Turn-offs for a lady

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

Another turn off for me is when guys text me telling me how sexy they are and how.big their.dick is and how good they can make me feel thinking I will give them a.discount lol

I am non judgmental when it comes to race/looks so wether your extremely handsome or not doesn't really matter, I will treat you the same as I do all the gentlemen I spend time with

I prefer a man to be respectful of me and our time together than how he looks

And please do not send me a.pic of your dick....I can.wait to see it in person

[peacectryguy 12547]

Another turn off for me is when guys text me telling me how sexy they are and how.big their.dick is and how good they can make me feel thinking I will give them a.discount lol

I am non judgmental when it comes to race/looks so wether your extremely handsome or not doesn't really matter, I will treat you the same as I do all the gentlemen I spend time with

I prefer a man to be respectful of me and our time together than how he looks

And please do not send me a.pic of your dick....I can.wait to see it in person

That stuff always boggles my mind. I definitely could see that being a huge no-no for you ladies. Honestly, why some guys are so lacking in self-esteem that they have to talk about, send pictures of or anything else of their dick is sad in a way. Seriously, do they not understand that you women have seen all sorts of them and are not impressed in the least.

 

Additional Comments:

Oh and as for the L word and getting possessive, can't understand how some people don't grasp the concept of boundaries. Absolutely crazy, imo for that to even get into the consciousness Not that I couldn't like one of you ladies a lot if we were intimate on several occasions but liking someone and being a friend is okay. Know where the line is and don't go near it.

Tongue in cheek, I do say my little guy does "love" pussy, lol. Of course, he can't make life decisions or get jealous so it's all good.:dncdick:

[roamingguy 300292]

Another turn off for me is when guys text me telling me how sexy they are and how.big their.dick is and how good they can make me feel thinking I will give them a.discount lol

I am non judgmental when it comes to race/looks so wether your extremely handsome or not doesn't really matter, I will treat you the same as I do all the gentlemen I spend time with

I prefer a man to be respectful of me and our time together than how he looks

And please do not send me a.pic of your dick....I can.wait to see it in person

 

Being non judgemental about looks is what makes you ladies so beautiful to me...I know I'm not GQ material, but when I'm going to see a lady, well Goddess, you all make me feel like I should be on the cover of GQ (hope that's coming out right)...saying THANK YOU to you for what is given sometimes doesn't seem enough

And from me at least, don't worry about photos, I would need a wide angle lense to overcome the belly and a magnifying glass to make more of what I have...BTW said very much tongue in cheek for a morning smile. I wouldn't do those type of pictures.

A half tongue in cheek half serious rambling

 

RG

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

I have just realized that one of my biggest turn off is when a gentlemen contacts me to book an appt and starts talking about his Financial situation..." I would love to see you but i'm a bit tight" "money is not a problem" either its good or bad I don't want to hear it...

 

Bianca xxx

[Guest K***e D****ls]

Clothing requests that aren't sensible: asking that you arrive in stockings in sweltering summer heat, requesting visible garters, a cocktail dress and stilettos at 10am... I can assure you the answer will be 'no' with a smiley face every single time. haha

 

My favorite request: 'Whatever makes you feel sexy.' Music to my ears!

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

Right I agree!

 

I don't mind dressing sexy for you during an in call but I prefer to keep it casual doing out calls to hotels as to not draw any attention to myself(but promise to bring my naughtyness in my bag)

[Ice4fun 78407]

Clothing requests that aren't sensible: asking that you arrive in stockings in sweltering summer heat, requesting visible garters, a cocktail dress and stilettos at 10am... I can assure you the answer will be 'no' with a smiley face every single time. haha

 

My favorite request: 'Whatever makes you feel sexy.' Music to my ears!

 

I kinda feel that unless I really know the lady well I am probably the last person who should tell her what to wear.... everyone has their own style and things that make them feel sexy so unless I know you well and can request that you wear something I gave already seen you in... i kinda think I am cheating myself if I don't let you wear whatever makes you feel great.

 

Just my opinion

[roamingguy 300292]

I requested, once in my early days, for a lady to show up dress and high heels. She never said no, but when she showed up she was wearing sweats (btw sweats are very sexy) and not a dress. She explained to me that the hotel I selected (I wasn't a local, and it looked good in the website, and it was clean comfortable) was well known for hookers (her word) hence why she dressed discretely. But what she wore, sexy

Then another lady I saw, at her incall, I asked her to wear a dress, one she wore in her website. It looked really good in her website, and on her in person. But she found it a bit uncomfortable I guess is the word.

