sadeegsad 120 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 Im looking for something similar to EB experience but that ends with a BBBJ My only fear is STDs, so I ask for experiences and recommendations. This is my first time trying something like this so cleanliness is a must. If you want to say something that cannot be shared in a forum, then please PM me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Canadiansnowland 740 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 Massage, no massage. Tub, no tub. Bbbj to? Cob? Cim? Other? Plenty of sp's offer bbbj, but the other stuff could make it tougher. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 Im looking for something similar to EB experience but that ends with a BBBJ My only fear is STDs, so I ask for experiences and recommendations. This is my first time trying something like this so cleanliness is a must. If you want to say something that cannot be shared in a forum, then please PM me. Pick a girl you are attracted to , review her site for her services then contact her:) But fears are going to hold you back from full enjoyment. So educate yourself, and well. There are many sites you can find reliable information about std's and how they can and won't be transmitted. Read up, or have an open frank discussion with your MD. Remember anything you tell your doctor is private and I think it's best when any of us are going to have more than one sexual partner that our doctors know as they are the best ones for health discussions. Nothing is 100% but most responsible and professional sp's take great pride in their health and taking care of their bodies:) I hope you find what you're looking for and that you can relax and thoroughly enjoy it:) 12 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 A clean bbbj is an oxymoron. Mouths are notoriously full of all kinds of microscopic wigglies. There are many providers to choose from who offer the service; many of them will be std/sti free but you can't tell who is and who isn't. There is no "on the spot" test to see if at this moment something lurks in her throat. Christy is right, this is something you have to educate yourself on. Speak with your doctor, read the public health information and then think on the best choice for your situation. What I will suggest is that when you find the provider, don't ask "Are you clean?". It's not a good way to start off an experience. My second suggestion is that when the "Oh my God, what have I done?" wave hits you afterwards, don't contact your provider asking if you should go get tested... cat 17 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 Any intimate activity with anyone, be it a professional companion, bar pick up, girlfriend/CL/wife ALL carry an element of risk...celibacy, well masturbation is the only safe sex and no, not being glib here Condoms are not risk elimination, they are risk reduction As Cat pointed out, never ask a companion if she is clean, and don't ask the lady if you have a morning after panic attack if you should be tested YOUR SEXUAL HEALTH IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY...you should get tested regularly if you are sexually active One more thing, while there is an element of risk in being sexually active, even if using safe sex practices, celibacy while safe (sex wise that is) carries something else IMHO far more unhealthy...and that is loneliness...and I am speaking from experience Anyhow, a rambling RG 11 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 If you are not "more than" comfortable with it without worrying about it later....then don't do it !! Research, be clean yourself and if you do try it and go home and decide you are not comfortable ....then that is a decision YOU made and like Cat said....Nevar contact the provider about what to do. Go get checked if you feel that be best Then pickle your penis and preserve it until you are perhaps ready to play comfortably. ;) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sadeegsad 120 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 Thanks for all the comments guys, greatly appreciated. I understand the risks and I'm still doing my research. My question was about ur experiences, an SP that you felt is cleaner than the rest. Or a regular SP that you deal with and have been checked after with no STDs. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 One more thing. As Cat so eloquently phrased it "Mouths are notoriously full of all kinds of microscopic wigglies. " That said, remember the penis is more likely to have "microscopic wigglies" of concern. Put another way, the receiver of a bbbj runs less risk than the giver of a bbbj for an STD Just something to consider when a lady is offering one of the most giving, intimate acts she can. A rambling RG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 My question was about ur experiences, an SP that you felt is cleaner than the rest. Or a regular SP that you deal with and have been checked after with no STDs. Cleaner than the rest? No one is going to show anyone health records and realistically after having a clean test the next one might not be and in that time a man might have been with 4-6-10 girls, so how would he know which one was guilty? As Lee Richards said maintain your own health, learn all you need to know and play as safe as you see fit, or don't play at all. Life is full of risks, you'll never be 100% assured of anything other than you're going to die at some point and your taxes are due by end of April yearly;), lol. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 Thanks for all the comments guys, greatly appreciated. I understand the risks and I'm still doing my research. My question was about ur experiences, an SP that you felt is cleaner than the rest. Or a regular SP that you deal with and have been checked after with no STDs. Here in Ottawa we have many satellite Health Clinics, where you can easily walk in get tested YOURSELF without giving nothing. more than a contact number IF something comes back. For myself, because I do seem to see a few ladies, I get tested every 2-3 months, and NOT once have I EVER tested positive for any STD. That said, I can honestly say, HERE in Ottawa, and of course some touring ladies I've met, the SP's that I've seen are very very meticulous about their health, and do their due diligence in getting themselves checked out as well. All I can say :) "if you have doubt don't pull it out" "the right selection is to protect your erection" "don't be silly wrap your willy" "if you think she spunky cover your monkey" 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted April 9, 2014 I will just clarify my rep comment for PP's post: get yourself tested before you see any sps. You could be a carrier, and if you go to see one of these mythical unicorn's called the 'std free guarantee card holding sp" don't be the guy who transmits something to her because you spent so much time searching for her you couldn't be bothered to check yourself out first. The first guy with an untreated std who walks in to see one of these sps (who provides those bbbjs) is putting her at risk. You can decide if he came to see her an hour before you did, a week, or an hour or a week after you did. You can decide if you were the one leaving her with an std, and gave it to him because you didn't get yourself checked out first. :D 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
xmy556 6095 Report post Posted April 10, 2014 Im looking for something similar to EB experience but that ends with a BBBJ My only fear is STDs, so I ask for experiences and recommendations. This is my first time trying something like this so cleanliness is a must. If you want to say something that cannot be shared in a forum, then please PM me. You've now been coached by several posters about conducting yourself with regards to safety. I would mention that I have been pretty active in the hobby for a few years, and about 50 percent of the time, I've had the provider deliver a bbbj. While there are obviously no guarantees in this regard, I test every 6 months and have never ever had any health issues. My recommendation for an enjoyable bbbj is Leighxox. Great attitude and delivers one of the best bbbj's I've experienced, with nice deep throat action to boot.. happy pooning!! :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Highsexdrivebabe 11800 Report post Posted April 10, 2014 One thing that really shocks me is that when I get tested every 3 months if not more if I feel there might have been a risk, I put the results of my test on the bed for a while and the gentlemen cumming at my place don't even take a look at it and put the paper aside!!!!!!!!!! Now that strucked me!!!! Anyway as some ladies R saying one day U can be cleaned and the other U catch something that will take time to show up. But SPs R definitely the cleanest ladies U can find darling! We care about our bodies very much since our profession depends on being clean to be able to work again and keep our clientèle wether it be regulars or new cummers chéri. Wishing U lots of safe fun babe! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Horndog66 14104 Report post Posted April 11, 2014 Im looking for something similar to EB experience but that ends with a BBBJ My only fear is STDs, so I ask for experiences and recommendations. This is my first time trying something like this so cleanliness is a must. Only you can decide what's best for you. If it makes you nervous, then you probably shouldn't do it. I'm totally OK with BBBJ. In fact, I never intentionally book ladies who don't offer BBBJ. As far as I'm concerned, CBJs are a complete waste of time. If you decide to go the BBBJ route, bear in mind that many ladies would be reluctant to discuss such a detail over the phone or in an email. Also, it is very common for a lady who proclaims CBJ only in her ads and forum posts to provide BBBJ to most of her clients. That way, if a client gives her some reason to not do BBBJ (bad hygiene, crappy attitude, etc.), she can avoid a confrontation because the client has no expectation of a BBBJ. Anyway, make the right decision for you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted April 11, 2014 ... Also, it is very common for a lady who proclaims CBJ only in her ads and forum posts to provide BBBJ to most of her clients. Since the OP is looking for advice at the beginning of his journey, perhaps it would be better to advise him