A funny thing happened on the way to my orgasm...

[southie 652]

...I was spending some time with a young lady who shall remain nameless, and we're hitting it off. Chatting, sipping Champagne, slowly getting physical. I am giving her full body kisses, little bites, massaging, she is very verbal about how much she is enjoying my touch and technique. Next thing you know, my hour has stretched to 90 minutes and the agency is calling with her next appointment. She is apologetic, and sends me to the bathroom to "pull the goalie" so to speak, which takes mere seconds in my heightened state of arousal.

 

My question is: should I have been more time-conscious, or is that her job? Or is it a possibility that she milked my attention past the point where she didn't have to finish off? Does the agency typically book appointments so close together?

 

I left feeling a little (a lot) rushed and disappointed, although if I were to suspend disbelief somewhat, my companion seemed to have a wonderful time, which is always important to me.

 

Any thoughts?

[Guest c**io**m7]

Without being a fly on the wall, the answers to your questions are not easy.

 

Did you enjoy?

Did you feel it was money well spent?

You said 60 turned into 90...did you compensate the extra 30?

 

Me personally, if I were paying for company that included sexual activity, there is no way in hell I would head to the bathroom to pull the goalie...I would likely be expecting her to do that.

 

I couldn't imagine dropping a couple hundred bucks with an escort only to have to yank it myself...and in another room at that. No thanks.

[The General 11309]

Yep, hard to tell, but my sense is that you need to know you time, she should too. That said, it might explain a few minutes, but a whole half hour over time, hard to imagine not realizing that.

 

Booking so close together, like a half hour in-between? That's reasonable, so not sure why you would think that is close, other than you ran way overtime.

[roamingguy 300292]

It sounds like you both lost track of time. After the hour, everything and anything that happens is a bonus in my opinion. Your encounter just unfolded naturally the way it was intended. If you like her, see her again, and maybe if sex is important, keep an eye on the clock (wear a watch) and perhaps book a longer encounter too

A rambling

 

RG

[Winnipegcub 21293]

Reality is both should be aware of the clock. It is respectful and avoids any awkward moments near the end when really that is when you should be winding down and reflecting on what just transpired.

I always manage the time. But that doesn't mean it always unfolds the same or as planned. I have had sessions when it wasn't about me and I'm clear to communicate that so the lady doesn't feel any responsibility or pressure.

I'm a big believer in letting things unfold naturally. But if you expect something specific to happen within a particular timeframe - then you have to manage that time and not leave any pressure or disappointments at the end or on the partner you're with.

[southie 652]

Let me be clear, I had a wonderful time with a sexy lady, whom I found very attractive, who also was very vocal about how much she enjoyed what I was doing. Great for the ego!

 

However, I need to be realistic about the situation and realize that what transpired was purely a business transaction. I have had sessions go long, and yes it is a bonus. But the bum's rush with my dick (literally) in my hand was an odd way for the session to end.

[roamingguy 300292]

 

I have had sessions go long, and yes it is a bonus. But the bum's rush with my dick (literally) in my hand was an odd way for the session to end.

 

Well yes and no. You wouldn't think you would be in the bathroom finishing yourself off, but then on the other hand (no pun) your session went past the time already and she just got a call that there was another appointment. Should she, when the clock already has run out, you both know that, and she has another appointment booked, at that point have sex with you

It may not be how you planned for the encounter to go, but that is how it unfolded.

At least she didn't just kick you out, she let you relieve yourself first

RG

[Guest c**io**m7]

Let me be clear, I had a wonderful time with a sexy lady, whom I found very attractive, who also was very vocal about how much she enjoyed what I was doing. Great for the ego!

 

However, I need to be realistic about the situation and realize that what transpired was purely a business transaction. I have had sessions go long, and yes it is a bonus. But the bum's rush with my dick (literally) in my hand was an odd way for the session to end.

 

Next time...if it's only an hour, forgo the champagne and excessive chit chat and be aware of the time.

 

Let's be honest, if she can make the same buck enjoying some bubbly and fun conversation as she does having sex...what is her motivation to stop the social time and move to fun?

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

Next time...if it's only an hour, forgo the champagne and excessive chit chat and be aware of the time.