Anyhow no more clothing requests for me, whatever the lady wears, she looks GREAT!!!!!...and a lady showing up dressed comfortably, well that is the important thing. And two people comfortable together GREAT

And apologies to the ladies who show up and see me, looking like an unmade bed LOL

A rambling, with a lot of pleasant flashbacks as I wrote

 

RG

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

When you are in a session and getting multiple texts from the same person and they start to get really rude and irate esp if I'm on an hour or appt or longer. I don't answer the phone when I'm with someone and I'm only one person. I wish that I could have a secretary but I don't.

 

When you tell someone you don't negotiate or give discounts and they act self entitled. I don't want to hear about financial sitations either. It's none of my business and I don't wish to have someone put that on me.

 

People serial texting or calling. I had someone text me 58 times the other day when I was visiting in the hospital! No joke!

 

Picture texts of a person's junk.

 

And..."How much for just a bj?"...

 

"I'm young and hung". Sorry that doesn't pay my bills. lol.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Hey babe as a precursor to what some think is a conversation. I am 44 so I am no one's baby; not even my dad's! (I will tolerate sweetie however, lol)

[roamingguy 300292]

Photos of your junk, if anything shouldn't that be why ladies get a donation...guys' junk is so called because.....LOL And in my case at least I look much better covered up, once naked, well that's where the ladies earn the donation, just from looking at me, and I've heard the word, geez that is junk, well junky (said tongue in cheek btw)

Anyhow, no junk photos, you may just scare the ladies away, they might think no amount of money is worth this LOL

Young and hung, well I'm old and not...btw to those guys ever notice a lot of ladies prefer guys 30 and up...heyyy wonder if there is a CARP discount

(Canadian Association Of Retired Persons) btw just joking

Just a BJ!!! WTF!!! A lady is doing one of the most intimate, personal caring activities for you...just a BJ WTF are you thinking even asking that. Getting a BJ should be treated as a lady's priceless gift to you. Repay that gift by treating her with the utmost respect, including obviously paying the donation in full, a tip and gift nice, and say Thank You.

Just some half tongue in cheek half serious ramblings

 

RG

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

When I post the hours I work and I always put I require 30-60 minute prep time and they expect me to be ready in 5 minutes...I am so sorry but I like to take a shower put on something sexy and prepare my room before inviting you over(candles music and clean linen)

I unfortunately do not sit around in my lingerie waiting for my phone to ring(I would go mad) that is why I request pre booked appointments or notice

 

Also if we had already discussed my dos and donts please do not request something I had already told you I do not do during our session(for instance I do.not.offer bbbj so why.see me if that is what you want...makes no sense to me) because I will not do something I.do not feel comfortable with

[Ann Gallerie 7910]

If I get a call, half the time I can't get to it (so email or leave a message.)

 

When we do connect, in an increasingly familiar scenario...

 

"hello Ann"

 

"hello..."

 

"are you available today?"

 

"may I ask who is calling please?"

 

(silence)...not even a fake name.

 

PM me if you like with your opinion, but either this chap is terrified, or (more likely) or yet another time waster

 

I recently got +40 calls in 3 days from another fellow! Good grief!:biggrin:

[peacectryguy 12547]

I understand that these things are annoying to say the least for all you ladies but I can't help but laugh at the utter stupidity of some guys. I don't know, I just have to find the humor. I hope you ladies can find humor in some of it too. At least, when you look back at it after the initial frustration and anger.

The one that puzzles me is one that I talked to a provider about once. The guy phones, texts, whatever and books a session. Than starts the haggling. When she says "look buddy, the price is the price." He has the audacity(read stupidity here if you like, lol) to tell her he's a stud and hung like a horse and doesn't really need to "buy" sex. We could never figure out why he called her in the first place.

 

I don't know how you ladies keep your sanity with some of these idiots at times. I really admire you all for hanging in there for the good ones. Please remember we aren't all bad.:icon_biggrin:

[Guest K***e D****ls]

I don't know how you ladies keep your sanity with some of these idiots at times. I really admire you all for hanging in there for the good ones. Please remember we aren't all bad.:icon_biggrin:

 

And that's the gospel truth. :) You good ones tip the scales right over. And we thank you for it!

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

People serial texting who you told NOT to text you that many times after you didn't respond and texts again several times long after you've explained the situation. This is definitely not respecting someone's boundaries or whatever personal issue they have to deal with and have already fully explained for the umpteenth time. No respect for a person's private situation. That's when it's time to block their number. What part of "I am not available" do people not understand?