to take a woman's word at face value. Asking an SP for something she clearly states is a no-go is not a good way to begin. Everyone's experience is different but for me, SPs that advertise CBJ are quite handy at getting that hoodie on there before the fun begins. YMMV 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Regent 35404 Report post Posted April 18, 2014 Lots of great advice on this thread. If you have a good, sex positive doctor then absolutely, talk to them about STI risks. Just be aware that not all doctors are sex positive and many of them are woefully misinformed about sexual health (70 years old, hasn't read a damned thing about sexual health since med school), and so your doctor might actually not be the best source of info when it comes to sexual health. I would suggest going down to Nine Circles for testing and having a chat with an STI nurse about your concerns. You an also call the Sexual Health Info Line, which is staffed by Health Educators. It's confidential and they'll answer any sexual health questions you might have. (I can't get their site to load right now, but the number can be found at ninecircles.ca) I really think there's a lot of value in talking to a sex positive health professional, in addition to doing your own reading on the internet. Because written information is usually presented in isolation, and risk are talked about in percentages or even worse, vague terms ("high"... "low"... what do those actually mean?) it can be really hard to put things in perspective and figure out how to view risks around sexual health in a reality centred way. I very often see people either dismissing risks or getting far more stressed out and fearful about them than they need to be. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ann Gallerie 7910 Report post Posted April 18, 2014 Hmmm. A visit to the doctor for blood tests every 3-6 months could potentially result in a 3-6 month backlog of people that the Health Department has to call on your behalf. This will not look good on a resume. In Vegas. England, etc. the trip to the doctor is made once a month, if not more often (I have heard of once a week). My MD is very supportive, and once a month - or less - is no problem. I personally would be very cautious about a new client demanding BBBJ's during the first few visits. It's not the only fun with your gun. I want to have a limited number of clients and let things evolve. Besides, there are some very creative and salacious activities one can enjoy with a covered cap......but that's another thread! Cheers, Ann 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted April 18, 2014 Hmmm. A visit to the doctor for blood tests every 3-6 months could potentially result in a 3-6 month backlog of people that the Health Department has to call on your behalf. This will not look good on a resume. In Vegas. England, etc. the trip to the doctor is made once a month, if not more often (I have heard of once a week). My MD is very supportive, and once a month - or less - is no problem. I personally would be very cautious about a new client demanding BBBJ's during the first few visits. It's not the only fun with your gun. I want to have a limited number of clients and let things evolve. Besides, there are some very creative and salacious activities one can enjoy with a covered cap......but that's another thread! Cheers, Ann Personally I never demand anything from a lady, the best encounters for me at least, are those that unfold naturally between two people. Irrespective of this lifestyle being about paid companionship, clients should not demand anything. The client has to respect the lady's boundaries always. And, at least for me, I am tested regularly. It is done along with other blood testing (no blood disease, but because I take medications and my levels need to taken on a very regular basis) So I include STD/STI testing at the same time which is every two months. That said, I'll say this again EVERYONE'S SEXUAL HEALTH IS THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITY Now I do know who I have seen, so if I got a positive back on the test, I would contact the ladies I have seen (yes I know and remember them all ;-) ) and let them know so they can get tested too Anyhow, a rambling RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Horndog66 14104 Report post Posted April 18, 2014 Since the OP is looking for advice at the beginning of his journey, perhaps it would be better to advise him to take a woman's word at face value. Asking an SP for something she clearly states is a no-go is not a good way to begin.Agreed, but that's not what I was getting at. What I meant was that, if he saw a lady for the first time, and received CBJ as advertised, it's OK afterward to ask her privately if she would do BBBJ the next time, regardless of what she states publicly. She'll either say, "No, it's my firm policy to only do CBJ", or, "Yes, but please don't tell anyone in a review or a PM". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted April 18, 2014 Agreed, but that's not what I was getting at. What I meant was that, if he saw a lady for the first time, and received CBJ as advertised, it's OK afterward to ask her privately if she would do BBBJ the next time, regardless of what she states publicly. She'll either say, "No, it's my firm policy to only do CBJ", or, "Yes, but please don't tell anyone in a review or a PM". I personally, as a cbj provider, a cbj advertiser, and giving a cbj on first visits, resent being asked this before, during or after a session, or even as a prelude to booking a 2nd appt, like when someone calls to see if i'm available, sets up an appt, and while on the phone might ask this. It is a clear case, to me, of carrot dangling, a lure that this guy is not going to show up or book another appt unless they get that bbbj. if you see someone who advertises cbj, and provided it in session, without the pressure of someone asking for more and possibly doing it out of concern for losing the appt, don't ever ask for more. An sp who makes exceptions will let you know. If you expect or need more than what is freely provided, just do not book the appt in the first place if you expect that her advertised restrictions are not restrictions at all. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Horndog66 14104 Report post Posted April 18, 2014 I personally, as a cbj provider, a cbj advertiser, and giving a cbj on first visits, resent being asked this before, during or after a session, or even as a prelude to booking a 2nd appt, like when someone calls to see if i'm available, sets up an appt, and while on the phone might ask this. It is a clear case, to me, of carrot dangling, a lure that this guy is not going to show up or book another appt unless they get that bbbj. if you see someone who advertises cbj, and provided it in session, without the pressure of someone asking for more and possibly doing it out of concern for losing the appt, don't ever ask for more. There's no need for resentment. I've already said that it's quite common for CBJ-only advertisers to provide BBBJ to most clients. However, I would never ask before or during, but I have asked immediately after a session, in person, on a few occasions, and always received a polite reply one way or the other. It's not carrot dangling at all; it's a legitimate, straightforward question with no pressure intended or implied. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aboobika 100 Report post Posted April 19, 2014 I agree with many others that responded to this post. The SP's are very conscious about health risks. And do advertise "play safe" while still providing BBBJ. Research on your part is a good piece of mind. Don't be too cautious, you just might miss an opportunity. Good luck. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted April 19, 2014 It's not carrot dangling at all; it's a legitimate, straightforward question with no pressure intended or implied. It's such a YMMV thing that nobody wants to advertise it and then have to deny it. If she wants to do it it's a bonus, if not, it's not a deal breaker for me. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted April 19, 2014 I'm not sure people understand how what they say gets interpreted. I'm going to take a shot a couple of things here and if my guess is wrong, someone, especially the SPs, correct me. There's no need for resentment. This statement diminishes, minimizes, and completely dismisses fortunateone's outlook, feelings, and perceptions. You may feel there is no need for resentment. The provider, fortunateone, clearly states this causes her resentment. The inference is that she should modify her feelings because you have told her not to feel this way. I've already said that it's quite common for CBJ-only advertisers to provide BBBJ to most clients. Yes, this is the second time in this discussion you've said this. You must have very different experiences than I. Can you help the casual reader to understand how you've arrived at this fact? Perhaps you could quantify the number of times you've received services specifically proscribed on the SPs site i.e. Site: No Greek! You: Hey, how about some Greek. SP: Sure thing - hop on! Or Site: CBJ or CBJ Only or Safe Sex Only. You: How's about we pop that thingy in there without the hood? SP: Say no more! Mmmppphh.. Three times out of five? Seven times out of eight? I'm genuinely curious. Perhaps I should change my approach. It's not carrot dangling at all; it's a legitimate, straightforward question with no pressure intended or implied. You do not imply or intend to exert pressure through your legitimate straightforward question. However, every communication has two components. That which the speaker intends and the manner in which the recipient receives it. fortunateone clearly states she sees this as carrot dangling and goes on to explain why. Stating that it should not be perceived as carrot dangling brings us back to the first point. The statement diminishes, minimizes, and completely dismisses fortunateone's outlook, feelings, and perceptions. As I said at the beginning, these are just my perceptions. Make of them as you will. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted April 19, 2014 (edited) bcguy: Horndog is smart enough and discreet enough to know who and when to ask. Like I said above, no big deal either way. Edited April 19, 2014 by cinelli Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites