Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted March 20, 2015 I would like this client to be honest and frank. In this industry, we must never take things for granted, and we have to understand that some need a change. Also, this would'nt prevent to be friendly and welcoming to this client, who would be a friend, eventually. I had numerous clients over the years that decided to switch for whatever reason, and I respect their choice, eventhough I would surely miss them. People are just moving on... 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted March 20, 2015 A clients owes a companion nothing other than what is promised in a meeting. If you're very regular with a lady and you just stop it isn't required to give a reason but it would be polite. We would wonder after all. It would be solace to know that the client wasn't sick, injured or that there wasn't something we possibly did to cause his change. No long explanations necessarily just a pm to say he's moving on and best wishes. Politeness and respect and thoughtfulness go along way even in temporary relationships. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted March 20, 2015 I as a client should expect the same consideration? Just curious. Peace MG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Midnite-Energies 110563 Report post Posted March 20, 2015 I definitely agree some sort of note would be nice especially if the person was someone you saw regularly and seemed to have a connection with. One of the first thoughts is wondering if you did or said something to upset or offend and I personally like the opportunity to apologize if that's the case. It's also good if they were someone you would exchange messages with between meetings as you wouldn't want to continue that if it wasn't acceptable. As has been mentioned, even if you may miss someone, you still wish them the best whatever they choose to do. As for a client expecting the same consideration, if the lady wishes to end the dalliance with someone she sees regularly, for whatever reason, there is reasonable expectation that she should let the gent know. It is respectful. There are occasions where there might be circumstances that make that not a good choice but overall, I would say yes. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted March 20, 2015 <p> I have a question for the ladies ... If you have an ultra regular client, I mean someone you've seen regularly, say once every ten days, for a few years and have enjoyed your time with him tremendously, and for whatever reasons, he decides to move on and somehow break the relationship, what is the best way you would like to find out? Of course at that point and after such a length of time it's become more than a business relationship, so what's your angle on this?</p> them directly and be a man about it. My point is if a client doesn't wish to see an escort anymore, take the time to discuss it with her and end off on a decent note and not the cowardly way by sending her an email or giving her a card. The client - escort relationship can be special and even more when you've spent a considerable amount of time together, things change, situations/circumstances change, either or both parties come and go. Try to end it on a good note without egos being involved and it will be appreciated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Victoria Phoenix 3403 Report post Posted March 20, 2015 For me, the best thing about being an SP, is the freedom, to choose my hours/days, also the COMPANIONSHIP! To be honest, I only started in this industry less then a year ago, and during that time, I have met some of the most kindest, sweetest, gentlemen,,they have up lifted me, I gained self confidence, and self esteem, to them, I say Thank you! Another perk, of being in this industry, of course is revenue! I have had other jobs,also a degree, but this line of work, provides more financial attributes then any of the others!! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 I have a question for the ladies ... If you have an ultra regular client, I mean someone you've seen regularly, say once every ten days, for a few years and have enjoyed your time with him tremendously, and for whatever reasons, he decides to move on and somehow break the relationship, what is the best way you would like to find out? Of course at that point and after such a length of time it's become more than a business relationship, so what's your angle on this? Daniel, I believe it's entirely up to you how you decide to handle the situation. Since you've already received good feedback from other members on that matter, I'd like to take this issue to another level when it comes to break ups in SP/clients relationships. What I would like to say applies just as much to the ladies as it does to patrons: when the relationship is over, no matter what the reason is, or are, please move on without causing any sort of drama! Drama is no good for anyone! As far as I know, we are all adults and should respect the other person's choice (to move on) without resorting to petty games, nastiness, threats--of bad reviews, online slender, etc.-- name calling, insults, guilt trips, harassing emails/texts, stalking, and on and on and on, just because our feelings might be hurt or we would prefer the relationship not to end. Once it's over, it's over. There is NO point in trying to destroy the other person. It will not do any good to anyone and will definitely not bring back what you had. It's time to show some maturity, self-respect and dignity and let it go! Let's all remember one of the main reasons we are involved in this lifestyle to begin with... Drama-free fun times! 