Why we love married men and women...

[Guest **sh****he***ac***th]

Being an unattached widower I am able to mow the grass wherever I care to without fear of having the cord of my electric mower wrapped around my neck! I have no desire (at this point anyways) to become involved in a serious long-term relationship as I have had the one love of my life pass away. What was once green on the other side of the fence is now on this side so I intend to enjoy it to the fullest. No gas mowers were used in the making of this post.

[CristyCurves 169032]

I did not misinterpret what she wrote. I just disagrees with some of her points. I have been in this business for 33 years continuously ( no breaks), I am single and I have met numerous ladies in Canada and abroad having lived 4 years overseas. I have been friends with a few of the ladies I met and quite a few over the years have confided in me. Those I met that had client issues, were with married men. And I could write quite a few very bad stories including some stalker ones.

 

So yes I agree with you, that Cristy or anyone for that matter can express heir opinion as long as they are respectful, that also includes me.

 

But Loneskater with all due respect I wasn't making a point I just stated what I had experienced and how I felt. Not really even an opinion. However I suppose feelings are opinions. If I made a statement I would have said I believe married men are less likely to challenge my feelings as said in my last post, lol. The post that you questioned and disagreed with was simply, once again, just an experience. So disagreeing with it is like saying it didn't happen and I'm not sure how you would know that:)You however were speaking not from an experience but of things you've been told, not quite the same. Still understandable, I hope you don't mind my clarification:)

[Guest Be***iful****lah]

Being an unattached widower I am able to mow the grass wherever I care to without fear of having the cord of my electric mower wrapped around my neck! I have no desire (at this point anyways) to become involved in a serious long-term relationship as I have had the one love of my life pass away. What was once green on the other side of the fence is now on this side so I intend to enjoy it to the fullest. No gas mowers were used in the making of this post.

 

Your post is both touching and humorous all at once. I am so very sorry about your loss:(

Your grass does sound quite vividly rich and green, happy you are enjoying it's providence. Nothing better than to have the ability to appreciate fully what is already on your side of the fence, that is also an admirable quality I always strive for.

[Ice4fun 78407]

I suppose what I am about to say does not necessarily pin point only married folks but rather those who are in a committed, or somewhat serious relationship.

 

I am a bit of a pervert, and therefore am quite turned on by the fact that I am the "other woman"....regardless of how anyone may define that relationship.

 

It's that whole "forbidden apple" appeal. It feels adventurous, exhilarating, and just plain naughty. This is definitely the little demon on my shoulder speaking when I say that the idea of a man lusting after me while he is in the presence of another woman is really damn sexy.

 

I am sure so many can expand on this appeal....

 

Consider yourself Lusted after....

[Guest Be***iful****lah]

Oh yes and being a dirty little secret is hot as well.

 

So guys....what is it that you love about married women?

 

By the way, for a voyeur such as I- imagining a lover with an other woman is also a turn on.

 

Sigh, I feel like my naughtiness is being exposed here:)

[Guest **sh****he***ac***th]

Oh yes and being a dirty little secret is hot as well.

 

So guys....what is it that you love about married women?

 

By the way, for a voyeur such as I- imagining a lover with an other woman is also a turn on.

 

Sigh, I feel like my naughtiness is being exposed here:)

 

My neighbour is the cutest and sweetest young lady you would ever meet. She and her husband have two cute and well behaved little kids. She is an adorable lady and he's an aloof jerk who won't give me the time of day but she always comes over and talks to me when she sees me. I would definitely have an fling with her should she want to for two reasons: I like her. Him I don't.

[Guest P**aq]

I've never been attracted to the concept of fooling around with a married woman, I'd be more freaked about the guy finding out, walking in, or how bad he would feel! But to each his own :)

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

Honestly, I don't pay much attention to married or single, for me, it's about the PERSON who shows up at my door and what energy they bring into my oasis. Everyone has a reason for seeing an SP, something is needed or wanted. Single or married, I care about the person that shows up and their story. Everything else is part of the connection story and is written as life progresses. I appreciate the time and energy given to me, the pleasure and enjoyment, the energy. To me, it's not about the label, it's about the person.

[peacectryguy 12547]

Honestly, I don't pay much attention to married or single, for me, it's about the PERSON who shows up at my door and what energy they bring into my oasis. Everyone has a reason for seeing an SP, something is needed or wanted. Single or married, I care about the person that shows up and their story. Everything else is part of the connection story and is written as life progresses. I appreciate the time and energy given to me, the pleasure and enjoyment, the energy. To me, it's not about the label, it's about the person.

well said, it is about the person and not the label in all human interactions.

[Ice4fun 78407]

It's nice to hear that SP'S like Married guys....lolol... i figure anything that makes me more attractive to sexy p

Beautiful ladies can't be a bad thing...

 

That said... I know a lot if SP'S don't like to share if they are married or in a relationship because, I have been told, some clients like the idea that perhaps they could land the lady in real world.... for me.... i love when I year a lady us married....I am not sure I can explain it but there is something sexy about fucking another man's wife....and even more sexy thinking about the wild sex that they must have.... yea I am pervert... i have even though I would love to see the SP really fucked by her hubby....after all I assume he really knows what she likes..... talk about inside info.... so being a Married SP....works for me.

 

Just my opinion

[nntsci 11076]

"If married men are more likely not to get attracted then why is the divorce rate so high in this country? I wonder if the stalkers in this business are all single?"

 

I do know of one man that did leave his wife for an escort, but I think that's a rarity. More often its the wife that ends the marriage after she find out what he's doing. Men see escorts because they want the best of both worlds... Good sex and a blissful domestic life. Its rare to get both with the same woman. Well, that's my reason anyway. I have no intention of leaving my wife. I like her actually, we get along well, we go out regularly, I get along with her family, we have 4 wonderful children (teenagers and adults)... the only complaint I have about her at all is that she doesn't want as much sex as me... In fact she doesn't even realize how rarely we have sex... She never believes me if I tell her its been over a month (she will say, no I'm sure it hasn't been that long).

 

I have a couple of escorts that I consider friends, but I do not view them romantically. We have a great time together, we talk, we joke around, one even let me paint a picture of her, but I have no interest in leaving my wife for those gals (and vice versa).

 

I think divorce is more common with affairs than with escorts because its much harder to keep an affair secret and they often have an emotional component with the other woman. I believe that the divorce rate would be a lot lower if people would focus on getting the sex they need from a professional, rather than from an amateur affair.

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

I've never been attracted to the concept of fooling around with a married woman, I'd be more freaked about the guy finding out, walking in, or how bad he would feel! But to each his own :)

 

 

Ahh but this rides on the assumption that married SP's hide their chosen profession from their spouses or partners, as their partner would "feel bad". While it may be rare, there are SUPPORTIVE spouses and partners in the industry... And even some who are aroused by what their women do.

 

As RG would say...

 

Just a rambling :)

[Guest P**aq]

Ahh but this rides on the assumption that married SP's hide their chosen profession from their spouses or partners, as their partner would "feel bad". While it may be rare, there are SUPPORTIVE spouses and partners in the industry... And even some who are aroused by what their women do.

 

As RG would say...

 

Just a rambling :)

 

Sorry Savannah, you misread my intent, I was not talking about SP's.

[Guest Be***iful****lah]

I have always been fascinated with every aspect of intimate relationships, including within a marriage. I am extremely passionate and interested in the topic of relationships; love, sex, affairs, etc.

 

One day maybe I will write a book on this topic (seriously is a dream).

 

Therefore, I blame this fascination of mine as yet an other factor as to why I do very much enjoy the company of married men.

 

Some(not all)...but some...will open up and confide about what it is about their married life that has led them to seek intimacy elsewhere. They open up their hearts, share their story, and teach me about life and love with their experiences. To me, this knowledge is wealth for my soul. Their story IS a part of what makes them who they are, and who they have become.

 

Most of the time, these men and women are still very much in love, committed, and loyal to their spouse. They work their asses off to keep their families in tact, to protect them, to support them.