 

And my name isn't hun, sweetie or babe either. lol.

 

Not following the SP's protocol shortly before arriving to an appt.

 

Do you have a boyfriend?

 

Meeting people for the first time and they attempt to go into other rooms at the SP's place without even asking. Or others wanting a tour of other private rooms. What the hell? Time to put locks on the door handles. If the door is shut, it stays shut.

 

People who don't take off their shoes and insist they are clean. No they're not. You were outside.

 

"Are you available now? I can be there in 5 minutes."

 

Receiving a text out of the blue. "I'd like to make an appt. What is your address?" And you don't know this person from Adam.

 

"Rates? Location?" text is a definite way to NOT receive a response back.

 

Stepping off my soapbox now. I know it's like preaching to the choir here but thought I'd add a few..

[peacectryguy 12547]

Wow, I sure wouldn't want to fall into the catagory of "mega infinity turn-off" Miss Nicolette, lol. Oh, and it's all good. To you and all the ladies posting on here, stay on the soapbox as long as you like. We totally understand your frustration. Guys need to know that coming across in the initial contact like a 16 year old, "young, dumb and full of cum" teenager will never get a response from anyone they would really want to be with anyway. Anyone that does take them seriously is probably not someone reputable or safe.

[Siren 347]

I agree It irritates me when people txt or call with what's up?!? If I'm being professional in this business I expect the same from the gents.. I also prefer txt or email over a phone call due to past experiences! Please do not ask what services I offer when my ad specifically says what I do and don't do, also I can't stand when gents first reply is ' any more pics' my thoughts if there was they would be in my album I don't want to be rude so I just won't reply!

 

I prefer an email/txt over a phone call for some reason I can tell more if one is serious about meeting or not.. Phone calls I don't like for I've had past experiences where other SP's called acting just for my rates etc! Emails are so much more detailed and I feel you get to know ones persona before even actually meeting!

[Old Dog 179138]

If I can precis all of this, it's quite simple.

 

Treat every encounter as if it was a first date with a woman with whom you wish to share intimacy.

 

Be: Clean, punctual, deodorized, groomed, generous, modest, polite and accurate with your funds.

 

Don't Be: A dick.

 

Accurate?

[Kellyxo 11682]

I think that is a great summary of the overall thread :) you are very perceptive!

 

 

If I could add one final thought it's to continue the "undicklike" behaviour after the encounter. If you are going to write a review keep it classy and discrete, leave the details and the YMMV in private. Most ladies do not want to feel like you are giving a virtual high 5 to your CERB buddies, bragging about how far you got. It's not a locker room :)

 

 

xoxo

 

 

If I can precis all of this, it's quite simple.

 

Treat every encounter as if it was a first date with a woman with whom you wish to share intimacy.

 

Be: Clean, punctual, deodorized, groomed, generous, modest, polite and accurate with your funds.

 

Don't Be: A dick.

 

Accurate?

[Guest]

The only times I ignore emails is A) when I don't have all the information I need to book an appointment (time, day, number), B) when emails are offensive, or C) the person's on my blacklist. I like answering questions (that aren't on my website) and I like replying to greetings.

 

I have had so many emails without all the information I need to book an appointment (basic information: day, time, number), that I would spend hours answering them and guess what maybe one or two would book.

 

I have added an auto-reply as part of my email to explain my booking policies and to let people know that I will only reply until I have a day, time and a number. I don't know any other way to save time. I have explained on my websites and ads that I need a day, time and number and still...

 

Why send multiple emails, pm's, ect, if you don't have all the information I need to book an appointment? Yes, I need a phone number (this is for my safety, so that I don't confirm with another Jim-Bob and so I know who's calling me)! Yes, I need a day and time, unless we are going to go on a psychedelic trip, where there's no day and time and the universe is endless?? No, I'm not going to give my address out by email or text!!!! I guess I just don't understand why people would go through all the trouble of not giving me what I need. When it can take one email to give me the day, time and their number. I think my ads, website, blog and auto-reply does a great job of explaining what I need.

 

Or another one is if I don't get back to people right away they send multiple emails or pm's. I do get busy and there's times when I can't get back to people right away. I have on my auto-reply that I'll get back to people within 48 hours but usually it only takes me about 2 to 7 hours to answer emails. Sometimes I even answer emails within the hour.

 

I just want to share with people that us escorts deal with many emails on any given day and we ask for certain things for a reason. Different escorts have different policies because they have found what has worked for them. Please read websites, ads, ect and follow any instructions.

 

[peacectryguy 12547]

Peachy, I totally understand what you are saying. Honestly, if I email an escort( after a thorough read of her webpage and this is her preferred method of initial contact), I just wait for the reply. If it doesn't come, so be it. You really shouldn't email the lady back a bunch of times with the inane questions like, "did you get my message?" or "where are you?". It comes across as needy and pathetic but more importantly, it's just annoying.

 

Even the cellphone, when one calls, if no answer, leave a polite message and wait. I get it in my business all the time. I do not and will not answer the damn thing while driving down the highway. Don't call back in 2 minutes and another 2 mins, etc. You may just get no service from me. People seem to be extremely impatient with all the new technology we have. They think because you have a smartphone, their texts and calls should be immediately addressed. Hell, my own boss does it to me and I give him shit every time.

[roamingguy 300292]

The only times I ignore emails is A) when I don't have all the information I need to book an appointment (time, day, number), B) when emails are offensive, or C) the person's on my blacklist. I like answering questions (that aren't on my website) and I like replying to greetings.

 

I have had so many emails without all the information I need to book an appointment (basic information: day, time, number), that I would spend hours answering them and guess what maybe one or two would book.

 

I have added an auto-reply as part of my email to explain my booking policies and to let people know that I will only reply until I have a day, time and a number. I don't know any other way to save time. I have explained on my websites and ads that I need a day, time and number and still...

 

Why send multiple emails, pm's, ect, if you don't have all the information I need to book an appointment? Yes, I need a phone number (this is for my safety, so that I don't confirm with another Jim-Bob and so I know who's calling me)! Yes, I need a day and time, unless we are going to go on a psychedelic trip, where there's no day and time and the universe is endless?? No, I'm not going to give my address out by email or text!!!! I guess I just don't understand why people would go through all the trouble of not giving me what I need. When it can take one email to give me the day, time and their number. I think my ads, website, blog and auto-reply does a great job of explaining what I need.

 

Or another one is if I don't get back to people right away they send multiple emails or pm's. I do get busy and there's times when I can't get back to people right away. I have on my auto-reply that I'll get back to people within 48 hours but usually it only takes me about 2 to 7 hours to answer emails. Sometimes I even answer emails within the hour.

 

I just want to share with people that us escorts deal with many emails on any given day and we ask for certain things for a reason. Different escorts have different policies because they have found what has worked for them. Please read websites, ads, ect and follow any instructions.

 

 

I know for myself, I provide all, likely even more information than is requested. Since a lady is willing to be alone with me intimately, I provide my personal information to her for screening purposes. As a client I don't believe in being evasive on providing my personal information, because after all, a lady's safety and security trump a man's privacy each and every time...and what a lady requests is done for screening, and thus her safety and security.

As for waiting for a reply...well when it comes to emails and a reply, I have the patience of Job LOL. But on occasion a delay becomes too long.

When the client needs confirmation to make his travel/leave/hotel arrangements and doesn't get a reply, well the client ends up cancelling.

Yes patience on the part of the client is expected. Likewise making a client wait (yes I sent 3 emails in this time) three weeks to confirm, will cost you a client. Mind you I grant this is an exception in my experience, but just as gentlemen need patience, ladies do need to reply to (respectful btw) emails, and not leave the client hanging

Anyhow, just a rambling from someone just recently left hanging

 

RG

[daddio 2704]

I can't add anything to Old Dog's excellent precis. And I hope Roaming Guy's recent experience being left hanging was something of an aberration for him. I just want to say that this thread is an excellent example of the service provided by CERB. The posts give us insight into the difficulties experienced by the ladies we have met and are yet to meet. They also serve to remind us of how lucky we are to have access to these intelligent, charming, compassionate, and passionate, companions.

[roamingguy 300292]

I can't add anything to Old Dog's excellent precis. And I hope Roaming Guy's recent experience being left hanging was something of an aberration for him. I just want to say that this thread is an excellent example of the service provided by CERB. The posts give us insight into the difficulties experienced by the ladies we have met and are yet to meet. They also serve to remind us of how lucky we are to have access to these intelligent, charming, compassionate, and passionate, companions.

 

It was a definite aberration for me. Most ladies I see are professional, in fact this case was the first and thus far only time I have had a beyond slow reply to an email

This lady btw is not a CERB lady, and proves stick to CERB and you should have a great encounter

RG