of a relationship I believe with commitment and good communications that civilian sex should be quite enough as it's part of a larger package. Paid and civilian sex are quite different animals and I would like to point out that many of the ladies in this industry have real partners, and as such have a different level of intimacy with their partners which they don't show their clients. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ou**or**n Report post Posted January 27, 2014 Sounds similar to the main plot of Don Jon where the main protagonist has difficulties having sex with regular women due to his addiction to Internet porn. His two main beefs with civilian sex was predominant use of the missionary position and lack of / brief blow jobs. I think that was more of hook for a movie than real life because of course civilian sex can have lots of both, it just often takes more than the first night. After a few weeks the sex life often gets a lot of variety. To me the issue with civilian sex isn't that, it isn't that it isn't like porn sex, nor is it because of the strings. The reality is pure and simple - paid sex gets you ladies that are a lot younger and hotter than civilian sex (at least for me). To me the emphasis on them giving you pleasure tends to be a necessary side effect of the (relative) shorter durations of the times together and the fact that you often aren't the only one she's had sex with recently. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mikeyboy 27134 Report post Posted January 28, 2014 I think that was more of hook for a movie than real life because of course civilian sex can have lots of both, it just often takes more than the first night. After a few weeks the sex life often gets a lot of variety. 20 years and counting....... ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldblueeyez 15475 Report post Posted January 28, 2014 Yes seeing a professional companion you pay, but civilian sex YOU PAY:-) RG No wiser words spoken, no wiser words spoken. :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