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 I have to echo my dear (virtual) wife's opinion In a perfect world, a lady, or gentlemen who no longer wishes to see a client/companion, as the case may be should send a nice email basically saying thanks for our past, but it's time to move forward. I'll remember with fondness our times together, but its time to part ways...or words to that effect. But that's in a perfect world. But even getting a one line "I don't want to see you and want no further contact" is enough The flip side, if a gentlemen or lady receives such an email, take it like an adult. If that gentleman or lady TRULY liked and respected her client/his companion, he/she should respect their decision to end the SP/Client relationship. In other words, be mature, and be an adult about it. Take the Dear John/Dear Jane email on a high note, say goodbye and move on. When someone if they received a "Dear John" "Dear Jane" email pesters and harasses that person, it just shows they never ever cared about their client/companion in the first place. And breaking up was the right thing to do, the relationship was unhealthy Sometimes in this lifestyle, which is about mutual respect and mutually beneficial relationships, ending relationships is the best for all concerned And at the end of the day, all that is owed is time and companionship for the donation paid. An encounter with a regular client/companion does not mean a marriage like commitment. And even marriage doesn't always last a lifetime A long winded rambling RG 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 The dissolution of a relationship be that a business relationship either inside or outside this industry or a friendship or a more personal relationship such as a marriage or significant personal relationship is never easy...relationships regardless of type are as complex as the individuals who are in them. Of course in this industry it is always our hope that people reflect on the positives of the relationship and be thankful for what was and that they can look forward to the new opportunities the future will bring to each of them as they go their own way.... As we all know the world is never that simple... either party may feel resentment or loss or lack of understanding as to what is happening...either party may feel taken advantage of or feel that certain issues financial or other maybe outstanding and need to be addressed as part of winding up the previous arrangement. Of course the more simple the previous arrangement the easier it is to separate...conversely if the parties have through their previous behaviors made their arrangement complicated then this may make the separation more challenging and require that the best in both people rise to the top. If the individuals have kept their arrangements pure business and not "blurred" the lines and never stepped outside the x dollars for x hours then it will be much easier (but not necessarily easy) to move forward. The client may have formed an attachment to the lady that he will miss or the lady my suddenly be without a regular source of revenue that they have become accustomed too. I am not saying that is appropriate just that it might in fact be the case. Hopefully it is well understood by everyone who partakes in this industry that either party has the right to either not make or not accept a booking at any time they like... the trick obviously is how that is done... thought should certainly be put into the communication of the decision to ensure it takes into consideration the needs of the other party... for example if the parties have normally connected by phone perhaps an email might not be appropriate. Of course if the lady has concerns for her personal safety she should always take that into consideration. Drama is often a two way street and in my experience it is often the person insisting on making it clean with no drama who has perhaps instigated the drama by their own behavior.... try to show the other person the same level of respect you would like them to show you. When arrangements in this industry come to an end it is probably incumbent on both to try and restrain their emotions... don't drag others into the situation... limit commentary on discussion boards like this so as to not inflame the issues that might exist ... when people are emotional they are more likely to over react to a simple post that they may feel is directed at them... so my advice would be to exercise caution... don't take steps in the emotion of the time that run the risk of being misunderstood by the other party especially if the relationship has been ongoing for a long time or was particularly frequent. There are as many reasons for an arrangement to end as there are people in arrangements hopefully the fact that the arrangement has worked for a while has meant that there was some connection between the two.... perhaps it is best for everyone if neither part sets fire to the bridges they both used to get where they are ... you never know what the future holds. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253367 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Your very right, the ending of ANY relationship is never easy, however in this lifestyle if boundaries are not crossed and lines not blurred, the split should be simple and easy. It is a break up of a business relationship or transaction NOT a marriage and should not be confused with one. This is a business relationship or business transaction, lines only get blurred when one refuses to respect what the other person in the relationship is saying. At the end of the day, the friendship you think may be there is blurred by money. And unless your spending mutually agreed upon time off the clock, the friendship one thinks they had really does not exist. Call it whatever you want, but one does not pay someone to be there friend. The only people who ever feel resentment when a relationship ends are the ones who refused to respect the rules and chose to treat it as a "I paid for it so I own it" situation. Fact of the matter is NO ONE owns anyone and money was for time and companionship, not the persons physical being. If a lady cut you off and does not want anything to do with you anymore, one needs to have a good hard look at themselves and think about their behaviour, and how they have handled things for it to turn out this way. As a client you are free to end the business relationship anytime, and we say nothing....yet when the situation is reversed why is it we get so much grief? I think its time to man up and take responsibility for ones actions 14 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123367 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Isn't this why one hires an escort and not have a girlfriend? No drama. 