Turn-offs for a lady

[YoungBeautyMirella 5600]

I agree 100% with what Autumn is saying. I recently have been getting texts from different people (most of them Kyla members) saying "what will you do for 60" or 40, 50 etc... In no way am I trying to sound cocky, but you see my pics, see my reviews and see in my ad how I clearly say "mature, respectful GENTLMEN only" what makes someone think I would see them for that when everytime I am available I meet wonderful gentlemen whom I see for an hour, who occasionally extends for more time ...I had a man write me saying I'm a very respectful and hygienic great man in my 50's who has 60 to spend on a young beautiful girl like you... I just responded if you were such a gentleman you wouldn't negotiate a woman's donations. Hahaha I even recently had a man I saw who was nice but kept saying stuff trying to justify why he had to see me and made comments like 'well I'm sure if we met on the street it would be the same" or at a bar or through friends etc...it was kind of awkward and if course I was like oh ta of course! :P

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

Pleaseeeee just take a few moments to read my entire ad...it states the specifics and possibly could answer a few of your questions before contacting me, I had one gentlemen text me today asking do I offer blah blah blah and if he took the time to read my few lines I write he would have his question already answered

Yes I will not lie sometimes this frustrates me and I can be very blunt argggg

 

Just one of those days today no one wants to read

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Having someone show up a half hour early and texting me from parking lot letting me know they have arrived. I'm not even at the location yet btw! I often wonder do some men just think we are sitting there looking pretty? I do so many things in between appts because I don't like sitting around doing nothing. When someone suggests a certain time, I take their word that they will show up at that exact time. Not before and not after (unless they advised me they are running late).

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"yoooooo" ughhh. NO-NO

 

Lol. "Yo escort lady! I'd like to get wit you." My girlfriend and I received the same text one day and howled when we saw it! It would be too cruel to send back an lol at them.

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[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Having someone show up a half hour early and texting me from parking lot letting me know they have arrived. I'm not even at the location yet btw! I often wonder do some men just think we are sitting there looking pretty? I do so many things in between appts because I don't like sitting around doing nothing. When someone suggests a certain time, I take their word that they will show up at that exact time. Not before and not after (unless they advised me they are running late).

 

Being Pretty Ain't Pretty At All - Pistol Annies

 

I love this song - I just wish guys would listen.

 

"Being Pretty Ain't Pretty"

 

I fought it all for a while

But I went out of style again

I don't read the magazines

And I can't keep up with the trends

 

The red on my nails keeps chipping off

The pink on my lips just adds to the flaws

I ain't good at fake lashes

Every time I wear high heels I fall

 

Being pretty ain't pretty, it takes all day long

You spend all your money just to wipe it all off

You spray on your perfume, you spray on your tan

Get up in the morning, do it over again

Being pretty ain't pretty at all

 

Mama was simple

Sweet as the day is long

Daddy always said she looked better

With no makeup on

 

She wouldn't be caught dead

Bleaching her roots

But I'd spend the house payment

On new cowboy boots

How the hell did the apple

Fall so damn far from the tree

 

Being pretty ain't pretty, it takes all day long

You spend all your money just to wipe it all off

You spray on your perfume, you spray on your tan

Get up in the morning, do it over again

Being pretty ain't pretty at all

 

Being pretty ain't pretty, it takes all day long

You spend all your money just to wipe it all off

You spray on your perfume, you spray on your tan

Get up in the morning, do it over again

Being pretty ain't pretty at all

Being pretty ain't pretty...

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ienVsy0VtIg

[Ice4fun 78407]

My new favorite BS lines are baby you are hot but you are soo expensive ..

do you give discounts to younger guys who have big dicks and can last a long time ..

Ummm let me think about that .. NOOOO

 

I agree... WTF.... that guy got it all backwards the discounts should be for us older than with semi hard dicks who only last a few seconds lolololololol (joking of course).

 

For me it's all about the companionship and the connection the "play" is of course always fun but it's the full experience that I want... I need to chat and hug... I am paying for the ladies time and frankly she gets to determine what she thinks her time is worth... As the client my only choice to decide if I want to pay that amount or not... this is not Let's Make a Deal.

 

Just my Opinion

 

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Pleaseeeee just take a few moments to read my entire ad...it states the specifics and possibly could answer a few of your questions before contacting me, I had one gentlemen text me today asking do I offer blah blah blah and if he took the time to read my few lines I write he would have his question already answered

Yes I will not lie sometimes this frustrates me and I can be very blunt argggg

 

Just one of those days today no one wants to read

 

First let me say that I totally get what you are saying I understand that the ladies in this industry especially the true business people spend considerable time and effort setting up their business model for how they will engage their clients and of course how they will manage their own personal time when it comes to engaging new clients. I get that these ladies have put considerable thought into the development of websites and ads that they have specifically designed to provide clients with all the information they will need about costs and types of experience offered that should be necessary for the client to make a decision about booking without a long back and forth chit chat with the prospective client.

