Playing the field vs. Repeating with an SP

[Jim.Bean 241]

I have been hobbying for nearly 15yrs and very seldom do I repeat with the same SP. I have had a couple of bad experiences but 90% of the time the experience is wonderful.

I love the excitement of meeting a new lady and experiencing all she has to offer. Different shapes, sizes, ethnic groups, I just love them all.

I have on occasion repeated with great results but I am nervous about establishing a "relationship" or revealing too much of who I am which might put my family and/or career at risk.

I expect I will continue to repeat on occasion but am wondering what other Hobbyists and SP's think about this?

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

There are benefits to both. I personally prefer long-time client relationships because we learn to trust each other, and we know what the other likes and dislikes. However, I also understand the appeal of being with a new person. It sounds like you have stability at home, so it's understandable that you would seek out something different.

[E.D. man 691]

I have repeated with one lady alot from ceb, but have discovered another lady on cerb that I would like to be alot with too. But unfortunately , medical cost have interfered in this. Sometimes you like someone you know and othe times you just want a stranger.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I have been hobbying for nearly 15yrs and very seldom do I repeat with the same SP. I have had a couple of bad experiences but 90% of the time the experience is wonderful.

I love the excitement of meeting a new lady and experiencing all she has to offer. Different shapes, sizes, ethnic groups, I just love them all.

I have on occasion repeated with great results

 

I expect I will continue to repeat on occasion but am wondering what other Hobbyists and SP's think about this?

 

Jim you got the words quoted above right out of my mouth. I am very much like you. I like to experience a variety and that is mainly the reason why I continue hobbying that I started two years ago and before that I was going to strip bars where I met and made friends with hundreds of ladies and seeing 10 to 15 different ladies every week. As you said it very well, the excitement of meeting new ladies of different shape, size, color, smell, etc. is overwhelming. I repeat with about half of ladies for a second time but hooked on (more than two repeats) less than 10% of the ladies that I see (escorts but I always repeat with dancers) and they have to be absolutely outstanding for me to be hooked on however, it has happened that I repeated with the same lady many times spanning over several months. The criteria for being hooked on are looks (pale soft skin, youth, tall, slander, cuteness, blue eyes, naturally unshaven), personality (friendly, happy, she must like to be with me, honesty) , services (kissing is very important to me and so is daty, no BJ), class (clean, polite and ability to carry out mature conversation, educated).

[Seymour 3970]

Everyone is unique in their likes and attractions, and everyone plays by different rules. So then it makes sense that one would participate however they felt comfortable. Bottom line, participate as per one's comfort level.

[pipercub 795]

I for one prefer to repeat with the same lady as much as possible. I realy like to get to know that someone special and each time we meet gets better and better. Chemistry is very important for me and so when I find that someone special I tend to repeat again and again.:)

[Mutau 2516]

I can see and understand the reasoning of Jim.Bean and secret-admirer and their persuasive arguments for variety being the spice of their lives.

 

However, I do tend to agree also with pipercub that once you have been with a few ladies and have found the special one that really cranks your motor, so to speak, then repitition is mighty fine.

 

Everyone needs to find their balance in life. One, or the other, is not necessarily better. It is always what suits your particular situtation best.

[Guest s******ecan****]

I like the variety and excitement of meeting new ladies but also love to repeat with someone I trust and have good chemistry with. I'm sure lots of us gentleman struggle with which option to pursue, still its a nice problem to have.;)

[clancy 142]

I have to say I agree with Megan to some extent. I have found someone I trust and am very comfortable with just being myself. I am not worried about personal feelings getting in the way since I haven`t forgotten the nature of our relationship but she is very sweet and I truly do care for her as a friend.

Life is too short to not pursue those things that make us happy. This doesn`t mean playing the field is not in my future because there are so many beautiful ladies here that I would like to get to know, some I`ve messaged already but the opportunity hasn`t come yet. So I`ll just go with the flow and see what`s around the next bend.:D

[Old Dog 179138]

Ohhhh, I am a repeater. For many of the same reasons as mentioned above, I love the feeling of comfort and confidence you have with someone that you know.

 

When it's a mutually wonderful experience, the kisses become more passionate, the play becomes more adventurous and the intimacy is far more sensual. I think too (at least for me) that when you maintain that relationship, that excitement you have is channeled away from nervousness and into something more tangible. You actually get to enjoy your time together on far more than just a physical level.

