randyzak 3600 Report post Posted October 19, 2014 I have offered this advice privately to a few newbies and have been recently asked by an SP to offer the suggestions to the community at-large. Apparently, some of you need a refresher course... :roll: (I also expect that you are like me -- if you are considering meeting an escort who has no presence on CERB then you have done your proper homework to see if she's genuine or a scammer, and decided to go ahead.) Step 1. Be clear in what you are looking for (services, time). Be careful never to solicit. Example A applies if she has not stated her rates on her Backpage ad: Hi, I like DFK, BBBJ, and DATY. If you are free for a HH incall at 2 p.m., please tell me your HH rate. Example B when her rates are already quoted: Hi, I like DFK, BBBJ, and DATY. Can I book you for a HH incall at 2 p.m.? At this point, she will reply saying she doesn't do a service, she is only free at a time later on, or might not respond at all. Let's say she replies like this: Hi hunnie. CBJ only. I start at 3.30. HH 140, H is 200. Step 2. Make the booking and always prompt her to acknowledge by asking the question. Example: I'm OK with CBJ. 140 for HH is OK too. Please book me for 3:30 p.m. for HH. OK? Let's say she responds like this: OK hunnie. C u then. (At this point you have technically booked her in just 2 text messages! Good for you!) Step 3. Now, if you are within 1 hour of your booking, it is acceptable to ask for her location like this: Thanks for accepting my booking. What is your hotel or address? However, a lot of escorts do not like giving out their location if you have booked a few hours or a day in advance. Let her know that you will follow-up, like this: Thanks again, we are confirmed 3:30p.m. for HH. I will text you 1 hour before to ask for your location. Bye for now. (Later on you will text her like this: Hi, we have a booking for 3:30 p.m. Please tell me your hotel or address.) Once you arrive at her location, expect to text her again for her room number (if she's at a hotel), or for her buzzer number and suite number (if she's at an apartment). These same general rules work well if you choose to arrange your date over the phone. Escorts don't want to make conversation with you or answer a lot of questions. Be direct. Get booked. Get laid. Simple. Cheers! 15 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FunValerie 8573 Report post Posted October 19, 2014 Thank you for posting this. I hope that your sage advice is followed. Valerie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted October 19, 2014 you would see someone who calls you 'hunnie"? or shortcuts 'you'? I would say j/k, but i'm seriously not just kidding. imo, an sp should take as much time and care and attention with her replies as you are doing for her. it shows a level of professionalism and awareness of how she is presenting herself to someone who is contacting her for the very first time. Which means if the reply is only going to be 3 or 4 words, she can certainly take the time to spell out 'you' and 'see'. I totally agree that your texts should be detailed, and that you need to say hi, and not do a bunch of serial texting. Put the info you want her to know in the first text. And it should go without saying don't send a text if her ad says 'no texts'. :) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted October 19, 2014 I have offered this advice privately to a few newbies and have been recently asked by an SP to offer the suggestions to the community at-large. Apparently, some of you need a refresher course... :roll: (I also expect that you are like me -- if you are considering meeting an escort who has no presence on CERB then you have done your proper homework to see if she's genuine or a scammer, and decided to go ahead.) Step 1. Be clear in what you are looking for (services, time). Be careful never to solicit. Example A applies if she has not stated her rates on her Backpage ad: Hi, I like DFK, BBBJ, and DATY. If you are free for a HH incall at 2 p.m., please tell me your HH rate. Example B when her rates are already quoted: Hi, I like DFK, BBBJ, and DATY. Can I book you for a HH incall at 2 p.m.? At this point, she will reply saying she doesn't do a service, she is only free at a time later on, or might not respond at all. Let's say she replies like this: Hi hunnie. CBJ only. I start at 3.30. HH 140, H is 200. Step 2. Make the booking and always prompt her to acknowledge by asking the question. Example: I'm OK with CBJ. 140 for HH is OK too. Please book me for 3:30 p.m. for HH. OK? Let's say she responds like this: OK hunnie. C u then. (At this point you have technically booked her in just 2 text messages! Good for you!) Step 3. Now, if you are within 1 hour of your booking, it is acceptable to ask for her location like this: Thanks for accepting my booking. What is your hotel or address? However, a lot of escorts do not like giving out their location if you have booked a few hours or a day in advance. Let her know that you will follow-up, like this: Thanks again, we are confirmed 3:30p.m. for HH. I will text you 1 hour before to ask for your location. Bye for now. (Later on you will text her like this: Hi, we have a booking for 3:30 p.m. Please tell me your hotel or address.) Once you arrive at her location, expect to text her again for her room number (if she's at a hotel), or for her buzzer number and suite number (if she's at an apartment). These same general rules work well if you choose to arrange your date over the phone. Escorts don't want to make conversation with you or answer a lot of questions. Be direct. Get booked. Get laid. Simple. Cheers! I think with C36 it'll be dangerous to start talking/texting/emailing about money for services. Keep talk/texts/emails to money is for time and companionship, nothing about sex for money A rambling RG 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisbethNova 5627 Report post Posted October 19, 2014 I think with C36 it'll be dangerous to start talking/texting/emailing about money for services.Keep talk/texts/emails to money is for time and companionship, nothing about sex for money A rambling RG I was going to say... I actually am completely nervous to answer any email with these abbreviations.... In fact this kind of email I may answer to, but I know it won't go anywhere since there is absolutely no information as to who this gent is at all.. danger!! 