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[Miss S. Lane 67128]

Hi ladies,

 

 

 

I am going to get personal here:

 

 

 

Scenario: you are a single lady out with your girlfriends and you meet a guy who piques your interest. You spend the next couple hours with drinks, dancing, whatever...he wants your number, you give it. Let's say he calls and you go on a more intimate date such as a nice dinner.

 

At what point do you let him know your line of work and how do you deal with the worry that he may judge you?

 

 

For myself, I would be honest and upfront from the get-go. If he had an issue with me, he wouldn't be worth my time. Just my opinion :)

[roamingguy 300292]

Lets put the shoe on the other foot now so to speak

let's say you go out on a date with a guy (a civilian social date) and you like him and he likes you, and then he says, btw I see escorts. Would you continue to date him or no longer date him

 

RG

[Andee 220524]

Lets put the shoe on the other foot now so to speak

let's say you go out on a date with a guy (a civilian social date) and you like him and he likes you, and then he says, btw I see escorts. Would you continue to date him or no longer date him

 

RG

 

As long as he's okay with me continuing to work as an escort and he doesn't try to hide it from me - not that he has to tell me "everything", but that he's honest about what he's doing.

[Fresh start 17467]

1. I've only seen a few, but for those who don't put/advertise a schedule I would never attempt to contact via phone or txt unless an ad was put up same day. I hate getting bothered on my day off, so Is this appropriate or am I just over thinking it?

 

2. When initiating first contact via txt, I tend to start off very discretely, ex. (Hello, I was wondering if your available at such and such time.) I make sure not to mention name/alias or activity until a response is made. For the simple reason insure its the right number or precaution in case her phone is left some place where others may accidentally view. Do you prefer discretion on straight to the point to eliminate back and forth messages? Or perhaps your on example of a txt.

[igab 5629]

Here's a question for you ladies. I like to compliment ladies on their appearance i.e if I'm particularly struck by a certain feature. For instance I might say something like "you have the most beautiful eyes" etc.

It seems that sometimes SPs deflect this kind of praise or give a quick "thank you."

 

Are sincere compliments acceptable?

What is unacceptable?

[Guest S****r]

1. I've only seen a few, but for those who don't put/advertise a schedule I would never attempt to contact via phone or txt unless an ad was put up same day. I hate getting bothered on my day off, so Is this appropriate or am I just over thinking it?

 

2. When initiating first contact via txt, I tend to start off very discretely, ex. (Hello, I was wondering if your available at such and such time.) I make sure not to mention name/alias or activity until a response is made. For the simple reason insure its the right number or precaution in case her phone is left some place where others may accidentally view. Do you prefer discretion on straight to the point to eliminate back and forth messages? Or perhaps your on example of a txt.

 

1.In my case, I would still like you to contact me. Advertising costs a lot of money, and sometimes you have to wait a bit til you have the money to post again, but it doesn't mean I don't want to be seeing anyone. So please! Call, text, email or PM me on any given day.

 

2. Being discreet is probably best.

 

Thanks again, everyone, for all the questions and answers!

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

1. I've only seen a few, but for those who don't put/advertise a schedule I would never attempt to contact via phone or txt unless an ad was put up same day. I hate getting bothered on my day off, so Is this appropriate or am I just over thinking it?

 

Im sure I'm not the only Sp here who doesn't put ads up everyday. This doesn't mean I'm not working. That's why we have websites. We don't just advertise on CERB. If I'm off I'll tell you so. Don't be afraid to ask.

 

2. When initiating first contact via txt, I tend to start off very discretely, ex. (Hello, I was wondering if your available at such and such time.) I make sure not to mention name/alias or activity until a response is made. For the simple reason insure its the right number or precaution in case her phone is left some place where others may accidentally view. Do you prefer discretion on straight to the point to eliminate back and forth messages? Or perhaps your on example of a txt.

 

 

Again only speaking for myself. If your texting me I want it to read like an email. You can first ask if you have the right number but when it's confirmed I want your name etc. Believe me we can write a book on the stupid text messages and emails we get. Lol so be a gentleman and be polite.

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

that is a really good question...

 

I'm not sure if i would want my man seeing escorts lol...may sound weird coming from an escort but if i was in a Relationship and my SO was seeing escorts I would rather not knowing...I'm being totally honest here ;)

BJ

Lets put the shoe on the other foot now so to speak

let's say you go out on a date with a guy (a civilian social date) and you like him and he likes you, and then he says, btw I see escorts. Would you continue to date him or no longer date him

 

RG

 

Additional Comments:

I prefer straight to the point text...and i dont mind getting text anytime. If im busy with family, my phone is on discretion mode so there is no problem there...

