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[qwertyaccount 15793]

...men that won't read websites...

 

This is a problem everywhere no matter the product or service offered.

 

People just don't care to read and will call and ask a question about a product/service that is answered in the very first sentence on the website.

 

Or they have a memory that lasts 10 seconds and forgot what they read - a problem exasperated by being super nervous when talking to a super hot lady :)

 

Don't get upset about this, it's just the way people are and something all providers have to endure - it just goes with the territory.

[Liv Waters 52361]

What would you say to a guy that would love to visit an SP but feels very intimidated and don't think he is good enough! (lol....And of course I am asking for a friend!! ) ;)

I would say, "be still. What is your heart's desire?...come stay with me a while; let's touch and taste each other....then see how you feel about things after" :)

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I have been lucky enough to have spent time with some truly skilled service providers. So here are my questions: Do you all go to sexual skills university? Or are you all just naturally gifted? Does practice truly make perfect or do you need to study and learn specific techniques? And finally, do you have a sexual move or technique that you tend to go with as your finishing move?

 

I have been a sexual creature right from the beginning of womenhood. It is a natural way for me to be. Men and women.

Practice does help, you learn how to slow it down or speed it up. I learned men are visual creatures, so by giving him a nice view can allow you to get him aroused much easier.

Also, I learned many men in their home life is missing the " nasty or playful" aspect of sex, so I try to fill that fantasy for them as I know he is not getting that at home, such as squirting, ball licking, dirty talk.

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

Like most small independent business people I would assume, perhaps incorrectly, that most SP's don't have health or dental insurance and when you can't work there is no income. How do you manage this?

 

 

In an ideal world, we would all have a savings for these very instances. It's not always that simple -- well, not for me. But I am working on it :) my actual hope is to start paying for private health/dental insurance!! :)

[qwertyaccount 15793]

Great topic Summer, thank you for starting it, I've learned so much!

 

How do I find out what really pleases a lady and what she actually likes or dislikes? (In person, not on the phone/email)

 

Things like to be stroked here, touched there, don't whisper the word "bongo" in my left ear.

 

I've tried various ways of asking and I'm often told "Whatever you like".

 

I'm a giver and take direction well - what I really like/get off on is to please a lady! My perfect encounter is leaving knowing that she was pleased.

 

Also, how do I find out what I'm doing right, and more importantly, wrong?: faster, slower, harder, softer, more to the left, ow! you're knee is on my long hair, the left one needs some attention too, etc.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Great topic Summer, thank you for starting it, I've learned so much!

 

How do I find out what really pleases a lady and what she actually likes or dislikes? (In person, not on the phone/email)

 

Things like to be stroked here, touched there, don't whisper the word "bongo" in my left ear.

 

I've tried various ways of asking and I'm often told "Whatever you like".

 

I'm a giver and take direction well - what I really like/get off on is to please a lady! My perfect encounter is leaving knowing that she was pleased.

 

Also, how do I find out what I'm doing right, and more importantly, wrong?: faster, slower, harder, softer, more to the left, ow! you're knee is on my long hair, the left one needs some attention too, etc.

 

Well you might know by if she is wet or not..but that can trick you as condoms can steal away wetness too. Some ladies are great actors, and do this for your pleasure so don't think it is wrong it maybe she have had a tough week lol...

Each lady is different, for oral I like a gentle suck, and rhythm of flicking side to side, intercourse is all depending on size,

as far as turn on zones, envelop her like a love blanket, gently pull the sides of the hair, grip her ass checks. When you look into her eyes, and she looks away, do not force her to return the gaze, it might just happen naturally:)

[Guest P**aq]

Have you ever had a bad encounter that made you question your occupation?

[emiafish 30979]

A question for the ladies: have you ever been sexually surprised? Has a client ever used a heretofore unknown technique that has rocked your world, and if so then can you share it with the rest of us?

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Have you ever had a bad encounter that made you question your occupation?

