Do you read the....

[EmilyRushton 253372]

After alot of thought, reading and replying I am asking you....

 

 

When you are looking for a companion, Do You Read The Ad/Post in its entirety?

 

 

I have always wondered how you go about replying and some recent emails have made me ask. I guess the point of what I am asking is, Do you read the whole ad before replying? Do you just look at the pics? Do you take the time and view the website if directed to before replying? or do you just reply to 10 ads hoping one lady will reply quickly?

 

 

Very curious on your thoughts.....

 

Emily

[Cato 160314]

I always try to do my research thoroughly, Emily. It helps, rather than annoy the sp with random questions.

[APower20 400]

I read the ad in its entirety, and if the SP has a website available I will try to read the entire thing. I'm very selective, and will sometimes spend hours :oops: looking over photos, reviews, and information about the SP from her profile, advert, or website.

 

I know a lot of people older than myself tend to skim through text, and assume they get all the points made. They may get the gist of what the advert is saying, but will miss key points such as rates, general location, age restrictions, height, body type, etc.

 

Formatting an ad with the key points in bold or colored text, or in a larger font, will draw attention to them. Keep it short and simple.

[whatsup 11893]

After alot of thought, reading and replying I am asking you....

 

 

When you are looking for a companion, Do You Read The Ad/Post in its entirety?

 

I read the ad/post entirely to make sure I conform to the companions request for communication.

 

 

I have always wondered how you go about replying and some recent emails have made me ask. I guess the point of what I am asking is, Do you read the whole ad before replying? Do you just look at the pics? Do you take the time and view the website if directed to before replying? or do you just reply to 10 ads hoping one lady will reply quickly?

 

If the companion has a website, I will view the site in its entirety to learn a bit about things such as services available, like/dislikes, clothing options, favourite food and drinks - etc.

 

 

Very curious on your thoughts.....

 

Emily

 

 

I would never reply to 10 ads in hoping one lady would reply.

[Newton 714]

Emily,

 

I look at pics, read the stats, read reviews, find out services n rates if posted or reviewed, then contact the sp.

 

So when I contact a sp, I try to build a bit of rapport n narrow down the specifics that are not clear from ads n website.

 

:)

[buggernot 588]

I'll assume that you get more than a few questions that would have been answered had the sender knew how to read, or the one line 'canned' messages that seem the same every time like a guy is just looking to do anyone asap.

 

Every response you get here will be yes, we read the ads. And you'll still get the annoying dudes asking about your services and rates even if they are flashing in neon on your website.

 

Maybe a solution to this problem is for the sp's to embed the info right in their pics since that's all that some people seem to have the attention for. Hmmm, but then again it might not look too good to have like, rates displayed over body parts ;)

[E.D. man 691]

Yes I look at the ad and I do go to there wbsite if they have one. I like to see what they offer and I prefer a petite sp to a BBw, but relationship wise I like a woman with meat on her.

If you do not offer DFK and cunningless I am not the guy for you. I also check out the rates and weather its in or outcall, either one is ok for me.

I have a price range and can't go to but not further.

Yes I do check the pics out on cerb Emily So It is I do to YOU:razz::ablow::D

[PistolPete 61421]

That is why I had the distinct pleasure of meeting you in Ottawa, you are a beauty!:mrgreen:

After alot of thought, reading and replying I am asking you....

 

 

When you are looking for a companion, Do You Read The Ad/Post in its entirety?

 

 

I have always wondered how you go about replying and some recent emails have made me ask. I guess the point of what I am asking is, Do you read the whole ad before replying? Do you just look at the pics? Do you take the time and view the website if directed to before replying? or do you just reply to 10 ads hoping one lady will reply quickly?

 

 

Very curious on your thoughts.....

 

Emily

[dexterS3 134]

TO be Honest sometimes if they are too long people tend to miss details ex: apt ,donation etc. But also has to do with emotions when we are looking sometimes the other head get us distracted so we tend to over look the obvious.

You just have to give the guy benefit of the doubt, if after a couple of response still doing the same be more direct. just my 2 cents. :-)

[daddio 2704]

The short answer is yes, I read, and view, everything available.

 

Some day I may regret this tendency but I tend to go for longer answers. So here we go.

 

Being pretty new to the cerb ladies and their ads I think Emily's ad last year may have been the first I answered.

 

So, I read what her ad said. And I visited her site and read everything there and viewed her portfolio. And, yeah, I figured out pretty quickly (I can be reasonably smart sometimes - not often, but sometimes) that I would like to meet her.

 

One of the main things about her ad that attracted me was that she offered a GFE. To tell you the truth I really did not know what a GFE was, I just reckoned it would be nice and friendly and we might hold hands and talk for a while; but it should not be a slam bam thank you daddio experience.

 

Since replying to that ad I've figured out that there is a kind of shorthand, or code, in these ads. Part of the ad was along the lines of "Tell me something about yourself and what you like ..."