I do appreciate when the person texting asks where he would like to meet as I travel quite a bit ;) an area code doesnt necessarly tell me his location as he might be traveling ;)

BJ

1. I've only seen a few, but for those who don't put/advertise a schedule I would never attempt to contact via phone or txt unless an ad was put up same day. I hate getting bothered on my day off, so Is this appropriate or am I just over thinking it?

 

2. When initiating first contact via txt, I tend to start off very discretely, ex. (Hello, I was wondering if your available at such and such time.) I make sure not to mention name/alias or activity until a response is made. For the simple reason insure its the right number or precaution in case her phone is left some place where others may accidentally view. Do you prefer discretion on straight to the point to eliminate back and forth messages? Or perhaps your on example of a txt.

 

Additional Comments:

Oh yes of course it is...I think most ladies appreciate compliments...In my case i absolutely love it!

BJ xxx

Here's a question for you ladies. I like to compliment ladies on their appearance i.e if I'm particularly struck by a certain feature. For instance I might say something like "you have the most beautiful eyes" etc.

It seems that sometimes SPs deflect this kind of praise or give a quick "thank you."

 

Are sincere compliments acceptable?

What is unacceptable?

[menuisier 450]

Thanks Summer, Looking forward to meet you and chat more about this.

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Here's a question for you ladies. I like to compliment ladies on their appearance i.e if I'm particularly struck by a certain feature. For instance I might say something like "you have the most beautiful eyes" etc.

It seems that sometimes SPs deflect this kind of praise or give a quick "thank you."

 

Are sincere compliments acceptable?

What is unacceptable?

 

Who doesn't like compliments? People love getting them. Compliment away.

Sometimes if I compliment a client he thinks I say that to all the guys...no I only say things I mean and like this board if I have nothing nice to say I say nothing at all.

[mrgreen760 37785]

Lots of descriptors are used in this industry like Upscale, Elite, VIP, High End, Exclusive, escort, companion, courtesan, sex work (er), clients, dates etc.

 

Is there a stigma or shame associated with using terms like prostitute and john which we don't see used very often yet are also apt descriptors?

 

Peace

MG

[Kathryn Bardot 99339]

Is there a stigma or shame associated with using terms like prostitute and john which we don't see used very often yet are also apt descriptors?

I personally don't like the term "john" because it implies that all clients are male.

[roamingguy 300292]

Just a thought, but isn't writing a recommendation the ultimate compliment (not to mention thank you) you can give a lady?

I'm happy to say I've complimented many ladies then, just do a search on CERB, those compliments are there for all to see ;-)

Anyhow a hopefully positive rambling

 

RG

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Just a thought, but isn't writing a recommendation the ultimate compliment (not to mention thank you) you can give a lady?

I'm happy to say I've complimented many ladies then, just do a search on CERB, those compliments are there for all to see ;-)

Anyhow a hopefully positive rambling

 

RG

 

Yes they are wonderful compliments. The best compliment to me is repeat visits.

[conquistador 18487]

Just a thought, but isn't writing a recommendation the ultimate compliment (not to mention thank you) you can give a lady?

I'm happy to say I've complimented many ladies then, just do a search on CERB, those compliments are there for all to see ;-)

Anyhow a hopefully positive rambling

 

RG

 

I would agree with Emma, repeat visits would be a better compliment... Means you truly enjoyed their company and would do it again.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I would agree with Emma, repeat visits would be a better compliment... Means you truly enjoyed their company and would do it again.

 

Recos and repeat visits are both equally great compliments!

[Guest Ou**or**n]

What would be the circumstances of your retirement from this business?

[Luckyme 41401]

You have two individuals - one is a regular client and the other is a reputable cerb member who has never seen you. If they happen to want to book you at about the same time, who will you give preference to?

[CristyCurves 169032]

You have two individuals - one is a regular client and the other is a reputable cerb member who has never seen you. If they happen to want to book you at about the same time, who will you give preference to?

 

 

My regular of course! Reputable cerb members still might cancel, or do a no show. Having a good cerb reputation is great but it doesn't mean he'll be a good client for me. If I consider a gentleman a regular then he has been fun, reliable, someone I like and want to see again.

 

Additional Comments:

What would be the circumstances of your retirement from this business?

Ill retire when I loose interest in this profession. When that happens it's my time, until then I'll enjoy it;)

 

Additional Comments:

Lots of descriptors are used in this industry like Upscale, Elite, VIP, High End, Exclusive, escort, companion, courtesan, sex work (er), clients, dates etc.

 

Is there a stigma or shame associated with using terms like prostitute and john which we don't see used very often yet are also apt descriptors?

