Would you be worried about being scammed

[CoolCucumber 2610]

If you were booking a trip, even with your regular escort, would you prepay her? I did and now I am not getting any replies to my texts and the deadline to finalize the trip is today.

[SexxxyRebecca 57989]

If you were booking a trip, even with your regular escort, would you prepay her? I did and now I am not getting any replies to my texts and the deadline to finalize the trip is today.

 

The day is not over yet.. She might just be busy. If its a regular girl I dont see why she would scam you... Wait few more hours.

[CoolCucumber 2610]

The day is not over yet.. She might just be busy. If its a regular girl I dont see why she would scam you... Wait few more hours.

 

The time to book has passed and I indicated that today was the deadline in some of my texts. She's usually very good at replying. However, I may have gotten a little panicked at the deadline and gotten a little demanding in my texts. I should mention that she did answer one of my texts today and then went silent when I started discussing the trip.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Not related to this world but, I had an appointment for some seasonal work slated for a Friday morning. This was prepaid in the fall. His uncle passed away on the Thursday and He needed to rush out of town. The last thing on his mind was my appointment the next day. Sure, I was a bit peeved when he didn't respond to my calls but I realized that something must have happened. It took a week for him to get back to me but we rescheduled and the work has been done.

 

I am sure she will refund you if she is unable to follow thru. After all, I am sure she is cognizant of the fact that anything other than a reimbursement would hurt her reputation and in turn her business. I guess if you are unable to wait a bit longer, make other arrangements.

[Ice4fun 78407]

At this point you don't know what might be happening in her life.... my suggestion would be to pop her a message and politely let her know that when she is available you want to chat about what happened.... reread your text... if you said anything inappropriate apologize...

 

You need to get some fact and then go from there.

 

In the end you may lose on this but at least give it a chance for the facts.... at the end of the day even good people make bad choices.

 

Lolol... no having said all that you should understand that I suck at all this relationship stuff lol.

 

Just my opinion.

[Maddy 270]

I hope this is just a misunderstanding. I would send a note telling her you are sorry it didn't work out and hope she is ok and trust you will be able to connect with her another time. However, due to the fact that this was prepaid and have an established relationship I would respectfully request a return of your money. A reputable provider would explain the circumstances and refund you post haste.

[roamingguy 300292]

If she is a lady you know and have a regular "relationship" with, you both have discussed ahead of time and want to go on the trip together, then yes, prepay her and book the trip

If you haven't discussed the trip or committed to it, yet then don't make any financial commitments, either in booking the trip or paying her

I have to say though, if I saw a companion that pre paying was not an issue, I wouldn't after the fact be posting "Would you be worried about being scammed" Your relationship isn't that trusting if you post publically especially phrasing as a scam

JMO this should have been handled more discretly between you and the lady, and even if she's late (in your mind), like for example one day, would that be a problem as long as trip is booked and you both go

You should have had more faith in her before thinking the worst, or if she deserves thinking the worse, why would you want a trip with her

JMHO from a guy who pre pays encounters most of the time, and never assumes the worst, because I know I'm not the only one with a life, the ladies have lives too

 

RG

[CoolCucumber 2610]

If she is a lady you know and have a regular "relationship" with, you both have discussed ahead of time and want to go on the trip together, then yes, prepay her and book the trip

If you haven't discussed the trip or committed to it, yet then don't make any financial commitments, either in booking the trip or paying her

I have to say though, if I saw a companion that pre paying was not an issue, I wouldn't after the fact be posting "Would you be worried about being scammed" Your relationship isn't that trusting if you post publically especially phrasing as a scam

JMO this should have been handled more discretly between you and the lady, and even if she's late (in your mind), like for example one day, would that be a problem as long as trip is booked and you both go

You should have had more faith in her before thinking the worst, or if she deserves thinking the worse, why would you want a trip with her

JMHO from a guy who pre pays encounters most of the time, and never assumes the worst, because I know I'm not the only one with a life, the ladies have lives too

 

RG

 

Dude. We agreed to the trip back in March. The trip is related to my work and therefore I need to register to an event to get reimbursed. She started a new day job and I was worried that it would keep her from being able to go, so I waited to register to the event. I told her a few times that I wanted a 100% confirmation by today, otherwise we could make other arrangements. But she chose to ignore me completely rather than acknowledge my text. And this is someone who I have texted 1000s of times with and she never ignores me for long periods like this. I trust her enough that we both know each others' real names, addresses, etc. And a few weeks ago I loaned her money. And now she disappears. Maybe she finds me too difficult as a friend and a client, and I'll admit I have my times. Living with MS is difficult but she knows about it, but not necessarily how bad it is, and she knows that I can get impatient when I'm in pain. I'm suspecting it's this that made her decide to bolt, but she decided to bolt at a time when she owes me quite a deal of money. So I thought I'd put it out there. I haven't named her and it's not anyone I have written a recommendation about on here.

[Miss Jessica Lee 43328]

And this is someone who I have texted 1000s of times with and she never ignores me for long periods like this. I trust her enough that we both know each others' real names, addresses, etc.

 

Maybe it's just me .... but my first assumption in this case would be that they were not ok, that something serious must have happened to prevent them from getting in touch.

 

I would not first assume that someone I am this familiar and comfortable with has "scammed" me.

