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[CristyCurves 169032]

From my experiences, a very large number of women that try out escorting don't do it for very long. Most of the ladies kind enough to respond in this thread have stayed in this business for much longer than average. What do you think has made you different that you can sustain a longer career in what can be a very tough business?

 

I'm not sure what the average is, but I've been in and out of this business a number of times over the years. Why, because I can. I am the type that lives day to day with out much future planning and that's how I like it. When I get bored, get into a relationship, or for any other reason I quit and move on. But it and myself are obviously very compatible as I keep coming back. My re-entry this time, since joining cerb will be 3 yrs in June. Personally I don't find it a tough business and to maintain any type of success in it , like anything you just have to like it.

 

Additional Comments:

Like most small independent business people I would assume, perhaps incorrectly, that most SP's don't have health or dental insurance and when you can't work there is no income. How do you manage this?

You assume correctly. I do this part time and rather sporadically, by appointment and not by any set schedule. I'm lucky as I don't need my providing income to sustain myself, it's income is "extra" money. So if and when there is none I'm fine:)

[emiafish 30979]

How often do you get requests for costumes or roll playing?

[Lexy Grace 103697]

How often do you get requests for costumes or roll playing?

 

I would have to say almost daily or at minimum 3-4 times a week. Addition: 9 times out 10 most are not serious and result in wasted time but the ones that are either buy the outfits if it's something I don't have as a gift, so I don't lose money if I was to never wear it again but that is usually not the case.

When the request is serious and an encounter is booked and happens, it is always quite fun and exciting.

 

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

How often do you get requests for costumes or roll playing?

 

Rarely for me. I do love costumes but I won't go out and buy one unless I know I can wear it more then once.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Ladies, as Hobbyist and Gentleman for some, I know we do have an advantage on you as we can see your pics prior to our 'rendez-vous'. We know what you look like and what we can expect at the door... In a way we can pick and choose... You don't see us, just a few emails and then, voila! Here we are... Have you ever been turned off by a hobbyist look, attitude, and behaviour? And if so, how did you pull through the time with that person?

 

Just saying! (In this case asking! lol)

 

I don't use email as a contact method because it's just 'too available' for anyone to use and a way to hide behind something.

 

I always ask people who want to see me to call me even if they initially text. Psychic abiilities run in my family and I have a very strong intuiiton and sixth sense. I am very good at reading people, their body language and their voice.

 

I know within 30 seconds in a phone conversation if I want to meet them or not. I base it on their tone of voice, how they speak to me and the questions they ask. If I don't like what I'm hearing, it's a no go. And I've also had those big bells go off and I listen to them. No exceptions.

 

When they show up, at that point I am reading their body language and if they can't make eye contact or acting in a weird manner, I know they have something to hide. If something is making me feel uncomfortable and I can't put my finger on it, I will ask them to leave. It hasn't happened often.

 

There are some people I haven't clicked with and wouldn't see again but they didn't make me feel so uncomfortable or felt as though I were in danger that I had to cancel the appt. I am pretty good at adapting to people so I just go with it and be professional.

 

I don't judge on looks. Politeness, cleanliness and respect towards me goes a long way. I deal with many different personalities, fully accepting this and can adapt to it well while still being able to offer a nice encounter. If someone lies there like a dead fish or isn't interactive ( sometimes they just want to relax which I understand), I make the best of it.

 

If someone is pushy or rude/disprespectful in certain ways like using rude language towards or doing something I don't like, I warn them. If it gets worse, I tell them it's not working out and ask them to leave. This is rare because I usually can tell over the phone beforehand esp with the type of questions where services are concerned such as the laundry list of acronyms. When people are rude or don't respect women in general, it often shows up indirectly in the phone conversation. I am very good at picking up on those things.

 

I am a nice person and I have a lot of patience so someone would have to really do something incredibly wrong on their part for me to get very upset. I'm assertive but not in a threatening way yet I don't tolerate bullshit or allow someone to disrespect me. If a person no shows me or acts nonchlalant like my time isn't worth anything, I will make sure not to bother with them again. Act like a gentleman and there are no problems. If a person has done something and crossed the line, there is no going back even if an apology is issued. Their true colors have already been shown. I don't give second chances. It's ultimately their loss.

[piano8950 32577]

What has been the most surprising thing you've learned or done after being an SP?

[CristyCurves 169032]

What has been the most surprising thing you've learned or done after being an SP?

