Guest S****r Report post Posted February 16, 2014 The men on cerb are obviously the most knowledgable about the world of escorting, especially compared to our esteemed government; however, I am sure there are still some things about escorting that you have wanted to know, but were afraid to ask. Well... here is your chance to ask! Ask away! Can't wait to read your questions! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bmoc_68 130 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Why did you get into escorting in the first place? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Why did you get into escorting in the first place? First-thank you Summer such a great thread:) I got into escorting because I wanted to do what some had accused me of doing,(which I wasn't at the time) because it was said to be wrong/taboo( I am a rebel) and I also wanted a quick way to earn some quick cash-at that time. Now I do it because it's fun, I truly enjoy the freedoms it has allowed me, the confidence it has taught me, the inner strength I have gained from it's ups and downs and I like dating without commitment and having great sex often;) It's also a good source of extra income. Win win. 13 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What is the best thing about being an SP? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jafo105 39057 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 It is bound to happen... How do you react when a client says he loves you? [awkward] Will you see that client again? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lexy Grace 103697 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 The "L" word!! I smile and continue whatever may be going on. I find it is usually a slip of the tongue and they either continue or apologize and that is that. I will see them again. In the case of someone saying the "L" word and becomes stalkerish, infactuated and crosses the boundries, I will decline any further contact and encounters with them. 14 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What is the best thing about being an SP? For me is the freedom I have. I have had other jobs, been self-employed in other facets, but this one I excel in:) I am able to be creative, be the " sensual giver" I am naturally. I care about my business, the industry and my clients! I have had a great day when I know I have boosted someone's self esteem, confidence and they leave feeling happy! 16 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do you like least about being an escort? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do you like least about being an escort? For me is the stigma that surrounds it. Although I have become rather outspoken about my profession, it is difficult to make new friends. I am fortunate now, as I have an incredible relationship, but before he came along I really did not like to date, was too tricky to have a double life, or to be honest to my date in fear he would use it against me if we fought, etc...so lack of intimacy tends to be there. 12 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123367 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do you like least about being an escort? A few things for me...guys that don't come showered and sparkling clean. People that play games with us..example: booking and no showing. People that think we are all on drugs...AND last but not least ..dick pics...lol 21 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 A few things for me...guys that don't come showered and sparkling clean. People that play games with us..example: booking and no showing. People that think we are all on drugs...AND last but not least ..dick pics...lol Emma... in regards to the Dick pictures... is the problem... not enough... or just wrong ones lolol... just kidding. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do you like least about being an escort? [/quote As Emma said -the games some play. For me it's also the gossip and jealousy between some, some who think they have to compete, cancellations, men that won't read websites, the general public's misunderstandings of most sp's/the profession, the endless amount of callers who insist on blocking their number/numbers. But at the end of each day I work I can sit back and reminisce about the sexy clients/client I was lucky enough to meet that day;) 8 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss S. Lane 67128 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do you like least about being an escort? Having to lie about what I do and where I am to members of my family and other people in my life and community, and the fact that the ones who DO know have to uphold that lie also :( I guess this goes back to judgements that are placed on other people, as that's the whole reason for the lies... Sigh. 18 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest c**io**m7 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Sex is a very intimate activity. Some hobbyists prefer to have a "regular" lady as the connection can build and make for an even more intimate experience. How do you, as escorts, shield yourself from an emotional attachment and remain only business? I know this is a very personal question and no-one will be insulted if you prefer not to answer. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 (edited) Having to lie about what I do and where I am to members of my family and other people in my life and community, and the fact that the ones who DO know have to uphold that lie also :( I guess this goes back to judgements that are placed on other people, as that's the whole reason for the lies... Sigh. I can certainly understand how you feel about being dishonest with people you care about... Clients and SPs are often required to do it and I think we do it for good reasons not to hurt others but if you are an honest person thus culture of dishonesty does affect you. Thanks for sharing Edited February 16, 2014 by Ice4fun 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
muncher459 1040 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Sex is a very intimate activity. Some hobbyists prefer to have a "regular" lady as the connection can build and make for an even more intimate experience. How do you, as escorts, shield yourself from an emotional attachment and remain only business? I know this is a very personal question and no-one will be insulted if you prefer not to answer. I echo this question....but would also like to take it one step further....does this "attachement" ever result in the urge to take the intimacy further than is professionally prudent. Thanks to the OP for such a great thread, I have often wished there was an anonymous advice function where anyone could put forward those queries or thoughts that normally get one stoned and exiled from the community.....discretion and etiquette are a must but sometimes definitely can result in a feeling of WTF do I do now feeling. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 I echo this question....but would also like to take it one step further....does this "attachement" ever result in the urge to take the intimacy further than is professionally prudent. Thanks to the OP for such a great thread, I have often wished there was an anonymous advice function where anyone could put forward those queries or thoughts that normally get one stoned and exiled from the community.....discretion and etiquette are a must but sometimes definitely can result in a feeling of WTF do I do now feeling. I think it comes with experience. In the beginning an Escort may have a hard time to separate. For instance: as a dog groomer, I would genuinely become attached to some of my clients dogs, but I would not take them home with me. Although is not intimate affection of course, but still at times I knew a dog would be better off in my care then the actual owner especially in cases of elderly dogs and the uncaring owner:( More closer to the escorting aspect...when I was an agency girl, I would always have clients telling me " call me with your own number" instead of going threw your agent. Well, sounds like a nice offer? NO!! Cause once they do that, the fist time they pay the expected rate, then next time they say" ohh well you don't have to pay your agency fee, so how about 50 off? Then the next time it is " o about I just pay 100" before you know it your seeing him for FREE!! So if you do this every time you think someone is sincere about you, then at the end of the month your rent is not getting paid! As I started, this comes with experience. It takes a lot of soul searching and to know right away that this is a lively hood. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Sex is a very intimate activity. Some hobbyists prefer to have a "regular" lady as the connection can build and make for an even more intimate experience. How do you, as escorts, shield yourself from an emotional attachment and remain only business? I know this is a very personal question and no-one will be insulted if you prefer not to answer. I love this thread:) I don't need to shield myself from emotional attachment as it just isn't possible. I'm not sure why or how, it's just the way it is. I do this because I love having sex with strange men, lol, men that I don't know well I mean;) If I became emotionally attached that would stop and so would my desire. I guess that's why I can honestly do this without acting, being unscripted. I have had men that I prefer over others, that have been very hot encounters but the excitement of meeting a "new" man is just as hot. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss S. Lane 67128 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Sex is a very intimate activity. Some hobbyists prefer to have a "regular" lady as the connection can build and make for an even more intimate experience. How do you, as escorts, shield yourself from an emotional attachment and remain only business? I know this is a very personal question and no-one will be insulted if you prefer not to answer. It is a very fine line and one that must always be re-defined and re-established. For myself personally, I prefer to get to know my clients on a deeper level. I encourage conversation and sharing prior to appointments and continued communication after the fact. For me, this deeper connection improves the time we spend together for me as much as for them. As humans, we have emotions. And I have learned over the years that human connection and emotions are something that I require. I have also learned not to let emotions control me. I feel what I feel, but I always keep things in perspective. This is just what works for me :) 12 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LDBF123 675 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 I love this thread:)I don't need to shield myself from emotional attachment as it just isn't possible. I'm not sure why or how, it's just the way it is. I do this because I love having sex with strange men, lol, men that I don't know well I mean;) If I became emotionally attached that would stop and so would my desire. I guess that's why I can honestly do this without acting, being unscripted. I have had men that I prefer over others, that have been very hot encounters but the excitement of meeting a "new" man is just as hot. I'm torn by reading your comments - simple reason is I've met a girl in the business and we've stopped being client and provider and I truly believe I am in "L" with this woman. I fear you are right as she has been unable to reciprocate and use the dreaded word in reply...maybe I need to heed your words and deal with the heart ache now. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 I'm torn by reading your comments - simple reason is I've met a girl in the business and we've stopped being client and provider and I truly believe I am in "L" with this woman. I fear you are right as she has been unable to reciprocate and use the dreaded word in reply...maybe I need to heed your words and deal with the heart ache now. LDBF123-my words describe only me-everyone is different. The only person who knows how your girl feels is your girl. If you've asked her if she loves you and she hasn't replied, perhaps she is still undecided, if she answers no well then time to move on. But ask, and accept her answer. Love is wonderful, it can happen with anyone in any vocation. If you have to move on fear not it will happen when and where it's supposed to, most likely when you're not looking. Hugs 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss S. Lane 67128 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 LDBF123, I'm going to direct you to a thread I wrote a while back. While I do know that SP's and clients sometimes do transcend the boundaries and develop successful relationships, I would hope you explore the idea behind this other thread, and keep the lines of communication with the sp you speak of WIDE open :) Good luck! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=462048&postcount=14 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Another question. How did you feel after your first time as an SP? I'm guessing somewhat exciting, but of course everyone is different. I would love to hear back on this question! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss S. Lane 67128 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Another question. How did you feel after your first time as an SP? I'm guessing somewhat exciting, but of course everyone is different. I would love to hear back on this question! I'm guessing you mean after the first "date" as an SP?! For me, it was exhilarating!!! There was so much excitement and nerves leading up to it. It was such a relief to have the first time under my belt. I felt incredibly confident and surprisingly relaxed :) I thought to myself... What's next? Bring it on! 11 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Another question. How did you feel after your first time as an SP? I'm guessing somewhat exciting, but of course everyone is different. I would love to hear back on this question! Dirty, embarrassed and ashamed. I felt I had let down my family and myself by doing this, even though it was out of rebellion towards them I had begun in this profession, one of the reasons anyways. Boy have things changed:)Now, it's I can't wait to do it again;) 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
