Is there such a thing as cheating on a stripper

[dazedandconfused75 455]

I would Say for everytime it comes True... There are 10-15 guys on hooks Just being dragged along..spending money hoping to be the next "one". And You are right they are very good at it.. Makes breaking away very hard... Least you got to see them outside of the club.. I'd love to have that opportunity but I cringe how much harder it would be. I'm sure alot of guys would love to rake it further... I mostly wish I had met some of them under different circumstances, alot of these girls are fascinating people who are amazing to talk to and would make amazing friends under different circumstances.

[daredevil8888 407]

I agree taking a break works wonders. It can also be pretty amazing coming back after a year and the dance in put is as good as you remember.

 

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I agree taking a break works wonders. It can also be pretty amazing coming back after a year and the dance in pvt is as good as you remember.

[lubdup 130]

Depends on the relationship, YOU will know by how you feel if it is cheating or not

[BigPoppa 127]

Quite frankly the fact that there is a discussion on "cheating on a stripper" is quite absurd and pathetic in my honest opinion. If you fall in love with a stripper and fail to realize the illusion of love exhibited by said stripper solely for the purposes of getting your money then I truly believe this is a psychiatric disorder. There is no such thing as cheating on a someone who in reality has no interest for you beyond your wallet. This is a psychiatric disorder.

[Guest pagypie]

Quite frankly the fact that there is a discussion on "cheating on a stripper" is quite absurd and pathetic in my honest opinion. If you fall in love with a stripper and fail to realize the illusion of love exhibited by said stripper solely for the purposes of getting your money then I truly believe this is a psychiatric disorder. There is no such thing as cheating on a someone who in reality has no interest for you beyond your wallet. This is a psychiatric disorder.

that's an opinion i guess. the truth is, i've developed feelings knowing full well they didn't. it's not being fooled, it's just biology.

[dazedandconfused75 455]

I'm in boat.. Saw many a dancer and nothing then one was different or how I react is different I guess... Though eventually truth comes out on when they txt and how some stop answering when they know you can't come out... The brain knows that she has moved on to the next number but the brain sadly doesn't control ... Well nit in the heat of the moment

[all-in 300]

Thats a bit jaded. They dont all just text and stay in touch purely for money. Going for dinner with one tomorrow that I barely ever see as a customer, and another just called to confirm plans for friday night even though she's not planning to work for a while. They're social people by nature.

[BigPoppa 127]

There will always be outliers in every scenario but the principle and truth of the matter is that this is a business and the girls are out there for your money. The illusion of "feelings" is only something they play off of in order to coerce more money from you. I mean the girls can't even be blamed for doing it either its their job and who doesn't like money!?

[dazedandconfused75 455]

I agree big poppa I don't blame them its their job. Of course they are social by nature humans are generally social. And I'm sure for every one girl that goes out,to dinner with a guy, there is 5 guys who are on the hook(how I met your,mother reference)

 

 

 

One dancer brought up going to dinner with people who see her then changed her tune and said she never goes out to dinner with people who see her.

 

 

 

That isn't to say that all are like that but to assume that every dancer is like that is wrong.. But I'd bet a dollar there are more jaded stories than your going to dinner all-in

[dazedandconfused75 455]

Wow too early I meant to say to assume every dancer goes out to dinner with people who rarely visit her or string clients along with vague promises of coffee or dinner is wrong. But I feel there are probably more girls who string guys along than go out to dinner with them.

[SerenaSerena 130]

There is no such thing as cheating on a someone who in reality has no interest for you beyond your wallet.

 

While, yes, I don't think it is possible at all to "cheat" on a stripper, given that none of our lovely relationships are exclusive in the first place :p I wouldn't say that that is necessarily fair to say that the ladies don't have any cares beyond wallets. My favourite people to dance for are ones that I genuinely feel some level of connection with, even if that connection must be limited to club fantasy land! Sometimes we girls can have just as much fun getting into the fantasy as you boys :p

 

Good communication is key. If you want to see other strippers, see other strippers, you don't owe a dancer anything but politeness, as long as you are not rude about it there is no acceptable reason for there to be any drama:) And if there is...red flag...someone doesn't understand their job very well!

[lakeranger 944]

Well I've got a different spin on the same topic. I was pussy blocked before I got a chance to cheat.

 

During the last month I stopped in to the same SC two times a couple of weeks apart. On my first visit things were pretty slow, (I was the only customer there for about an hour) and I had a decent time chatting with a dancer, took her for a trip to the CR....all is good. After I returned from the CR by myself while the dancer went to the change room one of the other dancers soon approached me asking for a dance. I politely declined offering maybe another time since I legitimately had to leave.