 

 

 

Let's be honest, if she can make the same buck enjoying some bubbly and fun conversation as she does having sex...what is her motivation to stop the social time and move to fun?

 

 

Wow. This entire reply bothers me. Champagne/wine, etc. and conversation are foreplay. It is a necessary part of spending time with a true companion. It allows nerves to settle, flirting to take place and a genuine build of arousal on both sides.

 

Forgoing that, for me, would mean you walking in the door, a quick hello and then wham bam thank you ma'am. Certainly not everyone's style.

 

I believe the error here was that not enough time was booked for the OP and SP to get to know each other. ESPECIALLY when meeting each other for the first time. It sounds like things happened naturally which doesn't always happen and wonderful on both sides.

 

The suggestion that she had "no motivation to end social time" is arrogant and rude, suggesting that we are all manipulative.

 

In addition, the last time I checked, Companions are paid for their time, not for making you cum. I had one awful client who pinned me to the bed and told me time couldn't be up, as he wanted to have sex more and cum" (this was also after leaving me waiting in the hotel bar for 25mins past our appointment start time). I shoved him off of me and reminded him that I don't get paid to make him ejaculate.

 

Be mindful of what your intentions and expectations are when choosing an SP, provider or companion. Regardless of whether she is independent or works for an agency, there are different types of us who choose to do things in a way that works for US!

[southie 652]

Wow. This entire reply bothers me. Champagne/wine, etc. and conversation are foreplay. It is a necessary part of spending time with a true companion. It allows nerves to settle, flirting to take place and a genuine build of arousal on both sides.

 

Forgoing that, for me, would mean you walking in the door, a quick hello and then wham bam thank you ma'am. Certainly not everyone's style.

 

I believe the error here was that not enough time was booked for the OP and SP to get to know each other. ESPECIALLY when meeting each other for the first time. It sounds like things happened naturally which doesn't always happen and wonderful on both sides.

 

 

Thank you for your perspective!

 

In no way, shape, or form am I complaining, I had a truly erotic encounter and enjoyed the company of a stunning young woman for 50% longer than I paid for. I would have gladly lengthened the appointment, but time was pressing.

 

As for booking enough time to begin with, I have had encounters with zero chemistry and left early, and will probably limit myself to 60 minutes to start.

 

I think the biggest complaint I have is the real world crashing into a special encounter and ruining the fantasy. Live and learn.

[roamingguy 300292]

Ah the reality of this lifestyle, which affects all of us, whether having a one hour, three hour, four hour or overnight encounter...yes there is an escape, the outside world and it's problems gone for the time booked, but when time is up, unfortunately it's back to the real world

I think you had in your head an idea of how you wanted the encounter to go...but when you got together it unfolded differently...not badly, differently.

I've had encounters, very special wonderful encounters btw, ones I will always look back on with fondness, where ahead of time I had an idea of how things would turn out, but the encounter unfolded differently, no sex, but lots of kissing, caressing, snuggling. That's how nature/fate if you will intended the encounter to unfold, that was how they did unfold, and they were wonderful and memorable encounters with caring affectionate ladies.

Key to this is you are paying for the lady's time. What happens in that time, well it's something between two consenting adults, and something that takes place as a result of it unfolding naturally

A quote comes to mind

"Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is not found in finishing an activity but in doing it"

It sounds like your encounter (the journey) was good but how it ended (the destination) was different than expected. Focus on the whole evening, that is where you will realize where the joy was, the finish, that was just different than expected.

Anyhow a rambling. Philosophy 101 Class dismissed LOL

 

RG

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

Wow. This entire reply bothers me. Champagne/wine, etc. and conversation are foreplay. It is a necessary part of spending time with a true companion. It allows nerves to settle, flirting to take place and a genuine build of arousal on both sides.

 

Forgoing that, for me, would mean you walking in the door, a quick hello and then wham bam thank you ma'am. Certainly not everyone's style.

 

I believe the error here was that not enough time was booked for the OP and SP to get to know each other. ESPECIALLY when meeting each other for the first time. It sounds like things happened naturally which doesn't always happen and wonderful on both sides.

