Do Regulars Matter?

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I'm curious to hear from the SPs how valued regular clients are. In the traditional 'business world' many companies are seeing that it is greater value to retain existing clients than try and attract new ones. Does any of this apply to the hobby world? To what degree do SPs value and try and retain regulars?

 

From a client standpoint and speaking only for me I can say that I feel a huge loyalty to the SPs I've made a connection with in my short time exposed to this. I view it as a business relationship with huge personal/emotional/physical attributes and wonder if the value I place in those relationships is shared.

 

Guys feel free to chime in with your views on loyalty to a given lady.

[jman47 233]

Hello cubby,

 

Good question...

 

Have fun,

jman47

[Andee 220524]

"Regulars" are what I call the bread and butter clients. Sometimes you never know when they're going to call but you know that within the month you can "probably" count on them.

 

There have been other threads on here about "regulars". As I stated before, some are every couple of weeks, once a month, once every few months. Some will see me twice in one week for two weeks and disappear for a couple of months. I just never know when they're going to call.

 

I think it's different for every lady. I have an SP friend who has a regular Sunday night standing appointment with a gentleman who she says "pays her rent". I know some other ladies who have clients on "retainer". I would think every SP hopes for those types of arrangements.

 

But yes, regulars are the guys you count on when times are slow. I knew after the long Easter weekend, my phone would ring on Tuesday for sure. Some things can be counted on. I normally only see 2 gentlemen a day. I stretched it to 3 and could have easily done 5 appointments. Two of them were regulars.

 

Today was quiet. Who knows what tomorrow brings.

[Annessa 22743]

I dont see it as money (keep in mind I still see it as BUSINESS...just to keep in line..) My regulars are what make my day in this business...My relief from the BS I have to deal with on a daily basis. Sadly I've lost a couple in the following months for different reasons or reasons unknown and it has definitely left me a tad depressed. It is a very big compliment to have someone want to see you again...and again for that matter.

 

Never hearing back from a regular is kind of like losing touch with an old friend...who you may feel akward by shooting off an email to asking how he's doing for fear of him thinking you were only contacting him for business means.

 

The ones who I see again and again are indeed outstretching their hand to build a solid client-SP relationship (not to be confused with an actual relationship) but it makes conversation easier, catching up fun, and more than often the big hug at the door after reuniting after a few weeks that much more enjoyable.

 

Money aside, The regulars are the ones that are the gems inbetween the rude customers and harsh phonecalls and degrading texts from would-be clients. They are the ones that at the end of the night, we walk to our cars with a smile on our faces.

 

To the "collector hobbiests" I have no quams with wanting to try everything once, but in the end I will say that finding the right person (or two) and becoming a regular of theirs is the biggest honour a girl can give you, and if shes appreciative, a great compliment should you be a gentleman to her for her business and are a noble client...repeat business will definitely earn you a girl's trust and have her earn your's....from that point on it's all YMMV

[Guest S**a*Q]

Regulars... I agree with both ladies so far, they are money that we can count on, or sometimes count on, as things in everyone's lives play havoc with what we'd like to call being regular...

 

Not on the money thought, regulars are the calls that I like getting, the ones that I know things will go well and we'll both have a good time. It's like seeing a friend that you haven't seen in awhile. A humpy-friend at that!

 

Yes, I like the anticipation of meeting a new client, but there's always that thought in the back of your mind that something might go wrong, or he won't like me, or I won't like him or... With regulars, I rarely think that :)

 

Obviously, as we work to build our business, we have to take on new clients, but it's nice when they call you back, it lets you know that you're good at what you do, for them. :D

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I dont see it as money (keep in mind I still see it as BUSINESS...just to keep in line..)

I agree with this. I would have no problem making my money without my regulars, however, it's always nice to have a friendly familiar face show up at the door.

[etasman2000 15994]

Yes, I like the anticipation of meeting a new SP, but there's always that thought in the back of your mind that something might go wrong, or she won't like me, or I won't like her or... With regulars, I rarely think that :smile:

 

Never hearing back from a regular is kind of like losing touch with an old friend...who you may feel akward by shooting off an email to asking how she's doing for fear of her thinking you were only contacting her for business means.

 

I changed Annessa and SaraMQ's masculine pronoun to feminine because I truly believe it is a two-way street.