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted October 19, 2014 To the OP: I think you got your point across succinctly. However, to add to it - it's to stress that if/when the lady accepts your booking request, that you follow her protocol to securing/confirming the appointment. For example, in my case, I do not finalize any bookings by text or email. The client MUST call me from an unblocked number I can call back if necessary. Part of my screening to hear the person's voice and chit chat a bit as intuition plays a big part in whether I want to see them. I give them a general idea of where I am located. Then I will ask that they confirm at least a half hour before the scheduled time so I know they are on their way. Then I will direct them to a designated place to park. When they get there, they need to call for the street address. I will be moving away from answering explicit requests by text or email as I do not want any text message or email trails out there. I have no problem discussing things by phone because it's doubtful LE is going to wiretap my phone. I think people need to relax a bit and wait and see how things are going to pan out with the new bill. In-calls were technically illegal and even agencies were offering them and the police have basically overlooked that for years unless there were problems. So why all of a sudden would they be listening in to two people's private conversations. I am not concerned that much will change. I am quite adept to change and have no problem adapting to whatever I need to do to keep myself and my clients safe. 8 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Highsexdrivebabe 11800 Report post Posted October 19, 2014 Hi sexy, well as for me terms of endearment just cum first!! So yes would say Hi darling, hun, babe, chéri and list goes on but it doesn't me in NO way I am not true, real or honest but just that I am just moi !!! Barbara xxxxooo you would see someone who calls you 'hunnie"? or shortcuts 'you'? I would say j/k, but i'm seriously not just kidding. imo, an sp should take as much time and care and attention with her replies as you are doing for her. it shows a level of professionalism and awareness of how she is presenting herself to someone who is contacting her for the very first time. Which means if the reply is only going to be 3 or 4 words, she can certainly take the time to spell out 'you' and 'see'. I totally agree that your texts should be detailed, and that you need to say hi, and not do a bunch of serial texting. Put the info you want her to know in the first text. And it should go without saying don't send a text if her ad says 'no texts'. :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted October 20, 2014 I have offered this advice privately to a few newbies and have been recently asked by an SP to offer the suggestions to the community at-large. Apparently, some of you need a refresher course... :roll: (I also expect that you are like me -- if you are considering meeting an escort who has no presence on CERB then you have done your proper homework to see if she's genuine or a scammer, and decided to go ahead.) Step 1. Be clear in what you are looking for (services, time). Be careful never to solicit. Example A applies if she has not stated her rates on her Backpage ad: Hi, I like DFK, BBBJ, and DATY. If you are free for a HH incall at 2 p.m., please tell me your HH rate. Example B when her rates are already quoted: Hi, I like DFK, BBBJ, and DATY. Can I book you for a HH incall at 2 p.m.? At this point, she will reply saying she doesn't do a service, she is only free at a time later on, or might not respond at all. Let's say she replies like this: Hi hunnie. CBJ only. I start at 3.30. HH 140, H is 200. Step 2. Make the booking and always prompt her to acknowledge by asking the question. Example: I'm OK with CBJ. 140 for HH is OK too. Please book me for 3:30 p.m. for HH. OK? Let's say she responds like this: OK hunnie. C u then. (At this point you have technically booked her in just 2 text messages! Good for you!) Step 3. Now, if you are within 1 hour of your booking, it is acceptable to ask for her location like this: Thanks for accepting my booking. What is your hotel or address? However, a lot of escorts do not like giving out their location if you have booked a few hours or a day in advance. Let her know that you will follow-up, like this: Thanks again, we are confirmed 3:30p.m. for HH. I will text you 1 hour before to ask for your location. Bye for now. (Later on you will text her like this: Hi, we have a booking for 3:30 p.m. Please tell me your hotel or address.) Once you arrive at her location, expect to text her again for her room number (if she's at a hotel), or for her buzzer number and suite number (if she's at an apartment). These same general rules work well if you choose to arrange your date over the phone. Escorts don't want to make conversation with you or answer a lot of questions. Be direct. Get booked. Get laid. Simple. Cheers! I appreciate your report here and I know it is offered with good intention, but personally, I would not accept such a booking. I want to know some details about the person so I can tell if we will be a good match or not. I am not just a body with orifices that someone is booking. The ones who start by introducing themselves are the ones that I respond to. My first response to the scenario above would be, "With whom am I texting?" followed by "What can you tell me about yourself?" But....to each his own. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 My initial contact will be email not by text and how that's managed determines if there is a reason to continue communicating which would then include texting and speaking on the phone. Peace MG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacectryguy 12547 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 My initial contact will be email not by text and how that's managed determines if there is a reason to continue communicating which would then include texting and speaking on the phone. Peace MG For the most part, that is me as well. The first contact is through the email link in the website or sometimes via pm on boards (provided the SP has that option posted in her ad). In that initial contact is the phone # I will be contacting from as well to save confusion. One thing I would add is that in that first text, my first words are always, "Hello, my name is (insert first name), I am 54 yrs old and live in the area and saw your ad on CERB (or whatever). My handle there is "peacectryguy" Then the other pertinent stuff that was mentioned. I believe it is important to make an effort to show the lady you are on the level and a name and brief description does help in that. If they require more info, they can and will ask but it shows you are placing some trust in them and usually they feel better trusting you. It is a 2 way street. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fr33yay0 1172 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 I used this method via e-mail last week. It works perfectly. Thanks again from the noooooobs! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 Some SPs are not into the menus so there may have to be bit of a different dialogue. To be honest, if someone starts naming off an alphabetical list of acronyms, it tells me a lot. I look for someone who genuinely wants to spend time with me aside from what type of services they will receive. When I see a person who lists acronyms, I am hesitant. I understand that there should be some sort of expectations in terms of what services will be received and not received but to me this is very impersonal and tells me what type of client they will be. A first impression is always a lasting one. If the person takes the time to communicate with me in more of a personable way while still being able to get their questions answered, it is more favorable. I am also more patient in this regard as I answer phone calls and texts all day long so I'm used to having more of a conversation. A conversation on the phone with a potential client will always give me a signal in 30 seconds or less if I want to meet them. It is all in the way they speak to me, the way they sound tells me their personality and the type of questions they ask, etc. I pick up on people's energy very quickly whether it's good or bad on the phone and in person. I will never specifically book just by text. It is crucial I hear the person's voice. Don't ask me why but my instincts always tell me yes or no within those 30 seconds. So while I don't have a lot of time, my brain and instincts are processing this info very quickly in how the person is reacting towards me and the questions they ask. I'm sure this works if an SP is more upfront in her ads and you want to confirm these services but we all run our business a different way. I thought it was cute when you put in "Hunnie" but I never use terms of endearment with my clients unless I've met them first. This comes off as very phony when you haven't met them. A different approach will need to be taken once this new bill becomes law. 11 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maverick 2873 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 you would see someone who calls you 'hunnie"? or shortcuts 'you'? I would say j/k, but i'm seriously not just kidding. imo, an sp should take as much time and care and attention with her replies as you are doing for her. it shows a level of professionalism and awareness of how she is presenting herself to someone who is contacting her for the very first time. Which means if the reply is only going to be 3 or 4 words, she can certainly take the time to spell out 'you' and 'see'. I totally agree that your texts should be detailed, and that you need to say hi, and not do a bunch of serial texting. Put the info you want her to know in the first text. And it should go without saying don't send a text if her ad says 'no texts'. :) The language used by the provider can be part of the experience. I find it also tends to be an age thing (younger people being more comfortable with the abbreviated style of texting). Sometimes it's not about seeing a classy elegant lady, it's about seeing a young bubbly ball of passion & energy. Or if it's a GFE-style encounter I know a lot of people text like this with their significant others (hunnie, babe, sweetie). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loneskater 25635 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 I want a true GFE. If I was into the bar scene and interested in getting a gf, I doubt I would get far if my first questions were if she offers BBBJ or other acronyms. Therefore when I contact a provider, services is one of the last thing I will discuss. Besides telling her a bit about myself, I see if we can match our schedule. No point getting into too many details if timing doesn't work. I love getting to know ladies in the business but don't want to waste their time! As for how I will contact her I will use her preferred method! 