For SPs or hobbyiest alike...

[HarveySpecter 1908]

This question might not have been worded properly or correctly and might offend or look disrespectful. If it is the case then I apologize but due to a recently awkward experience, I just had to ask.

 

Is there some type of gratification or happiness when your client, whom you have just had a great session with, releases maybe once or more.

I mean does that have to be the end all be all for an appointment?

 

And if the client doesnt release, is any or both parties involved meant to feel sad or so, maybe awkward but should that be the case?

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Release or no release, early or late....as long as both are having a good time then in my books, it's a great date!

[Kate von Katz 49953]

I agree. If both parties feel that the session was fun, then the release doesn't matter.

 

That being said, there are some times when a gentlemen is obviously having difficulties with achieving that ultimate moment, and I do feel bad when it doesn't work out. But often this is out of a girl's hands as to why. Sometimes it's stress, blood pressure, new medication, etc.

 

As for myself, the release is never the fun part for me. I would rather get my man off than get off myself. So guys, relax. Don't try so hard and just relax and enjoy the ride :-)

[ASHLEY XOXOX 100]

I dont think there's any need to feel awkward in the latter situation... It only becomes awkward when that is the only goal. There are hundreds of other fun things to do!

[Victoria Banks 21899]

I enjoy releases from my partner... sooooooooo so sooo much.

I feel inadequate if it doesn't happen.

[Carrie Moon 68826]

I'm with Sin on this.. I don't necessarily take it personally when a man doesn't cum but it is less fun without it and I practically purr and glow in the eyes when he cums..

 

If it's inside me when it happens all the better but sometimes I really like to see it on my belly or tits.

 

That's why the cum shot is so all important in porn scenes.. no cum shot the whole scene ends up on the cutting room floor.

[mrgreen760 37785]

It's always been about the whole experience to me. I prefer a payoff for sure, but have had some extremely sexy and sensous times when it hasn't happened. It's all good!

 

Peace

Mr Green

[Andee 220524]

What's that old cliche - it's not the destination, it's the journey.

 

Release or no release, if I truly believe I have given good service, I don't feel guilty or bad and I would never be judgmental or make a client feel bad about his ability to release. Sometimes things happen and that doesn't mean you didn't have a good time.

 

I have had some clients share with me that some of the best appointments they had did not necessarily include final release.

 

To me most wham, bam, thank-you m'am appointments are not very creative or necessary memorable.

 

Final release is not the end all be all, even for a woman.

 

My two cents...:butt:

[antlerman 17064]

For me......many many times I do not release...but that is fine with me...

I have menal orgasms and am happy when my partner has ben satisfied......

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Oh I agree that it's the journey.. but dessert is always nice. I've had many a good meal without it and it can be memorable.. but I still like the cherry on top if I can have it.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I am quite partial to the "money shot" that's why I say no to facials....you don't get to see it!

[Touch 57501]

Fortunately virtually every SP that I ever met seemed goal-oriented in producing a climax in me and seemed pleased when they succeeded. Occasionally due to medication or fatigue it just doesn’t happen -- certainly in no way her fault. Sometimes I have what I call a “rounded” orgasm: no abrupt release of sexual tension and often little or no liquid ejaculate produced; nevertheless, it is pleasant and perfectly satisfying and totally different than being left with uncomfortable “blue balls” (which fortunately I haven’t had in many years).

 

Unfortunately, after having a perfectly satisfying “rounded” orgasm some women simply do not believe me (especially when no liquid has been deposited in the condom) when I say I had an orgasm and feel nicely satisfied. Having someone treat you like they think you just lied to them, can give a negative vibe to an otherwise pleasant sexual encounter.

I don’t know where the idea that men can only have one kind of orgasm came from: I certainly have two or three different kinds of orgasms all pleasant and satisfying in their own way. When I say I am pleased with my “rounded” orgasm I am genuinely expressing my satisfaction, not just trying to make the woman feel good about her performance. It is great that most SP’s care so much about succeeding in delivering pleasure; they just need to be more accepting/knowledgeable that there are many different types of male sexual fulfillment.

 

Touch

[Andee 220524]

Fortunately virtually every SP that I ever met seemed goal-oriented in producing a climax in me and seemed pleased when they succeeded. Occasionally due to medication or fatigue it just doesn?t happen -- certainly in no way her fault. Sometimes I have what I call a ?rounded? orgasm: no abrupt release of sexual tension and often little or no liquid ejaculate produced; nevertheless, it is pleasant and perfectly satisfying and totally different than being left with uncomfortable ?blue balls? (which fortunately I haven?t had in many years).

 

Unfortunately, after having a perfectly satisfying ?rounded? orgasm some women simply do not believe me (especially when no liquid has been deposited in the condom) when I say I had an orgasm and feel nicely satisfied. Having someone treat you like they think you just lied to them, can give a negative vibe to an otherwise pleasant sexual encounter.