 

Although I have no illusions that I'm one of the many guys seen, a regular just knows that I am a 36-left, 9-right, 42-left to get to my meaning of life.

 

And heh if you enjoy French Vanilla no harm in it a second, third, fourth, .... time.

[Newton 714]

From a client's perspective, seeing a regular can be a comforting experience. You know how to get to her place. You know she's happy to see you. You know what she likes and dislikes.

 

She'll be at ease and a lady at ease is very sexy and desirable.

 

In between explorations, I always revisit the treasures of my discoveries, happily.

 

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[A***** A***** 510]

regulars are great, and are new clients, i treat them both equally good :)

[Ashley Ann 75247]

They sure do matter to me!!! Although I like meeting new people?my hope is to connect with them so we can hook up again, ?I would say half of it is for financial reasons, the other half is because for me, it is so nice to look forward to seeing someone that you know will treat you right and that you can have a good time with (this is what make me really like what I do:wink: )?usually no surprises?as you know just what you are in for!! When I first meet someone, I am feeling both excited and nervous at the same time?I like the excitement?not so much the nervousness?

 

Lately I have a been a little weary of meeting new friends, due to a really unpleasant incident that occurred last month (felt shamed, humiliated, and degraded) ??.however, right after the incident took place ( and a few tears later ), the first thing that I thought of was, my special regular friends?.seriously?It was kind of comforting to think about them cause it kind of reassured me that there was nothing wrong with me, I am a very likeable person and if I don?t want to see new people , I really don?t have to cause I have special friends!!!

 

Please note, we all handle our business differently, I am not looking to gain a super lavish lifestyle?therefore, if I only see a handful of friends on a monthly basis, I am ok with that?For me I would rather much see 5 special friends per month, then 20 and take a chance that 15 out of the 20 guys would not be the nicest men?..I realize this is a business, however my personal mental health is very important to me?I know for myself, if I were to see many random clients, I would not be able to keep up my friendly demeanor and attitude?so all that to say I really, really value them !!!

[Auralie (retired) 227]

I agree with what has been said above. For me, I'm always nervous (though excited...but mostly nervous) meeting a new person so I really enjoy feeling calm and confident knowing who's coming. I see a select few people because of my busy schedule so I only see a person a second (or more) time if I enjoy my time with them.

Also, there's something to be said for getting to know a person's body and how to please them. It's wonderful to find a secret pleasure spot, to know where a person is ticklish or sensitive, and to make plans for 'next dates' together. Isn't that what GFE is all about?

[Andee 220524]

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Money aside, The regulars are the ones that are the gems inbetween the rude customers and harsh phonecalls and degrading texts from would-be clients. They are the ones that at the end of the night, we walk to our cars with a smile on our faces.

 

 

Yes, this is true!

[Chanel Reign 28097]

I've been lucky so far in that Ive had no harshness or rudeness come my way. I know being new to this, that it will happen, but thankfully I have guidance as to how to deal with this. I did have a gentleman that wanted to break some of the golden rules of an SP but having never met him, I declined.

 

If this had been a regular I connect with, I would certainly consider it. But Mr Email Text became rather insistent so I stopped correspondence as he clearly wasn't listening. My web site makes that perfectly clear and sometimes I wish people would read a little more.

 

While these are most certainly business relationships, I feel like I get to get my cake and eat it too! My "business plan" is to have regulars with the occasional new one for spice. Whether this pans out, I can't tell at the moment.

 

With regulars you get to know each other much more intimately and I feel the client gets more "bang for their buck" (I know, rather crude) if you both know which buttons to push and what a client likes. Also, comfortable clients are more likely to explore and push their fantasies. Which is fine by me.

 

At the moment I have 1 1/2 regulars (don't ask). And I'm hoping this other gentleman chooses to see me again as we connected quite well for a first meeting.

 

All I do is be myself and hope they are too.

[Guest *D E**a]

All my points for why regulars rock have been stated. Love repeat clients....you know you are safe and have made an impact on that gentleman. Makes you feel special. I will always try to make time for someone I have seen before and am excited to see you again...and again...:bowdown:

[BownChickaBown 4829]

Do regulars matter?

 

Does a bear sh*t wherever it wants, forest or otherwise?

