Turn-offs for a lady

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31734]

* Assuming I do drugs or offer party favors because they may have seen another lady who is into that type of life style... Please don't judge me without speaking to me and taking the time to get to know me as a lady first and fore most!

We all don't work the same and we all don't have drug habits

 

*non smoker and 100% drug free

 

But I do enjoy a nice glass of white wine! Yum

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Asking way too personal questions right off the bat (before even meeting).

 

Once we meet and get to know each other, perhaps we will discuss more personal issues but to ask about my personal relationships, my family life, etc., within the first 5 minutes of a conversation/text/email/chatroom convo, is just plain rude.

 

It is none of your damn business. I don't know you so why would I share such intimate information with someone I may never meet face to face? It has nothing to do with what OUR time together will be like.

 

Sorry, quick rant :)

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31734]

I sometimes get that too Meg!

I don't mind sharing some things about myself with those I have been seeing for some time and feel.comfortable with

But I will.absolutely.not put my life right out there to someone that I am not comfortable with and do not know

I think sometimes they just like to.break the.ice and use those things for conversation starters because they are.nervous(and some are just plain.nosey) but I do agree I don't want to talk about my personal life regarding my family or personal relationships

Some.things are best kept to yourself

I always say.....what happens in.Vegas stays in Vegas and when.we are together let's just enjoy each other and talk about nothing but us

[Ann Gallerie 7910]

Many of my contacts say they have never hired an escort before. They know nothing at all about screening.

 

Maybe they think if they phone enough escorts, they will find one who doesn't screen at all!

[Guest **sh****he***ac***th]

* Assuming I do drugs or offer party favors because they may have seen another lady who is into that type of life style... Please don't judge me without speaking to me and taking the time to get to know me as a lady first and fore most!

We all don't work the same and we all don't have drug habits

 

*non smoker and 100% drug free

 

But I do enjoy a nice glass of white wine! Yum

 

You are therefore a perfect match with me then. I do not smoke nor do I take drugs of any sort. I like a glass or two of wine or a cold beer and that's it. Good girl!!!!

[Guest K***e D****ls]

Ann, I'm so glad you said this!

 

My screening is a lot more than a vague name and a (play phone) cell number. I need to know who you actually are. I've had someone in my personal life try to book me and I can NOT have that. I want to know the person I'm seeing isn't on any National Blacklists, is safe, discreet, is a gentleman, and that I'll enjoy my time with them. My screening is mentioned a couple of times on my website- it isn't a surprise.

 

Anyone actually interested in seeing me has never fought my rules; they've actually been very accommodating. It's always the random one offs who try to argue and accuse me of the risk of potentially stalking them if I had their real info. I always laugh because if these particular guys had any idea of the identities of some people I've seen/do see (who have had no issue with my screening and knowing their identity), they would hightail it with their self-importance in embarrassment. haha

 

That being said, I get that everyone has personal situations that they are protective of. My reputation at this point is solidified and speaks for itself. I didn't just pop up last week and am easy to look up to find out if I'm legit, whether it be on this site or overall. I have reviews dating back to summer of 2009 (linked on my site to make life easy). I think that if someone isn't comfortable in giving their information, instead of trying to hassle a lady who makes her rules very clear, they should find a lady more suited to their privacy concerns. That's the joy of this world: there are all kinds. There is a lady suited for every gent that comes along. And no one is the right fit for everyone.

 

I know in this post alone I must seem like a hardass! haha Sorry! It's only in this thread and the context of it. :-P

[Ice4fun 78407]

I think sometimes they just like to.break the.ice and use those things for conversation starters because they are.nervous(and some are just plain.nosey)

 

I kinda think you are right especially when meeting a lady for the first time and when there may not have been much conversation by email /text/phone before the meeting. We get nervous and look for topics to keep the conversation flowing... often in other types of social interactions it is family and work that we default to.

 

Hey and sometimes we are just nosey bastards. Lol

 

Just my opinion.