 

Peace

MG

 

To me they are just words. We all give ourselves titles we feel appropriate and comfortable with. Call it what you like they all have the same meaning, more or less.

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

Lots of descriptors are used in this industry like Upscale, Elite, VIP, High End, Exclusive, escort, companion, courtesan, sex work (er), clients, dates etc.

 

Is there a stigma or shame associated with using terms like prostitute and john which we don't see used very often yet are also apt descriptors?

 

Peace

MG

I think there is a shame when the word prostitute is pronounced and for me a courtesan or a companion makes it more acceptable and classy...just my honest opinion!

What would be the circumstances of your retirement from this business?

Oufff...thats a though question!!

 

I truly enjoy what I do and would keep doing it for a long time.....unless..

winning the lottery...no Financial worries ( might keep working still but not as much ;)

Falling deeply in love and be supported financialy...:biggrin:

 

You have two individuals - one is a regular client and the other is a reputable cerb member who has never seen you. If they happen to want to book you at about the same time, who will you give preference to?

 

I go with first come first serve! I have turned down a reg who contacted me last minute once and I had just got a booking who was confirmed...he suggested i cancel the other for him... No...not gonna happen sorry!

[Ice4fun 78407]

 

I go with first come first serve! I have turned down a reg who contacted me last minute once and I had just got a booking who was confirmed...he suggested i cancel the other for him... No...not gonna happen sorry!

 

I kinda think a regular client would appreciate the fact that you were already booked and would not expect you to cancel

 

Just my opinion.

[Guest P**aq]

What is the most memorable thing a client has done for/with you?

(Something that stood out...hmm, pun intended...something romantic, kind, funny, touching, weird, whatever it may be, but something that you remember with fondness, intrigue, or even bafflement!)

[fortunateone 156618]

You have two individuals - one is a regular client and the other is a reputable cerb member who has never seen you. If they happen to want to book you at about the same time, who will you give preference to?

 

 

It wouldn't really matter, it is a first contact first served policy with me. Even if the calls are 2 minutes apart, someone had to call me first and request the time, and that is the person who is going to get that time.

 

HOWEVER, keep in mind the new caller is just as likely to not confirm, and/or not show up, so caller #2, regular, may still end up with their preferred time. Many of my regs know i have a short notice confirmation/set up policy, so there is always a good chance they will call and I won't be available until a later time

. Many can work that into their schedules.

 

Additional Comments:

Lots of descriptors are used in this industry like Upscale, Elite, VIP, High End, Exclusive, escort, companion, courtesan, sex work (er), clients, dates etc.

 

Is there a stigma or shame associated with using terms like prostitute and john which we don't see used very often yet are also apt descriptors?

 

Peace

MG

 

 

I think that where the words are used is in ads, so words like "i'm a prostitute looking for a john" in an ad would just not be great marketing. It isn't that it isn't true, it just isn't specific enough to target a type of clientele, nor descriptive enough to indicate the type of sp or experience the advertiser wants to convey.

 

I use words like gentlemen, classy, mature and sensual in my ads. I find that it deters the rude, aggressive and PSE seekers, and attracts a gentler, polite and courteous caller. Not 100% of course, because some callers don't actually read the ad.

 

I think that some advertisers are misusing some terms, and making them mean less. Usually the rest of the ad or types of pictures or maybe a lack of a website, or history, make it easy for the viewer to recognize that just using the words "Elite', or "Courtesan', or "Upscale' won't actually make that sp an elite, upscale courtesan,

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

I kinda think a regular client would appreciate the fact that you were already booked and would not expect you to cancel

 

Just my opinion.

I totally agree Ice4fun...and a true gent would never ask this!

 

What is the most memorable thing a client has done for/with you?

(Something that stood out...hmm, pun intended...something romantic, kind, funny, touching, weird, whatever it may be, but something that you remember with fondness, intrigue, or even bafflement!)

 

The one thing that stood out for me was that a client offered me a massage at the beginning of the appt (1h) and it lasted for 30 min :icon_biggrin:...omfg it was amazing! I felt like a queen!!

And a client in NY brought me a BD gift before our second appt :), that was a very sweet thought!!!

[Guest S****r]

What is the most memorable thing a client has done for/with you?

(Something that stood out...hmm, pun intended...something romantic, kind, funny, touching, weird, whatever it may be, but something that you remember with fondness, intrigue, or even bafflement!)

 

 

One client wrote me a song and recorded it for me. I am completely touched!

 

You have two individuals - one is a regular client and the other is a reputable cerb member who has never seen you. If they happen to want to book you at about the same time, who will you give preference to?

 

I have never cancelled one client to take another!