 

The ladies in this industry know from experience just how much of their time is spent every day fielding calls, texts, bbms and emails from many many guys most of which will never book.... unfortunately most of us guys fail to see that for us it's a singular experience... it's a few minutes of time used to help make a decision on what wonderful lady they want to see. Point taken... us guys need to understand and see this exchange from the ladies point of view and it's good that ladies used opportunities like LYLA to remind us of this.

 

If I can I would like to take a minute to express a bit of a pure client viewpoint that might explain a little bit why ladies might get a stupid question from a client that is already answered in the ad or on the website. This is not meant to excuse the time wasting behavior of lots of clients but just to add some context from my perspective on why a guy might sent that initial text about something he should know.

 

For me and I think for a number of men we need a certain level of engagement with the lady as part of our decision making process... the pictures and information in the website is often wonderful and informative but just like many ladies say they use their gut instincts to assess a prospective client I think us guy do too so that initial exchange can mean a great deal to a client when he is trying to make a booking decision. I appreciate that many of the ladies would like the gentleman to have made the decision to book before the contact but that cannot always be the case... that initial call, text, Bbm or email is sort of like part of the decision making process and while the guy should have already made a decision that he is serious about booking it might come down to that feeling he gets based on the exchange.

 

I can almost hear some ladies reading this and thinking sure that makes sense but why in the name of God do they ask such stupid questions... why ask my rates when it was in the ad... why ask if I have an incall if it says I do etc etc... well I think there are a few reasons for that...

• Contacting a beautiful sexy established lady about a booking can be somewhat intimidating especially if you are new to the lifestyle and frankly we often are not sure what to say so we say the obivious even if it was already known to us... its a simple way to start the conversation
  
• Some ladies have perfected their ads and websites to the point that there is little or nothing relevant that a guy can ask without it being redundent. I not suggesting they should share less just stating a fact. if the only items really left to discuss is the time availability then that is not a great place to start if the client is still in the decision making process.
  

 

I guess what us clients need to understand is:

• See that initial exchange with the lady from her perspective... not a single simple question but an enless barage of repeated questions

• Do our homework and ensure we use sites like LYLA to get a better understanding of the lady through the interchanges that happen here

• Give some extra thought to that first interchange with the lady... be sure to present yourself in as appropriate a manner a possible... t is so many intelligent things you can say that will initiate a conversation with out rehashing the thin she has provided... tel her about yourself and what your interests are. Etc... etc

 

Bottom line.. try to see this from the ladies perspective

 

Just my Opinion

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

I do understand that having a conversation and seeing wether or not you connect is upmost important, but to have to constantly answer questions that is already answered in our ads is pretty much frustrating

Lately I have been putting at the very beginning of my ads

*please read entire ad before contacting me*

Hoping they will read the few lines I do write so maybe help out with heir decision process

If I put Safe Dates Only well gee it doesn't take an intelligent person to figure that one out but yet I still get asked do I offer blah blah blah

I put mature gentlemen over 25 but still get younger than calling me and then getting mad because I won't see them

Hour of availability always posted but still get calls/text at 3:45am asking am I available

 

Argggggggg whyyyyyy lolololol

 

I have absolutely no problem telling you the rates for my time,location and a few services offered but I would rather have a heartfelt or naughty conversation when in person

 

But thankyou darlin I do appreciate a man's perspective on this

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

endless texting with nonsense information, emails that drive me crazy with stupid one-liners such as 'are you available'!

 

In order for me to be available, I would have to know what time approximately you are looking for! pretty simple.

 

the endless barrage of text messages! I work for a living outside of this lifestyle. I can't always answer texts immediately when I am at work.

Which part of this do guys not understand?

 

Texting can be great as I can see who is texting and when. Once I answer, if it has been a while since they messaged, I apologize and answer questions, when there are some, lol most of the time there aren't.

 

This is the reason most of us have on our websites/ads HOW to contact us, and in which manner.

 

I, personally, find it very rude to get messages such as: how much, can I come now, hey babe.

1. I don't know who you are or what you want.

2. My rates are posted on my website, very plainly.

3. I don't know how far you are from me for you to 'come now'

 

A little introduction is always welcomed, but I am finding more and more that guys just don't read anything that is written beyond the phone number.

 

But endless emails/texting has got to be the worst.

[AUTUMN RAINE 15548]

For me it is not the amount of questions .. it is the questions themselves ..

I only work 4 - 10 Monday - Thursday and 4 - midnight Friday 9 am - midnight Sat and Sun

Why do you call or text at 4 am to ask am i available now .. you friggen just woke me up .. and my friggen ad says i NEVER work PAST midnight ..

or it saying incall ONLY .. why are you saying I can go to your house .. i could but i wont .. GRRR

and Talk to me with Respect .. Geez

[blacklabdog 3049]

as a newbie - for the ladies who do have a comprehensive profile or better yet, a website - this is a great resource as the first time here, you just can't believe how many wonderful ladies there seem to be and wonder how you're going to figure out who to contact. Like Ice4fun, it's the full experience that I want as well.

 

I am surprised though how many profiles are pretty bereft of any information - makes it tough and could lead to some silly questions more easily answered in a profile or on a website.

 

The past week i have been guilty of exchanging more than the average number of emails with a special lady here but all questions pertained to info not on her site and did serve to help me get a better sense of her personality and affirm I made the right choice.

 

And NO WAY will I call to cancel at the last minute. I'd have to be hit by a bus for that to happen! If some emergency did come up God forbid - I'd actually offer to pay a cancellation fee if my appointment being canceled meant she lost out on another appointment.

 

As an owner of a small business, I can attest that LOTS of customers just don't read beyond the first paragraph or in my case the phone number . They think they save time by emailing me or phoning me and not reading my website's FAQ or other pages related to what i do.

 

So I assume some potential clients see a photo and don't go beyond that and that triggers the start of the endless emails asking basic or worse dumb questions. Alas its not something unique to the escort business but true for any business.

 

All that can be done I think is have a profile/website that answers the basic questions most clients might ask and put it in a clear & concise way

 

my 2¢

 

 

 

For me it's all about the companionship and the connection the "play" is of course always fun but it's the full experience that I want... I need to chat and hug... I am paying for the ladies time and frankly she gets to determine what she thinks her time is worth... As the client my only choice to decide if I want to pay that amount or not... this is not Let's Make a Deal.

.....

 

For me and I think for a number of men we need a certain level of engagement with the lady as part of our decision making process... the pictures and information in the website is often wonderful and informative but just like many ladies say they use their gut instincts to assess a prospective client I think us guy do too so that initial exchange can mean a great deal to a client when he is trying to make a booking decision. I appreciate that many of the ladies would like the gentleman to have made the decision to book before the contact but that cannot always be the case... that initial call, text, Bbm or email is sort of like part of the decision making process and while the guy should have already made a decision that he is serious about booking it might come down to that feeling he gets based on the exchange.

 

[YoungBeautyMirella 5600]

Another turn off that has happened a few times with people I have seen multiple times...I'll get a text out of the blue saying something like 'I wanna see you again, can i do ----to you again and----" of course I don't mind a compliment but if you are just texting me randomly without actually trying to set something up and being explicit and detailing the last session to see if it will happen if you come back, chances are youre touching yourself and trying to sex text me and I find it disrespectful, especially if it's a day off and there's a risk of someone seeing the message. Another thing is some men asking how come beautiful girl like me has to do this and why arent you getting spoiled and taken care of by a rich man? Lmao. .I just laugh it off but I find it comical that some people think being an SP is literally our life and we must have no love life etc or that we areally gold diggers who want to find sone richeck guy to marty. . ..there's a thing called being an independent woman who takes care of herself :P Just because a girl is an escort or massage girl doesn't mean she isn't getting spoiled and loved in her 'real' life ;)

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Hey baby my 10 inches will blow you away! Ok buddy.....see ya!

 

I really don't care about the size of your tool or your perceived sexual prowess. Just be kind and respectful and we will have a good time! I am running low on patience and when someone contacts me in that type of manner I shut down!

 

Sorry but even though this is my chosen profession I do expect a certain amount of maturity and mutual respect!

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

retarded people that show up for appointments with no money.

 

Yes, that is going to get you points with me, NOT.

 

Be prepared, have your facts straight before telling me a bs story.

[AUTUMN RAINE 15548]

Or they show up to the door to check you out ..

i got to the bank now that you look better than your pics ..

ok thanks buddy .. whatever

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

My absolute favorite......do you have any pics? Lololol even though I have several pics posted of my front back and sometimes my feet & legs

But I guess only I can see them

Hilarious

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Men who get one SP mixed up with another by calling several ads in the same part of town. No offense to the other lady.

 

This happened recently...

 

Guy comes in and then says outright "You're not the slim 45 year old mature blonde. I'm not into big girls."

 

My reply was "Yes and I'm not into you either. Now please leave."

 

If he took the time to actually read the right ad, he would be aware of who he was actually calling! I have no time for pricks who don't think with their big head first.

 

And then a few minutes later on the phone..

 

"Hello Vanessa?"

 

Sigh..

