Finding a Lovely Lady

[ashyguy 100]

Hello this is my first time doing this and I was looking for a little help. I was hoping that some one could recommend a lovely lady for me. I am looking for some one in the Ottawa area.

I should say that I still have my v-card for what ever reasons that I won?t go in to now. But I know the ladies have to feel comfortable also with me so I don?t mind going in to a little bit of details before meeting. And I have been thinking of going this route for awhile now and I do feel it is right for me.

So any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much.

[E.D. man 691]

well it all depends on what you like, so since you don't say that I reccommend going threw the reccommendation area and see what you like.

[scout251 166]

Hey Shy Guy ... and welcome to cerb!!

 

I agree with E.D. Man ... your best bet is to shop the recommendation board and identify a few SPs (Service Providers) that look interesting to you. Once you've got a few names, you could always repost your question here asking for thoughts about each girl from the community.

 

Of course it'd be helpful to members if we knew what your interests were ... and don't be shy. Nobody else is!! (Although RESPECT is ALWAYS a requirement!!)

 

Best of luck ... and once again, welcome to CERB!!

 

Scout

[Cato 160314]

You can also pm members if you have questions that are more private. We're happy to help out around here.

[Annessa 22743]

You can also pm members if you have questions that are more private. We're happy to help out around here.

 

I realise there are other threads on this linked above but I havent commented on any until now.....

 

 

As an Sp, I know many of us would be happier if you PMed *US* for info as to the clients we have see or the service we provide regarding your personal questions. Many Members Have started recent threads in the forums stating that they cringe at being PMed by prospect clients about their experience with a lady hey have seen...they feel like they are breaking a rule of discretion sometimes.

 

I know that it is an instant turn-off to hear from a potential client "I asked *insert Cerb member name* about you and he said yadda yadda yadda"

 

I end up wondering....so why didnt you ask me? I'm here, available on PM, I'm not going to ridicule you for asking questions because *news-flash* you want to know just exactly you are going to be getting naked with without meeting...and who better to give you that info than me??

 

Just beacuse we shared a certain chemistry with one client does not mean that your experience would be the same so its best to message the lady in question with your requests...and like another member said, dont be shy (but be respectful) In the end, its best to eliminate the middle-man and speak directly to the woman you want to address.

 

dont worry, we dont bite.

 

(unless thats what you're looking for ;-))

[etasman2000 15994]

As an Sp, I know many of us would be happier if you PMed *US* for info as to the clients we have see or the service we provide regarding your personal questions.

 

I do agree with you. AFAIK these guys don't want to lead on that they are interested in a particular SP. Why ? no idea.

 

I am also cautious about:

 

I know that it is an instant turn-off to hear from a potential client "I asked *insert Cerb member name* about you and he said yadda yadda yadda"

 

That is just a quick painful way of souring my relationship with the SP.

[Cato 160314]

I agree with you, Annessa, and I've often responded to pm's about specific providers with the suggestion that the person contact the woman directly, rather than supplying additional details myself. Discretion and trust are important to me.

But if someone is very new to the hobby, there are ways more experienced members can help out, especially if the newbie is embarrassed about posting something on the main board.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I have a fav regular who was contacted regarding what I looked like from the neck up....he kindly told the individual to contact me directly and/or check out my reviews. I really appreciate that (not that I am some monster or anything LOL) But discretion both ways is a paramount to this industry and I am forever grateful that he did not elaborate on the topic!

[Cato 160314]

I never answer questions about fees, services, or any additional info about appearance beyond what I say in my reviews.

 

But general questions about etiquette, how to approach a date, and so on from newbies are fine. People helped me out when I was starting, and I'm grateful to them. I try to return the favor when I can.

[ashyguy 100]

I guess I owe you all an apology especially the ladies. So I must apologize as it was not my intent to go behind anyone?s back but I can definitely see and understand why you wouldn?t want someone asking these questions to someone other then your self. I guess I was just hoping to find a lady that would be willing to deal with my situation but I realize now I should be asking the ladies specifically. So again I apologize to every one but I do appreciate the advice.

[Mutau 2516]

That's what we're here for ashyguy. It is only by asking questions that you will find out. The approach should always be respectful.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I guess I owe you all an apology especially the ladies. So I must apologize as it was not my intent to go behind anyone?s back but I can definitely see and understand why you wouldn?t want someone asking these questions to someone other then your self. I guess I was just hoping to find a lady that would be willing to deal with my situation but I realize now I should be asking the ladies specifically. So again I apologize to every one but I do appreciate the advice.

 

Ashyguy -- Welcome and you have nothing whatsoever to apologize for! I'm getting in a bit late to the discussion here. This forum contains all sort of interesting discussions, but its difficult to argue that one of its primary purposes certainly has something to do with sharing information about escorts, right? (smile) I did a lot of research on here and on the other boards before contacting anyone, and I also made some contributions to the boards before asking a lot of questions to help gain a good reputation for being helpful.

 

The unique thing about cerb, as compared to other boards, is how wonderfully polite and helpful everyone is. And, you have been lucky enough to get some responses from the ladies as well. The usual advice, which is correct, is to do your research and then maybe ask some more pointed questions. However, your situation is a bit unique (given your v-card reference), so I do think that your question is perfectly appropriate. After all, there aren't probably a lot of references in the reviews to expertise in "v-card removal" (smile). And I dont doubt for a minute that should you have contacted some of cerb's ladies (like Annessa and Meg) directly that some would have responded. Where I disagree a bit is that ... given that you have very few posts and are new to the forum ... you may not have gotten as high of a response rate as you would hope. Soooo, I think a strategy of doing "all of the above" (research, starting this thread and some PMs) will get you to the result you are looking for.

 

Best wishes and good luck.

[Guest S***e]

Hello this is my first time doing this and I was looking for a little help. I was hoping that some one could recommend a lovely lady for me. I am looking for some one in the Ottawa area.

 

I should say that I still have my v-card for what ever reasons that I won?t go in to now. But I know the ladies have to feel comfortable also with me so I don?t mind going in to a little bit of details before meeting. And I have been thinking of going this route for awhile now and I do feel it is right for me.

 

So any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much.

 

 

Some advice from an ol' dog: Establish polite, yet open contact with a few ladies whom you might feel comfortable with as communication is essential in this whole process as you might have some special needs or requirements you wish to discuss. For example, I prefer ladies who do not smoke and I always enquire about this upon initial contact. There's a wealth of information here on the site and contact information for the ladies themselves. Being respectful, courteous and polite is essential and take it from there.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

I guess I owe you all an apology especially the ladies. So I must apologize as it was not my intent to go behind anyone?s back....

 

ashyguy, you owe no-one an apology. Your inquiry was entirely appropriate. Asking a simple question in an open forum is the exact opposite of going behind anyone's back.

 

My own first experience was with an escort, and I have nothing but the fondest of memories.

 

My 2-cents would be: Best to pursue an escort who has collected a bunch of good recommendations. I think I'd be safe in saying that it doesn't take very long for an escort in this business to have seen it all (and then some!), so a number of good recommendations for any particular escort would (statistically speaking) be a tip-off that she has the gift of pleasing clients of all shapes, sizes, personalities and situations. Of course interpersonal chemistry makes a difference, so if you also take some time to get to know some of the ladies here, that can help even more in increasing your chances of finding a good match.

 

Escorts are definitely people persons, and do seem to really enjoy their clients on a fundamental human level, not just the "services" aspect. They're in this thing with you. They're cheering for you and beside you. You: bring honesty and a positive attitude. They: rock your world!

[Guest S***e]

Well said as usual WiT.

[Cato 160314]

I tried to give you some rep points, WIT, for this wonderfully sage reply, but the system won't allow it.

So I'm sending my regards instead. Well said.

And ashyguy, don't feel you need to apologize. We're happy to help, and glad you asked.

Have fun exploring and sampling.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I agree with what Annessa is saying, but I also see Cato's point. It's so easy for us ladies to say "Just ask us" but a lot of gentlemen are very shy to do just that! Nothing wrong with a little advice from a vet before approaching the lady of his choice.

[Cato 160314]

I'm unable to give you any rep points, either, right now, but thank you, Megan.