 

When I came to cerb I had just recently left a very bad relationship and prior to that I had been involved with running escort services. Not good times:( The people I'd dealt with then were deceitful, cruel, troublemakers. So my attitude wasn't the best. What I've learned since then is that men can be so wonderful, fun and exciting and so can some of the women in this business. That this business is fun and way better as an indie, not everyone has an agenda and you can get paid for sex and truly enjoy it-that's not a bad thing ;) I have also learned I have way more inner strength than even I realized:)

[Guest c**io**m7]

Again...still on my mobile so, if asked already: sorry.

 

How common is it, after a client leaves, to think "wow, that was someone I could see myself going out to dinner with." and then have him in your thoughts for the next few days? How do you stop yourself from pursuing him outside of work? Let's assume he does not have a SO.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Again...still on my mobile so, if asked already: sorry.

 

How common is it, after a client leaves, to think "wow, that was someone I could see myself going out to dinner with." and then have him in your thoughts for the next few days? How do you stop yourself from pursuing him outside of work? Let's assume he does not have a SO.

 

I take better care now choosing with whom I'll meet so I could see myself going out to dinner with many of my clients and have with some;). I've made a few mistakes-meeting with some who I shouldn't have as we just weren't compatible. But as far as pursuing any of them, NO. It wouldn't happen I'm just not interested in anything beyond this. However there have been some that I think about but those thoughts are just that I hope they will return again and again;)

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Again...still on my mobile so, if asked already: sorry.

 

How common is it, after a client leaves, to think "wow, that was someone I could see myself going out to dinner with." and then have him in your thoughts for the next few days? How do you stop yourself from pursuing him outside of work? Let's assume he does not have a SO.

 

 

Often when visiting Ottawa, I would have a session but then after I would ask if they would like to join me for lunch or supper. I hated to go out to eat alone, so luckily the gent's I spent time with were more then happy to join me for eats:)

You know who you are, so if your reading this post, Thanks for that!!

[kimmyxoxo 3362]

Again...still on my mobile so, if asked already: sorry.

 

How common is it, after a client leaves, to think "wow, that was someone I could see myself going out to dinner with." and then have him in your thoughts for the next few days? How do you stop yourself from pursuing him outside of work? Let's assume he does not have a SO.

Yeah this happens sometimes, when I experience a really strong connection with someone. It helps by keeping this life and my personal life separate and also my client's personal life separate. I prefer not to visit client's residences, and I wear separate lingerie, shoes and clothing for clients.

But I guess for me as a young woman I'm not looking to settle down with someone anytime soon, so I stay clear from actually dating ; )

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

One thing that surprised me is that many men involved in this industry are actually more giving and more skilled than those who are not. Many times it becomes a shared experience, which I love, and is much more exciting and fulfilling.

[Triple HHH 12345]

Question on reviews, at the beginning I was not comfortable in writing recommendations, the last few months that has changed a little, what's your opinion on makes a pleasant review for you?

[qwertyaccount 15793]

I'm more clueless than the average bear.

 

What does it mean when after a session an SP asks "Can I put your number in my phone"?

[Gentleman11 10508]

This is one of the most informative threads in the last while IMHO, thank you Summer. Two short questions:

 

1. In an earlier response one SP elluded to the fact that if a shower was offered and turned down it would limit activities. My preference on appointments is to go to the gym first, shower and get ready there and then proceed to an rendezvous and tell the lady that I've just come out of the shower, would this influence the lady's scope of activities one way or the other?

2. For the SP's, what is your preference in call, out call client hotel. Are client residences out-of-bounds as one lady recently state4d in this thread?

 

Thanks for the great exchanges here,

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I'm more clueless than the average bear.

 

What does it mean when after a session an SP asks "Can I put your number in my phone"?

 

Means she liked your company, and would like to know it is you when you call again. I do this all the time.

Sometimes, only clients that I have already met are the ones I choose to have visit my incall location, this way I know have met you, you were nice and welcomed back.

Some gent's will get upset if they are in your contact list with out permission. I never put the real name, I use nick names or cerb names only. Like " cool guy" or " book again" etc..

 

Additional Comments:

Question on reviews, at the beginning I was not comfortable in writing recommendations, the last few months that has changed a little, what's your opinion on makes a pleasant review for you?

 

 

I suggest you send a copy to the SP before posting it. You may have had a different experience with her then what she normally offers.

I like reviews that state more about my hostess skills, my location, the sent of my skin, the way I made you feel rather then intimate details of certain things we did.

