Updated Friends List

[A***** A***** 510]

I have since updated my friends list, to those whom I have met, and could recommend without a doubt, Please don't be offended if your name is no longer there. This is my way of helping out. I guess you can say, the people I have met, and retained a relationship with are really good people. My way of "giving a reference"

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

I have since updated my friends list, to those whom I have met, and could recommend without a doubt...

 

I like this approach. To my way of thinking, the more ladies who do this, the more useful Cerb becomes!

 

(I still think that it would be even better if there was a Social Group set up for those who maintain their friends list using these criteria. Everyone could then easily see which ladies do this, based simply on their having joined the Social Group.)

[A***** A***** 510]

I like this approach. To my way of thinking, the more ladies who do this, the more useful Cerb becomes!

 

(I still think that it would be even better if there was a Social Group set up for those who maintain their friends list using these criteria. Everyone could then easily see which ladies do this, based simply on their having joined the Social Group.)

 

Thanks, for your vote of confidence there, I was not sure what people are going to make of it.

[Cato 160314]

Sniff :(.... I've just been unfriended myself, but I agree with your approach, Angela.

[A***** A***** 510]

Sniff :(.... I've just been unfriended myself, but I agree with your approach, Angela.

 

Kisses to make up? hehe:razz:

[Cato 160314]

Friends nonetheless, Angela.

[A***** A***** 510]

Friends nonetheless, Angela.

 

I truly hope you all understand, this was NOT done out of spite, anger etc. I just thought it would be a good idea, to have people on my list, that have met in person, can say they are good people, show up for their apts, etc!

[Cato 160314]

It's an excellent idea, Angela. Please don't feel you need to apologize.

[PistolPete 61421]

The more useful CERB becomes???, there is a few ladies that I have not met, and we of course stay in touch like pen pals here and through emails and in fact other blog places too.

 

Because of the distance between ourselves and we have not met you think is best they should befriend and CERB will be more useful?

 

Sorry but really disagree on that point. You would not realize how many thoughtful encounters some ladies and I have had through not just CERB but emails as well. I have taken their written discussions with me as a dear friend, and hope that we do meet because we both have exchanged quite a lot of personal info to each other.

So I beg to differ on your point.

 

But I'm quite well aware that some ladies have taken that approach,for safety issues and that is fine with me.

 

 

I like this approach. To my way of thinking, the more ladies who do this, the more useful Cerb becomes!

[A***** A***** 510]

I do know that some people won't agree, and that I understand. Totally fine with me. The thing is we are mature adults here, and can discuss things with out shit flying through the air (or atleast I hope we can):lol:

 

For some of us, we can agree to disagree, which is quite often the case with me and my mom as we don't often see eye to eye on a few things:oops:

[Cato 160314]

I understand the need for prudence, and other sp's have done this, too. I remember some threads on the subject from last year.

 

But I also agree with Pete. Some of my best friends on cerb are women I haven't met yet, but we have a really good e-mail exchange in which we talk about all kinds of things. Eventually I'm sure we'll meet.

[whatsup 11893]

I like this approach. To my way of thinking, the more ladies who do this, the more useful Cerb becomes!

 

(I still think that it would be even better if there was a Social Group set up for those who maintain their friends list using these criteria. Everyone could then easily see which ladies do this, based simply on their having joined the Social Group.)

 

I have mixed feelings about this approach.

 

1) I have befriended some SP's that I have never met and I feel that I am worthy of their friendship.

 

2) To limit yourself to people that you have met. I can see this approach as being a good way to help weed out the bad clients but one would lose out on some friendships and possibly clients.

 

3) Some albums are private thus you need to become a friend to view the albums.

 

 

I do like WITs social group idea and there is always the SP's only private area.

[kingforday 97]

I have since updated my friends list, to those whom I have met, and could recommend without a doubt, Please don't be offended if your name is no longer there. This is my way of helping out. I guess you can say, the people I have met, and retained a relationship with are really good people. My way of "giving a reference"

 

 

I like the idea - I only add the SP's I've seen and would recommend. Hopefully they feel the same about me.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

... Sorry but really disagree on that point. You would not realize how many thoughtful encounters some ladies and I have had through not just CERB but emails as well. I have taken their written discussions with me as a dear friend ....

 

Pete, that isn't my point at all, so I'm not sure where any disagreement might lie.

 

I'm referring only to the "Friends List", which is in reality strictly a technical artifact in a database. I am not in any way referring to actually being friends. As you yourself quite eloquently point out: becoming a real friend is not about simply checking a box on some cold cyber-list -- it is about real communication and sharing! It has never entered my mind that I might have to be on someone's "Friends List" in order to communicate or talk with them, or in order for us to consider ourselves mutual friends in reality!

 

From my point of view, being taken off Angela's "List" doesn't affect our actual relationship at all. The two things just aren't connected. The "Friends List" by itself really serves no function (it has no "use") as far as I'm concerned -- so the ladies who have chosen to assign it a real function (and therefore making it "useful") are definitely adding value in my opinion.

 

Cheers, Wrinkled

[spud271 47779]

I can understand Angela. Makes sense of course. I usually update mine every two weeks just so it doesn't get out of hand.

[clancy 142]

Hi all, as you likely know already I am a proud NEW member of CERB and I have wondered if peoples friends here were only ones that have met so I was reluctant to send requests. But I do find that it is easier for me to check on member updates(about me, posts, pictures etc...) as I do read everything, helps to determine if we think there may or may not be compatability. Yes it is a business but we are people and two conflicting attitudes makes for an unpleasant experience. Somebody said in an earlier thread that it would be a good idea to do your homework before setting up an appointment and I think that checking on my friends list makes it easier. I have a great memory but it is very short term, so for me to remember who piqued my interest last week, month, year would be very difficult and frustrating. The more I know about someone the easier it will be to relax if we do ever meet.

I do believe that we can never have too many friends but I will respect anyones right and decision to unfriend me based on the discussed reasons as I would not resent you in the least, all 4 of you LOL...

[Cara Silver 32412]

Pete, that isn't my point at all, so I'm not sure where any disagreement might lie.

 

I'm referring only to the "Friends List", which is in reality strictly a technical artifact in a database. I am not in any way referring to actually being friends. As you yourself quite eloquently point out: becoming a real friend is not about simply checking a box on some cold cyber-list -- it is about real communication and sharing! It has never entered my mind that I might have to be on someone's "Friends List" in order to communicate or talk with them, or in order for us to consider ourselves mutual friends in reality!

 

From my point of view, being taken off Angela's "List" doesn't affect our actual relationship at all. The two things just aren't connected. The "Friends List" by itself really serves no function (it has no "use") as far as I'm concerned -- so the ladies who have chosen to assign it a real function (and therefore making it "useful") are definitely adding value in my opinion.

 

Cheers, Wrinkled

 

I totally agree with this, and your point was/is definitely clear.

 

Making the 'friends list' a simple and easy reference list for other ladies is smart. From now on my list will contain clients I would recommend and ladies I would recommend working with.

[etasman2000 15994]

I have a great memory but it is very short term, so for me to remember who piqued my interest last week, month, year would be very difficult and frustrating.

 

I have the same problem. Here are two possible solutions:

 

1. Add the person into your Contact. These do not show up on your Friend list and as far as I know is private to your settings. It does tag the handle with an asterisk (*) in the Currently Active Users making it easier to determine if the person is logged in.

 

2. On the the top right corner is My Notes. Use it to make additional cerb only notes.

[mrgreen760 37785]

My rule is I'm only friends with people who have seen me naked...sort of a reward...but really more like a badge of courage :)

 

Peace

Mr Green