[Ann Gallerie 7910]

"hey is this Ann?"

"who's calling please?"

"this is Fred. Watcha doing this afternoon?"

"I...."

"Whereabouts are you? I'm coming in from XXXX"

"Before I say that, what is your last name?"

"I don't go there."

"Sorry?"

"No last names."

"So when you saw my number, just above it, it says "Screening essential."

"Oh, I have never been asked for screening."

"I am curious. Why would you go with someone who won't screen?"

 

.....and why are you calling a screener?

 

I hate narcissists!

 

Additional Comments:

"hey is this Ann?"

"who's calling please?"

"this is Fred. Watcha doing this afternoon?"

"I...."

"Whereabouts are you? I'm coming in from XXXX"

"Before I say that, what is your last name?"

"I don't go there."

"Sorry?"

"No last names."

"So when you saw my number, just above it, it says "Screening essential."

"Oh, I have never been asked for screening."

"I am curious. Why would you go with someone who won't screen?"

 

.....and why are you calling a screener?

 

I hate narcissists!

[JodyWild 4740]

What Is A Turn Off For Me The Most Is... Bad Hygiene.

But...Do Have To Agree What's up is kind of rude to some.

 

I prefer to start with hello (the persons name or cerb name), how are you. I hope all is well. Then maybe throw in a whats up or what are you looking to get today.

[JessicaSugarbabe 1687]

What a great post! Like other ladies have mentioned repetitive texting asking questions about services and rates, then enquiring for same info the following day? I often then peg these at time wasters and do not respond or say "same as when we last spoke?" My biggest turn off is a text "how much?" or "how much for this service? So tacky! No hello, no manners equals no response from me!

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

the repetitive texts and phone calls is what got to me.

 

If you can't take the 2 minutes to read my website to find out more about me,what is going to make you think that i am going to spend 6 hours defining everything in my website to you just because you don't have the time to look at it!

 

If your going to look at my site, great! But at the same time, take the time to see if I am compatible to you before you contact me.

 

One person turned me down JUST because of my location, I was in a $600,000 condo in Dartmouth, but all he saw was Dartmouth and assumed it must be a run down area!

 

Don't be turned off just because of a location, I happen to be in an area better than some high priced hotels in Halifax, but just across the bridge from it, basically, 'don't knock it till you've tried it'!

 

It's what I offer inside my location that should count, not the area I chose to reside in.

[Guest Miss Jane TG]

Self entitlement!

Zero tolerance.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31734]

Argggg!!!

 

I am so extremely pissed! One major turn-off for me is when.I.have been seeing a gentlemen for some time and he feels he is entitled to talk to me any way he chooses and expects me to do as he wishes because he is paying for my time!

I have forever been.posting my hours of availability and for as long as I can remember I stop about 10pm every evening(which by the way he knew this) but because his work.schedule was conflicting with the time I stop working he started to bash me and become pretty rude and inconsiderate of me and my time telling me I am an escort that 10 pm is not an acceptable time to stop....I am also a mother and I work a job in the early am

We as sp providers do live a separate life and also have other priorities I unfortunately cannot work 24/7

 

I would like to thank the gentlemen that are respectful of my hours and my life xo

[Miss Jessica Lee 43328]

the easiest way to avoid after-hours bs is to simply not answer your phone. I don't book via text unless it's someone I know, and although I have an outgoing message, I have my phone set not to accept incoming voicemails.

 

I post in my ads that generic ("what's up?" type) or rude messages will probably be ignored, and that's often what I do. I don't engage at all with those people, trying to educate them or train them in etiquette isn't fun for me.

 

Turn offs for me are people who

 

try to tell me how to run my business

tell me I don't advertise enough (if I'm booked why advertise??)

cancel last minute or no show

have a sense of entitlement

take 17 emails to book an hour visit

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

The number one things that pisses me of and this is not directed at Cerb gents. Most ladies advertise elsewhere of course and one common theme is these people don't bother to read one thing about me.