 

The suggestion that she had "no motivation to end social time" is arrogant and rude, suggesting that we are all manipulative.

 

In addition, the last time I checked, Companions are paid for their time, not for making you cum. I had one awful client who pinned me to the bed and told me time couldn't be up, as he wanted to have sex more and cum" (this was also after leaving me waiting in the hotel bar for 25mins past our appointment start time). I shoved him off of me and reminded him that I don't get paid to make him ejaculate.

 

Be mindful of what your intentions and expectations are when choosing an SP, provider or companion. Regardless of whether she is independent or works for an agency, there are different types of us who choose to do things in a way that works for US!

 

You took the words right out of my mouth...thank you Savannah!

BJ xxx

[randyzak 3600]

I don't think anyone else has said this thus far, so I will say it to reassure you: a similar situation happened to me just a few days ago (indie, not an agency) so you are not alone and don't feel bad about it.

 

It was my first visit with a newcomer and a 30 minute booking is all I do for a newbie. Turns out we are totally into each other with lots of mutual foreplay leading to an extended session of 69 that runs out the clock (I am always the clock-watcher but it is difficult to keep track of time when your face is buried between her legs).

 

At the 29 minute mark she gave me a 1 minute warning and I was ready to top-up for extra time but she could not extend our appointment.

 

Unlike your experience, she didn't tell me to go jerk off (that still seems odd to me), and I was nowhere near ready to cum. We parted company on good terms with a promise that I would be back to see her again and pick up from where we left off, and that is exactly what I intend to do. I will likely book her for a full hour the next time I see her.

 

Hint: Want to keep time without wearing a watch? Turn on the TV to a station that plays a lot of re-runs like Law & Order (1 hour) or Seinfield (30 mins). I realized that my 30 minutes ran out when the credits started to roll for Fresh Prince of Bel-Air!

[Carrie Moon 68826]

I can't think of any situation in which I would send a client to the bathroom to finish the job.. unless it were a domme situation.. that scenario was/is often used esp in a parlour where no ejaculation is allowed.

 

BUT sounds like this was a 'full service' escort session.

 

There are a couple things that don't make sense to me. An agency is usually very strict about time. Letting an appt go 30 min over is unheard of without asking for further compensation of funds.

 

I would think either the agency has little experience and/or the lady herself.

 

re: manipulation.. I don't think it's necessary to paint all escorts with the same brush.. but on the other hand I think it's easy for reputable ladies who only keep company with other reputable ladies to forget that manipulation certainly takes place with tons of other companions.

 

This is one reason I could never be a stripper.. no offense to strippers but the schmoozing I've seen take place makes me cringe. The up-selling etc..

 

Just because you think you've made a great connection with someone doesn't mean they aren't acting 100% for your benefit.

 

Just being devil's advocate here.. of course I don't know the lady in question nor was I there during the encounter as a 'fly on the wall'.

 

If she's very inexperienced which she may be.. I suppose this could all be a misunderstanding but I do feel that it's her job (literally) to be conscious of the time 1) and 2) to assist your orgasm in person and 3) within the allotted time.. all things being equal.

 

If I have 60 min never mind 90 this almost always always always can easily be accomplished. The only time this doesn't happen is when a guy is continually in his head.. ie worrying about something else and can't achieve orgasm.. but we definitely both gave it our best.

 

If a client is able to get erect but can't seem to 'get off' because of the condom or he's not quite erect to maintain it for penetration I will usually encourage him to release on my chest or assist him with a handjob.

 

If that doesn't work sometimes I will encourage him to finish by hand for sure.. but never do I send him to do it himself in the bathroom. Heck some of the hottest orgasms are from mutual masturbation or just a bunch of dirty talk while I lie on my back encourage him with my tits as a landing place.

 

Sorry but something is off in this scenario to me.. I would write it off as a lovely time in your memory and move on to another lady if I were you... that's my nickle (2 cents accounting for inflation :P)

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I agree - I am surprised that the agency let a call go over without calling. 5 minutes - that's one thing - but a half hour? I would fire any agency that didn't call me if I was late coming out.

 

However, I agree that generally it is the provider who pays attention to the clock and makes sure that things run on schedule. I am sure she is new and inexperienced.

[Guest P**aq]

I am a very time-sensitive person; time to me is a very important part of life (be it time with family, friends, loved ones, SP or MA, but more importantly time AWAY from the office, lol). I don't like to tread on other's time, so when I am with an SP or MA, I tend to keep a close eye on the time and make sure that things end within our bounds.

 

A year ago, I started to frequent an MA, and during one of our encounters, I was worried that things might go longer than planned, and I told her so. She promptly told me not to worry and said that it was her job to keep an eye on the time. I relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the experience. Wouldn't you know it, by the time I left, it was almost literally the 90 minutes to the second when I first arrived. Ever since then, I have left worrying of the time to her, and just enjoy the experience!

[Guest c**io**m7]

Wow. This entire reply bothers me. Champagne/wine, etc. and conversation are foreplay. It is a necessary part of spending time with a true companion. It allows nerves to settle, flirting to take place and a genuine build of arousal on both sides.

 

Forgoing that, for me, would mean you walking in the door, a quick hello and then wham bam thank you ma'am. Certainly not everyone's style.

 

I believe the error here was that not enough time was booked for the OP and SP to get to know each other. ESPECIALLY when meeting each other for the first time. It sounds like things happened naturally which doesn't always happen and wonderful on both sides.

 

The suggestion that she had "no motivation to end social time" is arrogant and rude, suggesting that we are all manipulative.

 

In addition, the last time I checked, Companions are paid for their time, not for making you cum. I had one awful client who pinned me to the bed and told me time couldn't be up, as he wanted to have sex more and cum" (this was also after leaving me waiting in the hotel bar for 25mins past our appointment start time). I shoved him off of me and reminded him that I don't get paid to make him ejaculate.

 

Be mindful of what your intentions and expectations are when choosing an SP, provider or companion. Regardless of whether she is independent or works for an agency, there are different types of us who choose to do things in a way that works for US!

 

I digress...and certainly offer up a massive apology if I was offensive. After rereading my response, I can see how the context was off-base.

 

Anyone who knows me knows that the message that appears to have been delivered is not the intended message and, certainly is not indicative of my personality.

 

Sadly, this is also a result of using my mobile for most postings resulting in shorter posts that don't always make the intended point as rereads are not always easy.

 

In no way did I mean to imply that the fine ladies who offer escorting services are manipulative. Far from it actually.

 

I should have been more clear.

 

I have met escorts in the past who attempted to turn the entire hour into a social meeting even though this was not the intention of the session. Did the lady in question do this? Only her and the OP can answer that.

 

I do find it a little rude that he had to finish the job himself if, and only if, the intention of the session was sexual activity AND if he compensated her for the extra 30 min.

 

Savannah, you personally, if a client were to book you for an hour with intention of some social time with bubbly and chat but also play time, would you be mindful of the clock in order to allow enough time for play? I believe most ladies would. From experience, there are those who don't and leave it up to the client only and, frankly, there are clients who would be too shy to begin and would need encouragement.

 

Once again, my apologies to all who were offended.

 

I should have first checked with the OP to see if social time and self satisfaction were indeed satisfactory and should have checked if he compensated the overtime. Too many unknowns leave the context and content of my reply unwarranted.

[piano8950 32577]

I don't wear a watch, and I switch off my phone before I see an SP. Sometimes she has a clock that I can monitor, but when I don't notice one, I used to get very nervous about time. Especially if it's the first time I'm seeing her.

 

So usually from the beginning, I let her know that I rather not step on any toes, and because I don't have a way to keep track of time, she could let me know when we're up.

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

Savannah, you personally, if a client were to book you for an hour with intention of some social time with bubbly and chat but also play time, would you be mindful of the clock in order to allow enough time for play? I believe most ladies would. From experience, there are those who don't and leave it up to the client only and, frankly, there are clients who would be too shy to begin and would need encouragement.

 

Curious, I appreciate your clarification :) thank you!

 

To answer your question, YES! A lot of clients wouldn't make the first move, so to speak. I believe that is part of what we do!!!

 

Over extending social time happens, especially if the conversation is good. However I would be mindful of the clock to ensure fun for all.