 

I enthusiastically wrote half of my life time personal biography before it occurred to me that this was perhaps not what was wanted.

 

I checked more cerb material for appropriate language and ended up replying with what appears to be standard cerb code/shorthand - "mature, professional, respectful ... blah, blah..."

 

It seems to work, but I suspect that there is still an element of chance in the whole exercise.

 

It certainly worked with my reply to Emily as I think we have developed a degree of trust with each other and I'm certainly a big fan of hers.

 

As to the part of the ad - "what I like ..."; I'm still not really sure about that in the first reply.

 

Is it "I'm a huge fan of Neil Young."

 

Or is it "I like to take long walks on the beach and get it off in the sand as the sun goes down and the tide comes in." Caution - don't do that at the Bay of Fundy lol

 

I think the answer is that you should not expect too much from the first exchange of e-mail information. If you hit the right tone, chances are that a comfortable relationship will develop.

 

The last first contact e-mail I sent (actually the first first contact e-mail I've sent in quite a while as I'm very happy with the relationships I've already established) was along the lines that I would like to exchange a few e-mails before committing to meeting. It was very well received.

 

That's my long answer.

[HarveySpecter 1908]

Yeaa Same as Newton said especially considering a person that is a newbie like me.

But generally whenever i'm new to something i'd like to be thorough in my research.

[AttilaTheHun 356]

First of all every Ad/Post I have ever replied to I have received an answer.

 

I have never just blindly sent out 10 requests. I think that guys who do that probably have a problem with their approach and will not get many if any responses.

 

I do through research and read the websites many times over. I know right up front whether the girl will meet my expectations.

 

The pictures are also very important. I mean not only what they are showing, but also the surroundings. I've always tried to look behind the scenes. I look at where the pics were taken apartment, studio or outdoors etc. I'll pick up on their living environment if the pics are taken in the home. If they are in a studio then I know there was money involved and it shows a different level of professionalism but not always.

 

The more I study a website the more I can judge if I will get along with her.

 

ATH

[Lexy Grace 103697]

After alot of thought, reading and replying I am asking you....

 

 

When you are looking for a companion, Do You Read The Ad/Post in its entirety?

 

 

I have always wondered how you go about replying and some recent emails have made me ask. I guess the point of what I am asking is, Do you read the whole ad before replying? Do you just look at the pics? Do you take the time and view the website if directed to before replying? or do you just reply to 10 ads hoping one lady will reply quickly?

 

 

Very curious on your thoughts.....

 

Emily

I always wondered the same thing, now I know.

 

Thanks

 

Kisses,

 

Lexy

[pjrd 324]

I`ll look at the pictures first. I do look for a pretty face and I know alot of you don`t like to show your face. That`s understandable but I will look at the gals that show me their face first and if I`m attracted to them I will read the add as long as it`s not overly long winded. If I like what I read I will check out the reccomendations. If that`s good I`ll make contact. Have only contacted a few gals as I`m happy repeating with the ones I enjoy and don`t feel it neccesary to see everyone. Never reply to a bunch of adds just to see who will reply. I will try 1 or 2 times but if I get no response I`ll move on.

PJ

[EmilyRushton 253372]

Gentlemen,

 

Thanks for your input so far. It is greatly appreciated and hopefully those who are not sure the proper way to inquire will read this and understand. Sometime feedback is better read than a rant and hopefully this is the case this time.

Thanks for your time to respond as hopefully it will help others as well.

 

Emily

[Guest s******ecan****]

I always read the full ad, check out the lady's website in full, check out as many reviews as I can locate and then I start making inquiries. Often I may read or check out the information more than once before deciding.

[Mikeyboy 27133]

Do you just look at the pics?

 

I try to read it all but sometimes the pics can be distracting...:wink:

[fortunateone 156618]

Gentlemen,

 

Thanks for your input so far. It is greatly appreciated and hopefully those who are not sure the proper way to inquire will read this and understand. Sometime feedback is better read than a rant and hopefully this is the case this time.

Thanks for your time to respond as hopefully it will help others as well.

 

Emily

 

I am going to assume that you are getting a number of enquiries from clients who ask about things on the site or ad. Don't overly concern yourself with this; they are just verifying that what they think they saw is confirmed by you. If that is by phone, it might be simply they do not have the info in front of them, and again, they are verifying what they thought they saw. It gives them something to talk about, since it is not so much the topic but the conversation itself that is important to them.

 

:smile:

[geo007 203]

I am also one that will read everything thoroughly, check the web sites and look up the recs if there are some. It improves your chances of having a good encounter and often eliminates those who don't meet your personal criteria of wish list services.:motion: For me an ad has to be fairly succinct and informative. This should reduce the number of additional info requests SPs must get.

[Guest Ou**or**n]

I agree with an earlier member who responded to this thread saying that most of the responses will be along the lines of 'yes, I always read the whole ad, the website.. and so on'. The types of people who frequent this board, or at least those that post are the types to spend their time carefully reading ads. One of the reason we are even members here is we are spending time to find out which ladies would most likely suit our fancy.

