Guest Prufrock Cummings Report post Posted March 15, 2016 I'm curious to hear what the average time for a request for a meeting is? Is the norm, "I need you now" or in 3 hours or a day or two? Also curious if there are any funny stories that might arise from this question. Thanks ladies! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted March 15, 2016 I can see you now. I'm close by. Never met him, doesn't know where I am located. Told him, sure you can go to my place, but I'm not there. There are so many that say "want to see you at 1pm". I'm like, 1pm doesn't work, but does 1:15? Then they say - too late. Then at 1:30, they contact you again, and say, can I see you now? To which i reply sorry, but I can see you at 3pm. They then reply that its too late - or they say nothing. Then at 2:55, they say "so, where do I go?". I'm like, sorry, but you didn't make an appointment, so I am no longer available. 9/10, they then contact you well after your scheduled hours, and say "I want to see you now". I stop replying. I've explained that I require advance notice. I share an incall with other ladies, don't live at my incall, and have a life. My favorite ones are those that contact me in advance. Tell me when they will be in town. What time frame they want to see me. How long they would like to see me for. The day before, they confirm the date and time. The day of, they confirm they are still looking forward to seeing me. Then right on time, they call to get the final location details. Show up on time, follow my procedures, bring a small gift, leave a tip and amaze me. Then they follow up after to let me know they had an amazing time. Those are my most favorite encounters. Its not the gift, or the tip. Its following my directions and not assuming anything. 11 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Prufrock Cummings Report post Posted March 20, 2016 Wow, sorry to hear that Meaghan! I had hoped to hear some feedback with some quirky/funny stories in response to my question. I'm sorry to hear that things suck all the time :( Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Prufrock Cummings Report post Posted March 20, 2016 Prufrock' date=' I wrote a blog post about this very specific topic called : "Fast Food For S-e-x". If you want you can read it by following this link: https://helenadorville.wordpress.com/2016/03/07/fast-food-for-sex/[/quote'] Thank you for passing that along Helena. I have to say, I'm kind of sad to read that; I'm sorry to hear that people act that way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Midnite-Energies 110563 Report post Posted March 20, 2016 The truth is there is a lot of not so good behavior, disrespect, loss of logic and common sense etc. that is dealt with regularly. Most ladies do their very best to put the information out there about their availability, time needed, pre-booking etc because that is what works within the life of that person. It's frustrating when others think it's just random BS and useless info. This is why you will see so many vents and, on the flip side, so much happy when what it written and put out there is read, listened to enjoyed. It's the simple things that sometime matter the most, it shouldn't be as difficult as it is. But there is someone for everyone so those who bother one side, are probably great for another. I sometimes wonder what the positive threads would look like from those who enjoy the "fast food" approach. Rarely hear from them. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
50 Shades Raven 31380 Report post Posted March 20, 2016 I'm curious to hear what the average time for a request for a meeting is? Is the norm, "I need you now" or in 3 hours or a day or two? Also curious if there are any funny stories that might arise from this question. Thanks ladies! The amount of stories that I could tell you in answer to this question could fill two forums. The most requested time for a meeting is the 'now' appointment. This fails in two ways. 1. you don't know where I am located exactly, so unless you are standing directly outside of my door and I happen to not have another appointment, chances are very slim that I will be seeing you. 2. there is life outside of this (for me anyway). I may be at my location, or I may not be. The next most annoying thing for booking is when we receive a polite 'when are you available', yet when we state what times we have, they are not suitable for the person asking. They then respond with 'too late/early for me', 'that's not suitable', etc. As Meaghan states, sometimes its only a 15 minute time period from when they asked, but it's 'too late', then they ask 20 minutes later than that if they can come now. Frustrating as hell. We set up our times as we are available. When you ask for our availability, we usually give you 2-3 times in the period you are looking for, this way it is a fit between both parties. I find it virtually impossible for a provider to be available 24/7. We need sleep, nutrition, hygiene. These take time. Going back to back with clients requires a changing of linens, showering, freshening up hair/make-up, straightening up the area. I absolutely cringe at the thought of any provider that does not do this, hopefully they are few and far between. Being called out as a whore/slut/money grabber just because you were refused an appointment. My ads were enticing enough to grab your attention, but because timing doesn't work between us, you choose to degrade and belittle. Buddy, you are the one that called me, not the other way way around! That has to be the worst of this business. There are always going to be stories of disgust in this business, but I have to say that most appointments that are carried out are done so by