Not sure what to think of this

[Bazinga 110]

Here we go, maybe I'm a rookie at this but I try and be polite when I approach girls via text. Haven't had much experience either. If a girl keeps texting back short, and I mean short as in she can't be bothered type replies, should I be worried and stay away. I mean, I'd like to flirt a bit for 2-3 days before we meet for out date. I keep getting, ;)), or sure and yes or no. No real hook and reel type replies. I mean, there's lots of girls out there and I'm sure they get lots of callers who aren't serious. This isn't the case at all. I've told her about my request and fantasies and all that and she seem like it's just routine for her. I'm getting turned off. Yet I text another sweetheart and she's not shy. I feel like I should pay her just for her super texts. Idk? I'm attracted to the first but getting turned off, the second not as much but I could had gigidy'd to her text alone. This will be my second expensive "date" and the first wasn't spectacular. I want this to rock! What do I do?

[Lester 846]

Im new as well to cerb but I don't think asking for 2-3 days of flirting is a reasonable expectation. These girls are working and if you are asking for 2 to 3 days of thrills doing sexting, I would say your expectations are a bit unrealistic. Just my opinion

Don't take it personally.

[xxxAxxx 21016]

Being an SP I can certainly tell you "endless texts" get very annoying for us. You aren't the only person trying to see us or contact us at any certain time and we get a startling amount of time-wasters.

If you need to "chat it up" perhaps look for SPs like myself who frequent the chatroom in cerb. When I have free time for "idle chit chat" I pop in there for exactly that reason.

If you're getting short answer replies it could be any number of reasons, including but not limited to:

-she might be in the middle of cooking her dinner and so being pre-occupied is one reason

-she may have already had 6 different guys waste her time this morning and you are unfortunately the straw breaking the camel's back

-Maybe she is with friends right now and doesn't want to be rude by being on her phone the whole time so keeping her answers short allows her to enjoy her social life

-Maybe she's just not very good with words

-Maybe she's just a bitch

Or, and this one will maybe piss people off but oh well....

-Maybe you need to realize that you're not paying them for time you text, but the time you spend with them in person. Many ladies here have a website that can and will answer all the questions you may have. Some ladies won't even take the time to answer questions about their rates, they will refer you to their site and be pissy about it. SPs do not owe you a single moment outside of what you are paying for, and that being said means your texts are using time that is not in fact paid for. Many ladies feel the only time of theirs you get is not through a wire but face-to-face. As I said in the beginning of my post, we get a lot of time wasters and so we act accordingly.

 

FYI- Some girls don't feel the need to "reel" you in as you so eloquently put it, as they are busy enough and happy with the steady stream of clients they have whom they know aren't "time-wasters".

The most successful dates I've had, let's call them "smooth", have all been with gentlemen who knew before hand who I am and what I offered and the only contact we had prior to meeting was the actual conversation dictating when and where. If you need prior romance and extended 3-day long foreplay I think you need a girlfriend, not an SP. Just MHO.

Ask a few questions, and then book or don't.

There won't be many girls who will be happy about sexting for the 3 days you're looking for. I'd say if you found one and she tickles your fancy go for it, she's rare. But consider this, if she's trying that hard to "reel" you, there might be underlying reasons.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I for one will not keep a txt going. Once you have made your enquiry and worked out your details you should refrain from sending a bunch more. When us ladies are txt 20 people daily it can be very tiresome and at the end of the day, sometimes I want to throw my phone out the window lol...

 

A couple flirty chats when you are booking is fine and fun, but between other enquires, confirmations and running errands in between appts, if I get a txt-a-thon happening I do get irritated after while.

 

Just wait till you meet and have all the flirty fun at that time:) Besides, flirty chats are just that, your not REALLY getting to know each other, that can only happen once you are together.

[Boomer 33202]

Might I suggest you put together an email to introduce yourself and ask for any details you want. By doing this you can give her an idea about who you are, your personality, and thus save her having to deal with multiple texts.

 

As a rule I only use text with women I have dealt with previously, or if I want to know if it's convenient for them to take a call.

[randyzak 3600]

...I try and be polite when I approach girls via text..... I mean, I'd like to flirt a bit for 2-3 days before we meet for out date.... What do I do?

 

...You are definitely barking up the wrong tree. If you want to flirt with an SP over text, then you going about things all wrong. I assume since you are using text as your primary means of communication then you are trying to make arrangements with someone who is advertised on BP. You should understand that the vast majority of women on BP do NOT want to have a conversation with you. Here is my advice on this specific subject matter, and how to book this type of lady, entitled "How to book an escort in 3 succinct text messages or less":

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=196940

 

If you have a series of special requests and want to have lead-up communication, then I strongly suggest that you (a) choose your next SP from one of the fine ladies who have a presence on CERB, and (b) establish communication through the private messaging system.

 

If no one of CERB in Ottawa suits your fancy right now, then you are advised to be patient. Many women from Montreal, Toronto, Vancouver, etc., come through the capital on tour so keep an eye on the advertising section and make your arrangements when you see someone you do like. The wonderful ladies that come through on tour usually give 1 or 2 weeks advance notice before they show up.