[AUTUMN RAINE 15548]

him: Hey hun you have an amazing body for 40

me: Thank you however I am actually 48

Him: Wow rocking body .. you look like you have great stomach muscles ..

me: why thank you .. on work abs at least every 2nd day .. need to have a good strong core

Him: so babygirl what are your rates for the hour

Me: $ 300 for the hour

Him: Thats pretty stiff for 48 .. like you are almost ready to be put out for pasture

Me: thank you for your remarks have a nice day jerking off

 

Sorry just had to say the last part hehe

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

Lmaoooo oh yeah some get really feisty when they cannot afford to pay your rate it's hilarious some of the things they say

I get it too I just laugh and block them

I absolutely hate ignorance

[YoungBeautyMirella 5600]

So a huge turn off is when someone contacts me and I ask them a question and them responding with "why?". it's happened where I said may I ask your age or what website did you find me on... and the person said why instead of answering. Im not asking for your credit card number or what size bra your first girl friend wore (lol) If that is your response then I can tell right there that you are not interested in actually spending time with me so dont expect a response from me, either :) Another thing, which I'm sure had been said before, I've gotten someone texting me and when I respond them asking if I'm single (?) or saying I need a man in my life! Lol You aren't messaging me on Facebook .You found me on an escort website so obviously I'm not going to discuss my personal life with a stranger. I also got a text from a guy asking what I do for 60$.. I didn't respond and 10 minutes later he asked if he can take me out on a date for real because I'm beautiful and deserve a date. Again, he texted 10min later that he can do an in call before or after if he can date me. Wtf?! Lmao at least the guy is optimistic :P

[Amanda-Lee 11094]

One thing I do is ask them to call me, so when I feel the conversation is leading into this "oh baby" bull shit, I direct them to call me. Some examples as follows:

 

"hey baby how much to see you" This, is an automatic, 'please call me'

"Hey, I was wondering about your services and rates" I explain. If at any time they are demanding I say, "please call me"

 

I love the classic excuse when I explain I schedule appointments in a phone call, some responses could be, "oh baby come on..." "I can't call right now, at work or my wife will hear"

 

Sometimes, I just have to let them go by saying, "sorry if you are unable to call me you are unable to see me."

 

The word "baby" in a text message is rather low. It turns me off.

Any explicit messages turns me off.

 

Oh and I could care a less what size is your pickle. Had a few smart cookies thinking giving me their measurements is a go to book, that I will see them because of it.

 

Oh. Spamming. I am tired of guys spam texting me or spam calling me. Have some gentleman class.

[Amelia Fox 9064]

1) My biggest turn off is when someone inquires and asks so what can I get for such and such amount of dollars? Like Ah.. Nothing my rates are firm..

 

2) Another turn off is men who walk in with there muddy boots all over my clean floors.. Rude!

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

God your beautiful...your tits looks great...nice ass

Thankyou...but are you looking to book a time today

Yes sure but God you look amazing are those your real pics,do you have any more, baby you are hot

 

Listen I am flattered with the compliments of course but this guy calls me all the time and say the same shit every time without ever booking a time

Obviously just a pic collector and has no intentions on booking

 

One of my favorites lol

Hi I was wondering if you are available next week ...then when next week comes I hear nothing from the guy

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

The ones that are the pic collectors have to be the worst.

I guess 20+ pictures of me isn't enough to warrant a booking?

 

Messages with 'baby', flat out meaningless so-called 'compliments' or just plain rude, those don't even warrant a reply.

One liners get a canned response of if you are looking to book, could you please let me know if it's in call, out call, how long you are looking for me to entertain you.

 

I took my phone number off my ads as all I was getting was texts asking for pics.

 

If you can't respond to me respectfully, in a polite manner, you don't deserve to see me.

 

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

This really frustrates the hell out of me!

When they call and ask my rate (I give several different rates) then they tell me I have this or can you see me for this

 

Sorry unfortunately I will not lower my rates or nor am I a discount store...please respect my rates and if unable to pay say thank you for your time and find a lady who better fits your finances

 

Oh and when they get mad because you will not book them for whatever reason they call you fat and a hooker lolol

(Love that one)

 

If I am fat because my ribs don't show and I have meat on my body then I embrace my fatness. ...remember you wanted this fat ass hilarious

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

Are you available right now? ...u mm sorry no unfortunately I do not sit around in my lingerie waiting for you to call me I have other things going on and I'd rather lounge in a pair of jogs and a t shirt until it's time to get sexy

So sorry I am not available right now lollololol

[tanguayetiennepc 177]

Hi ! i am new here, be nice please !

 

I, personnaly like when (I usually text the ladies) the girl call me names through messages, but when we get to talk on the phone, I realised that all my favorite ones were those being classy and cute, not the 'hotline' type

 

sweetie, babe, honey through text messages usually put a smile on my face and make the wait to meet her more exciting !

 

-E.T.