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

I'm more clueless than the average bear.

 

What does it mean when after a session an SP asks "Can I put your number in my phone"?

 

For me it would mean that she wants to know its you that's calling or texting. It's a good thing. :icon_wink:

 

This is one of the most informative threads in the last while IMHO, thank you Summer. Two short questions:

 

1. In an earlier response one SP elluded to the fact that if a shower was offered and turned down it would limit activities. My preference on appointments is to go to the gym first, shower and get ready there and then proceed to an rendezvous and tell the lady that I've just come out of the shower, would this influence the lady's scope of activities one way or the other?

2. For the SP's, what is your preference in call, out call client hotel. Are client residences out-of-bounds as one lady recently state4d in this thread?

 

Thanks for the great exchanges here,

 

1-as long as your sparkling clean that's what matters. To me anyway.

 

2-I prefer in calls. I feel more comfortable. Out calls to a nice hotel are fine too but I won't be going to a motor inn. Yuck! Going to a clients home is a no no for me unless I know him well.

[Jay67 688]

What advice would you give to a client who is a virgin?

 

And If you meet a client who is a virgin, how would you go about relaxing him?

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

What advice would you give to a client who is a virgin?

 

And If you meet a client who is a virgin, how would you go about relaxing him?

 

First, don't put all your thoughts on the sex part. Allow yourself sometime to enjoy the company of a women. Start with a hot massage and let things happen naturally. It is the whole session that is the fun, not just the end, and maybe going all the way is not for you at this time.

Make sure you let your provider know in advance, so she is not taken by surprise. Also, if you think you may bleed, make sure you take precautions with your condom and keep a close eye on it!!!! Some will bleed, other's do not.

[jafo105 39057]

I am asking this as a gentleman who always respects a ladies boundaries.

 

For a paid encounter would you be open to:

 

• Going out to dinner or a movie
  
• Holding hands or walking arm in arm
  

 

I did this once with an escort once and it was a total rush! Something I would love to experience again.

 

OR

Do you prefer keeping things completely private and isolated at an in-call/out-call location?

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

I am asking this as a gentleman who always respects a ladies boundaries.

 

For a paid encounter would you be open to:

 

• Going out to dinner or a movie
  
• Holding hands or walking arm in arm
  

 

I did this once with an escort once and it was a total rush! Something I would love to experience again.

 

OR

Do you prefer keeping things completely private and isolated at an in-call/out-call location?

many of us have multi hour dates available. Some think this is for a sex a thon. It really isn't. It for such things as dinners,movies whatever you want to do. Holding hands, and PDA are of course included. What we decide to do on our multi hour date is up us..

[roamingguy 300292]

The topic of recommendations has been brought up before. But how important and valuable are they to the ladies. Do they really have a noticeable benefit for a ladies' business (yes intimate or not, I never lose sight of the fact that this is the lady's business and livelihood).

I've never been asked by a lady to write a recommendation after an encounter (mine come from the heart ;-) ) but when I do write one I am thanked for it.

I'm just wondering. I've written many deserved recommendations, I'm just curious how important they are to a lady's business.

A curious rambling question

 

RG

[CristyCurves 169032]

The topic of recommendations has been brought up before. But how important and valuable are they to the ladies. Do they really have a noticeable benefit for a ladies' business (yes intimate or not, I never lose sight of the fact that this is the lady's business and livelihood).

I've never been asked by a lady to write a recommendation after an encounter (mine come from the heart ;-) ) but when I do write one I am thanked for it.

I'm just wondering. I've written many deserved recommendations, I'm just curious how important they are to a lady's business.

A curious rambling question

 

RG

When I started out on cerb I mentioned to a few clients that if they wanted to write a reco I'd be fine with it, lol. I didn't realize that it was in bad taste to do such a thing! Live and learn;) I think they are as important as they are not. By that I mean, I think there are as many gentlemen that pay attention to them, choose because of them, as not.

Imo a return visit from a client is a better reward.

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

I have written a few recommendations for the ladies I have seen after consulting with them. I prefer to keep the intimate details private but I will word the recommendation in a specific way to put across the idea that I approve of the service that was provided.

[Ice4fun 78407]

Many guys love it but do you wonderful ladies enjoy it when a man (client or SO) Cums on your Face.

 

Secondly in your private collection of pictures do you have any with your face covered in cum (note... not asking you to share just if you have taken any).

 

Thanks for all the great answers