 

You also might wish to look at how a lady describes herself. If she calls herself a courtesan, then you might pay a slightly higher price for her time, but you also might find her receptive to continued communication prior to your booking via e-mail or private message -- with the proviso that you have made a genuine booking and are not just trying to "chat her up."

[Hector17 9215]

For me, I think that texting 2-3 days leading up to a rendez vous is not a reasonable expectation when meeting a new lady, or just starting to get better acquainted with one you are favouring. That being said, I think finding yourself in a really comfortable position with a regular lady you like and cant wait to see again and again is a bit of different story....but not by text. I often will email with a greeting or to see how something went or was going for my fave...sometimes just that I was thinking of her, always reasonable ...I don't invent reasons to send messages,as it's not necessary...when the feeling is genuine there is no need to , It goes both ways....there is nothing quite lights up my eyes more than when I see a message from her in my INBOX either....Yes we flirt a bit with sexy innuendos and stuff like that, also some cheering on and being a sounding board on outside the bedroom issues. I don't know if you lean to desiring that type of experience in your hobbying, but I think forcing a rapport by text is time consuming and not that productive for a lady. I have no complaints with my situation, and in fact appreciate it all the more after that reading the post above where the scenarios are listed.

[Ice4fun 78407]

The ladies that have met me can attest that i an a bit of a chatter... I like communication with the ladies i see before and after meetings.

 

I am not talking about endless texts or anything just some good old fashion flirting. I have been successful in meeting a few wonderful ladies who have enjoyed my banter and participated in some pre and post meeting chats.

 

What i have learned however is that you need to take the lead regarding that from the lady you contact if she is open to developing the relationship in this way it becomes pretty apparent... however you also need to understand and respect that this is not the way all SP's work so be prepared to respect her wishes.

 

The previous posts here are correct... this is her time she is sharing with you and you should not expect it from her. Your only expectations regarding her attention should relate to the time you are paying for everything else is a gift from her.

 

Just my Opinion

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

One thing I might add, I will not sext with someone I've never met. I have no idea if he's a 16 year old.

 

Guys I have met, know I don't like this method of communication. It's impersonal and I prefer live talk. So some flirting leading up is ok, but I don't like endless texts. I do have other things happening, so taking time away for someone who might not even confirm, sorry not interested.

[loneskater 25635]

Better get used to it. I would say with the new law you will probably not exchange many txt with a lady unless you have already met!

[Guest *l**e]

just an aside, but in my experience, the people that have led me into long text exchanges prior to us having ever met have been massive time wasters the vast majority of the time; asking for detailed descriptions of what to expect, endless clarification questions, requests for pics and then they just disappear.

 

can you say annoying??

 

I repeat, this is my experience only, but the people who actually want to spend time with me typically know what they want, ask any questions concisely, and then let me know if they'd like to book or not.

 

When I sense a tire kicker, my replies get shorter and shorter as well.

[Bazinga 110]

I can see clearly now, thanx everyone

[FunValerie 8573]

just an aside, but in my experience, the people that have led me into long text exchanges prior to us having ever met have been massive time wasters the vast majority of the time; asking for detailed descriptions of what to expect, endless clarification questions, requests for pics and then they just disappear.

 

can you say annoying??

 

I repeat, this is my experience only, but the people who actually want to spend time with me typically know what they want, ask any questions concisely, and then let me know if they'd like to book or not.

 

When I sense a tire kicker, my replies get shorter and shorter as well.

 

Time is the only thing that an escort can sell! Time wasters and tire kickers and endless texters are not appreciated.

[fortunateone 156618]

Please read this thread linked by randyzak, then get back to us. 2-3 days, when it comes to texting, is over the top, when the main point of thread linked below is to make the booking in 3 texts total.

 

Until you have the appt booked, and you show up, all you are doing is indicating that you are going to not show up, that the sexting is sufficient, that you are trying to reel her in to see just how far or how desperate she is to get your business. The majority of reputable quality focused professional sps don't sell themselves, or at least they do not oversell themselves. You might lure in someone who is new to the business and doesn't realize just how many guys who no show are going to do the same thing. but at this point, i really feel that anyone expecting days of pre communication is a carrot on a stick carrier. IF she does as you demand, THEN she gets the privilege of an appt with you.

 

For some sps, the non stop texting is not sufficent to motivate them to see you, as they will have decided it is a bad investment of their time. It could be an indication of high maintenance, high expectations, impossible to please when face to face. Already disappointed by the reality of an encounter and only having had one appt with one sp, may be the tipping point to some sps deciding not to take the chance of seeing someone who seems determined to be perpetually disappointed by how sps act prior to the encounter.

 

in other words, take it easy, relax, go with the flow, don't over think it, don't over analyze, just set up the damn appt with a likely looking prospect and go for it.

[mod 135640]

I just deleted his last post and banned him. No one needs to have to deal with someone like that. I feel bad for the ladies for having to deal with guys like this. If I allowed his last comments it would just offend the entire community so I am closing this thread and leaving his comments to himself. He is either trolling for drama or just has no clue and is very needy. I would say time waster for sure. ladies I am so sorry these guys exist in this world.