 

So, in those cases...I like to think that I am there to refill their cups with loving, affection, passion, and life. Perhaps it does nothing to help, but I always hope that somehow it gives that extra push to help keep them going and giving.

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

Sorry Savannah, you misread my intent, I was not talking about SP's.

 

 

Indeed I did misread your intent lol Sorry love!

[Guest P**aq]

No problem! I love your posts and suspected as much!

[Phaedrus 209521]

I think divorce is more common with affairs than with escorts because its much harder to keep an affair secret and they often have an emotional component with the other woman. I believe that the divorce rate would be a lot lower if people would focus on getting the sex they need from a professional, rather than from an amateur affair.

 

I think this is absolutely true. I think a SP is far less likely to ask, "So when are you going to leave her for me?" The boundaries imposed by a professional relationship are hugely important.

 

It's something that annoys me slightly in all the various bits of journalism on sex work that I see... nobody ever seems to ask how many marriages SPs save.

[nntsci 11076]

"Some(not all)...but some...will open up and confide about what it is about their married life that has led them to seek intimacy elsewhere. They open up their hearts, share their story, and teach me about life and love with their experiences. To me, this knowledge is wealth for my soul. Their story IS a part of what makes them who they are, and who they have become."

 

I usually talk to my SP about my homelife to some extent. Sometimes I like to see new girls that I've never seen before; sometimes I like to reconnect with a lady I've seen several times before. One of my favourites has been quite the marital counsellor and has a lot of wisdom about relationships. Its rare when a man and a woman can be that honest with each other because there is no pretence (unless we want to play pretend). Once, I was telling her about another woman who was flirting with me, she sternly told me not to cheat on my wife. It was funny to be there lying naked with this lady, and her telling me not to cheat, but she's right. I've seen her (my SP that is, not the flirty girl) several times and think of her as a friend... but have no romantic attachment... I told her I view her as a friend... and I initially said, "an expensive friend", but corrected myself... that she's much less expensive than the cost of a divorce.

 

Additional Comments:

I've never been attracted to the concept of fooling around with a married woman, I'd be more freaked about the guy finding out, walking in, or how bad he would feel! But to each his own :)

I actually accidentally found out that one of my SP is married. I respect her privacy and definitely wouldn't bring it up. It neither attracts me nor bothers me.

[PistolPete 61421]

Status might be, as in married, GF,BF, open relationship,swingers, as long as the adults are able to fulfill that fantasy,but realizing the reality of the beautiful time spent with a woman that can fulfill their sexual desires without ever crossing that fine line.

 

As they always go back to their spouse,GF,BF and what kind of relationship the provider and gentleman might be in. But being able to express thoughts emotions with one another, makes the time even more dynamic for both as they could possibly share intimate details, knowing that individual can be trusted two fold.

 

If a SP has another relationship, I'm quite content not to ever get my nose in her business, I'm strictly looking to create moments, live and love freely without any strings attached. It is key to successful bonding with women within this business.

 

As they say K.I.S.S. ( keep it simple stupid) but exploring so many kinky and desirable sexual encounters can be so much fun and of COURSE the rewards far outweigh other small issues in life.

 

Live Well,Laugh Often,Love Freely......my motto ;)

 

I hope this makes sense.

[Guest R**3*9]

It has never really occurred to me that being married or single would be in any way a factor in an encounter. - I am always learning new things here. :)

 

I think that it is very true that companions maintain many marriages. I decided earlier this year that I would give my wife another opportunity to make the marriage work. I also promised myself that I wasn't going to give up on my own happiness to stay married. Which is where the beautiful women of CERB come. I've been lucky to find a fantastic lady with whom I can be intimate, affectionate laugh spoil and feel myself with. She offers me an oasis that has put the sparkle back in my eye and gives me the ability to work on other aspects of my life.

 

Now, if all that is a turn on to you. WOW!!! what a bonus LOL :)

 

On another note I have been the "other guy" twice in my life and it was incredibly exciting knowing that someone in a relationship was choosing to spend time with me over their SO.