I don?t know where the idea that men can only have one kind of orgasm came from: I certainly have two or three different kinds of orgasms all pleasant and satisfying in their own way. When I say I am pleased with my ?rounded? orgasm I am genuinely expressing my satisfaction, not just trying to make the woman feel good about her performance. It is great that most SP?s care so much about succeeding in delivering pleasure; they just need to be more accepting/knowledgeable that there are many different types of male sexual fulfillment.

 

Touch

 

I am surprised at the number of SPs who get into this business and do not educate themselves about such things. These days there is so much information available, I consider such ignorance just plain laziness. For example, anyone who has heard or seen the Sue Johannson's Sex with Sue Show would know this.

 

I have met SPs who didn't even realize men can orgasm without even being erect!! I have a client who is diabetic and although he orgasms, does not ejaculate liquid.

 

Any SP who would treat you like you lied, should undergo some "sensitivity" training I think. I am truly sorry that that happened to you. She should be ashamed of herself.

[masterowls 249]

Personally I think whether or not a release (or multiple releases) takes place on any date is actually a secondary concern. When I visit an SP, what I am actually most interested in, is spending time with an interesting, beautiful, preferably funny woman. Don't get me wrong, sex is nice, but if that's all we really wanted, a common street hooker would do. I think most of the hobbiests here would agree that the reason we seek out SPs is that we want something a little more special. We want a partner. We want someone we can truly enjoy being with outside sex. That's what makes the ladies here so special. I've had guys outside the hobby ask me why I don't just go hire a street girl cus it's generally less expensive. I usually use a car analogy to eplain it. I ask, If you could afford your dream car would you really drive a civic? Both serve the same function but they're on entirely different levels as far as enjoyment. Trust me these Ladies provide way more than physical pleasure, they are a total pleasure experience. Rant over... lol

[bucken 1479]

Personally I think whether or not a release (or multiple releases) takes place on any date is actually a secondary concern. When I visit an SP, what I am actually most interested in, is spending time with an interesting, beautiful, preferably funny woman. Don't get me wrong, sex is nice, but if that's all we really wanted, a common street hooker would do.

 

I had a conversation very much like this today with one of our lovely ladies. We both agreed that it is very much the personal connection we have made that makes it satisfying for the both of us.

As she said today, she was a regular 'Chatty Cathy', but I did not (and do not) mind. It is one of the reasons I seek this out. Conversation makes it so much fun. Release and the physical side definitely add to the whole pleasure and experience, but it would not be nearly as enjoyable without the personal connection.

[omehgosh 736]

OMG Carrie! Good thing I started bringing the extra shorts with me - that was, well, uh... that was very nicely said! :lol:

 

...I practically purr and glow in the eyes when he cums..

 

If it's inside me when it happens all the better but sometimes I really like to see it on my belly or tits.

[Guest cour**eyw**]

I agree with Carrie, that it's definetly MOST satisfying when theres a hot load of j izz, cuz it makes me really hot. I understand however, that plenty of people can't, or just don't, or whatever- I just make sure that they are satisfied as best as can be, and that's really satisying to me, load or no load. As I know I can get off a lot, but people can't always visibly see that... so I definetly understand about that.

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Same is true for guys wanting to see a girl cum. It's the surge of energy that gets me/them all hot and bothered watching and building and it gets one another going..

 

Seeing the cum is not as important as seeing that redness in the face/neck.. feel the heart pounding and hear the moans. If there's a ''money shot'' but the client is completely quiet and hasn't made a sound or changed his demeanor I'm going to be less enthused as well.

[Guest S******s*m]

Same is true for guys wanting to see a girl cum. It's the surge of energy that gets me/them all hot and bothered watching and building and it gets one another going..

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Carrie, thanks for bringing this up - as part of hobbying, I personally enjoy to share the experience. While I enjoy being pampered, seeing how an SP will react to the tickles, kisses and other pleasures makes the whole adventure worthwhile.

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Carrie, thanks for bringing this up - as part of hobbying, I personally enjoy to share the experience. While I enjoy being pampered, seeing how an SP will react to the tickles, kisses and other pleasures makes the whole adventure worthwhile.

 

exactly! it's the building of each other's energy and the sharing back and forth. A guy get's hard a the sight of her naked body or the anticipation of seeing it. The girl gets wet knowing the guy is hard.. each step towards increasing that energy builds until explosions occur.. and if they don't like we are saying "occur" the journey is still enthralling.

 

That look in a man's eyes after coming up from licking pussy is particularly enticing.. regardless of whether I've cum or not.. he's still glassy eyed and ''moony'' :)

[Touch 57501]

Any sign that my partner has had some serious pleasure gives me pleasure: the exctasy expression (which curiously looks like an distress expression) on the middle of a woman's forehead, or even more of a turn on, a woman's muscles involutarily spasming around my deeply inserted member, or a woman thrashing so wildly around that I can just barely maintain contact while giving DATY,