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[Guest P**aq]

I'm guessing you mean after the first "date" as an SP?! For me, it was exhilarating!!! There was so much excitement and nerves leading up to it. It was such a relief to have the first time under my belt. I felt incredibly confident and surprisingly relaxed :) I thought to myself... What's next? Bring it on!

 

Thank you for your answer Savannah, and yes I meant exactly that, your first "date" as an SP.

 

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Dirty, embarrassed and ashamed. I felt I had let down my family and myself by doing this, even though it was out of rebellion towards them I had begun in this profession, one of the reasons anyways.

Boy have things changed:)Now, it's I can't wait to do it again;)

 

Thank you for your answer and congrats on your awesome attitude today :)

[LDBF123 675]

LDBF123, I'm going to direct you to a thread I wrote a while back. While I do know that SP's and clients sometimes do transcend the boundaries and develop successful relationships, I would hope you explore the idea behind this other thread, and keep the lines of communication with the sp you speak of WIDE open :) Good luck!

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=462048&postcount=14

 

I just read your other post and for the most part I agree with the key message. I am on older gent and although I struggle with many of life's issues, this woman has mad me feel joy and thrills like I have never before. I am committed to her as the chosen one for me and I want no other. I have giver her my unconditional love and support and have tried to be as patient as I can to respect her feelings as she is not as clear on what she feels, but I have no regrets. I love her and don't ever want to look back on what ifs or regrets on not trying. thanks for your insights and I do share the distinction between love and lust. this is love.

[frank97500 18478]

Thank you to all of you for responding to our questions. I know at times it can be very personal and you play the game graciously.

 

What I wanted to ask you is meeting a person for the first time, can be very thrilling and exciting. The amazing 'first time'.... :) But after a while of seeing that person do you lose that thrill, that excitement? Do you then prefer not to see that person and move on?

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

I just read your other post and for the most part I agree with the key message. I am on older gent and although I struggle with many of life's issues, this woman has mad me feel joy and thrills like I have never before. I am committed to her as the chosen one for me and I want no other. I have giver her my unconditional love and support and have tried to be as patient as I can to respect her feelings as she is not as clear on what she feels, but I have no regrets. I love her and don't ever want to look back on what ifs or regrets on not trying. thanks for your insights and I do share the distinction between love and lust. this is love.

 

 

Then I wish you nothing but the best and admire your "no regrets" approach. I will reiterate the importance of communication and transparency :) good luck!!! Xo

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

What I wanted to ask you is meeting a person for the first time, can be very thrilling and exciting. The amazing 'first time'.... :) But after a while of seeing that person do you lose that thrill, that excitement? Do you then prefer not to see that person and move on?

 

 

For me - absolutely not!!! Again, because connection improves things for me, I find the more time we spend together the more intense things become. But again, this is just my opinion! :)

[Winnipegcub 21293]

Q. As an SP, MP, or Dancer....has it been important to have friends, confidants, mentors in the business? Do you draw upon them or find you work best just keeping to yourself?

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I just read your other post and for the most part I agree with the key message. I am on older gent and although I struggle with many of life's issues, this woman has mad me feel joy and thrills like I have never before. I am committed to her as the chosen one for me and I want no other. I have giver her my unconditional love and support and have tried to be as patient as I can to respect her feelings as she is not as clear on what she feels, but I have no regrets. I love her and don't ever want to look back on what ifs or regrets on not trying. thanks for your insights and I do share the distinction between love and lust. this is love.

 

 

It is not completely unimaginable for a client to truly love an SP. It has happened with me, I am now 3 years into a loving relationship. BUT I made him "earn" me with trust and patients for a good year before accepting our first real date:) For me, I had to know he did not expect me to let go of my career as a provider. MY financial freedom was paramount. I was lucky to find a man who trusted my judgment about my career. Very rare is this!! As most want you to stop the industry, something I was not willing to do.

[Ice4fun 78407]

For me - absolutely not!!! Again, because connection improves things for me, I find the more time we spend together the more intense things become. But again, this is just my opinion! :)

 

That reply is an incredible relief to all of us guys who certainly want to see you more than once :)

[Cute0aza0Button 21399]

Another question. How did you feel after your first time as an SP? I'm guessing somewhat exciting, but of course everyone is different. I would love to hear back on this question!

 

This is a great question. In going to be honest here so no judgments lol

 

I was scared. I was a dancer for a long time and SPs are often looked down on by them. When I made the leap I was expecting to hate it. I wanted to be disgusted, I wanted to be ashamed. But guess what? I wasn't and that scared me.

 

It's been an awakening for me in many ways. I an finally able to admit to people that I enjoy being sexually empowered. I can finally be proud of it and be able to have a venue to express it.

 

It's scary to go against societal norms but it can be so freeing too.

[Guest P**aq]

This is a great question. In going to be honest here so no judgments lol

 

I was scared. I was a dancer for a long time and SPs are often looked down on by them. When I made the leap I was expecting to hate it. I wanted to be disgusted, I wanted to be ashamed. But guess what? I wasn't and that scared me.

 

It's been an awakening for me in many ways. I an finally able to admit to people that I enjoy being sexually empowered. I can finally be proud of it and be able to have a venue to express it.

 

It's scary to go against societal norms but it can be so freeing too.

 

Wow, thank you for that candid answer!

[Guest c**io**m7]

It is not completely unimaginable for a client to truly love an SP. It has happened with me, I am now 3 years into a loving relationship. BUT I made him "earn" me with trust and patients for a good year before accepting our first real date:) For me, I had to know he did not expect me to let go of my career as a provider. MY financial freedom was paramount. I was lucky to find a man who trusted my judgment about my career. Very rare is this!! As most want you to stop the industry, something I was not willing to do.

 

I love this response. Clients who fall for a provider need to realize a few things:

 

1) you fell for her knowing full well her line of work, hell, you were a client.

 

2) for most, this is her chosen line of work. The last thing she needs is to be judged by the one who is supposed to love her. Accept her as is or move on.

 

3) love her for her, regardless of her work. Be there for her...if she has a bad day, hold her just as you would if she had a bad day at the office. Support her completely.

 

If you can't do these things, don't chase her. As a provider, she deserves real love, just like every other human being because...quite frankly...she is just like every other human being out there...it is not her work that defines her, it is her heart.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Thank you to all of you for responding to our questions. I know at times it can be very personal and you play the game graciously.

 

What I wanted to ask you is meeting a person for the first time, can be very thrilling and exciting. The amazing 'first time'.... :) But after a while of seeing that person do you lose that thrill, that excitement? Do you then prefer not to see that person and move on?

 

With some it's exciting every time, others it's time to move on. Chemistry doesn't happen with every guy. Nor does excitement. In saying this though, there have been some men I love to be with for more than just the sex, they are just fun to talk to, comforting and their aura is enjoyable. I get excited to see them. Others its excitement of what they're going to do with me sexually, some it's all of the above and then there are those who are probably better matches for others ;) If it's exciting the first time, it's bound to be the next....

[Guest P**aq]

The men on cerb are obviously the most knowledgable about the world of escorting, especially compared to our esteemed government; however, I am sure there are still some things about escorting that you have wanted to know, but were afraid to ask. Well... here is your chance to ask!

 

Ask away!

 

Can't wait to read your questions!

 

This is a really great thread Summer, one if the best ever! I've already asked two questions but have a million more, so I will limit to just a couple a day for the next 1000 years ;)

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Maybe..just maybe someone can submit this to our political offices for a good read?

[frank97500 18478]

What would you say to a guy that would love to visit an SP but feels very intimidated and don't think he is good enough! (lol....And of course I am asking for a friend!! ) ;)

[Guest P**aq]

Maybe..just maybe someone can submit this to our political offices for a good read?

 

Great idea!

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

What would you say to a guy that would love to visit an SP but feels very intimidated and don't think he is good enough! (lol....And of course I am asking for a friend!! ) ;)

 

First I would share this thread....lol

 

but for me I tend to meet a lot of "intimated" gent's who feel unworthy etc.

My business is massage, so I find this is a great way to learn to be touched and to touch another. It is a scary idea for some, when another women has not even touched your leg in a sensual way in a decade!

Just cause your booking an SP or MA, doesn't mean you HAVE to go all the way, maybe just some female attention is what you need to start with?

[Triple HHH 12345]

With myself I wish for the Sp to be to the aggressor maybe because of my personal life is this the norm?

[Kathryn Bardot 99339]

Q. As an SP, MP, or Dancer....has it been important to have friends, confidants, mentors in the business? Do you draw upon them or find you work best just keeping to yourself?

 

Some of my most valued friendships are with other providers. Partly it is due to the stigma of being a sex worker -- very few of my civilian friends know what I do, so it has been invaluable to have those friendships where I can vent about frustrating situations and ask for opinions from others in the industry. And, it's not a secret that I offer duos with one of my best friends. It makes the chemistry that much better, that we connect on a level where we are comfortable with each other (and, lesbihonest ;) I think she's hot) and I think it shows in our sessions together.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

With myself I wish for the Sp to be to the aggressor maybe because of my personal life is this the norm?

 

You mean your "real" life SHE is the aggressor?

Like many things, this can flip flop. I have some clients who are extremely powerful in their own jobs, so when seeing me they do tend to want a women who is aggressive and in control.

However, there are men who want to remain in a comfort zone, be that submissive or aggressive.

Yes I feel this is very normal. This is why chatting with a lady before beginning a professional arrangement is important, so that when you visit we understand what personality you have and what we can offer you:)

[Triple HHH 12345]

Sorry, I will explain a little better! I am the aggressor in my personal life.

[Guest P**aq]

Can I ask another question? I was wondering if you have ever had a "date" that was so hot that it eclipsed your best experience in your civilian life? Or is that an impossibility perhaps given the lesser chance for intimacy by only seeing the client for an hour or two at a time.

(Last question today, I promise!)

[Cute0aza0Button 21399]

Sorry, I will explain a little better! I am the aggressor in my personal life.

 

Is it the norm?

No

 

There is no norm. Sexuality is so unique it is ridiculous. I understand where you're coming from. When I was dancing I was always the aggressor so when I was with my ex it was nice to be submissive. Now I get to so whatever I feel lol

 

When I get asked if I am sub or dom I hate answering. It depends totally on my mood abd can change daily lol

[fortunateone 156618]

Q. As an SP, MP, or Dancer....has it been important to have friends, confidants, mentors in the business? Do you draw upon them or find you work best just keeping to yourself?

 

 

 

I have been in contact, connecting and networking with other sps (and courteous client members) on forums like this since 2007. I have no idea what i would do without this connection. There are very few people that i am on an email alone basis, well basically one or two. Majority of people I stay connected with in sp lounges and discussion areas on sites like this (and sites that are not like this one lol).

 

Some of the people I have known the longest I connected with by contacting them thru their ad like on CL or if they were on a more trashy site, to suggest a different one that would allow them access to sp areas. I've been doing less of this in recent years, but some people i talk to today online I've known since 2007 or 2008 on one site or another.

 

Male and female, btw. I am not sure what people do without that kind of link, and feel sorry for the ones who may use it in a one sided way, as in only connecting or supporting one group often at the expense of the other group. For example, some rare sps will pile on the bandwagon to attack other sps, as tho they are their competition they want to eliminate (or discredit). I feel sorry for them because they will soon discover, if they haven't already, the kind of guy that seems to be their friend today, will quickly abandon them and throw them to the wolves when it suits them. in the meantime, they've alienated the ones who would have had their back from day one.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Can I ask another question? I was wondering if you have ever had a "date" that was so hot that it eclipsed your best experience in your civilian life? Or is that an impossibility perhaps given the lesser chance for intimacy by only seeing the client for an hour or two at a time.

(Last question today, I promise!)

 

As Joy says...ask away!

Yes, my first orgasm was with a client! I had a very very hard time to get there in my personal life, and yet here a client did it for me! I was shocked, and it took me till 5 years later when for the first time it is my BF that get's me there rather then a client.

This is somewhat normal, as with a client we do not have the baggage of our day, life etc...so relaxing to have the big O I think is the key!