Jabba 18389 Report post Posted September 5, 2014 (edited) Which would you rather be - single or attached? Why? Edited September 5, 2014 by Jabba Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted September 5, 2014 Well I'm single and glad I stayed this way...couldn't see myself married or in a relationship now Maybe if I met the right woman I would say different but never met the right woman Only thing, if I had known how the dating game was going to turn out for me, I would have started in this lifestyle a lot sooner than I did and forgot dating A rambling RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piano8950 32577 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 For the time being single. But later in life, I'd like to be in a relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loopie 15358 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I'd rather be in a relationship, but alas, I am single. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I would much rather be in a relationship. Problem is since I have been travelling so much again, being single is much easier. However, once I move back home to the UK in January, if that right woman comes along I certainly would like to be in a relationship once again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I'm married and happy, I would not change a thing. Yes being in a relationship as its up and down but that is why people compromise and everybody is happy. She loves me to debt, and I love her to death. Meeting her was fate, becoming her friend was my choice but falling in love with her was out of my control. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bianca Jaguar 39183 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I have been single for 4 yrs now...been really happy since coz I needed to be free and live some me time( i had been in a relationship all my life) Now things have changed. If the right person comes into my life, I won't turn him away...sometimes I wish I had an SO to share things with as being alone can suck at times...maybe one day I will meet that special someone... My thoughts on a saturday morning...;) Bianca xxx 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Cr**gCa***ng Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I am an unattached widower...not something I wanted nor ever planned for but it is what it is. I don't mind being unattached for the moment yet I am now open to new relationship possibilities. If and when this does happen I will no longer be active in this lifestyle as this is an interim measure on my part as I move forward. Additional Comments: I fully understand as I am in a similar situation but not by choice. I get where you are coming from! I have been single for 4 yrs now...been really happy since coz I needed to be free and live some me time( i had been in a relationship all my life) Now things have changed. If the right person comes into my life, I won't turn him away...sometimes I wish I had an SO to share things with as being alone can suck at times...maybe one day I will meet that special someone... My thoughts on a saturday morning...;) Bianca xxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 Been attached for so long I'm not sure what unattached would even feel like. I like it so I'll stick with it. Peace MG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oil Guy1 230 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 Single - already had my kids with my ex-wife and they're great kids ! And i'm with Roamingguy - if I'd known about this sooner, I would have saved myself the hassle of dating, expectations I couldn't (or wouldn't fill) , coffee and dinner dates etc and skipped right to hobbyist ! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest N***he**Ont**y Report post Posted September 6, 2014 (edited) I have been very single for five years now. I seem to be content most of the time but I do get lonely periodically. Edited September 6, 2014 by N***he**Ont**y Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomer 33202 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I had a pretty reasonable marriage for 25 years, which came to an end when my wife got cancer and died. I quite deliberately avoided getting involved with another women for a two or three year period after her death. Now I suppose it would be nice to have a new partner, sometimes it's lonely. I travel, and have grown used to living a solitary life, but am a bit cautious about taking the plunge. It would be such a shame to enter a new relationship that failed. Using ladies services, fulfills a brief need, but it's not really possible to expect the same level of intimacy that is to be found in a committed relationship, so maybe I will try again, but won't necessarily be disappointed if it doesn't happen. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brandongirl 352 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I am currently single, after having been in a loooong relationship. Now, I'm just going to do my own thing, for a while. :) I find myself liking the single life, for a number of reasons. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **cely***r***ne Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I am single and LOVING IT. I've been single and on my own since 2012 basically. I tried the family thing one last time, but I have horrid judgement of character, and I was constantly hurt, physically and mentally. Enough was enough, and now I am on my solitary journey discovering things about myself I never knew before. Will I ever be in another relationship? Maybe. When things are meant to be it will happen for me. I am not looking for love, because still at this moment I am healing those emotional wounds that wouldn't be fair to share with someone else. Besides all that being an SP gives me all the "boyfriends" I will ever need! Muah! xo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redskin44 3588 Report post Posted September 6, 2014 single ! single ! SINGLE ! short answer , I'm selfish . I want to do what I want to do when I want to do it . I am a terrible planner , much more of a spur-of-the-moment kind of guy . hard to do that when you have consider the feelings and needs of a mate . the option is being an asshole and just doing what you want regaurdless but , I try to be a better man than that , of course I do fail from time to time . the Brightside is when I do fail , I am selfish , so I get over it quickly , lol . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Cr**gCa***ng Report post Posted September 6, 2014 I very much share your thoughts and situation in a similar vein. I get it!! I had a pretty reasonable marriage for 25 years, which came to an end when my wife got cancer and died. I quite deliberately avoided getting involved with another women for a two or three year period after her death. Now I suppose it would be nice to have a new partner, sometimes it's lonely. I travel, and have grown used to living a solitary life, but am a bit cautious about taking the plunge. It would be such a shame to enter a new relationship that failed. Using ladies services, fulfills a brief need, but it's not really possible to expect the same level of intimacy that is to be found in a committed relationship, so maybe I will try again, but won't necessarily be disappointed if it doesn't happen. Additional Comments: I am very glad to see that you survived a most terrible time in your life and that you are now safe, well and in a good place! I am single and LOVING IT.I've been single and on my own since 2012 basically. I tried the family thing one last time, but I have horrid judgement of character, and I was constantly hurt, physically and mentally. Enough was enough, and now I am on my solitary journey discovering things about myself I never knew before. Will I ever be in another relationship? Maybe. When things are meant to be it will happen for me. I am not looking for love, because still at this moment I am healing those emotional wounds that wouldn't be fair to share with someone else. Besides all that being an SP gives me all the "boyfriends" I will ever need! Muah! xo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted September 6, 2014 My theme song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iiXamyG7O8U Loving my life and having a blast! I'm feeling like a star Ya can't stop my shine! I'm loving cloud nine, My heads in the sky! <Exits stage left, dancing and singing...> "nuff said! :icon_lol: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gentleman11 10508 Report post Posted September 8, 2014 Am single right now but would prefer to have someone to call "home" (in the most respectful sense). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P*rry Report post Posted September 8, 2014 Attached. I've been married for 30 years. The last few have been rocky ones. Nonetheless, the good times outweigh the bad. Sometimes I wonder what it would like to be single. I had the opportunity to experience what it might be like this summer when we took separate vacations for the first time. I found the time apart lonely and way too quiet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrrnice2 157005 Report post Posted September 8, 2014 TOUGH question. But, and I have thought about this a LOT, I am content to be single. Like a few others who have written, I lost my wife and truthfully would give the world to have her back beside me. I guess I just believe that I was very lucky and had my soul mate. Yes, I get lonely sometimes, but have also learned to appreciate alone time, and aloneness. However, it is terribly freeing to be able to do what I want, when I want, without having to confirm schedules or coordinate with someone else. Still feel guilt about that though. I REALLY miss sleeping beside someone. That is a biggie. It's been a very long time. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted September 8, 2014 I've been with the same woman for 31 years. She has my heart and the kind ladies of Cerb provide me with what my wife can't. I was single when I was in my twenties. I think it would kinda suck to be single in your fifties. Being attached as I approach retirement is better, for me. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
northernont 100 Report post Posted September 9, 2014 attached is great if your with the right person, right now, i would rather be single. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DarksideHobbyist 1883 Report post Posted September 27, 2014 I'm married but there is no intimacy there, I tried but the hobbyist life is for me right now I think. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted September 28, 2014 Happily Married for 30 years. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest D***el B***e Report post Posted September 28, 2014 I'm married and happy, I would not change a thing. Yes being in a relationship as its up and down but that is why people compromise and everybody is happy. She loves me to debt, and I love her to death.Meeting her was fate, becoming her friend was my choice but falling in love with her was out of my control. I'll echo Notch's comment. Same for me, same situation. Did you say she loves you to debt? lol Well darnit! mine too!!! Would I trade the lifestyle? hummm, not sure! Three cheers to Cerb! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