 

NO Never! Not in all the years I have participated! I have had some encounters that if perhaps it wasn't me there it could have gone bad, but I have a great way with people and taking control of the room to facilitate how the session goes. Once I found someone in bathroom, he explained they shared a room. I simply suggested he go to lobby and read the paper, locked the door behind him, lol.

[Guest P**aq]

NO Never! Not in all the years I have participated!

 

That's great!

[Guest c**io**m7]

I think this question is valid for Escorts and MAs and, if it has been asked already, my apologies. I am on my mobile and have not read all the questions.

 

How do you treat no-shows?

 

By no-shows, I mean the hobbyist who makes an appointment and doesn't show up. He also doesn't text or call ahead of time to cancel. I figure it probably happens and it must be frustrating.

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

No shows are extremely frustrating not only because it impacts our livelihood but also because it is a complete lack of respect for someone else. If you have a date with your mother, best friend, brother, co-worker etc. and can't make it, I'm sure that you take 30 seconds to call or text or something to let them know. I understand that things come up but to completely disregard someone else's feelings like that is completely disrespectful. The only time that would not apply is in a life or death situation.

 

On a positive note, it gives an indication about the type of person you're dealing with.

 

This works on both sides as well, there have been hobbyists who have had a NCNS SP.

[Wolf Knight 29667]

This might be a bit of a touchy one and we don't allow it here on Cerb but how you you ladies deal (mentally) with a bad review? Typically, we all know it's an issue with the unrealistic expectations of the client (for whatever reason) and not the lady. I mean I couldn't do it, just put myself out there like that. It's a business yes, and I know people strive to be professional but we're human and a critique of something as personal as your body, intimacy and sex is brutal. At least it would be for me. You ladies are far stronger than me, that's for sure.

 

Sorry if this is too deep or dark an area but it's something I've really wondered.

[CristyCurves 169032]

This might be a bit of a touchy one and we don't allow it here on Cerb but how you you ladies deal (mentally) with a bad review? Typically, we all know it's an issue with the unrealistic expectations of the client (for whatever reason) and not the lady. I mean I couldn't do it, just put myself out there like that. It's a business yes, and I know people strive to be professional but we're human and a critique of something as personal as your body, intimacy and sex is brutal. At least it would be for me. You ladies are far stronger than me, that's for sure.

 

Sorry if this is too deep or dark an area but it's something I've really wondered.

 

Not touchy at all;) Everyone has an opinion and there is a reason for every action. If I think I did something to deserve it then I'll accept it, try and rectify it then move on. If not I'll ignore it and the arse that wrote it. Realistically, anytime someone brings up my name for good or bad reasons they are advertising for me:) but as far as being worried or bothered by criticism - not at all. The only opinions that truly matter to me are from those I love- my dogs, lol!! and they think I'm perfect;)

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

This might be a bit of a touchy one and we don't allow it here on Cerb but how you you ladies deal (mentally) with a bad review? Typically, we all know it's an issue with the unrealistic expectations of the client (for whatever reason) and not the lady. I mean I couldn't do it, just put myself out there like that. It's a business yes, and I know people strive to be professional but we're human and a critique of something as personal as your body, intimacy and sex is brutal. At least it would be for me. You ladies are far stronger than me, that's for sure.

 

Sorry if this is too deep or dark an area but it's something I've really wondered.

 

6 years ago, I began on another site. I did not know of CERB at the time.

Being in a small city, I had many local competition and many haters. I was smeared all over the site, everyday waking up to new drama:(

At first it was devastating, who ever was behind it new me very very well, right to last detail.

They made bogus claims, I had AIDS, I was a thief,

did heroin, OHHHHH MAN it was bad! I would get soooo upset, cry and spend my days trying to figure out who was behind it. That continued till I got on cerb in 2010, then it slowed down.