 

Variety is the spice of life... but there is no place like home. Balance that and you can't lose!

[Jabba 18389]

I need the variety. Call me what you will (and there are a lot of words that may come to mind...), but I enjoy the mystery and discovery with each new encounter. Mostly all positive.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I need the variety. Call me what you will (and there are a lot of words that may come to mind...), but I enjoy the mystery and discovery with each new encounter. Mostly all positive.

 

I can think of one name that I have been called before. I used to go to Rigaud at Quebec-Ontario border years ago and everyone was seeing me going into locked cabins with a large number of different girls . I was having just (intimate) dances but of course they didn't know. So, one night one of the girls came to me and smiling and called me slut:shock:. I asked her why she called me that and she said in a surprising manner and I quote "You go with every girl, you slut":).

[jman47 233]

I have to agree with Old Dog in his comments on this subject. While the anticipation and excitement of a first meeting derived from the newness is a cool thing...so is the adventure and excitement derived from a repeat. You see to me repetitive firsts means repeating the same basic things over and over....while repeats with the same person could be a new and different adventure each time with something different.

 

There are also the intellectual and emotional aspects that are satisfied through a longer term relationship...connection and chemistry are key ingredients for me.

 

Quite frankly, if its not broken...why fix it. Put another way, if one is enough, who needs more....

 

Have fun,

 

Jman

[fortunateone 156618]

I have been hobbying for nearly 15yrs and very seldom do I repeat with the same SP. I have had a couple of bad experiences but 90% of the time the experience is wonderful.

I love the excitement of meeting a new lady and experiencing all she has to offer. Different shapes, sizes, ethnic groups, I just love them all.

I have on occasion repeated with great results but I am nervous about establishing a "relationship" or revealing too much of who I am which might put my family and/or career at risk.

 

I expect I will continue to repeat on occasion but am wondering what other Hobbyists and SP's think about this?

 

With sps, better results come with repetition, simply because she has to be wary of first time clients to a certain extent. A repeat visit covers many issues, from whether he will no show, to being a perfect companion (who does not overstep boundaries). When she is 10000% relaxed, I think that only comes out of visit number 3 and more. But the same goes for the client as well. When he knows already he is coming to a safe place, where he is welcomed and knows what to expect, he is more relaxed as well. It is a two sided win.

 

For variety factors tho, I can see visiting multiple partners. I did feel that your other reason for choosing to do this is kind of off base. I am not sure that any of the sps or the clients would view becoming a regular this way:

 

establishing a "relationship" or revealing too much of who I am which might put my family and/or career at risk.

 

 

If you are seeing someone regularly, and is proven trustworthy, there is no danger to your family or career. If you visit a wide variety of unknown sps, who you have not established either a rapport or a trust level with, you actually are exposing your life to a lot more scrutiny and potential problems. This is because the more different people you visit, the more people know about you. If you only visit one or two people regularly, only those 2 people know about you. If after six months, or a year or more, nothing untoward has happened, it is unlikely that it will. If you see one wacky new chick a week, who knows who you might encounter.

[Guest f***2f***]

I'm a repeater for the most part...but every now and then a bit of strange is fun!!:mrgreen:

[Guest s******ecan****]

 

If you are seeing someone regularly, and is proven trustworthy, there is no danger to your family or career. If you visit a wide variety of unknown sps, who you have not established either a rapport or a trust level with, you actually are exposing your life to a lot more scrutiny and potential problems. This is because the more different people you visit, the more people know about you. If you only visit one or two people regularly, only those 2 people know about you. If after six months, or a year or more, nothing untoward has happened, it is unlikely that it will. If you see one wacky new chick a week, who knows who you might encounter.

 

 

I agee completely.

[masterowls 249]

Jim, you said in your post that you were afraid to establish a relationship with a service provider for fear of affecting your career, or home life. What you need to remember, is that these women are professionals. It would not be to their advantage to interfere in your life. You would very quickly find that their client base would disappear. Further more the type of relationship is different. A relationship with an sp, while it may be affectionate (and it's nice when it is) is not and has never been intended to be permanent. I think if you enjoy the variety, then you should continue playing the field, but don't let fear stop you from repeating if you find some one you're particularly attracted to. For myself, mostly because I have special needs due to disability, if I find some one I like I tend to be a repeat client.

