NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 I'm searching for all of them services but that will depend on the chemistry between me and the lady I see. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Cr**gCa***ng Report post Posted September 17, 2014 RG and NJ have pretty much said what I am thinking in that I don't have a shopping list in hand when I make initial contact or show up to meet my companion. I think spontaneity and chemistry will dictate where it all goes keeping in my the ladies restrictions which should always be respected. I simply relax and enjoy the moment letting things take their course rather than checking off a list of must haves. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacectryguy 12547 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 I think this is one of those things like age preference, body type, looks or whatever that we have discussed before. Different strokes for different folks (pun intended). For me, it is mostly GFE but that varies as well. Each time is something a little different, even when I repeat with a favorite lady. That's part of what keeps it interesting and fresh. I don't really have any particular service that's a "must have". As the other guys have said, it's more about just being in the company of this beautiful woman and letting things develop naturally. The really great ladies have a way of knowing exactly how to proceed and lead me to where I want to go, even if I don't know where that is. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 One comment, speaking for me. First as you may gather, I'm partial to a GFE. But the most important aspect of an encounter is the chemistry/connection between the lady and myself. There are many beautiful ladies that are companions and will see a client. These ladies, for the most part, have the same, well similar menu of services Some have no menu, how you connect determines in large part how a date unfolds...mind you that holds for all ladies. BTW important here is the term YMMV...affects each and every encounter My point here,there has to be an intangible factor...chemistry/connection/maybe even friendship that affects who a gentleman wants to see and who a lady accepts as a client. Either it happens or doesn't, and if it doesn't, no one is at fault. If chemistry/connection wasn't important..the most important IMHO, then wouldn't each companion be interchangeable to a client and wouldn't she be reduced to just a sex provider. Now that's just my opinion, from a guy who seeks GFE and longer encounters. Those seeking shorter encounters may see it differently Just a point of view RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest D***el B***e Report post Posted September 17, 2014 It's simple for me. I look for a dream woman who provides dream sex, and if the chemistry is right between us will engage in extreme sex fantasies both for her pleasure and mine, the key word being 'both'. It may take time to find that elusive combination but it's out there ... believe me! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 Rather than go into a diatribe about the validity on the OP's original presumption, which I don't support, I'll stick to the three choices offered. In fact, as pointed out earlier, there are really only two choices PSE vs GFE. I've had both experiences and prefer the GFE session. As many before me have said, it is the connection/chemistry that is the real attractant. Looks and body type aside, if the lady & I have a connection, then the sexual sparks will fly. I tend to visit certain providers regularly because of the connection between us. The stronger the connection the quicker the repeat. During the sessions, our interactions can range from romantic lovemaking to animalistic fucking. Because each provider has different limitations and comfort levels, our sessions differ fundamentally from any other session with a different provider. That aside, I do look for specific characteristics in a provider. Being an oral enthusiast I seek out women who enjoy the delicate art of cunnilingus. I also enjoy receiving oral pleasure, preferably without the intrusion of a condom. I look for intelligence because the brain is the largest sex organ. I also like an authentic experience, so no fakers or actresses please. My ideal playmate is someone who is skilled, versatile, down to earth and who enjoys pleasure. That last requirement is often advertised but not always true. On occasion a romantic GFE session can morph into a Hot PSE. It seldom works the other way. I don't follow a script, nor do the providers that I see. While it seems that one could pigeon hole the profession in to PSE & GFE categories, the truth is that there are a myriad of options and styles offered and it's up to the hobbyist to do the research to have the session they really want. How would a 15-30 minute encounter factor in...it's not, in my opinion, either a GFE or PSE. It's long enough so a client can relieve his sexual urges. It might fall under Alex's choice 1, extreme sex fantasy, in that it might be a fantasy for a man to have non committal sex with no strings. Although I'm closer to believing the 15-30 minute type encounter caters to those on a tight schedule or limited funds at the time, but wish sexual urges relieved. Anyhow, just a thought RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 How would a 15-30 minute encounter factor in...it's not, in my opinion, either a GFE or PSE. RG Oh I don't know. While the 15-30 minute session is fairly utilitarian, there is not a lot of time for the chit chat that is the staple of the GFE experience. I think the short sessions lend themselves to more of the PSE equivalent of Wham, Bam, Thank You Mame! But as I said before, it is difficult to reduce all the different possibilities into just GFE or PSE. We could have categories for "Mechanics" for when you just want your 'oil' changed. "Mommies" for those who seek comfort above all. We could even have a "Psycho Ex-GFE" category for angry sex. The possibilities are endless. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 the 15-30 minute session is fairly utilitarian Not glamourous or romantic but it fills a need for a lot of guys. If that's what they want and it makes them happy it's not for me to criticise them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 Not glamourous or romantic but it fills a need for a lot of guys. If that's what they want and it makes them happy it's not for me to criticise them. One thing about this lifestyle is there is someone and something for everyone's tastes and needs. As long as the encounters are mutually beneficial, there are no wrong choices and all should be respected RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 Totally agree! It's the differences and variation that make this such a rewarding hobby. Beats stamp collecting in my book everyday. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pumpkin 649 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 I suppose If I had to pick a category it would be option 3....for me it's much more than just sex, it's about meeting people I would never have met in other circles, people who don't mind my taking the time to get to know who they are as a person, beyond this lifestyle, that connection is what to me makes this experience human after all...and on the sexual side, it's pretty simple for me, I have to simply feel wanted for that period of time I'm there, I'm also big on passionate kissing which to me is one of the biggest ways I can connect physically, so I guess it's the experience as a whole that I crave :) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted September 17, 2014 None of the listed...... Peace MG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Katherine of Halifax 113932 Report post Posted September 18, 2014 I'm searching for all of them services but that will depend on the chemistry between me and the lady I see. Sometimes it's hard to find it all if you have many requests . Maybe a few at a time ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piano8950 32577 Report post Posted September 18, 2014 I'd say for myself 1, and 2. Based from the age thread, it seems that I'm one of the younger male members here, and I want to explore and try out different things. I like that this industry has given me an avenue to do so. I'm very happy with life, have a circle of friends that I can rely on, so the need for companionship in the emotional level isn't as important for me. It doesn't mean I go in with the attitude that the entire session will consist of some sort of sexual activity; firstly, as much as I'd like to imagine, I don't have the endurance, and second, I think letting things play out is better then forcing them. And perhaps most importantly, I rather not get too close to anyone I meet here. I'm obviously physically attracted to the women I see, but one fear I've had with this is feeling some sort of emotional attraction and not being able to do anything about it. I saw an escort who I felt a little too comfortable with, that I liked a little too much. I stopped seeing her as soon as I realized what I was feeling. In short, I am not looking for a dream woman. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted September 18, 2014 "In short, I am not looking for a dream woman" Well said Peace MG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kmwq 5477 Report post Posted September 21, 2014 All three, it depends on what my needs are at the time. The most frequent being number two, followed by three then one. Most enjoyable is three, most memorable is one and most desired is two, go figure. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted September 21, 2014 (edited) Interesting Thread.... not sure I see it as clearly defined as the three options presented. I kinda think my ideal would be an ongoing connection with a lady who spans all three identified options and has the personal depth of character to go beyond these three stereotypes. If I am required to pick just one lady I want a lady who challenges me intellectually as much as she excites me sexually..... someone who will during our time together make me feel like the Centre of the universe but who is strong enough in her own personal awareness that she is not creating a fantasy world but instead allowing me for a few hours to share in her world and for her to be part of mine. I have said this many times that it is the connection I have with the lady that is without a doubt the single most desirable thing for me... but in my opinion the connection needs to be real for both people for the relationship to be ongoing and long lasting. Now before anyone jumps on the words real and relationship I should clarify that I am using those terms in the context of a SP / Client environment.... I'm not looking for a GF or a wife... I'm happily married but in an ongoing regular SP /Client relationship I am looking "real".... real chemistry.... real common interests.... real conversation.... real mutual enjoyment... if it's not real then it's time to move on. I guess I have been extremely lucky in this industry as I have met ladies who I feel I have had those "real" connections with and it has been amazing and our meeting have spanned all three of the options suggested by the OP. I have also met ladies who have been a pleasure to meet who have met a more short term need for sex or exploration lolol... It's all pretty amazing when you think about it... I'm kinda glad it does not fit into a simple model... the world and each of us are complex... how could a business relationship premised on something as intimate as this be simple.? Just my opinion Edited September 21, 2014 by Ice4fun 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tempted Monk 5057 Report post Posted January 28, 2017 I went through this old thread and caught myself on interesting observation. It is considered to be that we are romantic in our young years. And later we become much more practical and cynical, much more interested in "material" things and much less emotional. But it looks like most mature guys are looking for (or incline to) the "dream woman" provider type where emotional part is very important. And physical part prevails for most younger guys. Maybe we start value more personal qualities and emotional connection with age? 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lesuisse1234 186 Report post Posted April 6, 2017 For me it would be to have the "dream women" and the "dream sex" as I find that they both go hand and hand but hard to find. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