 

This week I go back to the same club, go in and order a drink. Before my drink arrives, the dancer that I'd had the prior CR experience with sits down and we have a friendly conversation and once again we go back to the CR for another spin. Once again all is good. Here's where it went south.

 

As I'm sitting by myself again, the dancerl that I had declined the dance with on my prior visit was just starting her shift and was unaware that I had already been to the CR with the other dancer. She sat down beside me and began to engage. The conversation was good, she was hot and she had a wicked sense of humour......it doesn't get any better. At this point, we hadn't got to the "ya wanna go for a dance" part yet and the first dancer comes out...sees this cute little spinner chatting me up and the claws come out.

 

Now I'm no spring chicken and I've seen my share of dancer drama over the years but I had never been the subject or victim depending upon which perspective you have. The first dancer (who I should add has probably 10 years on the cute little spinner) wedges herself between the spinner and I and proceeds to mark her territory. While draping herself all over me, she asks the other girl how she likes "her customer" stating that I'm her regular and that I only come there to see her. She's climbing all over me being more intimate than she was in the CR like we've known each other for years. She just wouldn't leave me the fuck alone....at this point I'm not sure if I'm just uncomfortable, pissed or both? Wisely the younger dancer heads off not wanting to lock horns with the alpha dog. Then this chick proceeds to trash talk the little spinner and points out all of the other skanks in the place and how dirty they are. Wow...talk about Jekyll and Hyde? At this point I excused myself and leave and I doubt that I'll return unless I know for sure this chick isn't working.

 

I go to SC's for a mental break and to escape life's drama and watch a show.....not to become part of it!!! Time to make the leap and start visiting SP's???

[nntsci 11076]

One of the first SPs I visited was a gorgeous brunette, I'll call her K. The next time I went to that same agency, I choose a different gal, because K wasn't available, I'll call her R. I felt sort of guilty that I was seeing a different gal. The sessions took place in the same apartment so I was a little uncomfortable about the possibility that I'd see K when I arrived for my date with R. I didn't. It was an odd feeling that made no intellectual sense because I had no commitment with the gal. I guess some men are predisposed to feel guilt about seeing multiple partners. But if anything, I should have felt guilt to my wife... I didn't.

 

It passed. I no longer have that hang-up.

[Bridgette 10998]

I was pussy blocked before I got a chance to cheat.

 

Unfortunately this is how a handful of dancers behave. I've seen dancers glare at "their" customers from the stage because they're sitting with another dancer -- or worse, going to the back for a dance. I've seen customers appear to be scared to even look at other dancers, lest "their" dancer notice.

 

It boggles my mind why some dancers think it's appropriate to behave in such a territorial manner -- it's not like the dancers are only dancing for that customer and there is exclusivity -- but I think you see that more during quiet times in the club, when there isn't a heck of a lot going on.

 

Instead of totally avoiding the club, try going when it's a bit busier a few times, even if the dancer in question happens to be there -- she'll be busy herself and hopefully get accustomed to you spending time with other girls. At the very least, just be upfront (though polite) next time she approaches that you're not interested. It seems like her wrath was directed at the other dancer rather than you, so as long as you're polite, you may be alright. Though I can certainly see how such an experience would leave a sour taste in your mouth!

 

It's a shame that some dancers ruin the joy of strip clubbing (a variety of beautiful ladies all in one place!) for fear that they lose out on some money. Sharing is caring, and sometimes it leads to duos -- easily my second favourite part of the job. ;)

[Jack2000 3446]

Dude, she said 'don't give up on her', so , maybe buy her a little gift, maybe some earrings , perhaps a card that expresses your feelings for her....what's the worst that can happen ?

 

You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain, and yes, in the club, there can be such a thing as cheating on a dancer, maybe cheating isn't the best word, but it's normal to feel guilty about taking another girl for a dance when you've got strong feelings for this one, and she might really be getting her feelings hurt, not just thinking about losing income.

 

Like Billy Joel says ; Tell her about it !

 

[OSaab 574]

Unfortunately this is how a handful of dancers behave. I've seen dancers glare at "their" customers from the stage because they're sitting with another dancer -- or worse, going to the back for a dance. I've seen customers appear to be scared to even look at other dancers, lest "their" dancer notice.

 

It sounds like someone needs to explain to those handful of dancers that this is not the type of 'GFE' guys are looking for when they go to a club...

[Guest ***rd**n]

Wow. This thread is getting more action than me. Only reason why I posted it was because I took what the dancer said " don't give up on me" to heart. Thanks for all the varied opinions. Even to the guy who said it is a psychiatric disorder, I guess he is a Doctor.