[mrgreen760 37785]

For me a regular situation is definately preferable. In the square world I sucked at one night stands and that seems to have carried over to the game as well. I like the familiarity and the rythm that develops when you find some one you hit it off with. I've found as both parties become more comfortable it just seems easier all the way around, seems easier to make an appointment you know each others bodies and likes and dislikes and the intimacy grows. As well for me any way I prefer pre-game anticipation versus pre-game nervousness.

 

Now when your regular moves on the search begins anew so it's good to be doing some prospecting along the way and narrowing down some options. By doing that hopefully I'll choose well. I only play about once a month give or take and it's a whole experience thing for me, it takes some one interesting to pull me in.

 

Peace

Mr Green

[777flyer 1612]

I too prefer to repeat, and I am a creature of habit...when i find a great thing, why change ?

 

I spent a great deal of time researching and finding the right lady, and as time goes on, the familiarity not only brings a great friendship, but amazing times together.

 

Of course, we are both very aware of the inherent limitations this type of relationship has, but it hasn't stopped us from enjoying each other.

 

To me, the true GFE can really only occur in a relationship fostered over time....

 

SNK

[Loki318 1631]

I have been in the hobby 19 years and at first it was a different sp every time then 2 or 3 repeat's, and on to the next...

 

Lately the last 5 to 7 years I have had 1 or 2 regulars with a few occasional 1 nighters for variety....

 

Recently I have entered into a "sugar daddy" type of arrangement where she is available a few times a month for a specific monthly fee (my total hobby budget) So far it is working great but who knows ... I have never been much with monogamy and budgets change or can be adjusted

 

Loki318

[Guest S******s*m]

I have been in the hobby 19 years and at first it was a different sp every time then 2 or 3 repeat's, and on to the next...

 

Lately the last 5 to 7 years I have had 1 or 2 regulars with a few occasional 1 nighters for variety....

 

Recently I have entered into a "sugar daddy" type of arrangement where she is available a few times a month for a specific monthly fee (my total hobby budget) So far it is working great but who knows ... I have never been much with monogamy and budgets change or can be adjusted

 

Loki318

 

I wonder how many long time hobbyists have changed over time like you have Loki ?

[srch4intimacy 204]

For me it depends on my mood. Some days I feel like experiencing someone new and exciting and then other days, I feel like seeing someone that I'm familiar with and know I will have a great time with.

[bucken 1479]

For myself, after playing the field when I first started, I have settled into a 'Repeater' mentality. I have found that it is much more enjoyable and satisfying to be with a lady who gets to know you over time, likes and dislikes, etc.

 

Pretty much as several of the other gentlemen have already so elequently stated.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

As I mentioned before, I like change and variety and this is basically the reason as why I hobby and though I fully respect the individuals' decision for the repeats with same lady as the choice and preference but can"t really fully understand the logic behind it for those who may be single. So the unresolved question in my mind is if a single person in no relationship prefers so strongly to repeat with the same lady again and again, then why not just find a GF and I am sure in most cases it would be a lot less expensive. I used to do this 12-15 years ago when I was student with little money (each relationship lasted a few months at the most) and the cost of taking the lady to the dinner or a dance bar in a month was significantly less than what I spend now on hobby in a week.

[Loki318 1631]

Lots of questions here for a poll :)

I'm not single and I don't know if I would do different if I were ... for me I guess I'm looking for a few different GF Experiences; I have found that the "experience" dose improve with familiarity until it is time to move on, and again for myself about 5 to 8 repeats and I go exploring; with the exceptions of two very long term very different ladies .... I guess I get around :oops:

I am going to try this SD/SB thing for a while, it is very budget-able and I was lucky to find what I was looking for quickly...

 

SA I think you answered your own question in the question ... I doubt that most single guys do a lot of repeats as they are in the hobby for the same reasons ...Fast, Easy Variety; Where us older guys that are slowing down (not me the rest of us) are looking to replace some thing that we are missing else where in our life ... ?

 

Any way just my 2 cents

 

Loki318

 

 

 

As I mentioned before, I like change and variety and this is basically the reason as why I hobby and though I fully respect the individuals' decision for the repeats with same lady as the choice and preference but can"t really fully understand the logic for those who may be single. So the unresolved question in my mind is if a single person in no relationship prefers so strongly to repeat with the same lady again and again, then why not just find a GF and I am sure in most cases it would be a lot less expensive. I used to do this 12-15 years ago when I was student with little money (each relationship lasted a few months at the most) and the cost of taking the lady to the dinner or a dance bar was significantly less than what I spend now on a weekly basis.