Turn-offs for a lady

[gogofmagog 655]

"Are these sheets clean?" What am I? A dirt bag? That is disgusting!

 

And btw I have a secret second job in the evenings.... it's called doing laundry. So yes, ALL the sheets and pillow cases are clean for each guest I have which is not a lot these days. I am very selective with who I decide to meet with or who I will allow to sit on my clean sheets. lol.

 

 

"Avail?" How about writing it out in a proper sentence which doesn't even take 30 seconds. I will only answer those who send a proper greeting. This speaks volumes about the person.

 

 

Yeah it is disgusting to show up for an appointment and the sheets are covered with man nectar stains... body hair and pubes... it has happened to me numerous times!

 

I don't think is unreasonable to ask that question.

 

How should one start a text message? I have used "Available?" for the past 4 years with no issues... what does that say about me as a person?

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Yeah it is disgusting to show up for an appointment and the sheets are covered with man nectar stains... body hair and pubes... it has happened to me numerous times!

 

I don't think is unreasonable to ask that question.

 

How should one start a text message? I have used "Available?" for the past 4 years with no issues... what does that say about me as a person?

 

When someone specifically mentioned that they took the time to read the lady's website, it says she uses clean sheets for EVERY session. They would already know that. I guess they didn't read it. I find that very off putting

 

And just saying "Available" isn't a good way to start out. Hello is always better.

 

Guys may not think this is a big deal but we are in an intimate business here and saying Hello or quickly introducing yourself will get you more brownie points. Trust me! When I see someone say "Available?", it appears to me that this is just a transaction that is cold and impersonal. I don't roll that way and I have no interest in meeting men like that. Same with "Rates, service, location?" Delete, delete and delete!

 

Forgive me for wanting to give someone an experience and starting out with a connection first. That means by saying "Hello" if you want to have a great experience and not just some in and out like you're another number. If a guy treats a lady like that, she may receive him but not with her best foot forward. So maybe that could explain the dirty sheets, etc you have had. If that suits you, then no harm, no foul.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31733]

I hate one word texts also....I do prefer Hi or Hello how are you...are you available

Just common courtesy and much more appealing

[Phaedrus 209521]

How should one start a text message? I have used "Available?" for the past 4 years with no issues... what does that say about me as a person?

 

I think there's a big difference between "Available?" being the start of the message, and the entirety of the message. The latter seems to be what causes annoyance.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

"How much for 10 minutes?" I wrote back and said "Are you kidding me? LMAO!!"

 

Even an oil change probably takes longer than that! I have to shake my head and wonder what is going to become of this industry? I've noticed it's become so cold and mechanical from the way people introduce themselves to this clinical type of experience they seek. If it wasn't for all the great regular clients I have cultivated, it would be this type of bullshit that would make me want to leave the business. Many thanks to the clients out there who do take the time and effort. You do not know how grateful I am as I'm sure many other ladies are as well.

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[JoyfulC 132299]

I think there's a big difference between "Available?" being the start of the message, and the entirety of the message. The latter seems to be what causes annoyance.

 

 

I understand that, for many guys, this is a spur of the moment thing. I don't judge them for that. I understand, having asked enough people why they book that way over the years. Truth is, my husband was in a similar job for many years, where if he'd wanted to do something like this, he couldn't have given much notice, and where he might have had to cancel short. (He explained as much to me.) So yes, I do understand.

 

But that said, as much as I might want to be available on such a basis, my situation simply doesn't allow it.

 

All we can do is pass. With no animosity. All we can do is wish one another the best.

[LuxeMulvari 65764]

I understand that, for many guys, this is a spur of the moment thing. I don't judge them for that. I understand, having asked enough people why they book that way over the years. Truth is, my husband was in a similar job for many years, where if he'd wanted to do something like this, he couldn't have given much notice, and where he might have had to cancel short. (He explained as much to me.) So yes, I do understand.

 

But that said, as much as I might want to be available on such a basis, my situation simply doesn't allow it.

 

All we can do is pass. With no animosity. All we can do is wish one another the best.

 

I agree. I don't get offended when I see just one word "sentences" ex Rates? Available? I just realize that this isn't my type of client and I just ignore them.No harm no foul.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31733]

OMG....every now and then I get these days where it starts off with a crazy text and the whole day goes that way

 

I know that this has been mentioned several times and I am so not trying to be a b*tch about it but *please take the time to read the entire ad before calling/texting

 

I do not write a novel it's pretty much brief and to the point and only takes a few minutes to read

*I always post hours of availability(No I am not available in the middle of the night)

*I always put in and out (to hotels) which means (No I will not travel to private homes)

*Safe dates....So (No I do not play unsafe and I still will not even if you offer to pay more....remember you are paying for my time)

*Rates firm (please do Not ask me the rates and then ask if I can lower) I offer three different rates smh

*I post at least 3-5 pics with my ad (so No I will Not send pics)

 

 

Sometimes I wonder why I even write anything when some guys just seem to see the phone number

 

Just one of those days....blahhh

[Brad 49548]

 

 

Sometimes I wonder why I even write anything when some guys just seem to see the phone number

 

Just one of those days....blahhh

 

Easy to see how that would be very frustrating.

 

I also doubt in many cases it's that they aren't reading the ads so much as hoping they can push things and see what you'll waver on. Some guys will take the "there's no harm in asking" approach, or figure if they try it with everyone then eventually they'll get their way. The thought that they're inconveniencing or frustrating someone either doesn't occur to them or doesn't concern them.

 

Either way, perhaps you can look at it as an easy test to quickly tell who you don't want to see. And on the flip side, there's a lot of gentlemen who appreciate an ad that's informative and clear on a lady's preference. Just try to remind yourself your putting the effort and information in for them. :)

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31733]

Yes indeed! Just frustrating either way especially when they ask to see a pic lmaooo like are you serious because any where you seen my contact number you have seen a pic guaranteed

 

They try hard but it just shows me they are not who I would like to share my time with

 

I would much rather spend it with a kind genuine gentlemen who has taken the time to read my post

 

I have no problems at all providing rates/location/availability

Just as long as you are respectful xo

[Moon Seerose 760]

I just had a guy completely flip out because I told him I won't do bare bjs. Started berating me, telling me I was ugly, fat and that his friend said I smelled. How he bet my family would be proud of me when they find out what I do. All this because I said no to bare in a province that is issuing warnings about syphilis being on the rise. Really?! There's a turn off. Someone that can't respect someone for being careful about what they do.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31733]

That's just a danm disgrace when someone has to belittle you for something you do not want to do

You should never have to do anything you do not feel comfortable with...it's suppose to be all about good times

I also do not provide anything bb and if someone feels the need to get upset because of it well they just aren't worth my precious time

This seems to be a big problem lately....just because some offer a certain service doesn't mean all ladies do

We are all different and work in different ways

Playing safe is a Turn On for me thank you

 

Additional Comments:

There is nothing worse than going on a booking (out of town) and after speaking with someone and making plans on seeing them and then you don't hear shit from them

Like why do you do that? I understand life happens but it takes only a a minute out of your day to write/call to cancel

Such a major turn-off and I think those types will be marked in my book as NO for future visits

[Guest s******ecan****]

I just had a guy completely flip out because I told him I won't do bare bjs. Started berating me, telling me I was ugly, fat and that his friend said I smelled. How he bet my family would be proud of me when they find out what I do. All this because I said no to bare in a province that is issuing warnings about syphilis being on the rise. Really?! There's a turn off. Someone that can't respect someone for being careful about what they do.

 

Unacceptable behaviour and it shows a lot about the true character of the person.

 

I have certain preferences and I always ask if a lady offers them because as Danielle mentioned just because some offer it doesn't mean all do. In the past when a lady doesn't offer what I am looking for I either don't book, or do because I'm interested anyways and willing to forego the services not offered.

 

Proper respect and etiquette demands that I don't even ask why she doesn't provide (that's entirely her business) much less try to convince her to make an exception or criticize her for it.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Anyone who is a stranger to me calling me "babe". Ugh!

[Ann Gallerie 7910]

I would say what I hate is the ongoing misconception about what an escort really is.

 

Mathematics escapes the critics. It seems that nobody has figured out the truth: there are a lot more clients than there are escorts. We choose. Clients are favoured because of our genuine interest in them.

 

I would hazard a guess - and I don`t think I`m wrong in this - that clients have formed long term relationships and even marriages with escorts. And why not....I have `met`many kind and helpful women and men in Lyra who give their love and caring along with their passion.

 

There is also the proverbial op ed media piece about escorts as the high-booted streetwalker off-angle shot in a dodgy part of town. Anyone who has ever actually met an escort knows that we are exceptionally low profile and highly discreet; the original `you`d never guess`girls. But that doesn`t sell media, it just perpetuates a lie.

 

This is to you, sisters and brothers, for keeping your heads high and sharing the love.

 

God bless! ;)

[Amanda-Lee 11094]

Two parts to this.

 

If you start sending me a message and are like, "babe," "sexy," and so on right off the bat, this isn't at all appealing. I am respectful and answer but don't give any flirtatious comments in return. I find it is off topic at the beginning of getting in contact with me.

 

The other part is, some men actually have respect and ask questions, and I mildly flirt back to their suggestion and I wait for how they respond. If they respond in a respectful flirtatious way, I will continue to flirt back.

 

Honestly, the second option gets you way more from someone (well from me aways) so why try so hard and be like, "hey babe I saw your ad, lets hook up and ****" Not cool.

 

Just don't do it.

Period.

 

Additional Comments:

Nevermind the message before... How about a message that is sent to you, "bro and I am taking the bus" Okay SERIOUSLY...

 

1 I am not a dude

2 how disrespectful

3 not my problem

4 should have left earlier, BRAH

 

Do people not know what not to say to a SP?

 

There has to be a full moon tonight or something because I was just asked if I would trade alcohol for my service... *facepalm* What is wrong with people tonight...

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Asking me literally out of the blue on a first time visit with no segue in the conversation. Don't ask about children when you're seeing an escort. It's tacky, creepy and perverted sounding. When it comes to guys like this, most escorts would deny they have children and I don't blame them one bit.

[peacectryguy 12547]

 

Additional Comments:

Nevermind the message before... How about a message that is sent to you, "bro and I am taking the bus" Okay SERIOUSLY...

 

1 I am not a dude

2 how disrespectful

3 not my problem

4 should have left earlier, BRAH

 

Do people not know what not to say to a SP?

 

There has to be a full moon tonight or something because I was just asked if I would trade alcohol for my service... *facepalm* What is wrong with people tonight...

I'm sorry but I had to laugh my ass off at those. I know it's frustrating, to say the least, but the stupidity of that is just so funny. :biggrin: All I can say is thank God for the stupid people in the world. They make some of us look awfully smart in comparison, even though we aren't all that bright. Tee hee.

On a slightly more serious note, I've said it before on here but common sense just isn't very common sometimes.

Thank you to all the ladies who put up with so much bullshit but still manage to see the good guys in the crowd full of losers. :ThankYou:

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31733]

Omg pleaseeeee do not text me saying this......

 

Hi I am new to this and looking for an on going arrangement with one lady....I am interested in you please send pics

Sighs

Any ad you have seen of mine I always have more than one pic posted NO I will not send pics for your pleasure

Also please do Not ask for a face pic if I do not have face pics posted it is for a reason

I am very discreet and will continue to stay that way please respect that

I guarantee you I am pretty lol

[SexxxyRebecca 57990]

"yoooooo" ughhh. NO-NO

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

My knew turn off is clients asking how much i'm paying for my loft....why is it of any interest!... some people are so nosey...if I answer vaguely "not too bad"...they come back with "well how much" :icon_rolleyes:

 

I Wonder how they would react if I asked them how much THEY are paying...pfff

[Ice4fun 78407]

My knew turn off is clients asking how much i'm paying for my loft....why is it of any interest!... some people are so nosey...if I answer vaguely "not too bad"...they come back with "well how much" :icon_rolleyes:

 

I Wonder how they would react if I asked them how much THEY are paying...pfff

 

Most likely just very jealous... after all who would not be... but you are right a bit tacky to ask.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

A little birdy told me that they read on another site that my comments in this thread are off putting. Actually it's none of my business what people think of me but what I do find amusing is they took time to post about me. I guess I must be very important. lol.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31733]

Okay .... sighs

 

Why ask for my rates if your only going to tell me you only have this much to spend lol

If you call to inquire about a professional massage do you think they will ask you what you have in your pocket and charge you that amount?

Um no

If you cannot afford to pay my rates then please be respectful and say thankyou and find another lady that is in your budget

I give a few different rates and I find it rather insulting when asked to lower my rate to accommodate you, and this hasn't really been happening with cerb members but more so CL and backpage smh

[AUTUMN RAINE 15548]

My new favorite BS lines are baby you are hot but you are soo expensive ..

do you give discounts to younger guys who have big dicks and can last a long time ..

Ummm let me think about that .. NOOOO