 

In my professional life I have found a great number of people never get past the first couple of sentences in an email. It drives me crazy when they write back asking questions you answered in your concluding paragraphs of an email you spent 30 minutes composing (especially when its a boss because you can't sarcastically write them back quoting your first email).

 

Some people can be highly educated, articulate, respectful and yet not be good at dealing with written communication. Some people are just verbally oriented and prefer speaking and asking questions to reading.

 

In the end understand that the types that don't read your whole emails or all of your website are not disrespectful, they just communicate in different ways. Also if any of them even started reading my response they certainly aren't reading this part so at this point I can say just about anything I please ;)

[stevecurious 42059]

Emily I have a feeling and this is just my belief but I believe that it depends on the person sending the email. I would think that the more mature members of Cerb or anyone viewing an independant or agency website will take the time to thoroughly read the text as well as view the pictures. Having said that, the profile picture of any particular lady will catch your eye before anything else. If she is attractive to you then you will start to browse the website, profile, etc. and read about her preferred method of contact, rates, reference requirements and services offered/not offered. As I have already stated I believe more mature clients will take the time to view everything about the lady. Less mature people probably are more attracted to pictures and certain "key words" in the profile as opposed to personality, character, etc. Certainly maturity does not equate age. I know some 40 year olds who are quite immature for their age. Consequently I know some 20 year olds who are far beyond their years mentally. I believe it to be a matter of respect to the lady you are contacting to abide by her wishes concerning contact, references, etc. After all if it is alright for the male to contact the female in any manner he chooses the same argument could be made for the female to contact the male in anyway she chooses. Basically what I am saying is in order to keep things professional and discreet there are certain unwritten rules which should go without saying. So read before you type and abide by the ladies wishes. How would you like to deal with endless questions, comments that you have already taken the time to address in your profile.

[trucido peritus lingua 2699]

Emily, I found this thread you initiated interesting as it deals with a very important aspect with escorting and that is, communication. I was going to write a thoughtful response until I foolishly did a little homework. I read your posts and viewed your website. Take my humour with a grain of salt and glean what is important to you.

 

The 4 key elements of communication when meeting a courtesan are the posting or ad, the website, e-mail and verbal conversation.

 

The ad: This is where you state your availability. Looking at your past ads, hardly one exceeds 40 words; very brief. While short, none are canned. They are all unique and well tailored for the time and place you are visiting. It does not get better than that. If a man cannot read your entire ad of less than forty words, he has the attention span of a gnat. If they cannot read forty words, how are they going to get your web link? If they do it is probably your excellent strategy of inserting a hot picture of yourself next to your web link. Men are so visual. In the end, you have to ask yourself, do you want to spend you time with a gnat??

 

The website: This is where you state who you are and your expectations. What can I say about your website other than; it is clear, clean, uncluttered, succinct and easy to navigate. It is certainly not verbose. You state who you are, what you want, what someone should expect from you and your expectations of them. You have some stunning eye candy, which I too had a hard time getting past, but I did. If not, to find out more about you. Your website is very well balanced and is not a long read. Once again, you have to ask yourself, do you want to spend you time with a gnat??

 

The e-mail: I am old school on this one; everyone should get a response. That said; if the e-mail looks canned and smells like spam, the response should reflect. My response would be; "Thank you for your interest. I am not available.". When I write to meet someone, their response will influence whether I will follow through. My New Years resolution is to write a note to the courtesan following every encounter. The response to the note or lack there of, will influence our next meeting. Emily, if your ads are any indication, I am sure that you would take the time to write an appropriate and thoughtful e-mail.

 

The phone call: I agree that no conversation is to occur before "a time that works for both of us". Yes...I read. I also believe that a conversation is important for courtesan; it helps to soothe any apprehension about meeting someone for the first time. For me, I enjoy the initial telephone call before meeting. The sound of her voice is always exciting and enhances the anticipation of our meeting.

 

When all is said and done, we have to ask ourselves, what do we want and what do we need. Is the underlying question, do we want to be with someone who cannot be bothered to take a little extra time? There is nothing wrong with being selective or asking a donation that reflects being selective. IMHO, we must look at what we want and respond in a manner that reflects our self-respect and adheres to our beliefs.

 

We are all attracted to CERB to fulfill our wants and needs for sex, but we must remember that communication is just as important. Without proper communication and taking the time to read, no one will truly get what they want.

[dirkgently 1778]

depends on how horney I am?

[slurp 7020]

I doubt anyone who you refer to as sending out multiple emails or asking questions answered in your ad will reply to you here. The ones here that take the time to try to help are the type who will try to be thoughtful and read things carefully. They generally care a bit about the person they will see.

 

Selfish guys who browse at pics and fire off 10 emails to see who answers first aren't likely to care enough about the SP to answer here and be helpful. They can't be bothered by silly things like that. Just my take .....