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[CasinoMing 1967]

Indeed, there is nothing wrong with a 'friendly' hello. I reckon most of us (providers and hobbyists) know where 'the line in the sand is'.

 

Many PM's I get are to say "hello" or to provide a private comment to my response to a thread. All good... no spams.. no insensitive comments.. just an electronic conversation..

 

CM

[Luckyme 41401]

Same here, I love getting PMs from ladies who are just saying HI, and not the result of a reply to MY PM. I know some ladies are reluctant to do that as it may be seen as generating business, which I believe is not allowed through unsolicited PMs, but there's nothing wrong in saying "HI how are you". just my opinion

 

All this to say fell free to drop me a note and say HI.

 

My personal stance is that I too love getting friendly PM's from ladies who are just saying HI, and not as a reply to my PM. I don't even mind if a visiting lady pm'ing me ( or texting or emailing me - see, I am desperate! lol) to say HI and that she'd be here between this and that dates. This may be opened to interpretation. But to me, I'd rather prefer to know a lady I have seen before advising me that she'll be here than me missing her altogether. As CasinoMing says below, most of us know where the line in the sand is. When I have no intention to see a particular lady, I'd just reply that I would be busy during those dates, and they are wise enough to get the hint and stop sending me messages.

 

Indeed, there is nothing wrong with a 'friendly' hello. I reckon most of us (providers and hobbyists) know where 'the line in the sand is'.

 

Many PM's I get are to say "hello" or to provide a private comment to my response to a thread. All good... no spams.. no insensitive comments.. just an electronic conversation..

 

CM

[SpiralStaircase 1030]

Your opinion is greatly appreciated and of value as it echoes the sentiments of my provider. I Just needed to hear it from a third perspective.

 

 

 

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

 

Truthfully I don't have a whole lot of experience with this, so I can't really say my answer will be of much use, and I'm sure some other ladies will have a better response than mine!

 

I would certainly say that clients such as yourself and others in similar situations are worth the effort, especially if they take the time to communicate properly with us regarding everything they need to make a meeting go smoothly. As long as the emails they are sending with details are for communication about your individual needs and such, and not pornographic and sent purely for the guy to get off on, then I don't see there being an issue, and I'm sure many providers will be appreciative of it.

 

When you say "I share what works, and what does not work. What triggers and what eases. I explain my reactions and thought processes. I ask for her opinion." this sounds like you're actually taking a certain amount of stress off the lady, since a lot of the time if a person doesn't communicate on what they like ahead of time, it ends up being a guessing game, with several hits and misses(which can actually be a lot of fun though!).

 

As for if we feel responsible for how the session goes, I'd say a majority of the time we do(though I'm speaking more for myself here, since I can't speak for anyone else!) take a lot of responsibility for how everything unfolds, whether good or bad. However, there are a lot of factors that we don't have control over during encounters, and that no matter how hard we may try to make everything go well, the other factors may have a negative effect on how the whole session goes.

 

It's usually fairly easy to tell the difference between attachment and self-preservation. To be honest, I don't even really feel the two are even slightly related, so I would find it much more obvious if someone were just exercising self-preservation rather than becoming too attached to me.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

So I am stuck between sharing too much and coming off as needy/pesky, or not sharing and leaving myself open to risk.

 

Are clients like these worth the effort?

 

Do you feel responsible for how the session goes?

 

Do you distinguish between attachment and self preservation?

 

Thanks in advance,

 

~SS

 

Being a compassionate person with my clients, I find it good for them to open up to me whether it's beforehand letting me know of their concerns especially if they feel vulnerable or nervous as opposed to not being open where self preservation is concerned.

 

In sessions, I always try to make the client feel comfortable but if there was something bothering them or something wasn't happening because for various reasons in their life and I didn't know about it, I would be perplexed.

 

As long as I know I did my best to make the client feel comfortable and welcome, there is only a certain point because I'm not an intrusive person either.

 

It also helps to find a provider and have a conversation on the phone so you can gain an idea of what their personality is like. I do this with clients and instantly I have an idea of what they will be like and I'm usually right. If I don't like what I hear, I excuse myself and decline the appointment.

 

I will always give the client a chance to communicate their fears, doubts or worries. I don't find this being needy. What I would find needy is someone not respecting my time or not knowing the boundaries outside of a session or constantly emailing or texting wanting to talk.

 

When a client communicates up front, I am able to know how to provide them with the session that they are looking for rather than it being a guessing game.

 

A client is always worth the effort especially if you have a chance to help them with whatever it is they are going through but also respect the lady's boundaries at the same time.