I have tried new things, like seeing SPs. I even had a duo session. It was a real treat for me. The hotel was very nice and the girls even ordered some condoms for me, from room service at least I think from room service because the ones they had did not fit me. On a side note do pimps go out of their way to talk to Johns? Because when I left my room a man along with a young mulatto lady left the room right beside us. Not to be stereotypical but the guy looked like a pimp. I was going the wrong way and he directed me to the elevators. Now we are all in the elevator and he is talking to me. Just general chit chat that's all.

I also saw one of the girls again no duo this time. The girl was petite which works out good for me because I was able to scoop her up and she wrapped her legs around me just like in the movies. When I got there her duo partner was there along with her girlfriend, they were going out. I don't believe the girlfriend was an escort. Do Sps normally introduce Johns to their friends? Again the stupid condom did not fit and my time was running out so no sex this time. We lost track of time because another client was knocking on the door. She shared a drink with me and I chugged it down. I had hiccups for the rest of the night. The stuff was 47 percent alcohol, holy cow. She hugged me and was a little bit sad to see me go. I felt like a big stud during the duo session not so much during the solo one.

I also did an outcall once because I had to housesit. I live with my grandpa and my parents so I can never invite any girls over. The girl was very pretty and sweet. She shared the same sweetest as the stripper I am fond of. We kissed from start to finish. But again condom troubles. This time no condoms. We still had sex. I didn't want to be denied again. Not a wise thing to do, I know. Safe sex. Next time I should just bring my own condoms. Does anyone have any suggestions?

I still have not given up on my stripper friend, as foolish as that sounds. I have not being able to erase my feelings for her. For fun I have put myself on POF, so far only 50 year old ladies have viewed my profile. Not that there is anything wrong with 50 year old ladies. I hope my stripper friend hasn't given up on me.

[OSaab 574]

Next time I should just bring my own condoms. Does anyone have any suggestions?

 

This would have been my suggestion after the first time you had problems. You know you have sizing issues but the lady may not, so you can save some lost time/frustration by being proactive. When booking you can mention that you have had issues in the past and ask if she would like you to bring your own or if she will make sure to have some on hand.

 

If you do bring your own, you may want to have both latex and non-latex in case she has a latex sensitivity.

[Darr 1019]

This thread is one of the most interesting. I was going to use the example of seeing a new barber but it was already used. Not cheating but you do feel awkward. I do think this is one of the most complicated hobbies/business going. It is very easy for a companion/hobbyist to feel attached or confused. When this happens I think it is best to step back and assess the situation and maybe take a break.

[ricktheman 100]

Hi fellows, love the conversation here, I have a similar situation as some of the guys but with a little twist:

 

Ok I went to SC, got many dances from girl A (and it got pretty steamy) I was satisfied so left. Did this a few times over a few weeks. Then one time I go to the same SC and she wasn't there but I hooked up with girl B and she completely blew mind. So the next time I went to that SC I wanted to see girl B of course but when I got there they were both there and girl A saw me first so sat down with me. Now at this point I don't want to be rude and tell her I don't want a dance and then go have a dance with girl B. So what is the proper etiquette in this situation?

 

So I want with dick feeling and told girl A to wait a little and went with girl B instead. Well the next time I went to that SC girl A was there but not girl B And girl A never came to see me. To top it all off girl B doesn't work there anymore and girl A still ignores me.

[Guest pagypie]

she may have been offended or maybe didnt want to be rejected. being rejected sucks...for everyone.

 

if i was in your shoes i would have taken A for a couple and went with B after.

 

bext time you see A, dont expect her to come to you. go to her, say heloo and offer to buy her a drink.

[nighthawk 839]

Honestly, if you pay someone to be with you, cheating does not exist, no matter how emotional things can get. It's an industry.

If you pay for a girl's time every time, there is no Relationship... she is doing her job, that's it. So, IMHO, cheating will only exist where you have a real Relationship and nowhere else

[2bigalow2 2938]

U did nothing wrong. U would have still seen her, when girl B was not there. I explained to a dancer once she does not own me. And sometimes a little variety helps. If she doesn't want your business there are plenty of beautiful dancers who do.

[ricktheman 100]

I think your right, if there's a money exchange then the rules are different, it the business of pleasure and nothing more. But doing business with emotional (and in some cases non-business oriented girls) is what we have to deal with (sometimes). I shouldn't have to go for a few pity dances to make her feel better, I work hard for my money and I shouldn't have to spend it just to keep a few jealous girls happy. If girl A was smart she would still dance for me when girl B is not there and maybe try to become the #1, a little bit like a back up goaler hahahaha.

[Ice4fun 78407]

You can only cheat on a stripper if you are in a committed relationship or married.....

 

If she expects you to pay and just see her and you do that it's called excellent client management by her.

 

Just my opinion