 

If it wasn't for our Lovely Cat, I may have jumped off a bridge by this point! I was extremely upset! Then Cat said these words to me

 

" Ohh hunni, if these things are not true, then your reputation will grow. Only cream rises to the top! If they are true, then we will know that too"

Well must have all been lies, cause here I remain:)

 

When I read something about me I first ask , who is this coming from? Do I remember the visit? Is anything at all accurate? Once a bad review said my tits hung to my waste, well this person defiantly never met me cause if you have, you know that my tits are too small to hang anywhere lol....

 

I now know and trust in my ability to run my business properly. I do not even entertain these reviews with a responds, as I know the gent's will figure it out!

[Cute0aza0Button 21399]

I think this question is valid for Escorts and MAs and, if it has been asked already, my apologies. I am on my mobile and have not read all the questions.

 

How do you treat no-shows?

 

By no-shows, I mean the hobbyist who makes an appointment and doesn't show up. He also doesn't text or call ahead of time to cancel. I figure it probably happens and it must be frustrating.

 

You go in my book. This year I'm super organized with my cute pink agenda. At the back of said agenda I have two lists "don't see" and " probation". No call no show? Don't see. Simple. Lol

 

Word gets around about who makes ncns a pattern as well so that helps.

 

It's frustrating and one of the only things I hate about this type of business

[defensedave 1158]

Do SP's prefer a smooth playing suface in the bait and tackle area or just go au natural? I am blessed with good hair jeans :)

[frank97500 18478]

Ladies, as Hobbyist and Gentleman for some, I know we do have an advantage on you as we can see your pics prior to our 'rendez-vous'. We know what you look like and what we can expect at the door... In a way we can pick and choose... You don't see us, just a few emails and then, voila! Here we are... Have you ever been turned off by a hobbyist look, attitude, and behaviour? And if so, how did you pull through the time with that person?

 

Just saying! (In this case asking! lol)

[fortunateone 156618]

I have been lucky enough to have spent time with some truly skilled service providers. So here are my questions: Do you all go to sexual skills university? Or are you all just naturally gifted? Does practice truly make perfect or do you need to study and learn specific techniques? And finally, do you have a sexual move or technique that you tend to go with as your finishing move?

 

 

 

I find that experience and experimentation helps. there are certain 'signature' moves that I do because they get great feedback from the majority of clients. Others complain about it tickling, so one size does not fit all lol.

 

Additional Comments:

Have you ever had a bad encounter that made you question your occupation?

 

 

 

No. I've been very lucky. There have only been a couple of rare times when I have questioned why I agreed to see the person in the first place, just because it wasn't a good match and somehow i felt that i should have known that at the time of enquiry.

 

Additional Comments:

This might be a bit of a touchy one and we don't allow it here on Cerb but how you you ladies deal (mentally) with a bad review? Typically, we all know it's an issue with the unrealistic expectations of the client (for whatever reason) and not the lady. I mean I couldn't do it, just put myself out there like that. It's a business yes, and I know people strive to be professional but we're human and a critique of something as personal as your body, intimacy and sex is brutal. At least it would be for me. You ladies are far stronger than me, that's for sure.

 

Sorry if this is too deep or dark an area but it's something I've really wondered.

 

 

It is hard to know how to deal. I don't get a lot of reviews, but the only bad one I had seen was the first one I saw. it led me to join a review site in order to insist they take it down (someone had posted a fake bad review then was linking it to CL posts about me, in a harassing way. To put it short, the review site refused to remove it, even tho I could clearly prove it wasn't true. They had issues with this kind of defamation, in other words they permitted it to happen.) The review description of me in other words not done by someone who had seen me, but was extrapolating description in the ad.

 

So that was how i dealt with that, reporting it as fake and having to deal with the fact that that review site preferred to harass sps rather than recognize their part in the process and do the right thing.

 

 

In other reviews, i found the reviewers honest and accurate. In some maybe the 'looks' part stings, only because lets face it someone over 40 isn't going to get the same rates as someone younger, no matter how they look. I appreciate a review that lowers expectations because I can live up to lower expectations, it is much more difficult to live up to high ones lol. I've got two reviews fairly recent on a US based site, and those are pretty high marks I now have to impress people who might book based on those.

