Do you say hello?

[omehgosh 736]

She smiled, ran up to me and said a big hello! I thought she was gonna hug me! She asked me what I was doing, yadda yadda. I was quite happy to talk to her, but given a different location or timing or whatever maybe I wouldn't have been.

 

This would not be cool for me at all - when I'm out and about there is always a very good chance I'm with my wife... especially at common stops like the grocery store, pharmacy or a gas station. If she's not right at my side, she's probably coming around the corner right behind me.

 

...the bottom line is that we are overall trying to maintain some degree of discretion, right? So when it comes to something like bumping into someone outside of the experience, the discretion becomes vulnerable. The question of what to do shouldn't be too hard to think about whilst seeking the best answer. Just saying...:rolleyes:

 

I agree 100% with bailey summer - this is a secret society, and should be kept that way.

 

I assume that an SP does what she does to make money - it is her job (yes, she may love what she does, but I love my job too - a job is still a job). I assume that after hours, outside of her job she has her own life - a life that I AM NOT A PART OF.

 

I assume that an SP's SO could be right around the corner, or perhaps she's with her sister or her mother... I assume that she doesn't want to have explain me to someone very close to her - someone who may not know about her other life (I don't know about you, but I am a lousy liar).

 

An SP should assume that about me too.

 

We may bond, we may be friends, we may share a very special connection - but there are two completely different lives being led here. If some other understanding is reached by an SP and a client, and it overrides these assumptions - great! - If not, assume that this relationship needs to be kept discrete, at all times.

[Guest c******n****h]

This is a tricky question to answer. I have bumped into an SP with her boyfriend in a mall and just kept wlaking. I assume her boyfriend knew what she did for a living, but who can be sure. Plus, he was about 6'5 so I kept my head down. I have run into the same SP in the supermarket (small world) on several occasions. Once I was alone and she came up and hugged me. I was totally uncomfortable and was very concerned about being seen as I have a SO. What if my SO was coming towards me from a different aisle? It would have been tough to explain, so from a personal perspective, I would prefer to avoid any type of contact. I would probably send a PM latter to let her know that I saw her and was not being rude, but instead prudent.

[Mikeyboy 27133]

well said...I like the term secret society, :smile:

 

kinda remins me of this movie I saw where all were part of a secret gang of sorts but all had daily lives...and wouldpass each other in day to day public places, there was a smile and nod without stopping and they all moved on....c'est comme ca!

 

Reminds me of Fight Club.....

 

The first rule of CERB is....no one talks about CERB.

The second rule of CERB is ............... no one talks about CERB!

 

;)

[Ariane Valmont 332]

It would have been tough to explain, so from a personal perspective, I would prefer to avoid any type of contact. I would probably send a PM latter to let her know that I saw her and was not being rude, but instead prudent.

 

Totally understandable.

 

I never make first contact, whether the person is alone or not. You never know how they feel about the possibility of being seen with an escort. So I think it's better not to take any chances.

 

As far as I'm concerned, I wouldn't mind if a client would come to say hello... Unless I'm with my mom. If it were the case, I would feel extremely uncomfortable. Extremely.

[bailey summer of Winnipeg 262]

Thank you for the compliment! Much appreciated! It's comforting to know that what I post IMHO's, are accepted, valued & appreciated!

[Annessa 22743]

 

I never make first contact, whether the person is alone or not. You never know how they feel about the possibility of being seen with an escort. So I think it's better not to take any chances.

 

As far as I'm concerned, I wouldn't mind if a client would come to say hello... Unless I'm with my mom. If it were the case, I would feel extremely uncomfortable. Extremely.

 

I understand the view here but I just want to offer another...what makes it obvious that a man is being seen with an escort? good looking girl saying hi to an older man etc...it happens! no one is ever going to assume you're an escort because of it. And its something that gals shouldnt be paranoid about...you will not "out" yourself if you smile and nod to a gentleman.....you might if you decide to walk down the grocery isle holding hands and swinging them giddily....but thats not what we're talking about here.

 

personally if i was with my mom and i said hi to a karaoke friend...who may be in his 50s and totally akward...she may say "umm...how do you know that man?" I wouold tell her that karaoke brings about all types and ages of people and she would buy it....thats the exuse i would use if my mother grilled me when bumping into anyone she deemed "not worthy" of my age-range. And if she pushed further, i'd say.."mom, I'm friendly to anyone even if I've met them with my friends only once....would you rather I be mean? c'mon..."

