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[Aficionado 993]

No, not at all. It was only meant as backstory to the question. Like fine wines, it cannot be rushed and is well worth the wait!

[TorontoMelanieJolliet 4458]

Sorry for trying to be funny. I notice something was lost in translation. Noted.

[Aficionado 993]

No, not lost in translation. I appreciated the humour at my expense.

 

I just couldn't afford to have ANY of the lovely ladies here think that I don't appreciate the efforts you go through to look spectacular! (And you do!)

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

Is it fun/exciting being a touring sp? Or is it more of a risk/bother that the tour might not be profitable?

[SexyBear271 100]

I visited Toronto back in January 2015 and I was lucky enough to find Malika Fantasy. She is amazing and one of the most genuine people and SW I have ever met. I am coming back this month, this time to Ottawa and I am hoping to have another fantastic experience. Is LYLA the best resource? I tend to shy away from Backpage, etc. as it seems there is a lot of potential for misinformation.

[Brad 49548]

I visited Toronto back in January 2015 and I was lucky enough to find Malika Fantasy. She is amazing and one of the most genuine people and SW I have ever met. I am coming back this month, this time to Ottawa and I am hoping to have another fantastic experience. Is LYLA the best resource? I tend to shy away from Backpage, etc. as it seems there is a lot of potential for misinformation.

 

Short answer: Yes.

 

Somewhat longer answer amounting the same thing:

 

While of course chemistry and other factors will influence your experience, Lyla is indeed a terrific resource if you're looking for reassurance that someone is genuine and safe. Ottawa in particular seems to be very active on this board, so you'll have quite a bit of reading you can do in the recommendations section to help you seek out someone you'd likely enjoy time with. And many lady's are active on the board, and reading their posts helps give one a great sense of their personality and style.

 

Enjoy your visit!

[PantlessKing 1050]

I have sort of an etiquette question when it comes to contacting a lady for the first time and what sort of things are acceptable in terms of behaviour. I know enough about what things I should avoid, but I'm completely green to meeting an SP, I was just wondering if an experience I had could have been volatile. So, anyhow, I meet a lady online who at that time I was completely unaware was an SP, I didn't go looking for one I just happened to start talking with her and through casual conversation and flirting she revealed she was an SP.

 

I wasn't shocked, I'm not sheltered or anything, and aside from that disclosure I didn't ask her anymore about it. We continued chatting for months about getting together some time for a date, and I mean an actual date, but I was always a bit hesitant and it never materialized. It was toward the end of these months of talking that she mentioned needing something, a hoodie because at the time it was cold and her roommate and wrecked hers. It wasn't the kind of, "Oh, hey, I should go to ____ and get a hoodie." it was more, "Ohhh, I really really wish I had one. What will I ever do?" that made me feel like I was being propositioned to get it for her. We had never even met, and I decided to break off contact after that. I'm a shy guy, but I don't like the idea of being used. Was I wrong? I've heard stories about guys being used as sponsors and like I said, I've never tried an SP before.

[capitalCforcougar 16766]

I have sort of an etiquette question when it comes to contacting a lady for the first time and what sort of things are acceptable in terms of behaviour. ..........that she mentioned needing something, a hoodie because at the time it was cold and her roommate and wrecked hers. It wasn't the kind of, "Oh, hey, I should go to ____ and get a hoodie." it was more, "Ohhh, I really really wish I had one. What will I ever do?" that made me feel like I was being propositioned to get it for her. We had never even met, and I decided to break off contact after that. I'm a shy guy, but I don't like the idea of being used. Was I wrong? I've heard stories about guys being used as sponsors and like I said, I've never tried an SP before.

 

For myself, when a person contacts me (as either a SP or MP), I very much appreciate details.. a preferred day/time you would like to be seen, and of course, what it is you are hoping to experience with me.. helps with booking .. and should be rather obvious.. but sadly is not hehe

Once I reply back, I can do so with the requested time et al.. and can then get into some details about things you would enjoy having done during the session ;)

...this form of approach goes much better for someone other than simply saying 'hi' and nothing else hehe

 

As for your other situation, you were indeed being propositioned to purchase it for her... and no, you were not wrong to break off contact with her if this is not something you feel comfortable with doing/being involved in.

as you said, you did not approach her as a client for an SP.. and although I would advise in the future, if this happens again, and is not something you are looking for... simply let them know you are not a p4p kind of guy ;)

 

As a provider of several different lovely things <grin>.. I have had clients offer to purchase things for me in lieu of the donation.. and sometimes I am in agreement.. sometimes I am not.. hehe it is largely how I came about my lovely corset and toy collection <grin>... but either way, in my case, the person I am speaking with is fully aware of the situation we are both in....

 

I have also been in situations where I 'met' someone online.. NOT in the context of being a provider... and I am up front with them, telling them what I do for a living... but also that being how I came across them, I am not looking to them as a client.... which is what she should have done... unless of course, she was being deceitful and trying to 'rope' you into being one... unfortunately, it happens a lot from what I have heard/seen...so gain, highly advise you to let them know (if it is a case of another forum where they have *not* advertised themselves as an SP).. you are not looking to p4p....(pay for play/purchase)

[amx613 336]

Hi everyone, first things first I'd like to say sorry if this question has been asked a million times, I'm still getting used to this site.

 

What is the biggest thing as a newcomer i should keep in mind when meeting with an SP?

 

And

 

What, to you, makes a perfect experience with a client

 

Thanks again

[capitalCforcougar 16766]

Hi everyone, first things first I'd like to say sorry if this question has been asked a million times, I'm still getting used to this site.

What is the biggest thing as a newcomer i should keep in mind when meeting with an SP?

And What, to you, makes a perfect experience with a client

Thanks again

 

For most of us, the main things are respectful of time/availability (don't expect that with 10 minutes notice, you are automatically going to be seen... odd perrrhaps, but has happened!), donations (do NOT haggle!)... and *read our information* before booking plllleease :) saves everyone a lot of possible aggravation ;)

As a 'newbie' to either this 'hobby' <grin> or just to this site.. it is to your benefit to read through the FAQ/rules on here... some may seem mundane, but there is good info on here... same with threads pertaining to 'turn offs for a lady <grin>... 'ask a provider/hobbiest'... very valuable info for anyone really ;)

 

As for what makes a perrrrfect session, to me, not only does being with someone you can connect with matter to me... (easy conversation, comfortable chatting, relaxing a while...) but purrrrsonally I appreciate someone who is forthcoming with details of things they enjoy (or DON'T enjoy), even if for a massage.. for the more I know about you, what your needs/desires (kinks.. wishes... even those 'secret' little things you keep in the back of your head hehe) the better equipped I am to ensure you fully enjoy yourself...and, by ensuring that you enjoy yourself.. I in turn, very much enjoy myself.. if that makes sense hehe ;)

 

* I have recently noticed someone had said I 'try too hard'... not sure what that means exactly but hehe it's working for me, and for those who choose to see me, so...<shrug> hey, if it ain't broke.... <grin>

[amx613 336]

Thank you so much :)

[nntsci 11076]

I have a serious question to ask... An sp (and friend) I know was recently injured in a accident as a passenger but she's afraid to sue because she doesn't want her part time job exposed... any suggestions about what I can tell her.

[capitalCforcougar 16766]

I have a serious question to ask... An sp (and friend) I know was recently injured in a accident as a passenger but she's afraid to sue because she doesn't want her part time job exposed... any suggestions about what I can tell her.

 

Unless there is a *need* to disclose that.... why would she? don't ask.. don't tell.. works just fine I would think. In an autopac claim, I wouldn't think that would have to come into play anyway. If she's asked about her source of income, be smart.. just mention the legit one..... <shrug>..

or is she looking at suing the driver of the car she was a passenger in..? assuming they know of her 'other' job.... that may put a bit of a not-so-nice kink in the works..... and *if* they know... are they a client? <grin>.... if so hehe I wouldn't think there is a worry that her 'other' source of income would come out... as most clients, in my experience anyway.. are either married or otherwise partnered so... ;)

[1963Kennedy 10698]

Many police departments have very good female officers whose primary duty is looking after sex workers. A simple call to the police to see if they have such would be best way to go. There have been threads here giving names of officers but these are old now and not up to date. Hopefully one of the ladies will jump in here with more info.

Q: is the driver suing?

[nntsci 11076]

Unless there is a *need* to disclose that.... why would she? don't ask.. don't tell.. works just fine I would think. In an autopac claim, I wouldn't think that would have to come into play anyway. If she's asked about her source of income, be smart.. just mention the legit one..... <shrug>..

or is she looking at suing the driver of the car she was a passenger in..? assuming they know of her 'other' job.... that may put a bit of a not-so-nice kink in the works..... and *if* they know... are they a client? <grin>.... if so hehe I wouldn't think there is a worry that her 'other' source of income would come out... as most clients, in my experience anyway.. are either married or otherwise partnered so... ;)

the difficulty is its her only source of income... she's a student... so she's worried about her loss of income

[Guest st*****ens**ors]

If demonstrating loss of income is necessary for the law suit I can see how it might pose difficulty. Just as someone who is self-employed, negotiating disability insurance policies can be tricky. I think her best option is legal counsel. Client confidentiality protects her then.

[nntsci 11076]

If demonstrating loss of income is necessary for the law suit I can see how it might pose difficulty. Just as someone who is self-employed, negotiating disability insurance policies can be tricky. I think her best option is legal counsel. Client confidentiality protects her then.

 

Thanks. I'll encourage her to seek legal council.

[minuteman06 519]

New question: Let's say your having an awesome time with this lovely lady and you stop and think to yourself, I wonder if she would entertain extending my visit! Now before anyone answers let's make a couple of assumptions. First, you happen to be with someone who does not book back to back appointments, two, you brought with you extra donation so no one thinks extra time is free. So the question is how do you even bring this topic up or is this a huge no no. If the answer is yes then how do you add the extra donation to your envelope without feeling/looking awkward and just whiping out your wallet and fumbling around with bills. If this is a major no no then please don't lambast me, just a simple question from a newbie, I have huge respect for the ladies and their time! Thanks

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

You can bring it up during "down" time and have the extra cash already in an unsealed envelope. Excuse yourself to the washroom so she can count and put the money away. Also perhaps mention before you arrive you may be able to extend so she knows...because even if she's not a back to back chick she may have other plans. Example..i'm not back to back but often i have a doggie sitter and would have to let them know the the date maybe extended.

[Maria Divina 2262]

I just read this entire thread.

Really amazing.

[0000 1845]

This sounds fun.

I'm personally into female domination, particularly involving feet. I enjoy things like trampling, being kicked etc.

 

Is this a common request among clients? If you did get this request how would you personally respond to it?

 

I've met some women who are really turned off by it, because they dislike inflicting any kind of pain on others, even if the sub enjoys it :)

[Guest]

This sounds fun.

I'm personally into female domination, particularly involving feet. I enjoy things like trampling, being kicked etc.

 

Is this a common request among clients? If you did get this request how would you personally respond to it?

 

I've met some women who are really turned off by it, because they dislike inflicting any kind of pain on others, even if the sub enjoys it :)

 

I don't feel authentic when I provide dom service. Being freaked out about hurting anyone makes me think that providing this will be a disservice to the client. With that being said, there's many layers to being a dom and I don't mind doing pet training, being a brat, edging and some of the light stuff. So, it's always best to have a conversation about your expectations before meeting with your companion of choice, especially for fetish/dom. She may or may not provide select services. A good indication that a lady will provide a dom service is that she advertises that she does.

 

Why does it freak me out? I don't know, it just does and people can pick up on when your not going all the way with something....so not for me.

 

I hope that helps.

[capitalCforcougar 16766]

This sounds fun.

I'm personally into female domination, particularly involving feet. I enjoy things like trampling, being kicked etc. Is this a common request among clients? If you did get this request how would you personally respond to it?