[johnybird 4391]

I agree with Amber & Nicolette,

 

I had made the mistake of not communicating certain things with the first lady I ever saw, It just made explaining the whole situation when I just met them a bit awkward and made me not as relaxed as I could have been. She was so wonderful and sweet about it :icon_smile:

 

After that first time, when booking with someone new, I would let them know ahead of time and they were always so understanding and I would receive nothing but supportive and positive messages back from them. Luckily my issues seem to have resolved itself, I chalk it up to nerves mostly.

 

As long as you are being respectful, you're doing it right.;)

[Guest D***el B***e]

Sorry for changing the subject but ... how do I tell a lady I saw that she had bad breath and it made for an unpleasant session? ... or do I just move on?

[Ice4fun 78407]

You can be honest with out it needing to be impolite... the lady is operating a business and should be open to feedback if it is provided in a positive manner.

 

Perhaps drop her a note telling her how much you enjoyed your time together and what you appreciated about her service then suggest that perhaps the only way the session could be better would be if you both ensured you checked your breath...

 

Just my Opinion

[Guest D***el B***e]

You can be honest with out it needing to be impolite... the lady is operating a business and should be open to feedback if it is provided in a positive manner.

 

Perhaps drop her a note telling her how much you enjoyed your time together and what you appreciated about her service then suggest that perhaps the only way the session could be better would be if you both ensured you checked your breath...

 

Just my Opinion

 

 

I get your point Ice4fun but isn't it friggin obvious though? to have a fresh breath! It's first and foremost the most important thing!!! I've been told a number of times ... make sure you use a breath spray, chew gum, or suck on a mint right up to the moment you knock on the door. Always, always! ... It's so basic, it boggles my mind when I smell bad breath. it's not just for the men to smell nice and fresh, it's for the ladies too ... and a quick spray of perfume on the neck won't hide it. I find it a bummer because it ruins a date for me.

[Ice4fun 78407]

I get your point Ice4fun but isn't it friggin obvious though? to have a fresh breath! It's first and foremost the most important thing!!! I've been told a number of times ... make sure you use a breath spray, chew gum, or suck on a mint right up to the moment you knock on the door. Always, always! ... It's so basic, it boggles my mind when I smell bad breath. it's not just for the men to smell nice and fresh, it's for the ladies too ... and a quick spray of perfume on the neck won't hide it. I find it a bummer because it ruins a date for me.

 

We all make mistakes... perhaps she had some wine or grabbed a quick something to eat and got distracted and forgot to brush... nothing wrong with telling her during the visit or after and if the experience was so bad that you never want to go back that's fine but she might like the info anyway.

 

For me unless it was a serious issue that made me doubt her hygiene then I would more than likely give her a second chance... women have done it for me when i slipped up.

 

Just my Opinion

[CristyCurves 169032]

Sorry for changing the subject but ... how do I tell a lady I saw that she had bad breath and it made for an unpleasant session? ... or do I just move on?

 

Communication and delivery is the key. I think you should have brought it up at the time, then she could have fixed the problem, if it was fixable and you could have went on with a satisfying time. I understand not everyone finds it easy to bring up personal matters, but doing so with tact will make things better for both in the end. I maybe wrong, but I don't think a person can smell their own breath to know if it is bad or not and one can have halitosis or something that wouldn't be remedied by mouthwash so telling her may help her to know she needs to see a dentist or doctor. Hope this helps:)

[Cecilia 130]

What's the strangest outfit/costume you've been asked to wear?

 

What's the weirdest role-play you've been asked to do?

 

Alien role play......and yes, I was the one who had to dress up as the alien, and he was the human I was abducting.

 

I get a lot of weird requests....because I tend to try most anything twice (who knows, might like it......), so people who know me, feel safe in asking me for odd things. It's a win-win situation, I get a new experience, they get what they want without feeling judged, and to top it all off they generally show a lot of appreciation, plus repeat meetings.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

<p>Someone once asked me to dress up similar to the wicked step mother from the movie "Cinderella". What is this? Halloween? If a person wants me to get me as witch and act like one, try me when I have pms or in a really foul mood. I can be a witch or a bitch when it is warranted but I certainly would never dress up to look like one. Lol. That's where I draw the line. To each their own but not my thing.

[Honey Man 12759]

not sure if this is covered. I seldom have anyone over preferring to see them at their place rather then mine. However I have always wondered if someone was visiting someones home and having some fun when they leave that place and go onto the next fun place how do they ensure they are fresh and ready for the next place? I have never had anyone ask to use my shower so in asking someone to visit me how do I know they did not just visit someone else and are not fresh as they would be when I would go visit them?

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I don't book back to back appointments, so will go home in between appointments to freshen up. There was one time I was called into a call for a duo, and I hadn't freshened up yet, so I showered at the call location.

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

not sure if this is covered. I seldom have anyone over preferring to see them at their place rather then mine. However I have always wondered if someone was visiting someones home and having some fun when they leave that place and go onto the next fun place how do they ensure they are fresh and ready for the next place? I have never had anyone ask to use my shower so in asking someone to visit me how do I know they did not just visit someone else and are not fresh as they would be when I would go visit them?

 

I don't go to homes but also will not shower at a clients hotel...I once had a dude take the money back while i was in the shower so never again. I also don't do back to back appointments..even when traveling I need 2 hrs between clients. I want to freshen up,unwind and prepare for the next guy.

Some guys think that we are on our backs all day waiting for the next call. ..it's not so..we have a real life outside the biz. Most indies only see a couple of guys a day..sometimes only one. That's why we are indies..we work when we want and see who we want.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

not sure if this is covered. I seldom have anyone over preferring to see them at their place rather then mine. However I have always wondered if someone was visiting someones home and having some fun when they leave that place and go onto the next fun place how do they ensure they are fresh and ready for the next place? I have never had anyone ask to use my shower so in asking someone to visit me how do I know they did not just visit someone else and are not fresh as they would be when I would go visit them?

 

In my past experiences of doing outcalls, I always asked to take a shower regardless of whether or not if I had an appointment. Sometimes if it was late and I wasn't going anywhere else, I just wanted to go home and take my own shower. It's been a long time since I did back to back on an out but if I had to go somewhere else, a shower was always a must. I no longer visit other locations and like the fact that I'm at my own location and they come to visit me. I am always fresh! lol

[waterat 20911]

Which do you ladies prefer: let it grow, neatly trimmed short with the bits shaved or simply go for the 'all-clear'?

 

I'm a natural kitty aficionado but rarely have the opportunity to enjoy this. I'm currently 'ungroomed'. I recently had a visit where my lady friend was somewhat reserved when playing down there (she was very enthusiastic with every other activity....) so I wonder if my grooming may have put her off - I know, I should have simply asked her! We were both freshly showered and squeaky clean.

 

In Ottawa Ms. Samantha offers manscaping and it is a very pleasant and luxurious experience with her... should I be availing myself of this lovely opportunity more often?

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

I'm all for Manscaping...it's so much better for many reasons. Here's a few:

One: looks nice and fresh

2-squeaky clean

3- we can "do" so much more with out stopping for lets say hairy reasons

4-makes the package look bigger

It's a beautiful thing.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Manscaping. I enjoy it. However, if going for the full bald look, it needs to be kept up. So that porcupine feeling doesn't happen especially going up the flag pole. So if you don't want to maintain it regularly, simple trimming is also fabulous.

 

My personal preference is trimming or waxing - not shaving. The stubble hurts.

[Amber Rose 19012]

Manscaping. I'm impartial to either trimmed with some hair, or bald, but when it's completely foresty down there, I do get a little reserved too, only because having to pick hair out of your mouth every few minutes isn't that great. I'm all for flossing daily, but I prefer to do it with actual floss ;P

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[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Manscaping. I'm impartial to either trimmed with some hair, or bald, but when it's completely foresty down there, I do get a little reserved too, only because having to pick hair out of your mouth every few minutes isn't that great. I'm all for flossing daily, but I prefer to do it with actual floss ;P

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Yea exactly! I'd rather stay out of the forest and not munch on the grass.

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[Guest **cely***r***ne]

Exactly! It takes time away from what I'd rather be doing..

 

 

Manscaping. I'm impartial to either trimmed with some hair, or bald, but when it's completely foresty down there, I do get a little reserved too, only because having to pick hair out of your mouth every few minutes isn't that great. I'm all for flossing daily, but I prefer to do it with actual floss ;P

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[Andee 220524]

not sure if this is covered. I seldom have anyone over preferring to see them at their place rather then mine. However I have always wondered if someone was visiting someones home and having some fun when they leave that place and go onto the next fun place how do they ensure they are fresh and ready for the next place? I have never had anyone ask to use my shower so in asking someone to visit me how do I know they did not just visit someone else and are not fresh as they would be when I would go visit them?

 

Unless I have another out appointment booked before or after yours, the odds of which would be pretty unlikely, I would prefer to shower at home before and afterwards. When visiting, I always use the restroom before to wash my hands, etc. and after the session to make sure I don't look Cameron Diaz in the movie There's Something About Mary.

 

I cannot speak for other ladies who are busier than me. However I know it is not like the "old days" anymore when all we did was out visits and often worked for agencies who would often book appointments back to back. Baby wipes, mouthwash were our best friends.

 

I think you need to trust that if the lady does not accept your offer to shower, that it's all good.

[johnybird 4391]

I've seen people referring to BFE on some posts, I kind of have an idea of what it entails but I was just curious on how an Escort defines or considers to be a BFE & if they prefer a BFE as much as we prefer a GFE.

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

I'm not sure what you mean by BFE...boyfriend experience?