 

walking up to a guy and saying hi...not cool.....walking up to an SP and saying hi...also not cool, but I think everyone needs to ditch the paranoia of thinking that just because a client says hi it outs you as an escort...or if an SP says hi it outs you as a hobbiest.

 

there are probably a million other situations a bystander will consider before saying "oh wow...shes saying hi to him...he's obviously paid her for sex" lol....jus sayin

[omehgosh 736]

... but I think everyone needs to ditch the paranoia of thinking that just because a client says hi it outs you as an escort...or if an SP says hi it outs you as a hobbiest.

 

there are probably a million other situations a bystander will consider before saying "oh wow...shes saying hi to him...he's obviously paid her for sex" lol....jus sayin

 

Annessa makes a very good point here I think. Paranoia plays a big part (at least in my case)...

 

However, I myself physically exude guilt when I'm feeling it (sometimes even if I'm not guilty, but think that someone else thinks I'm guilty) - that's why I'm such a lousy liar.

 

If I were in that situation I would be uncomfortable, and any reasonably perceptive person (let alone someone close to me that knows how to read me) could easily pick up on it. I'd rather not find myself in that situation.

[Mikeyboy 27133]

Agreed Omehgosh. It isn't merely being seen with an attractive young lady...It's how you react to it if your SO sees you. I'm not always the greatest at coming off innocent and non-chalante when under pressure. Best to have a response pre planned for such an event. Unfortunately, you can foresee all possible scenarios.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Does the same apply if you are in a strip club? I say yes. Occasionally I frequent one of three local bars with friends. I know some of the girls, the managers of the three and two of the owners. NOBODY knows what I do! I was at one such location a few nights ago with a bunch of people (mostly gentlemen but a couple of women friends not in the industry were there) A hobbiest that I had seen a couple of times recognized me and started forward with a big smile on his face. I smiled back but nodded my head no and he walked on by. Then my "work" phone, which I never usually bring with me starts to vibrate. I ignore it. After 3 times attempting to call me, he texts me and tells me to go to the bathroom and answer his call. I figure I had better do this before he blows my cover. I answer his call and he sounds like a little boy....asking me why all those other guys were worthy of my time and not him! WOW. I told him that I do have a personal life with friends that are unaware of my profession. I explained that my privacy is just as important to me as his is to him and asked him to please respect that. When I came out of the washroom he was gone!

Hmmmm!?

[theliquor (Lost but not fo 50595]

In my opinion, yes, you aren't invisible.

[bucken 1479]

Does the same apply if you are in a strip club? I say yes.

 

Wow - pretty persistent - guess he couldn't/wouldn't take the hint. :-(

 

And I agree, regardless of where, respect and discretion is the name of the game, unless otherwise agreed upon, in advance....

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Guess he thought he was being left out of the "clique" LOL

[Ariane Valmont 332]

Annessa, MY mom would know. Believe me.

 

She is aware that I'm an escort and is incredibly hurt by it. Would I want to take the chance to inflict more pain on her? Absolutely not.

[Annessa 22743]

Annessa, MY mom would know. Believe me.

 

She is aware that I'm an escort and is incredibly hurt by it. Would I want to take the chance to inflict more pain on her? Absolutely not.

 

ah ok, you didnt mention that she knew what you did for a living.

 

in a similar instance tho I had a bartender friend who knows what I do give me a sly grin when an older male friend came and said hi to me at the bar...he walked away and my bar-girlfriend said "one of your CLIENTS? hmmmm?" and I turned to her appauled and said (which was true) "Thats one of the karaoke hosts that I know from another bar! jeezus!" I was a little annoyed that she thought that any older man saying hi to me MUST be a client.

 

Your mother can probably read you well enough to know its a client or not tho...but hopefully if its just someone whos a gentleman outside of work she doesnt make assumptions like my friend did

[bailey summer of Winnipeg 262]

This would not be cool for me at all - when I'm out and about there is always a very good chance I'm with my wife... especially at common stops like the grocery store, pharmacy or a gas station. If she's not right at my side, she's probably coming around the corner right behind me.

 

 

 

I agree 100% with bailey summer - this is a secret society, and should be kept that way.

 

I assume that an SP does what she does to make money - it is her job (yes, she may love what she does, but I love my job too - a job is still a job). I assume that after hours, outside of her job she has her own life - a life that I AM NOT A PART OF.

 

I assume that an SP's SO could be right around the corner, or perhaps she's with her sister or her mother... I assume that she doesn't want to have explain me to someone very close to her - someone who may not know about her other life (I don't know about you, but I am a lousy liar).