 

I get tons of calls and there is no, "Hello my name is Bill, how are you?" Sometimes its , "hey just wondering what your rates are". If I'm in a good mood I usually tell him that if this is first question it probably isn't going to work. lol. If I'm in a bad mood I just hang up. Generally this type of fool will call right back and say the same thing. Never once have I been able to turn this sort of call around.

[Guest]

My one and only turn off is the lack of respect for the things I NEED to book an appointment. This includes same day appointments. Even though it's explained in ads, my website and my blog. It has caused me to change my procedure to ensure my time is not going to be wasted. What is the most upsetting is when it is clients from cerb, or clients who do know me. Emails from people who know better read like this: I know what you want/need to book an appointment but I'm going to disrespect you and ignore your basic requests. If I don't get what I need to book an appointment, emails simply get ignored, even if I know the person.

 

Other than that I love receiving greetings from potential clients, I love talking to clients before or after sessions and I don't mind answering questions(that are not on my website). I think the thing stated above is the only thing about escorting that really turns me off.

[kerrixoxo 33719]

Pretty much everything that turns me off has been said (negotiating, entitlement, not reading my site). One thing I experienced recently was a gent who messaged me asking me to explain why some ladies ask for references and some don't, and if there were "starter escorts." There was no indication he wanted to book--he just didn't want to do the research himself and expected me to answer his question. Essentially, gents who ask questions of ladies who they have no intention of booking or who don't want to do the research/work themselves is just a huge turn off. And, laziness is never attracted...except on Sundays lol (jk)

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31734]

I just absolutely hate disrespect and there is a lot of that in this

Just because one person may work.a certain way doesn't mean someone else will work the same way

What may be right for you may not be right and work for.someone else

We all do what we feel is comfortable for us and should never be made to feel less because of what someone else may want or feel

I.enjoy what I do and absolutely love.spending time with kind respectful gentlemen

[Maddy 270]

Thanks for the post and to all that replied. Such interesting comments. May I add....seriously......, as a listed 'mature' the 'hey baby what are you looking for' just sends chills down my spine. What am I looking for? Really? And you are sending me a note why? Time is money yes, and I'll take all the time needed to ensure my clients are comfortable with me and trust me knowing that the good ones you want to keep enjoying but.... rude, crude immature and head games don't work no matter what age you are at.

[SexxxyRebecca 57990]

"Wassup" from someone I never met..:confused0024:

 

Oups!! Didnt see the OP post the same thing! Lol

[LeeRichards 177238]

"Wassup" from someone I never met..:confused0024:

 

I suppose you could reply ... "Wassup ? ....My foot up your ass fucknut"

[Guest K***e D****ls]

When a guy talks about another lady/ladies incessantly during a get-together. To quote 'Gone With The Wind', 'Frankly, I don't give a damn'... It's not my business what's going on with this girl or that girl, and I simply don't care, so I'll turn the table of conversation quickly if that kind of pointless one-ended talk starts up.

 

Stubble! Guys, please either have a closely shaven face or a trimmed beard. Stubble really hurts and depending how sensitive a lady's face is, it can leave varying degrees of stubble burn.

 

I swear I'm done here on this thread! haha

[LeeRichards 177238]

 

I swear I'm done here on this thread! haha

 

No your not !! Haha Just when you think you are done ....some dude somewhere will find a new way to piss you off or "turn you off" ;)

[roamingguy 300292]

Is it a turn off to ask for RV dates???...:icon_rolleyes:

Or 420 Friendly dates???...:icon_rolleyes:

Or how about 420 Friendly dates in an RV???...:icon_rolleyes:

 

Half tongue in cheek and half serious

 

RG :-)

[Guest K***e D****ls]

No your not !! Haha Just when you think you are done ....some dude somewhere will find a new way to piss you off or "turn you off" ;)

 

LOL! Yeah, you're probably right. I'm going back in the archives for some of these. Most of them should be common sense/courtesy, but sometimes a friendly reminder is needed. ;)