 

I believe the answer is 1 in the same.

 

PS: I just noticed Angela, you are close to getting your Gold CERB Jacket for 1000 Posts - You Go Girl! :)

[capitalman 3861]

It's a two way street ladies, we need and want a regular relationship with a girl, someone we can count on and learn to please and trust.

 

When a regular SP doesn't answer our emails or phone calls or disappears, we're left feeling rejected and might even take it personally....I know we shouldn't but we're only human and have emotions.

 

Anyway, good thread!

[rileydaniels 1901]

From quoting criminal minds today a prostitute client list regulars are thier daily income and retirement income.

 

Regular matter because the is someting reliable about knowing your going to have a good time. and that your not going to really get into an issue.

[bailey summer of Winnipeg 262]

I'm curious to hear from the SPs how valued regular clients are. In the traditional 'business world' many companies are seeing that it is greater value to retain existing clients than try and attract new ones. Does any of this apply to the hobby world? To what degree do SPs value and try and retain regulars?

 

From a client standpoint and speaking only for me I can say that I feel a huge loyalty to the SPs I've made a connection with in my short time exposed to this. I view it as a business relationship with huge personal/emotional/physical attributes and wonder if the value I place in those relationships is shared.

 

Guys feel free to chime in with your views on loyalty to a given lady.

 

Regular/repeat clients are humbling & much appreciated for so many reasons. It speaks volumes as far as performance, attitude, chemistry, respect & trust on both sides. Building a strong foundation like this between two people in the real world, is far & few between. Negative setbacks in real relationships, naturally occur in time, such as jealousy for example. Whereas consensual arrangements, rooted from boundaries, have automatically flourished happiness between the SP & client relationship. As time goes on, this paves the way to a healthy companionship they both easily find comfort in, & that they simply haven't found anywhere else. As far as I am concerned, you can't really put a price on that. This is just my personal experience though....:grin:

[Annessa 22743]

As time goes on, this paves the way to a healthy companionship they both easily find comfort in, & that they simply haven't found anywhere else. As far as I am concerned, you can't really put a price on that. This is just my personal experience though....:grin:

 

from what I've learned however...regardless of regular visits or a great relationship with a client one MUST put a price to that. In this month alone I have put the halt on seeing regulars on social outings "off the clock". This is hard because I still appreciate their company yet still must take my business seriously.

 

I know this may not be what you are getting at Bailey I just thought that the subject should be addressed. I have lost a few clients recently who have talked about "so-and-so" going out with them for dinner etc with no fee attached or who have invited them out for drinks.

 

while I love spending time with my regulars the unfortunate thing is that while money is aside most of the time for us, we can't make our rent by going for drinks off the clock....and once the price is set some will abide if they enjoy our company....and others will be more than happy to take advantage of an invitation to hang out from someone else for free.

 

its like I said before....money is aside, however, its still a business. Priceless is not a term I use with regulars....I am delighted more than any client to see them, but I know that if i'm going to give a freebie of social time I'm going to hurt another girl's business potentially...or even my own thus welcoming drama.

[bailey summer of Winnipeg 262]

from what I've learned however...regardless of regular visits or a great relationship with a client one MUST put a price to that. In this month alone I have put the halt on seeing regulars on social outings "off the clock". This is hard because I still appreciate their company yet still must take my business seriously.

 

I know this may not be what you are getting at Bailey I just thought that the subject should be addressed. I have lost a few clients recently who have talked about "so-and-so" going out with them for dinner etc with no fee attached or who have invited them out for drinks.

 

while I love spending time with my regulars the unfortunate thing is that while money is aside most of the time for us, we can't make our rent by going for drinks off the clock....and once the price is set some will abide if they enjoy our company....and others will be more than happy to take advantage of an invitation to hang out from someone else for free.

 

its like I said before....money is aside, however, its still a business. Priceless is not a term I use with regulars....I am delighted more than any client to see them, but I know that if i'm going to give a freebie of social time I'm going to hurt another girl's business potentially...or even my own thus welcoming drama.

 

Whereas consensual arrangements, rooted from boundaries, have automatically flourished happiness between the SP & client relationship. As time goes on, this paves the way to a healthy companionship they both easily find comfort in, & that they simply haven't found anywhere else. As far as I am concerned, you can't really put a price on that. This is just my personal experience though....

I did use the term arrangements....also boundaries....you must have missed that part....?

[JoyfulC 132299]

For me, regulars are the only business that matters. I'm not really interested in seeing one timers. When I meet someone new (which is pretty rare), I'm working to earn repeat business. There's a lot less risk in seeing someone a second time or a forty-second time than the first time. I have regulars going back decades.

 

However, WinnipegCub wrote: "In the traditional 'business world' many companies are seeing that it is greater value to retain existing clients than try and attract new ones." Perhaps that is true of B2B relationships (... and even that I wonder about), but for sure it's often not how many businesses treat their customers these days. They seem to blow a lot on marketing for new customers and switchovers, but cheap out on stuff like customer service or technical support for existing customers. (...talking Rogers, Bell, etc.) Often the only things that keep customers around through the frustration is 1) costs of switching over; and 2) knowing that the other guy is probably just as bad.

 

Many companies these days treat their customers like dirt.

[mrgreen760 37785]

I agree that a regular siituation is great for both the client and provider. There's the obvious comfort/safety zone and then there's the familiarity of each other that adds to the intimacy.

 

Just like in the civilian world, all realtionships need tending and it's incumbment on both parties not to get "lazy" and take the situation for granted. And eventhough this is a financial transaction first and foremost in my view both parties need to participate equally to maximize the experience.

 

As we've seen in the cable and telephone game some suppliers took their clients for granted and now there's the constant you're special and we want you back badgering. Well if you hadn't f--ked me over in the first place I won't have looked else where.

 

Customer service is becoming a lost art these days and the new motto seems to be "we're not happy until you're not happy"

 

Peace

Mr Green

[pjrd 324]

There's a never ending supply of first timers in any business and should be treated with respect. They all need to be treated as if they would like to come back and use your services regularly unless of course there's a problem.

Repeat customers ( regulars) are extremely important and can provide the majority of income to any legitimate business. The scammers and fly by nighters are only around to rip you off and don't care if you come back or not.

I'm a loyal regular of a few ladies which provide me with the variety that I crave and also the familiarity of knowing the ladies I visit. I like to try new girls to see if we click, (OMG there's just too many) but ussually go back to my regulars whom I love.

I'm a business man and regular repeat business is where it's at. It's a no brainer. They get treated with priority for sure.

So Ladies, if you're serious about treating this as a business, regulars is definately the way to go. :motion::motion::motion:

[kingforday 97]

from what I've learned however...regardless of regular visits or a great relationship with a client one MUST put a price to that. In this month alone I have put the halt on seeing regulars on social outings "off the clock". This is hard because I still appreciate their company yet still must take my business seriously.

 

 

 

I am a regular of a SP and I like the connection - as for social outings I love them - but I pay for her time and we have a time limit for the encounter

[Annessa 22743]

from what I've learned however...regardless of regular visits or a great relationship with a client one MUST put a price to that. In this month alone I have put the halt on seeing regulars on social outings "off the clock". This is hard because I still appreciate their company yet still must take my business seriously.

 

 

 

I am a regular of a SP and I like the connection - as for social outings I love them - but I pay for her time and we have a time limit for the encounter

 

And that is the way it definitely should be done, it keeps things professional and sets limits. personally my social fee is about half of my bedroom fee. I've made mistakes in the past not offering a social fee and its always brought about drama in one way or another. So many escorts including myself say "I'm dont charge by the service, just for my time" When we fuzz the lines between business and friendship (often viewed eventually as relationship) people get hurt.

 

About first timers or non-repeat clients: true, everyone starts somewhere and some people dont call on a lady for their needs as often as others, however it doesnt mean that even if they dont come back for a year thay aren't considered a regular or trusted.

 

To me, regular means "I have seen you before, I like your company and would recomend you and I trust you enough to put myself in your company again"

 

not "I see you X amount of times a month/year"

 

Additional Comments:

I did use the term arrangements....also boundaries....you must have missed that part....?

 

 

oh dear! I should have clarified that i wasn't disagreeing with your statement, as I thought it was wonderfully worded....just adding to it for the readers that are clients that "priceless" doesn't mean that our company goes without compensation.

 

Hope that clears things up? sorry for the misinderstanding :-)