 

An SP should assume that about me too.

 

We may bond, we may be friends, we may share a very special connection - but there are two completely different lives being led here. If some other understanding is reached by an SP and a client, and it overrides these assumptions - great! - If not, assume that this relationship needs to be kept discrete, at all times.

 

Loose lips, sink ships as they say. IMHO, my experiences have always remained as discreet as possible, being discreet is FAR more exciting & adventurous!:bddog:

[Andee 220524]

Does the same apply if you are in a strip club? I say yes. Occasionally I frequent one of three local bars with friends. I know some of the girls, the managers of the three and two of the owners. NOBODY knows what I do! I was at one such location a few nights ago with a bunch of people (mostly gentlemen but a couple of women friends not in the industry were there) A hobbiest that I had seen a couple of times recognized me and started forward with a big smile on his face. I smiled back but nodded my head no and he walked on by. Then my "work" phone, which I never usually bring with me starts to vibrate. I ignore it. After 3 times attempting to call me, he texts me and tells me to go to the bathroom and answer his call. I figure I had better do this before he blows my cover. I answer his call and he sounds like a little boy....asking me why all those other guys were worthy of my time and not him! WOW. I told him that I do have a personal life with friends that are unaware of my profession. I explained that my privacy is just as important to me as his is to him and asked him to please respect that. When I came out of the washroom he was gone!

Hmmmm!?

 

 

It's obvious the assumption on his part was that since you were in a strip club, everyone you were with knew what you did. Not cool of him...

[rickoshadows 937]

This topics reminds me of a situation I found myself in a few years ago.

 

After making the best deal i could for a car with the salesman and agreed to the purchase, we shook hands and my wife and I were introduced to the young lady who would then explain the ownership package and warranty information, register the warranty and of course, offer extended warranties, corrosion packages etc. As she looks up, horror of horrors, it is the same young women with whom, the afternoon before, I spent an entertaining couple of hours abusing each other with a large anatomical substitute, among other things. I must commend her on her self control and am fortunate my self that my wife didn't look my way as we were introduced. For the next 30 minutes or so, we sat there going through the papers and the warranties etc. She seemed to be coping better than I, as I know I bought way more extended warranty than I normally would have. But later we noticed that all of the paperwork work she had been filling in for us was for a truck that someone else was buying. I hope I never have as awkward a situation as this again.

[ulixestrojan 3757]

It has happened to me a number of times and I always say hello politely. If asked who that was, I reply someone I chatted with at a conference/symposium/meeting - not a lie but a diversion of the truth.

[jman47 233]

This topics reminds me of a situation I found myself in a few years ago.

 

After making the best deal i could for a car with the salesman and agreed to the purchase, we shook hands and my wife and I were introduced to the young lady who would then explain the ownership package and warranty information, register the warranty and of course, offer extended warranties, corrosion packages etc. As she looks up, horror of horrors, it is the same young women with whom, the afternoon before, I spent an entertaining couple of hours abusing each other with a large anatomical substitute, among other things. I must commend her on her self control and am fortunate my self that my wife didn't look my way as we were introduced. For the next 30 minutes or so, we sat there going through the papers and the warranties etc. She seemed to be coping better than I, as I know I bought way more extended warranty than I normally would have. But later we noticed that all of the paperwork work she had been filling in for us was for a truck that someone else was buying. I hope I never have as awkward a situation as this again.

 

Thanks for sharing...that was a great story.:sm185:

Hopefully you are laughing now...

Have fun,

 

jman47

[misterdynomite30 174]

As a newbie at this very exciting lifestyle - I always wondered what would happen if I saw / or bumped into a client - and I never realized what I would do until today....

 

... We both ignored each other !!! ...

 

Hmmm ... wasn't expecting that. Is that okay? I hope I didn't offend him - or maybe he didn't even see me? I'm sorry "you know who" ;)

 

Just two compete strangers walking by each other at the corner store MACs.

 

 

I've only ever bumped into one SP in an awkward moment in public.. i really respected that she didn't say anything because it was on my way to a wedding (not my wedding.. lol) but i was dressed up in a tux and she was in the hotel elevator as I got in with family members and when i saw her i was sweating bullits... we made eye contact.. recognised each other.. looked away and didn't say a word. It was nerve wracking because it was the moment of truth right there to see how discreet she really was.

 

The next time i saw her for a session, i gave her a huge tip just to thank her for how professional she kept things. she deserved it.