The Disappearing Client

[buggernot 588]

Every so often I think about the ladies I've met that I don't see anymore. There's still contact on cerb, but months go by without hooking up again; meanwhile I am meeting others and occasionally posting about those encounters.

 

This world definitely has a transient nature about it - girls vanish with no warning and clients fall off the radar with regularity. There is also the thrilling aspect from the client's perspective of seeking out something new, something different and wanting to experience that intoxicating unfamiliarity again elsewhere.

 

Yet occasionally I feel a small pang of regret that I have not reconnected with several people that I had some great times with. Now if I had a million dollars, I wouldn't go see the other Barenaked Ladies, I would probably do this a bit more often, and have the resources to go back and revisit certain girls whom I would love to see again. But I don't. Chances are I won't be either - starting to scale back my adventures.

 

So it makes me wonder if there's a slight feeling of loss or a bit of curiosity on the sp's part when this happens. I know it is understood some people embark on this very rarely, others love variety, and a dozen other reasons where this is shrugged off as an afterthought and nothing else. A thick skin is no doubt a prerequisite for this occupation.

 

But are there times when a girl kicks back and thinks, "What happened?" Not in a 'what's wrong with me' kind of way, but more of a reminiscent, 'would be nice to see him again' manner.

 

The professional, stock answer is to say, 'That's how it goes and it's ok', but surely there are exceptions to the rule?

[Ava Foxx 1747]

So it makes me wonder if there's a slight feeling of loss or a bit of curiosity on the sp's part when this happens. I know it is understood some people embark on this very rarely, others love variety, and a dozen other reasons where this is shrugged off as an afterthought and nothing else. A thick skin is no doubt a prerequisite for this occupation.

 

But are there times when a girl kicks back and thinks, "What happened?" Not in a 'what's wrong with me' kind of way, but more of a reminiscent, 'would be nice to see him again' manner.

 

The professional, stock answer is to say, 'That's how it goes and it's ok', but surely there are exceptions to the rule?

 

I think about my "disappearing clients" all the time. Well, not all of them but rather the ones I hit it off with. I genuinely wonder how they are doing and what they are up to. I remember the stories they shared and I wonder if since our meeting, they've got more stories :-D.

[Guest S**a*Q]

Funny, I was just having a conversation similar to this with another SP here in town, as she hadn't seen a regular in awhile... She knows that he's always let her know when something came up that was going to stop him from seeing her. Except this time...

 

I'm the same, I have my regulars, and I wonder about all of them. Sometimes it's when something happens that reminds me of them, or I come across an old email that will stir up older memories. It's not like I can just call to see what's up. Lol.

 

We build relationships with everyone we meet, especially in this profession. We're bound to wonder what happens when a regular becomes irregular all of a sudden, but due to the discretion factor, we sit and wonder in silence... We let the intimate "friendship" that we've built between us just disappear.

 

As SP's we have to let these things go.. People like variety, hence the word hobbiest... Are we not just "girlfriends" if we are the only one that "he" sees? I would love to keep the bonds that I make forever, but that only happens in fairy tales.

 

I attempt to make the best of the moment, for what it is, cause it may not happen again... Even if it is our first. Things happen in peoples lives that change their paths, taking them away from things that they may still want, but at that point of their lives, don't need...

 

In the case of the disappearing client or SP, that's the point I want to make... We all will disappear from one another... I attempt to make the best of the moment, as I know if may be our last.

[cat 262460]

This is a great thread! I have been entertaining in Ottawa for 5 years! I can hardly believe that much time has passed and I recently was thinking about this very question. Last fall I lost my database and had to start over and I have taken my advertising down over the years for long periods of time so many of my guests have lost touch. It's funny tho, the ones I remember the most always find their way back. Since last September I have had numerous guests walk thru the door that I haven't seen in ages (some as far back as '06) and it is wonderful to catch up, find out how life is for them and reconnect. I also have some who have life situation changes and yet we always manage to send the "here's whats new with me" email. When something major in their lives happen, I always make time for a coffee to see wedding, baby, or the new toy pictures. It's not about getting them back on the client list, just knowing they are smiling gives me a sense of peace and makes me smile. That said, I have many clients here in Ottawa that I need to reconnect with because we lost touch and in many instances it was my fault. Those I wonder about often.

 

I do think about my guests down south, altho I have a cell phone with their numbers in it I have never called. Getting a call years after the last embrace would be a little invasive I think. They cross my mind with fleeting thoughts that lead down a path of fond remembrances and I hope they are doing well.

 

cat

[E.D. man 691]

Several factors for disappearing clients:

1 They may have moved else where

2 They met someone for a life time

3 you may of hurt there feelings some how

4 They don't feel the chemistry you feel, may need more than you can offer

5 the worst one is they passed on to not being

6 cash flow problem

7 they don't feel the need for sex as much (did I really say that) (Ow Ouch)

8 A combination of a few of them :!::!::!:

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

I have to agree this is a great thread...since i started escorting back in 2004 i have had many regulars..some i still see back in Halifax and NYC {and now Ottawa} I miss them when I'm away and think of them often. I love when they write me and know that they are still thinking of me. This isn't always about money it's about a connection we get with some people...of course not everyone has it but for the one's i have that special connection i often find myself wondering how they are.

I'm sure like most of us ladies their are some that we have seen through life changes...marriages,divorce,babies... i love catching up and welcome it. They have seen mean go some many things as well...my close ones know my children's names and ages ..lol..i know theirs as well.. they are like part of my family...sure life moves on and different circumstances bring on different reasons why we don't see each other anymore but through email we can stay in touch....kisses and hugs to you..

Emma A

[jman47 233]

Every so often I think about the ladies I've met that I don't see anymore. There's still contact on cerb, but months go by without hooking up again; meanwhile I am meeting others and occasionally posting about those encounters.

 

This world definitely has a transient nature about it - girls vanish with no warning and clients fall off the radar with regularity. There is also the thrilling aspect from the client's perspective of seeking out something new, something different and wanting to experience that intoxicating unfamiliarity again elsewhere.

 

Yet occasionally I feel a small pang of regret that I have not reconnected with several people that I had some great times with. Now if I had a million dollars, I wouldn't go see the other Barenaked Ladies, I would probably do this a bit more often, and have the resources to go back and revisit certain girls whom I would love to see again. But I don't. Chances are I won't be either - starting to scale back my adventures.

 

So it makes me wonder if there's a slight feeling of loss or a bit of curiosity on the sp's part when this happens. I know it is understood some people embark on this very rarely, others love variety, and a dozen other reasons where this is shrugged off as an afterthought and nothing else. A thick skin is no doubt a prerequisite for this occupation.

 

But are there times when a girl kicks back and thinks, "What happened?" Not in a 'what's wrong with me' kind of way, but more of a reminiscent, 'would be nice to see him again' manner.

 

The professional, stock answer is to say, 'That's how it goes and it's ok', but surely there are exceptions to the rule?

 

Hello buggernot,

 

I think in your question you have also given many of the answers.

I think there are 2 distinct categories involved: 1 time meetings and repeat meetings.

 

I think all of us have probably met someone 1 time and then never repeated, for whatever reason (some actually prefer this as a practice)...many were listed by E.D.. In those cases, from the clients perspective I have never really wondered or found about not reconnecting. Obviously there was a reason I did not contact the lady again. On the other side of that question I think the sp due strictly to the nature of the business just moves on - she has to or I think she would go crazy wondering why.

 

Now relative to the situation in which there were repeat meetings between client and sp or if you were a "regular". If something happens there, I think it would only be human nature to wonder what happened and why if there were separation without explanation - from both people. While by the nature of the business an explanation would not be required it would be a courtesy if you will ... after all we are all humans involved in a business that deals with intimacy and we all have feelings, including the ladies.

 

There are allot of great people in this business. It is wonderful to see the genuineness of some of them expressed in this thread. I have also personally been very fortunate to have met some of the more genuine.

 

Thanks for asking the question.8)

 

Have fun.

 

jman

[Guest O****B*W_L**n]

I remember when one of my regular friends stopped calling me... I would think of him from time to time and thought he had met someone new, and just wanted a little break from me... I thought, he'll be back !!!

 

After a few months of not hearing from him, I called him at work... the receptionist asked me to hold for a moment... a man came on the line and asked "You are looking for Mr. XXX", I said "Yes"... he proceeded to tell me that he passed away... I was shocked!!! and saddened.... he was a nice man and we were friends.... in this instance there was no closure, and I knew there never would be...

 

Lynn

[rileydaniels 1901]

There is a few clients I miss and would love to see again. It's been a little over a year since I have been an SP full tme and some clients just put a big smile on face when I see them or when I think of them.

 

but I have to remember they will book again when they are ready.

[Andee 220524]

These are regulars that"

 

See you every week (maybe even more) continually for a few months and then, poof - they disappear off the radar, never to be heard of again.

 

See you once every few months but then might see you twice in a week.

 

See you regularly for a few months, you don't see them for awhile and then out of the blue they see you and then disappear again.

 

See you once a month or so for a long time. Then you don't see them and lo and behold, they call you up a year or so later and start back up again.

 

I don't try to analyze it - I just go with the flow because really, I look at this way, it's really none of my business although some do share reasons why.

[spaceykca 198]

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[Ingrid 577]

These are regulars that"

 

See you every week (maybe even more) continually for a few months and then, poof - they disappear off the radar, never to be heard of again.

 

See you once every few months but then might see you twice in a week.

 

See you regularly for a few months, you don't see them for awhile and then out of the blue they see you and then disappear again.

 

See you once a month or so for a long time. Then you don't see them and lo and behold, they call you up a year or so later and start back up again.

 

I don't try to analyze it - I just go with the flow because really, I look at this way, it's really none of my business although some do share reasons why.

 

I agree, I'm the same way.

There are exceptions though, clients who have suddenly disappeared and I think about from time to time and wonder if I'll see them again. Usually they are clients who I have really hit it off with and it sucks to not be the one who can try to reconnect. Que Sera!

 

I have one client who has seen me once a year since I started on his birthday. I'm his present to himself ;)

If one year I didn't hear from him, I would definitely notice but I wouldn't be upset or hurt by it.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

it sucks to not be the one who can try to reconnect.

 

Sometimes I would love to be able to call the ones I particularly like and say hey I'm horny come on over!

[mrgreen760 37785]

If I saw a provider more than one or two times it would mean to me at least that we have some sort of rapport. Thus I couldn't just disappear when it inevitably runs its course. I think it would only be proper to personally say good bye and thank her for the great times and wish her well in the future and frankly I would hope for the same consideration.

 

Peace

Mr Green

[PistolPete 61421]

Hope that I'm on your mind when you are horny, because you are fav of mine ;) Don't worry I won't be disappearing on ya :)

 

it sucks to not be the one who can try to reconnect.

 

Sometimes I would love to be able to call the ones I particularly like and say hey I'm horny come on over!

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

LOL Good!!! So.....does that mean I can PM you when I am horny...even if only for a bit of naughty chat?

[PistolPete 61421]

I would love to get very flirty with you through pm's. But most of all being naked with you is 1000% times better, chat me anytime, kisses Meg!

LOL Good!!! So.....does that mean I can PM you when I am horny...even if only for a bit of naughty chat?

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I've had this happen so many times where I would think of client that I haven't seen in months or years and then a few days later I'd hear from them. Pretty wierd. It's like I have ESP or something.

 

I have a few clients I see every couple of months and while they are considered "regulars" because I've seen them so many times before for years, I do not see them on a weekly or monthly basis.

 

I think clients come and go and it is often due to circumstance. A lot of them fall off the radar but I've done the same thing before as well. Life happens...

[CookiesNScream 363]

Sometimes I worry if My clients have died. Especially if they saw me regularly, were a lot older, and then stopped coming in suddenly.

Some clients only come in once a year, or every 2 years. So often I don't spend too much time worrying about it. Everyone has their own life patterns. And some men find women outside of the biz who take care of their needs.

[capitalman 3861]

Buggernot: YOU are the disappearing client....we miss you! Come back soon buddy! :)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Sometimes I worry if My clients have died. Especially if they saw me regularly, were a lot older, and then stopped coming in suddenly.

Some clients only come in once a year, or every 2 years. So often I don't spend too much time worrying about it. Everyone has their own life patterns. And some men find women outside of the biz who take care of their needs.

 

I had a client that died. I found out about it by reading the obituaries one day. His picture was there. I felt sad but I like to think he enjoyed him during our encounter. He used to tell me stories about his time in the Navy. May he R.I.P.