11 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Emily with your depth of experience you are an eloquent advocate for the many wonderful ladies working in this industry I do hope however that you will forgive me if I suggest that your response is somewhat one sided ... To suggest, as your post does, (unless I am misunderstanding it and maybe I am) that escorting relationships end only because of the behaviors of the client or that they are the only source of the drama ignores the fact that there were two parties involved and while I general accept your premise that us men might be the more frequent culprit I think it is safe to assume that from time to time it is the ladies behavior or even more likely both parties behavior that lead to the problem and the resentment especially in arrangements that have extended over longer durations. My post simply suggested that relations are complex and difficult and that when the lines get blurred (which takes the acceptance of two parties) it can cause drama and that both parties need to restrain their emotions and seek to take the high road.... not always an easy task but certainly the desired outcome. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253367 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Emily with your depth of experience you are an eloquent advocate for the many wonderful ladies working in this industry I do hope however that you will forgive me if I suggest that your response is somewhat one sided ... To suggest, as your post does, (unless I am misunderstanding it and maybe I am) that escorting relationships end only because of the behaviors of the client or that they are the only source of the drama ignores the fact that there were two parties involved and while I general accept your premise that us men might be the more frequent culprit I think it is safe to assume that from time to time it is the ladies behavior or even more likely both parties behavior that lead to the problem and the resentment especially in arrangements that have extended over longer durations. My post simply suggested that relations are complex and difficult and that when the lines get blurred (which takes the acceptance of two parties) it can cause drama and that both parties need to restrain their emotions and seek to take the high road.... not always an easy task but certainly the desired outcome. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk Lets be frank here, my response is as one sided as yours. If a lady ends the relationship 99% of the time the client has done something - plain and simple....A client ends the relationship when he has moved on or wants more. Yes, relationships are complex but a business relationship is one that does not require feelings and should not result in resentment. Im firm on my belief that if your resenting things, you crossed the line. A client should NOT develop feelings for a companion and if he does he should walk away instead of making things weird.... One can't compare this lifestyle to a real relationship, this is how lines get blurred and how problems start. You keep mentioning drama, do you enjoy it? a relationship in this lifestyle should be drama free.... 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Isn't this why one hires an escort and not have a girlfriend? No drama. Oh Hell... I fall in love with all of you !! I have 35 engagement rings in my safe probably .... No just kidding about the ring thing.... I do have two bra's and a pair of ear rings there tho to return :) Shouldn't be too complicated me thinks. On a serious note Emma... speaking of drama... I did enjoy Allotta bit of CSI up close and "under the covers" work/pleasure to determine if you were ....... Innocent ? OR Naughty ? Emma !! You have the right to remain silent ....... ;) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Emily with your depth of experience you are an eloquent advocate for the many wonderful ladies working in this industry I do hope however that you will forgive me if I suggest that your response is somewhat one sided ... To suggest, as your post does, (unless I am misunderstanding it and maybe I am) that escorting relationships end only because of the behaviors of the client or that they are the only source of the drama ignores the fact that there were two parties involved and while I general accept your premise that us men might be the more frequent culprit I think it is safe to assume that from time to time it is the ladies behavior or even more likely both parties behavior that lead to the problem and the resentment especially in arrangements that have extended over longer durations. My post simply suggested that relations are complex and difficult and that when the lines get blurred (which takes the acceptance of two parties) it can cause drama and that both parties need to restrain their emotions and seek to take the high road.... not always an easy task but certainly the desired outcome. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk There is one major difference, and I'll speak in generalizations. If a client wishes to break up with a companion, she'll accept the break up and move on. But if a companion wishes to break up with a guy, yes some guys are mature and accept a break up. But many do things, unfortunately, like threaten to bash a lady on review boards, write bad reviews etc. Some even exhibit obsessive behaviour, such as stalking, threatening to out the lady etc etc etc A lady realizes her professional reputation is at stake. So she will remain quiet about a break up. There is no such comparable professional reputation for a gentleman. Any man who has a good reputation as a client will accept a break up and move on. One who does not care about his reputation as a client will be less inhibited about bashing a lady At the end of the day though, relationships take two people. If one of those people no longer wish for the relationship to continue, it's over...time to move on Most everyone at least once, probably more, in their life has been through a break up, either as a break-upee or break-upor. It's hard, no argument, but everyone survives. Move on and move forward Just part ways, don't make the other person's life hell for breaking up RG 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Lets be frank here, my response is as one sided as yours. If a lady ends the relationship 99% of the time the client has done something - plain and simple....A client ends the relationship when he has moved on or wants more. Yes, relationships are complex but a business relationship is one that does not require feelings and should not result in resentment. Im firm on my belief that if your resenting things, you crossed the line. A client should NOT develop feelings for a companion and if he does he should walk away instead of making things weird.... One can't compare this lifestyle to a real relationship, this is how lines get blurred and how problems start. You keep mentioning drama, do you enjoy it? a relationship in this lifestyle should be drama free.... In your perfect world where lines never get blurred you are 100% right but most of us actually don't live in that world so my comments on this topic also include situations where the lines have become blurred and as I said it takes both parties to blur the lines in this industry. Imagine my gall to actually suggest that poorly ending relationships in this industry might from time to time result from the behavior of both parties.... what a concept... how silly of me. Imagine my even thinking that a relationship might end for any reason other than the client doing something... what was I possibly thinking. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 If some one doesn't want to see me any more...... shrug If I don't want to see some one any more ...... shrug. No need to make anything or everything complicated. Peace MG 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 If some one doesn't want to see me any more...... shrug If I don't want to see some one any more ...... shrug. No need to make anything or everything complicated. Peace MG I recall a friend of mine, an older farmer, with his advice on relationships. He said a relationship was like a glass of milk. If someone poured some vinegar in the milk it soured, and a relationship that breaks up it like proverbial sour milk. Now if you could take all the vinegar out of the milk, it's too late, the milk stays sour. Likewise, after a breakup it's like the milk, stays sour even if everything "fixed". And getting back still doesn't fix the sour. Best bet, it's over, ended, move on. Best for both of you BTW my friend said it much better, but this is the gist of what he said RG 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted March 23, 2015 There is one major difference, and I'll speak in generalizations. If a client wishes to break up with a companion, she'll accept the break up and move on. But if a companion wishes to break up with a guy, yes some guys are mature and accept a break up. But many do things, unfortunately, like threaten to bash a lady on review boards, write bad reviews etc. Some even exhibit obsessive behaviour, such as stalking, threatening to out the lady etc etc etc A lady realizes her professional reputation is at stake. So she will remain quiet about a break up. There is no such comparable professional reputation for a gentleman. Any man who has a good reputation as a client will accept a break up and move on. One who does not care about his reputation as a client will be less inhibited about bashing a lady At the end of the day though, relationships take two people. If one of those people no longer wish for the relationship to continue, it's over...time to move on Most everyone at least once, probably more, in their life has been through a break up, either as a break-upee or break-upor. It's hard, no argument, but everyone survives. Move on and move forward Just part ways, don't make the other person's life hell for breaking up RG Couldn't agree more... I think most likely in those situations where lines have become blurred that the client and yes sometimes the lady if they are not expecting the end of the relationship, might initially react based on their emotions. I am not suggesting that is appropriate just that I can see that as something that I am sure happens. In regards to stalking, harassment, threatening to out the lady ... that would never be acceptable in my mind. I strongly believe in discretion and would not advocate anyone, client or lady, bashing each other in public or using others to do so even indirectly but if the clients behavior was inappropriate I am pretty sure it will be shared in the Escorts only area and with friends so like wise if the ladies behavior was inappropriate the client should not be expected to remain silent if asked about his experience with the lady. I don't believe in negative reviews with the exception of the warnings area here which should of course be used only as intended. Bottom line endings are not easy and people should strive to keep it civil but that advice apply as much to the client as the lady. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest D***el B***e Report post Posted March 23, 2015 Daniel, I believe it's entirely up to you how you decide to handle the situation. Since you've already received good feedback from other members on that matter, I'd like to take this issue to another level when it comes to break ups in SP/clients relationships. What I would like to say applies just as much to the ladies as it does to patrons: when the relationship is over, no matter what the reason is, or are, please move on without causing any sort of drama! Drama is no good for anyone! As far as I know, we are all adults and should respect the other person's choice (to move on) without resorting to petty games, nastiness, threats--of bad reviews, online slender, etc.-- name calling, insults, guilt trips, harassing emails/texts, stalking, and on and on and on, just because our feelings might be hurt or we would prefer the relationship not to end. Once it's over, it's over. There is NO point in trying to destroy the other person. It will not do any good to anyone and will definitely not bring back what you had. It's time to show some maturity, self-respect and dignity and let it go! Let's all remember one of the main reasons we are involved in this lifestyle to begin with... Drama-free fun times! Hi Gabrielle, Thank you for your well thought-of post, much appreciated. I certainly concur with all your points and I hope for dear god you weren't implying I was going to go out on a flaming thread, with all guns a blazing. I was merely asking a question to get an opinion from the ladies and as with most threads here, the more replies the more the thread goes off on a tangent. I have wayyy more common sense than you're willing to credit me. I was merely asking a question. Oh sure, you all know me as someone who likes controversy and many of my posts and replies point to that but when time comes to establishing a MA or escort relationship, I challenge you to find a girl here who wouldn't defend my credibility, my politeness, my common sense, my decency, my generosity, my maturity, all my overall manners. I have enough drama in my personal life, I don't need to find it here, nor do I want it. I have enough back-stabbing, nastiness, and ugly competition in the business I'm in I don't need to find it here, nor do I want it. I have enough dealing with everyday bull manure, enough dealing with the constant bickering of the ME egocentric, enough dealing with infighting, I don't need to find it here, nor do I want it. As you so eloquently wrote, I am here for drama-free fun times. If and when the times comes and I need to move on, I will do it on my own terms. There aren't too many ways to part company in a decent way and I had no intention of doing otherwise. I can already see the replies coming asking me why I posted then. I posted because sometimes, whether you like it or not, getting advice and listening to advice provides a new avenue, a new window into getting an intended result. Regardless if my question was hypothetical or not in the first place, only I will know and only I may heed to any advice that's been offered. I was merely posting a question just like many have done on this thread, and I thank you all for your sensible input. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WealthyCowboy 5281 Report post Posted March 24, 2015 This seems to be a sensitive topic, and I am not surprised. I have been on both sides of the crossed lines and have had to end a cerb connection more than once (favourably and unfavourably). I sincerely did the best I could to be respectful and mature, but sometimes it just got ugly. I observed in all of my experiences that someone felt rejected in some way and it caused discomfort to say the least. Now some will deny the rejection and say they have no feelings for any of their connections. However, in my own experiences (can't speak for everyone), this was not true. To me, it's that 1 out of 20 that tugs at your heart. Guys and gals here have genuine feelings. Be honest. And just because you have not yet met someone in this industry that triggers those emotions, it does not mean that there isn't someone out there that can't touch your heart. It is possible. And if that happens and the other person ends it abruptly, rejection will occur. The nature of human beings and their chemistry make it very challenging to remain unattached to everyone you see. Some people will inevitably develop feelings for another. I know I have. And I have had others who felt that way about me. At first, I tried to brush it off as infatuation but I quickly realized the signs were there and I was denying those emotions. And I recognized those same patterns when the roles were reversed and someone wanted a relationship with me. So when it ends, it can be hurtful. I see that some ladies and gents here are suggesting they have the ability to control their emotions and always keep it professional... A wise policy and I admire their dedication to establishing defense mechanisms to prevent those awkward moments. However, I would wager some individuals in this industry are not the greatest at self-control. Just saying. I know you must have all met someone at one point or another who was not playing with a full deck, was in a financial jam or was under the influence of something that would affect their mood and perception. In my experience these people are even harder to reason with and ''break-up'' with. Have you ever tried to end it with a lady who gets really upset, yells and curses at you, calls and texts incessantly and then says they hate you? Well, it happens. And when they are intoxicated, it's a disaster. You can get hurt, physically. Been there, done that. How can we expect to control our feelings? I think the better word may be ''manage'' them. But in the end, if you had real feelings for another, wouldn't you take the shot to find out if it's mutual? If it is not mutual, then you move on and fast... and gracefully. I really don't think that having feelings or ugly ''break-ups'' in this industry is that uncommon, regardless of whether it's on the man or the lady's part. I understand the point some have made here that in an ideal world it should be dollars for dildos, but I know I am not built that way and I am sure other cerbites will feel the same way (even if they won't post about it for a number of reasons). If someone you've seen 25 times for years just disappears or blows you off, it will sting. Human curiosity and rejection will prevail. In any case, I think the topic took a tangent again and, although I did not believe myself capable of this, I think I just rambled more than Roaming Guy. :icon_smile: 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted March 24, 2015 Hi Gabrielle, Thank you for your well thought-of post, much appreciated. I certainly concur with all your points and I hope for dear god you weren't implying I was going to go out on a flaming thread, with all guns a blazing. I was merely asking a question to get an opinion from the ladies and as with most threads here, the more replies the more the thread goes off on a tangent. I have wayyy more common sense than you're willing to credit me. I was merely asking a question. Oh sure, you all know me as someone who likes controversy and many of my posts and replies point to that but when time comes to establishing a MA or escort relationship, I challenge you to find a girl here who wouldn't defend my credibility, my politeness, my common sense, my decency, my generosity, my maturity, all my overall manners. I have enough drama in my personal life, I don't need to find it here, nor do I want it. I have enough back-stabbing, nastiness, and ugly competition in the business I'm in I don't need to find it here, nor do I want it. I have enough dealing with everyday bull manure, enough dealing with the constant bickering of the ME egocentric, enough dealing with infighting, I don't need to find it here, nor do I want it. As you so eloquently wrote, I am here for drama-free fun times. If and when the times comes and I need to move on, I will do it on my own terms. There aren't too many ways to part company in a decent way and I had no intention of doing otherwise. I can already see the replies coming asking me why I posted then. I posted because sometimes, whether you like it or not, getting advice and listening to advice provides a new avenue, a new window into getting an intended result. Regardless if my question was hypothetical or not in the first place, only I will know and only I may heed to any advice that's been offered. I was merely posting a question just like many have done on this thread, and I thank you all for your sensible input. Daniel :) I apologize if you thought my post was directed at you because I quoted you earlier. It was not. It was not directed at anyone in particular. Like I said in my previous post, I only wanted to take your question to "another level": you inquired about how an SP/client break-up should be handled (communicate it or not) and I simply addressed the aftermath of it. Mainly, how it should NOT go ;) xox ... I'd like to take this issue to another level when it comes to break ups in SP/clients relationships. What I would like to say applies just as much to the ladies as it does to patrons... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
clearlycanadian7583 1199 Report post Posted March 24, 2015 I don't know if I would call it ending a relationship, but a couple years ago under my previous cerb handle I had a moment where I decided I wouldn't see Emma Alexandra again, I had seen her twice both two hour appointments. The first time I saw her was amazing we got along, she put me at ease it was the first time I would say I had the prefect intro-appointment. I remember I went home and wrote a glowing recommendation about it, even said something I shouldn't have (toothpaste). A few weeks later she announced another trip on her birthday no less, I made an appointment right away. I found the thought of seeing her again a little consuming, I worked double shifts so I could get the time off and so my budget wouldn't take a hit. The second appointment was even better then the first. I remember near the end sitting on a couch with her and deciding that I wanted to take a back from the hobby, it was because she was occupying my thoughts a little to much and I wanted to try to find something real. In my mind I had the highest expectations of her this second time around and she blew them away, she lived up to the fantasy that I had created in my mind. I decided that no matter what I wouldn't see her again, I saw her twice both times were prefect even now those two appointments are the best I have ever had and I want to preserve that memory, where do you go from 10, not up. I never told her that and I hope it's OK that I put it up here. Now years later I'm kinda back at the hobby, I take long breaks between appointments. Few and far between make it better for me. Posted via Mobile Device 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Genevieve Marceau 68000 Report post Posted March 24, 2015 Any man who has a good reputation as a client will accept a break up and move on. One who does not care about his reputation as a client will be less inhibited about bashing a lady It's not that they don't care about their reputation as a client. They probably don't even realize the damage they are causing to it, because in their mind, they are in their rights. Unfortunately, writing a negative review in retaliation of a break-up is only part of an escalation process. It rarely ever stops there...When a lady fires a client, it is certainly not because he was too handsome. These parasites may write all the crap that they want online, we are not the ones who will end up with a restraining order at the end of the day. We have this power. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Miss Jane TG Report post Posted March 24, 2015 With the new laws in place, the risks for clients are far greater that those for the companion. The power differential shifts toward the companion by all means. Some might think that the internet world is anonymous, but the simple fact is that a small claim action can release all the data to locate precisely the offender. And the same claim would expose the client to his family, work, etc. Did I mention that cyber bullying is a crime as well?! The simple advice on this issue is that if the 'relationship', if it even qualifies to that title, ended by the declaration of either party, the other one should move on quietly. This is not an option, but the only safe exit! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites