Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 Dearest Ladies and Gentlemen, I was out to dinner with a very close friend this past March when she received a phone call from her young adult son. She was shocked to hear that he was in kidney failure and rushed to the hospital. He was immediately put on dialysis and diagnosed with end-stage renal disease. His kidneys were functioning at 5%. While the dialysis is saving his life in the meantime, his quality of life is greatly reduced as is his life expectancy. He has had to leave his job and must be at the hospital for 5 hours 3x a week. There are no vacations from dialysis. He is on the waiting list to receive a kidney transplant from a deceased donor. He has been told that the wait in Ontario can be 5-10 years. In order to maximize his life expectancy and improve the quality of his life, it's important to get a transplant as soon as possible. While the kidney of a deceased donor is a wonderful gift, the kidney of a living donor both works better and lasts longer. His mother was screened to be a kidney donor and does not qualify. At this time, he has no one who is both willing and qualified to donate. At the beginning of April, I offered my kidney. I passed the initial screening over the phone, and filled out the initial paperwork. Everything looked great and I was sent for bloodwork to determine if I'm a match. I AM!!!! I've now filing out stage 2 paperwork and will have to go for numerous tests to make sure that I am in perfect health. While it's not yet for sure that I can donate, as I "pass" each step, it feels more and more real that I could be in surgery this coming winter to have a kidney removed! I've done extensive research and am not nervous about the actual surgery. I will likely be out of it for a month or two, but that's something I can deal with. I have no children and as of January 2015, I will be done my coursework for my Master's and will need only to work on my thesis. This makes it easy to take a month or so off. I just need to work hard in advance :) What does worry me a bit is that I will have a scar after the surgery. I love my work as an erotic massage provider and I want to continue for many years to come. I've thought about it extensively and I am confident I will be able to continue offering my services and gain clientele. Most of my clients are looking for an experience of intimacy and connection with an attractive real woman, not an inhumanly perfect sex toy. My tummy is also usually pressed up against my clients during bodyslides and play. The scar isn't something I would be ashamed of. I would still wear bikinis and display my scar proudly in my photos. The only concern I would have is my privacy. I like to keep my Megan website and advertising such that if someone who knows me "in real life" came across my website, they wouldn't know it's me. In fact, I'm a tiny bit nervous posting this because my family knows that I am being screened as a donor. I've posted a couple photos of scars below so you can see what it will look like. Fortunately they now remove kidneys laparoscopically which reduces scarring and speeds healing. Gentlemen: How do you feel about seeing ladies with scars, stretch marks, etc. ? Ladies - How do you feel about working with scars, stretch marks, etc. ? Please feel free to contact me privately if you would rather discuss off the board. Thanks in advance, Megan 19 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 It would not matter to me at all and the fact that you would do this for a friend speaks to me about the type of person you are and would only make you more attractive to me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrrnice2 157005 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 Megan, whatever scar that you might end up with should be looked at as a badge of honor. In terms of your work I personally would not find it to be an issue of concern, in any sense. Your decision is something that is wonderful. Organ donation is something that I hold very dear because of my own experience and personally seeing what it can do. Truly and very literally, a gift of life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 It would not bother me in the least Megan, not at all And providing such a lifesaving gift, that is one of the most generous giving acts a person could ever do for another person...truly it is giving of yourself for another person If there is concern about the scar, well a scar didn't in the least detract from this lady's beauty, did it. BTW for the younger generation, that is Marilyn Monroe This coming from a guy who's body is an imperfection. A scar however isn't a imperfection Megan. It's a physical sign of a beautiful woman who has an inner beauty too, by giving the gift of life. Don't consider it a scar, it really is a beauty mark RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mikeyboy 27133 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 I think scars can be very sexy. They are a reminder that this is a real human being that you are with. The idea of "perfection" that everyone is supposed to aspire to is an illusion. The only concern that you should have is whether or not a specific mark like that will risk your privacy. If it is a concern for you, then don't show the scar in your ads. Not out of shame, as you are correct that it is a badge of honor. Just do what you need to do to stay comfortable with your risk level. Either way, I don't believe it will negatively impact your business. Good luck with the procedure. Not many of us can count ourselves lucky enough to have such a giving and selfless friend as you. Truly inspiring. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Strokin' 696 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 A scar would not influence my decision to see someone I wanted to see at all. Big props to you for such an unselfish act. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 The scar will not be too big...nowadays a good plastic surgeon can erase it in few months. Full props to you for donating! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *l**e Report post Posted July 5, 2014 I think it's great that you are helping you friend and so very brave. A scar like this is something to be super proud of and as hot as you are, no one is going to say a damn thing!! I feel that my scars and marks kind of tell my life story a bit; it's not different for a woman, in my opinion. For your ad pics, you could decorate with a bit of body paint, etc to hide it in photos, if that's something you feel you need to do. Finally, thank for for being so generous and selfless. If there is karma, you got some good stuff coming your way in the future, for sure. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jafo105 39057 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 Scars and stretch marks do not detract from a womans beauty. Her strength and beauty comes from within. Scars can be a great icebreaker and conversation starter. Wear them with pride. You are about to do an amazing thing. You can always have the scars professionally airbrushed out of your pictures. To help maintain your privacy. I know some ladies on here that have their tattoos removed from their pictures. Hugs and kisses to you for giving this amazing gift. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Midnite-Energies 110563 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 This is such a blessing and a gift. I have a friend who did this exact thing as well a few years back for a close friend of his. His scar is very miniscule and his recovery time was short. He is still enjoying life as he did before with no negative impact. His friend is likewise enjoying life again compared to where they were. We all have scars and marks; these are the stripes we have earned going through life. Badges of honor reminding us how strong we are and what we have endured to get where we are. If anyone will judge us negatively on these or consider us "less anything" they are not worthy of our time. Life is too short to be impacted by small things and small minds. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reddog01 30280 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 Bravo Meagan, you are truly brave and an unsung hero for doing this act of compassion. This is a badge of honour (as already mentioned) not a scar to be concerned about. I wish you and the recipient all the best with the procedure. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 Megan, you are constantly an inspiration to me. You are one of the kindest people I know. If you need any help during recovery, holla! xo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Found7 454 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 Wouldn't put me off at all. You're awesome!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Bardot 99339 Report post Posted July 5, 2014 I have scars, some with funny stories and some without. Not one person I've met intimately has commented on them negatively. Some don't ask at all. Some ask. Those who would mind... well, I doubt they'd pass your screening requirements anyway ;) 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacectryguy 12547 Report post Posted July 6, 2014 All I can do is echo what everyone else has said Megan. I'm not a real emotional guy but that post brings a tear to my eyes. What an amazing person you are and like everybody has said, it is that inner beauty that will always shine through. Kudos. As for scars, I have never been bothered by what people consider "imperfections". I say what people consider but what it really is the myth that the media shoves down people's throats. As has been said, there is no such thing as a perfect human being. Scars are signs of the trials and tribulations that make us who we are. And in this case, the scar would be a true badge of honor. Now, as far as the second part of your question, stretchmarks, I also have no issue with them. They are a sign of the greatest thing about women. The gift of bringing new life into this world. I can only look at that as a positive thing. Amazingly, in this instance, both the scar and stretchmarks are a gift of life. Is that not a wonderful thing in this messed up world? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piano8950 32577 Report post Posted July 6, 2014 I would like to start of by saying that you took a step towards a very selfless act that I honestly am not sure I'd take for a friend's relative. I feel horrible admitting that, but your selfless deed did push me over the edge to do something else I've been contemplating for a while. So thank you. The only concern I would have is my privacy. I like to keep my Megan website and advertising such that if someone who knows me "in real life" came across my website' date=' they wouldn't know it's me. In fact, I'm a tiny bit nervous posting this because my family knows that I am being screened as a donor. [/quote'] Since you have stated that you want to display your battle scar, you could try a couple of things to protect your anonymity. Mirror image the picture. What's left is right, what's right is left. It's remarkable how people can somehow not make a connection based on a simple change. Shorten the length of the scar - With Photoshop, it's a ridiculously easy process that'll take all of 23 seconds. Maybe make it half the length, so if a friend sees your scar, and happens across your website, they may not make the connection. Get creative with poses in future photoshoots to hide the scar, or partially block the scar. Gentlemen: How do you feel about seeing ladies with scars' date=' stretch marks, etc. ? [/quote'] Not concerned with scars. Saw a lady with a few scars, didn't notice them until she pointed them out and still didn't care. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted July 6, 2014 Megan, this was truly an act of compassion and as other have stated...it's a badge of honor! As someone who has been wounded more times than I can count in combat and is covered with scars, I view each one as part of the story of my life. It is now part of who you are and am very impressed to see you embrace it as such! :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carrie Moon 68826 Report post Posted July 7, 2014 What a wonderful selfless act! But don't worry about being 'dishonest' if you choose not to post pics or describe scar in your website/ads.. guys really don't care. Many women have c-section scars.. stretch marks from pregnancies etc.. and I have found while they worry when they start escorting.. in reality the guys never ever care. Most men see beauty elsewhere and don't even notice. I feel the same way about my clients.. scars or not.. who cares! Usually just gives us something to talk about. xo 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reddog2402 2221 Report post Posted July 7, 2014 This is an incredible thing you're doing, Megan. To echo everyone else's comments, a scar would not bother me in the least. In fact - I expect it would have the opposite effect, as it shows you to be a kind, generous and caring person. As another poster stated, it's a badge of honour, and you should display it proudly to your clients. I have a family member who's life was saved by an anonymous person's generous and selfless gift - he also needed a kidney transplant, after his kidneys failed after a serious illness. Almost 10 year later, he's doing great, and living life to the fullest. So kudos to you for stepping up to save a life. This should be a reminder to all of us to sign up as organ donours - it really does save lives. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gentleman11 10508 Report post Posted July 7, 2014 There's an old saying that I believe in wholeheartedly Megan, "what goes around comes around" - not that you're doing this for any sort of pay back. Your sense of selflessness and generousity is an an insprication to many as shown in this thread, including me. You turn my crank even more.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
1963Kennedy 10698 Report post Posted July 8, 2014 I agree with all said previously, badge of honour and men don't care (esp CERB men) so keep it out of your album pics. Good luck with all of this and know you will always be loved no matter what. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted January 28, 2015 I just wanted to post a quick follow up and thank you. The transplant was an absolute success and my former kidney is hard at work in its new home. The incision was only 6cm (the length of my pinky finger) and really, it's nothing. We are both recovering well and my recipient is enjoying his new life free from dialysis. Thank you to everyone who posted words of encouragement for me. Sincerely, Megan 16 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny Canuck 5347 Report post Posted January 28, 2015 Personally, I think of scars as badges of honour. For example, a woman who has a scar from a C-section, an undoubtedly large badge of honour as she has carried a child to term and given birth to new life. Maybe it's just me, but I find stuff like that something nobody should be ashamed of. Each scar tells a story, just like each tattoo has its own story. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted January 28, 2015 Megan your willingness to do this for someone speaks volumes about the type of person you are and is an inspiration to all of us. I am so glad to hear that everything went so well and thank you for sharing this with us as your willingness to share will I am sure encourage all of us to think about how we can give back to others. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted January 28, 2015 I just wanted to post a quick follow up and thank you. The transplant was an absolute success and my former kidney is hard at work in its new home. The incision was only 6cm (the length of my pinky finger) and really' date=' it's nothing. We are both recovering well and my recipient is enjoying his new life free from dialysis. Thank you to everyone who posted words of encouragement for me. Sincerely, Megan[/quote'] Megan Thank You for the update. I know you mean the incision is nothing, but your act, it isn't nothing. A man now lives a life dialysis free because of your gift. A price can't be put on the act and gift you gave. You truly gave the gift of life You should be proud of yourself. This was such an unselfish, caring giving act RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