 

I've met some women who are really turned off by it, because they dislike inflicting any kind of pain on others, even if the sub enjoys it :)

 

Speaking from my Domme side <grin>....and one with quite accomplished feet/legs insofar as this sort.of thing goes.....Myself perrrrsonally I do have a number of clients who see me for such things.... and quite a lovely reputation on a widely known fetish website ;)

 

I am much more a sensual creature than 'mean'... so my sessions. ..although tailored to exactly.what the client requires/desires... *have* to have an element.of me.in them....so that I to, enjoy myself.... fun all the way around, no matter the scene ;)

 

I have 'topped' (provided something for the sake.of providing it) and find if it isn't something *i* enjoy....there's no point...disservice to the client, which is not.something I'm comfortable.with ;)

 

.....and there isn't much I'm not comfortable with <grin>

[Maria Divina 2262]

I am very renown for my sympatical behaviors and my gentle sides.

 

But, as everyone may have, I do have a little more hidden part, and with the right person, I will be open to explore some of his fantasies/or even, try to initiate him to some if he asked me for. The important for me is to be in total connivance before any kind of play, even more if we are talking about BDSM type of exchanges, foot fetish/other fetishes included.

 

It gaves some strange situations sometimes: by example, someone told me that I was too much smiling when I was strongly dominating him. I was just having fun and enjoying the moment, I just can't refrain to smile then. I know, that's not the typical Mistress mean attitude, but it's mine, what can I say? :)

So, that's why I don't advertise for that, people are having preconceptions, and I don't want to act/hide things when I am supposed to be the one in control, -in apparence- ;)

 

The pleasure that my partner might show to have is so incredibly arousing and satisfying. Should it be by any ways he gets it. True subs (not the wannabe subs) are incredible creatures fun to play with ;)

And I don't have that much requests from them, and that's really good to have, from time to time, possibilities to try different avenues to make an interesting change in my encounters.

 

I think, when you are contacting a lady, that you should always ask her about the possibilities to share a fetish before your will be sharing your encounter with her. It's much better to not be shy and ask beforehand about it than to place her in front of a possible eventual inconfortable situation.

[0000 1845]

I am very renown for my sympatical behaviors and my gentle sides.

 

But, as everyone may have, I do have a little more hidden part, and with the right person, I will be open to explore some of his fantasies/or even, try to initiate him to some if he asked me for. The important for me is to be in total connivance before any kind of play, even more if we are talking about BDSM type of exchanges, foot fetish/other fetishes included.

 

It gaves some strange situations sometimes: by example, someone told me that I was too much smiling when I was strongly dominating him. I was just having fun and enjoying the moment, I just can't refrain to smile then. I know, that's not the typical Mistress mean attitude, but it's mine, what can I say? :)

So, that's why I don't advertise for that, people are having preconceptions, and I don't want to act/hide things when I am supposed to be the one in control, -in apparence- ;)

 

The pleasure that my partner might show to have is so incredibly arousing and satisfying. Should it be by any ways he gets it. True subs (not the wannabe subs) are incredible creatures fun to play with ;)

And I don't have that much requests from them, and that's really good to have, from time to time, possibilities to try different avenues to make an interesting change in my encounters.

 

I think, when you are contacting a lady, that you should always ask her about the possibilities to share a fetish before your will be sharing your encounter with her. It's much better to not be shy and ask beforehand about it than to place her in front of a possible eventual inconfortable situation.

 

Yeah I get that, there certainly is that stereotype of the strong, mean dominant, and the weak/joyless submissive.

 

I used to watch a lot of porn, something I'm still trying to get under control, and there is a particularly popular website that deals a lot with kink and bdsm. I have only ever seen one video from this website where both the dominant and the sub looked like they were having a fun time.

It's something I would like to see more often because I think it portrays the bdsm culture in a much more honest and accessible way.

 

I guess i'm just more into the physical aspect of dominance and submission and not so much the psychological side, I never did enjoy verbal humiliation for example.