 

Additional Comments:

Ladies, as Hobbyist and Gentleman for some, I know we do have an advantage on you as we can see your pics prior to our 'rendez-vous'. We know what you look like and what we can expect at the door... In a way we can pick and choose... You don't see us, just a few emails and then, voila! Here we are... Have you ever been turned off by a hobbyist look, attitude, and behaviour? And if so, how did you pull through the time with that person?

 

Just saying! (In this case asking! lol)

 

 

 

Attitude comes through in initial contact. That to me isn't an issue, i don't see guys with attitudes.

 

Looks i could care less about. I'm not here to be wowed by someone's appearance, and it isn't about dating either. I am turned off by someone doing 'sexy voice' in the enquiring process, and/or promising me how great they are. It is a service, not POF. They don't have to impress me, and if they try in that way, chances are good I just won't bother to see them. Life is too short to deal with someone who thinks they are so great, no doubt I will probably accept a short changed donation or want to see them for free. I won't. I have guys who book and pay the rates who remind me of TV/movie stars, so i have a hard time believing anyone is so great that i will forget what I am here for lol

[Ice4fun 78407]

Many SP's offer Duos with other ladies... is this a reflection of a true Bisexual interest or is it just part of the job because all guys have the fantasy?

[Guest Ou**or**n]

From my experiences, a very large number of women that try out escorting don't do it for very long. Most of the ladies kind enough to respond in this thread have stayed in this business for much longer than average. What do you think has made you different that you can sustain a longer career in what can be a very tough business?

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

Many SP's offer Duos with other ladies... is this a reflection of a true Bisexual interest or is it just part of the job because all guys have the fantasy?

 

 

Certainly i cannot speak for anyone else, but for myself -- I am a TRUE bisexual. I am just as attracted to women as I am men :) a lot of the time duo partners stem from friendship and comfort. :)

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

Many SP's offer Duos with other ladies... is this a reflection of a true Bisexual interest or is it just part of the job because all guys have the fantasy?

 

I have been "know" for my love of women.

I am truly bisexual and only offer duo with people that I have physically attraction to and people tha tI have meet prior at least for a drink or coffee

 

I currently have two duos partner in Toronto, one is my real life partner ( since we are in confession time...we've been dating for numerous month and she is pretty awesome :D)

 

The other was with an agency at first, but when she went indy I started to flirt with her on twitter and making hint about meeting...we went for supper then ended up back at my place.

After the sex...hey wanna do duos together?

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

Have you ever had a bad encounter that made you question your occupation?

 

 

I had one encounter that was not ideal -- only one. And it didn't make me question my occupation, just made me question the client. I am incredibly strict with my screening... And unfortunately he was a P411 client from the US, who DIDNT get an ok from me :)

[Lexy Grace 103697]

From my experiences, a very large number of women that try out escorting don't do it for very long. Most of the ladies kind enough to respond in this thread have stayed in this business for much longer than average. What do you think has made you different that you can sustain a longer career in what can be a very tough business?

 

For me, it has been staying true to myself. Trying new things, knowing that this industry is constantly changing and embracing change and the things I like.

I myself am never judgemental and open-minded and adapt well to change and new experiences, I can't say I don't enjoy something if I've never tried it at least once.

I revise my business plan, goals, experiences I provide and marketing every few months to see what works and what doesn't and I learn and grow as a companion by doing so.

I have lots of fun and enjoy truly being a companion and the experiences I have and the wonderful people I get to meet.

I take being a companion very seriously and love that I never have the same repetitive experiences daily, while exploring my sexuality, sharing apart of me with amazing people and enjoying what I have to offer.

Being a companion has been the best career choice I have made thus far and I'm happy and proud of my choice and my decision to be a long term companion.

I have left numerous times for University and when I became a Mother but I somehow always come back and love it more each time. This business allows me freedoms to enjoy life as well as run my other more vanilla business, I'm not wasting the degree and certifications this business has afforded me to attain and the life I enjoy.