 

But then I'm a glass-half-full kinda girl ...

[CoolCucumber 2610]

Maybe it's just me .... but my first assumption in this case would be that they were not ok, that something serious must have happened to prevent them from getting in touch.

 

I would not first assume that someone I am this familiar and comfortable with has "scammed" me.

 

But then I'm a glass-half-full kinda girl ...

 

It has crossed my mind too, but there is another person who probably would have texted me if something bad had happened to her. I have sent a PM to that girl and have not had a response. It's the timing. She answered me at 11 to acknowledge my greeting but when I texted her 5 minutes later, silence. Then I sent her a few more with increasing urgency and still silence. Sometimes she gets into a situation where she is not comfortable texting me (in front of family) and vice versa but when it's urgent, we usually excuse ourselves to go to the bathroom and send the text from there. She keeps my text alerts on a very low ringer so it never draws attention.

[Ice4fun 78407]

My comment would just be.... relax.... wait and see what happens. It will be whatever it is....

[Guest c**io**m7]

I'm with Ice on this one...keep calm and wait to see what happened. If you got burned, learn from it and never fall into this trap again. On the other hand, if you jumped the gun out of impatience with this post, I would recommend a retraction and apology.

 

I consider myself a realist...my fingers are crossed that you have jumped the gun.

 

Hoping for you my good man.

[CoolCucumber 2610]

I'm with Ice on this one...keep calm and wait to see what happened. If you got burned, learn from it and never fall into this trap again. On the other hand, if you jumped the gun out of impatience with this post, I would recommend a retraction and apology.

 

I consider myself a realist...my fingers are crossed that you have jumped the gun.

 

Hoping for you my good man.

 

I hope I have jumped the gun too, but it's nearly 10 pm and we usually share texts before she goes home. It's clear that she decided to cut today. If she had waited until Friday, she was due another installment...

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

I'm with Ice on this one...keep calm and wait to see what happened. If you got burned, learn from it and never fall into this trap again. On the other hand, if you jumped the gun out of impatience with this post, I would recommend a retraction and apology.

 

Unfortunately, he jumped the gun out of impatience and not only on CERB.

 

He started this thread at 05:13 PM today with the title "Would you be worried about being scammed" and an hour later, started another thread, on a different board named "Scammed by my regular girl".

 

I really hope nothing serious has happened to this lady and I hope for you, the OP, that she is not scamming you.

 

IF she was only unable to get back to you before your deadline (or today/tonight), with what you posted on the two boards, unfortunately, I highly doubt an apology (and retraction--if at all possible) will be able to repair what has already been done.

 

To the OP, I hope things work out for you.

[mod 135640]

I am closing this thread as it falls into the airing dirty laundry in public. I also dont like how this is escalating and is against the nature of this site

[CoolCucumber 2610]

Thank you to everyone who gave me advice yesterday. Despite getting some nasty comments and PMs I also received many PMs and comments of sympathy. I was looking for a shoulder to cry on yesterday and I got it. Yes, I got worried and yes it may seem fast for some of you, but this event had been planned for a long time and suddenly an uncharacteristic silence silence from her and no way of making contact and time ran out. I was criticized for not booking before, but her new job created uncertainty so we decided to wait until the last minute.

 

Those you you who expressed your concern and wishes for a positive resolution, you were the voices of reason and kept me from really freaking out. This morning, at 11 am, the girl in question texted me. She had broken her phone yesterday and was leaving the store with a new phone. I was the first person she texted. I told her about my previous post and apologized profusely. She laughed and said it was her fault because she knows how high maintenance I am (that's an inside joke between me and her but it is true). I contacted the event planners and got our trip back on with only a very minor late fee. So a happy ending. This has restored my faith because I was feeling like such a loser yesterday when it seemed like maybe I had been played. I know i was wrong. Feel free to rub it in.

 

Thank you everyone for helping me out. Thank you mod for letting me get away with airing dirty laundry. It won't happen again. But this is what makes cerb great as the community can help someone in crisis (me) even if not everyone believes it was a crisis to begin with. Sorry for the drama. Tomorrow I am meeting her for lunch and I plan on sucking up big time. And she knows it and told me she doesn't expect it.

 

I hope this post is seen positively. If not, well, I'm getting used to apologizing.

[zorobaby 4121]

At least everything worked out for you :-) best of luck on your trip!

[Miss Jessica Lee 43328]

ya I actually posted this actual possible scenario on terb (phone issues) before you deleted your thread over there.

 

glad it worked out and you didn't completely ruin her reputation.

 

:D

 

(smilie and so not smiling ... for those in the loop)

[CoolCucumber 2610]

ya I actually posted this actual possible scenario on terb (phone issues) before you deleted your thread over there.

 

glad it worked out and you didn't completely ruin her reputation.

 

:D

 

(smilie and so not smiling ... for those in the loop)

 

Thank you. I deleted my post on the other place because people were asking who she was. I only wanted advice and was never going to out her. I stated that in my post. And thank you for your comments. The final result was actually better than either of our scenarios, so for that I am relieved. And yes, I am very embarrassed by yesterday's post, which is why I am back, embarrassing myself again and accepting my humble pie. Please feel free to serve me another slice. Thanks

[Guest S****r]

living and learning....that's what we ALL are doing!

Glad it worked out. Enjoy the trip!