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123367 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 Your plan is fine for a menu lady but I know for sure receiving texts like that would scare the Ba - Jesus out of me.. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fr33yay0 1172 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 I get other side of the coin, with the acronyms and the so called "state" of the person they are speaking to. I think it was meant not to waste time with the SP, I can't speak for them as I am not them... but I feel like there's a lot of time wasting by individuals and this method just shorten's the time that's need to book a appointment. I do agree, once the day came I was very loose with number 3 and actually texted the SP about her day and how she was doing. Well before asking for the location. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 Some ladies have stated they would not respond to texts like this, but I would be perfectly fine with a text like this, although I would ask for a name. It's important to keep in mind that we all screen differently, making the interactions entirely different. If you're contacting someone who requires references, this would not be an appropriate beginning, for example. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
squirtingmilf 1982 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 I wouldn't accept a booking like that either and I seriously can not stand when guys use a term of endearment to address me, I have a name and prefer that I was addressed by it, Squirtingmilf, Smilf.. My ad firmly states no explicit or graphic language, those don't even get answered half the time. My ad also states that you visit my website before contacting me, what I offer is there and everything is YMMV after that. I too require a voice call in order to confirm an appointment, this way I can pick up more about your attitude, if you are using substances or not etc. You always, always respect and follow ladies booking protocol. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 I get other side of the coin, with the acronyms and the so called "state" of the person they are speaking to. I think it was meant not to waste time with the SP, I can't speak for them as I am not them... but I feel like there's a lot of time wasting by individuals and this method just shorten's the time that's need to book a appointment. I do agree, once the day came I was very loose with number 3 and actually texted the SP about her day and how she was doing. Well before asking for the location. BUT... I do not mind talking about sexier details with someone. But yet wont offer a menu, as maybe not everyone will get the exact services and do not want to commit to an agreement if they arrive less then ..hmmm desirable ( as in hygiene, manners, etc) Also so endless amount of txt for sexy chats, well that is a whole other issue , lol What you may think is prudish, others think are safe for you as a person enquiring...... and us a lady who is booking you. We have a certain level of discretion for both our benefits. So for particulars, I do agree some certain things should be discussed such as what each other like/dislike in an encounter. But for both peoples piece of mind, perhaps you should voice call and in a new lady in business situation, wait till you visit? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 Just goes to show that there is no "perfect" way to carry on this conversation. My comment would be simply be respectful in whatever approach you take and then follow the ladies lead. Just my Opinion 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VictoriaJolie 64127 Report post Posted October 20, 2014 Personally no the type of text I like and would refer you to visit. My ads/website for rates/experience 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FunValerie 8573 Report post Posted October 21, 2014 Personally no the type of text I like and would refer you to visit. My ads/website for rates/experience I personally detest texting because there is too much texting when I already have a detailed website. The point about efficient booking was well-made by the original poster. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted October 21, 2014 I feel texting works well if you have both met each other previously. However, to arrange a first meeting, most providers require more information. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanyathetgurl 857 Report post Posted October 22, 2014 I found this thread to be informative and helpful. I assume this is meant as a generalization, not an absolute: Escorts don't want to make conversation with you or answer a lot of questions. Be direct. Get booked. Get laid. Simple. For gentlemen who read that and don't also read reassurances to the contrary, I'd like to go on record as saying "I'm an exception" (and there might be many more). The terse dynamic is to some extent in effect because that's how many girls think guys want it. If you're a gentleman who likes to exchange several emails and ask many questions before meeting -- I like that and I welcome that. For example, a recent new prospect has sent me more than 100 emails so far and I've continued to reply back nicely, sent pictures, etc. By now he and I have built a good rapport so in a business where we each struggle to set ourselves apart, I've succeeded, just by being nice and patient. So, as a rule -- I think you hit the nail on the head. But, I hope that this generalization doesn't cramp the style of gentleman who prefer a long courtship, even though, of course, it's on a professional premise. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites