Conversation During Appointments

[Andee 220524]

I have always thought of myself as a fairly good conversationalist. It is rare that I don't talk at least a little bit about something or other when I'm entertaining a client. Even if it's just commenting on the weather.

 

I grew up on military bases across Canada, spent a few years at University, worked most of adult life doing office work for a variety of private and public sector organizations. I have lived in 4 provinces and I have travelled some and take an interest in what's happening globally. I have also worked on and off as an escort since 1995. I believe I can put just about anyone at ease.

 

Some of my clients love spending part or in some rare instances even most of the appointment conversing, while others it's difficult to get one or two word answers out of them.

 

I try not to "talk too much" in order to make sure we get down to the business at hand, but I believe it's great if I can strike a good balance.

 

I'd like to hear both from SPs and hobbyiest alike - do you like to converse or just get down and dirty or a bit of both.

 

How much is too much talk?

When isn't it enough?

 

Just want to stimulate some dialogue here.

[swegin 5885]

I love a good conversation, although in a limited time it's often difficult to overcome the awkwardness of the situation. It's great if you can find some common ground and a similar sense of humor or shared interests, but if you've just met a gorgeous lady and your brain is yelling at you "SOON MY PENIS WILL INTERACT WITH HER IN JOYOUS WAYS!! YESSSS!", it can be difficult.

 

Still, I've had some great chats about tattoos, music, travel, family, and work. Any intimate situation, especially if it's with a complete stranger, often end up in some unexpected and unique conversational areas. And it's those rare sparks that make life worth living, eh?

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[lil.ms.summers 122]

I conversate with them, make them feel comfortable & me too...Im talkative, so I like to get to know them a bit better.

I think most tend to relax more when theres friendly conversation to start off with...of course not to take up our whole time together but just enough for us to be relaxed, intouched (as must as can be) & connected I guess is a good word. Ive lived in a few cities, schools, jobs etc...Lots of topics :) As Im sure so many ladies have .I find these men are more common then the 'wam-bam-ty-ma'am', although u do run into those poeple who are just strapped for time, somewhere else to be, etc.

IMO

XoX

L.ms

[MightyPen 67414]

I really need some kind of conversation and basic connection if I'm going to enjoy the session at all. It just starts simply -- how are you? how long have you lived here? how do you like Ottawa? -- and goes from there, unfolding naturally for as long as we're both comfortable. On average, maybe the first 15-20 minutes of a two-hour appointment.

 

I have no illusions about the depth of my relationship with an SP, but at least some friendly conversation and a little laughter lets me feel I've spent some time with a person, and not just someone's body.

[RedShirt 150]

I find conversation to be really important in making the session special, especially the first time. A 10 or 15 min chat to start things off that feels comfortable and natural really adds to the moment. If the provider can also naturally lead the conversation that is a big plus since I have been worried about asking a question that might be to personal, for example if she is from the area then asking which High School she went to would be a normal question I would ask any one else, but it might not be something she would want to share for obvious reasons.

 

I also think that the quality of conversation also tells you what kind of service you can expect. If the lady has no interest in talking to you intelligently, then it kills the illusion of what is going to happen.

 

Quick Edit: I also like nice conversation at the end when things over. Chatting while I am getting ready to leave makes it feel a little more special then the girl ignoring you while texting on her phone.

[Scipio3 100]

Ah, the joys of intelligent conversation between the sexes. It can only enhance the total sensual experience. The ladies I have remembered most fondly combined sexual technique with advanced listening and communication skills.

 

A little dirty talk never hurts either!

[BownChickaBown 4829]

How much is too much talk?

 

When an SP starts talking about her BF. That's too much.

 

When isn't it enough?

 

When I ask the limits and one thing is said, but as I try something then it comes out that what I was trying is not on the menu either

 

Ex: One SP said: "...safe fun with no greek, other than that - it's all good!"

 

I said: Perfect! ...and upon starting to tickle her bum, she sais: "Oh, no tickling either!"

 

Grrrr :( - That wasn't enough.

(Of note, she didn't say No Kissing the nape of her neck! :-P ...or elsewhere.)

 

Just want to stimulate some dialogue here.

 

Didn't you know? My middle name is 'dialogue' :wink:

 

Thanks for stimulating me! (Was is as good for you as it was for me?)

 

/BownChickaDialogueBown

[Newton 714]

I like converse. I found some sp's like it too, but some others, especially younger ones, don't do much, only being sweet and pleasing.

[Guest s******ecan****]

I like to chat at the begining at least 10 -15 min, a bit longer if its the first time with an SP (in which case I usually book a min 1 1/2 hr). I can't imagine not chatting.

[etasman2000 15994]

I'd like to hear both from SPs and hobbyiest alike - do you like to converse or just get down and dirty or a bit of both.

 

LOL the problem is getting me to stop talking!

 

This is really dependent on the two individuals.

 

Besides its quite possible to talk with your hands too :wink:

[E.D. man 691]

There is another thread on hear with a poll. about conversation

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

There is another thread on hear with a poll. about conversation

 

ottanon had a poll last month; result was that 91% preferred at least 5 minutes initial talk/massage, and 39% at least 15 minutes:

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=24930

[theghostrider78 100]

I myself like to have a bit of conversation beforehand it's an icebreaker for me and also I can see if we have any chemisty because if we don't then the evening might not go to well.

 

Ghost

[VedaSloan 119179]

I always feel like I talk too much with clients. It seems to happen with everyone, they come, we sit, we chat and the next thing you know, a half an hour has gone by.

 

I always tell clients that I can get really involved in conversation, so at any point, feel free to stop me and take it to the bedroom.

 

I try to keep an eye on my chat time, but it gets away from me often.

[big AL 350]

Hi,

 

I have only has the chance to exprenince an sp once in my life thus far, but her conversation was great. it reall put me at ease, as I was a bit nervous. it made our time together very smooth, I enjoyed the conversation very much, made me feel very special......

[Carrie Moon 68826]

I always like to chat a bit but if the client is overly horny he makes it clear that he's not interested in a get to know you chat and only interested in getting it on.:butt:

 

I have found it though that many are happier to chat after the pipes have been cleaned. :bddog:

 

 

If a client is particularly nervous I will chat til I feel they're more at ease and then make it clear that the party is about to start if they haven't already made a move. Usually they can't talk anymore at that point because their mouth is full of boob.:boobeyes:

[PistolPete 61421]

I always like to chat a bit but if the client is overly horny he makes it clear that he's not interested in a get to know you chat and only interested in getting it on.:butt:

 

I have found it though that many are happier to chat after the pipes have been cleaned. :bddog:

 

 

If a client is particularly nervous I will chat til I feel they're more at ease and then make it clear that the party is about to start if they haven't already made a move. Usually they can't talk anymore at that point because their mouth is full of boob.:boobeyes:

 

I like chatting, then I like stripping in front of a lady or stripping each other:mrgreen:, we both can get naked then get on with small talk, and then indulge in a passionate time.

 

I like to take my time with a lady and talk a little dirty(if she is into as well) and explore her body from toe to head or head to toe.

 

You are right, your boobies Carrie would shut any man up in a hurry:boobeyes: I'm never nervous around a lady:lol:

[Royalfun 55449]

I like to chat with the sp, and not only small talk; it gives me a sense of some intimacy and it improves my sexual drive.

 

My last encounter was exactly that; I wanted to talk and her also. I felt a connection. Then suddenly, we looked at each other, and she said, "now stop the talking and..."; that was a very nice moment of passion.

 

Writing this, I am smiling thinking of this moment. A real gift.

[Guest s******ecan****]

I always like to chat, I like to get to know ladies I am meeting for the first time and establish a bit of rapport. Its also fun to indulge in a little flirting as well. When I am repeating its nice to catch up a little.

[Old Dog 179138]

For me, the difference between a single visit and becoming a regular is conversation. It's that simple.

 

Talk to me, make me laugh, make me comfortable and I am yours. You might as well get a copy of my ATM card and my PIN.... I will come back.

[Reddog01 30280]

I am relatively new to the Escort experience, but I think it only natural to talk and break the ice first before getting down to business. I usually have a bottle of wine and some nibbles (cheese and crackers) available and select some ?tunes? that we both like or agree upon. In a hotel room it might be some music videos in the background. I can?t see going for less than two hours if you want the GFE, which is my preference. Three hours is even better if you connect.

I have to admit that sometimes I am a bit nervous about the risks of catching an STD or worse, which causes me not to be to adventurous. I even wonder about BBBJ and DATY but I have never said "stop". I have yet to discuss safety measures with an Escort but in my limited experience I have always used protection when doing the deed - she puts it on without asking as expected.

Has anyone ever talked about precautions or STDs when seeing and Escort? I imagine this is not a preferred conversation. I usually hope or rationalize that the girls look after themselves and the last thing they want is to risk infection or worse.

It is not unusual for parlors in Australia for example, to inspect a client for signs of infection before engaging in activities. Does this ever happen with Escorts in Canada?

[Jabba 18389]

I think it's only natural to engage another person in conversation. I need to develop some emotional content to the encounter otherwise, there's no point.

[Mutau 2516]

Whenever I meet with an SP/MP, whether it be for the first time or as a repeat appointment, I find it only courteous to commence with an interesting dialogue with the person. This breaks the ice, sets the mood and allows the two of us (or more!) to become a little better acquainted.

 

I cannot simply step into a room, discretely deposit the gift and then disrobe to make out.

 

Chatting, while engaging one's partner with eye contact and accompanied by light feathery caresses along the arms , legs or neck, is only a precursor of things to come. Conversation I find is a means of relaxing and starting to relate with your partner(s). It can be mundane, spicy, or sensually erotic with innuendos and double-entendres.

 

We each experience life in totally different manners as compared to others. Having a dialogue allows a comparison of experiences, it sets at times a common ground for enjoyment and also helps to explain what it is we wish to experience during our time together. Mind reading is not yet an every day occurrence. We must talk!

[Guest Ou**or**n]

Has anyone ever talked about precautions or STDs when seeing and Escort? I imagine this is not a preferred conversation. I usually hope or rationalize that the girls look after themselves and the last thing they want is to risk infection or worse.

 

There of course is never any discussion about basic protection during 'the act' as its a complete given.

 

I have a had a discussion or two about protection during oral activities with the ladies but it was more a follow-up from one of the countless CERB discussion threads on this subject.

 

I imagine many ladies do a discrete inspection before performing oral services.

[Ariane Valmont 332]

I always prefer to break the ice by chatting at the beginning of the rendezvous. I'm often kind of shy at first (even though I'm good at hiding it :)) so it gives me time to get comfortable with my partner. I also appreciate the fact that it feels more like a date when we get to know each other a little bit.

 

But as much as I like that part of the rendezvous, I try to make sure it doesn't last too long because I want to be certain we will have plenty of time to get intimate and enjoy each other. We can always continue our conversation afterwards anyway!