gentlemen that take the time to introduce themselves, read the website, and conduct themselves with manners. Those appointments are welcomed and cherished, and will make me smile from ear to ear. Those are the type of appointments that I will go out of my way to accommodate. When I reply to an ad (no matter what it is for), I do my best to let the person know that I am interested, and ask for their direction on how to proceed. Why is it that when it comes to a service such as this, that common courtesy seems to go right out the window? One liner texts or sexting to get off. An absolute no-brainer here, you never hear from me or see me. Same goes with phone calls that are endless questions while you listen to my voice while 'helping yourself' as you look at my pictures. I am not here for that. Nor do I send pictures by text. there are plenty on my website, if that doesn't give you an idea of what I am all about, a picture today isn't going to do anything. Stories from providers could make you laugh, cry, both. There are many, and I am sure I am not the only one in this boat. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Prufrock Cummings Report post Posted March 21, 2016 The amount of stories that I could tell you in answer to this question could fill two forums. The most requested time for a meeting is the 'now' appointment. This fails in two ways. 1. you don't know where I am located exactly, so unless you are standing directly outside of my door and I happen to not have another appointment, chances are very slim that I will be seeing you. 2. there is life outside of this (for me anyway). I may be at my location, or I may not be. The next most annoying thing for booking is when we receive a polite 'when are you available', yet when we state what times we have, they are not suitable for the person asking. They then respond with 'too late/early for me', 'that's not suitable', etc. As Meaghan states, sometimes its only a 15 minute time period from when they asked, but it's 'too late', then they ask 20 minutes later than that if they can come now. Frustrating as hell. We set up our times as we are available. When you ask for our availability, we usually give you 2-3 times in the period you are looking for, this way it is a fit between both parties. I find it virtually impossible for a provider to be available 24/7. We need sleep, nutrition, hygiene. These take time. Going back to back with clients requires a changing of linens, showering, freshening up hair/make-up, straightening up the area. I absolutely cringe at the thought of any provider that does not do this, hopefully they are few and far between. Being called out as a whore/slut/money grabber just because you were refused an appointment. My ads were enticing enough to grab your attention, but because timing doesn't work between us, you choose to degrade and belittle. Buddy, you are the one that called me, not the other way way around! That has to be the worst of this business. There are always going to be stories of disgust in this business, but I have to say that most appointments that are carried out are done so by gentlemen that take the time to introduce themselves, read the website, and conduct themselves with manners. Those appointments are welcomed and cherished, and will make me smile from ear to ear. Those are the type of appointments that I will go out of my way to accommodate. When I reply to an ad (no matter what it is for), I do my best to let the person know that I am interested, and ask for their direction on how to proceed. Why is it that when it comes to a service such as this, that common courtesy seems to go right out the window? One liner texts or sexting to get off. An absolute no-brainer here, you never hear from me or see me. Same goes with phone calls that are endless questions while you listen to my voice while 'helping yourself' as you look at my pictures. I am not here for that. Nor do I send pictures by text. there are plenty on my website, if that doesn't give you an idea of what I am all about, a picture today isn't going to do anything. Stories from providers could make you laugh, cry, both. There are many, and I am sure I am not the only one in this boat. I'm really sorry to hear all of this. I must apologize if my question seemed flippant when I asked it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mikeyboy 27134 Report post Posted March 21, 2016 I'm afraid I am guilty on occasion of the short notice request. My job is of the sort where occasionally I wind up with a free afternoon without any advance notice. I'm always careful to phrase it as a non presumptuous request. I'll usually even start with something like "Sorry for the short notice but by any chance....". I've always felt that it was better to ask politely than to assume a no. She may in fact actually be available. So my question is, in light of the preceding posts, is this wrong? Is it still offensive to some or should I continue to ask politely? I know in many situations in life, it is not that you asked but how you asked. Is this one of those cases? 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Helena D'Orville 33237 Report post Posted March 21, 2016 There is nothing wrong with the way you do it MickeyBoy. Asking politely a lady, acknowledging that it is a short notice and that she might be able or not to accommodate you. The real issue is more when someone wants to see you "now" as a "now or nothing" and they keep acting this way even if you tell them that you need that amount of time to get ready. For some ladies it can be within minutes, and for others it can be hours or days. Politeness is always the way to go, so all is fine ;-) 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Victoria Phoenix 3403 Report post Posted March 21, 2016 Politeness is Key when requesting a time, or for that matter any questions! I myself request 3-4 hours notice for an appt, when touring or advanced booking.When I am at home 2 hours minimum- again all ladies are different, as previously mentioned- this is my protocol,, hope it helps :) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted March 22, 2016 I do not live at my incall, and I only go to the incall if or when I have a date booked. That means I need to drive to the apartment, shower, dress sexily, do makeup, hair, etc. In other words, I do not sit around in sexy lingerie eating Bon bons and waiting for the phone to ring, so you really do need to book a day ahead. On the weekend I had a request for an appointment. I informed him that I would need some advance notice. He responded, "well I didn't mean right now. I meant like in an hour! " I responded that I could not meet that soon either, and he said "you need more notice than one hour?! "I answered yes and he immediately responded, "well that's ridiculous!" And hung up on me. Yeah--pretty rude, eh? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253377 Report post Posted March 22, 2016 I'm curious to hear what the average time for a request for a meeting is? Is the norm, "I need you now" or in 3 hours or a day or two? Also curious if there are any funny stories that might arise from this question. Thanks ladies! Some emails I get will usually say something like "r u free" or avail now? I decline all of that. I state I require advance notice - pre booking and that I DONT accept same day requests (if you can't read the ad or respect my policies, i don't wish to spend time with you). The best encounters are those planned well in advance where you can get to know each other - you can't rush chemistry. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted April 5, 2016 I'm curious to see if any ladies out here wears lingerie most part of the day? I have seen some ladies posting that they will receive you in lingerie, I appreciate that very much, so does it happen that you will wear lingerie in the house/apartment/room while you are waiting for a gentleman to call/show? Will you wear it and cook/clean/watch TV etc...? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Genevieve Marceau 68000 Report post Posted April 5, 2016 I'm curious to see if any ladies out here wears lingerie most part of the day? I have seen some ladies posting that they will receive you in lingerie, I appreciate that very much, so does it happen that you will wear lingerie in the house/apartment/room while you are waiting for a gentleman to call/show? Will you wear it and cook/clean/watch TV etc...? At the price I pay my lingerie, you can be sure I only take it out on special occasions ;b Also, my garments must be hand-washed so I don't want to give myself the trouble, unless it is for a gent. I would not take a chance to damage my precious silk and lace with cooking oil or harsh house cleaning products. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123368 Report post Posted April 5, 2016 I'm curious to see if any ladies out here wears lingerie most part of the day? I have seen some ladies posting that they will receive you in lingerie, I appreciate that very much, so does it happen that you will wear lingerie in the house/apartment/room while you are waiting for a gentleman to call/show? Will you wear it and cook/clean/watch TV etc...? If I want to feel sexy I'll wear it under my clothes. When i am working its always on under what i'm wearing. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted April 7, 2016 I'm curious to hear what the average time for a request for a meeting is? Is the norm, "I need you now" or in 3 hours or a day or two? Also curious if there are any funny stories that might arise from this question. Thanks ladies! I request at least 1 hour for new clients if I'm not advertising that day while with regular clients I will extend them the courtesy of meeting them much sooner as they know the ins and outs and my protocol, etc. If I am advertising which hasn't been much lately and can accommodate their time frame, I can meet in 30 minutes. I have some regulars who want to stop by last minute so if I'm not busy and at my location, I can see them on very short notice. I don't like booking days in advance because something always comes up so I prefer within the hour or two. For those who do like to book in advance, I get them to text the day of the appt. If I don't hear back at the time requested, I go about my day and book with someone else. Additional Comments: I'm curious to see if any ladies out here wears lingerie most part of the day? I have seen some ladies posting that they will receive you in lingerie, I appreciate that very much, so does it happen that you will wear lingerie in the house/apartment/room while you are waiting for a gentleman to call/show? Will you wear it and cook/clean/watch TV etc...? Most of my time is spent working on another business, cleaning, laundry, working out and being out and about. I am always in yoga pants/jeans and a t-shirt. I don't sit around in lingerie all day. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted April 7, 2016 I'm curious to see if any ladies out here wears lingerie most part of the day? I have seen some ladies posting that they will receive you in lingerie, I appreciate that very much, so does it happen that you will wear lingerie in the house/apartment/room while you are waiting for a gentleman to call/show? Will you wear it and cook/clean/watch TV etc...? I do receive clients in lingerie almost always, unless they request otherwise. But once a client leaves, I leave, too, and go home to my family, where I most definitely do not sit around in lingerie. lol THAT would be really wierd. Hahaha! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bully 383 Report post Posted April 12, 2016 I've enjoyed this insightful thread. A question, I've read the term guys, clients to gentleman. The stories of negative interactions pepper the ladies stories throughout this site. I'm curious, when this term is used by the Ladies is it a term of acceptable behaviour by the man of their acceptable behaviour towards you and your sisters or is it used in the traditional meaning? Thanks for Sharing 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted April 13, 2016 I've enjoyed this insightful thread. A question, I've read the term guys, clients to gentleman. The stories of negative interactions pepper the ladies stories throughout this site. I'm curious, when this term is used by the Ladies is it a term of acceptable behaviour by the man of their acceptable behaviour towards you and your sisters or is it used in the traditional meaning? Thanks for Sharing I'm sorry. I don't quite understand your question. Could you perhaps rephrase ? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bully 383 Report post Posted April 13, 2016 Thanks Summer,when ladies refer to gentlemen in say the traditional sense, ie open doors, no swearing etc...or is the term used for a description of a man who supportive,non judgemental or apparently in some cases not hostile with Ladies. I suppose ,those men that approach(with respect) the Lady in a mutually beneficial meeting.And Summer I just noticed, great thread... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda-Lee 11094 Report post Posted April 13, 2016 When gentleman contact me, they need to be respectful but also ask those hard questions in a respectful manor. Being demanding and rude off the bat doesn't get someone anywhere. I'll admit, I am not afraid to drop the F bomb in conversation, I do but in a context of what is being discussed vs swearing at someone. I say, "shit" in sentences sometimes but it's not offensive. For instance, "having a shitty day doesn't help either," it's not rude or anything, it's more or less agreeing that everyone has crappy days. Sometimes, I get clients who ask, "I don't want to offend you for saying something," or "I don't want to say it cause you may find it weird or offensive" it's usually something they feel no one else has ever asked before or just is unsure how I would react. Nothing surprises me anymore, no question is too weird, I can't be mad at someone for agreeing that they can ask me. Once they've said it they feel much more at ease. I've had clients walk in, the bad-ass personality, swears and is really laid back. I don't find it offensive because of the context of the conversation. So, I also talk in their language. (swearing mid-sentences and such) It doesn't bother me. However, if someone is degrading me or saying rude things, that is very different and is offensive. Ideally, when a client first contacts me, I expect manors and for them to at least respond to my friendly message back. (Some messages are borderline rude, so I write back borderline rude but in a nice way, to see how they respond.) Rude, degrading message are an automatic red flag and if they've contacted me more than 3 times with the same type of messages, they are placed in my spam folder. Yes, I give those types of people a chance to change how they approach, if they can't understand by the 3rd or 4th time they contact, they have no business to spend time with a sweet, sensual, kind and caring lady (me). I hope this answers your question. I know other ladies will respond differently than me, what I said is my opinion and how I view it deal with it. Thanks Summer,when ladies refer to gentlemen in say the traditional sense, ie open doors, no swearing etc...or is the term used for a description of a man who supportive,non judgemental or apparently in some cases not hostile with Ladies. I suppose ,approach the meeting with respect to the Lady. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bully 383 Report post Posted April 13, 2016 Thanks for sharing Amanda. You clearly answered my awkwardly worded question. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Charlotte Edwards 8590 Report post Posted April 13, 2016 I'm curious to see if any ladies out here wears lingerie most part of the day? I have seen some ladies posting that they will receive you in lingerie, I appreciate that very much, so does it happen that you will wear lingerie in the house/apartment/room while you are waiting for a gentleman to call/show? Will you wear it and cook/clean/watch TV etc...? Honestly no. Nice lingerie is for wearing for an appointment only. I do not sit around in it risking any possible sweat or wear. I'm I'm waiting I'm comfortably dressed or in a robe in between and get dressed after I shower right before an appointment. Remember a lot of this beautiful lingerie is not really comfy or breathable either. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollhay 1215 Report post Posted April 22, 2016 Some ladies seem to prefer not to kiss.I am disappointed when this happens . So I wonder what it means. Is it like a ymmv thing? Is it too personal? I don't THINK its my hygiene as some ladies have seemed to enjoy the kisses we have shared. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Manluvsex 13731 Report post Posted April 22, 2016 (edited) http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=227437&highlight=kissing This thread discusses kissing, and there others on this lippy subject. Edited April 22, 2016 by Manluvsex Correction to spelling. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites