Mister T 45020 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 A recent thread started yesterday about being contacted out of the blue by an SP brought a question I had from the back to the front of my mind: Many dancers have more or less regular shifts, and most that i know do not post. With hardly any SC's website being active, how do you keep in touch with your favorite(s) dancers aside of popping to the club when you want to visit? Over time, I was offered phone numbers (or private e-mail address) and was asked mine in some instances as to "keep in touch" via text messaging (i.e. text me if you want to stop by, i'll make sure to wait OR text me to ask me if-when i'll be in town). Of course, the occasional text or e-mail from a lady confirming a schedule was made on prior agreement, without the expectation that i would be able to visit. The occasional thank you note is always appreciated for the time spent together. The ladies i know seem to appreciate it as much as a return visit. So far, i've had no abuse and haven't abused this privilege. Trust is acquired on both sides for this to work. So, opinions? Thoughts? Oh, and please, do not ask for phone numbers. It's a question of trust.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
1963Kennedy 10698 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 You have a good thing going, treasure it. I've never kept in touch b/c of circumstance. I do know what cars some of my favourites drove so would know going in if they were working. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ottlad 281 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 I met a dancer from Toronto once. We exchanged e-mails and we kept in touch that way. She'd let me know when she was in town. I also exchanged numbers with a dancer and she would call me from time to time. I even spent part of Canada day in her company. It was nice. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alger 1898 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 I have a couple of dancer friends that text me fairly regularly, mostly to let me know they are dancing, but occasionally just asking how I am and how I am doing. Sometimes they have actually phoned. I have had more than a few offer to give me their phone numbers and/or exchange them, but the spidey senses went up and I gracefully declined. A close dancer friend use to often text me, just to chat, but she kept losing her phone. Occupational hazard I suppose. I offered to get her a prepaid one and may yet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mister T 45020 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 I have a couple of dancer friends that text me fairly regularly, mostly to let me know they are dancing, but occasionally just asking how I am and how I am doing. Sometimes they have actually phoned. I have had more than a few offer to give me their phone numbers and/or exchange them, but the spidey senses went up and I gracefully declined. A close dancer friend use to often text me, just to chat, but she kept losing her phone. Occupational hazard I suppose. I offered to get her a prepaid one and may yet. I agree about the spidey senses ... Served me right so far. And yes, 1963Kennedy, i know it! And it is treasured by all parties when that chemistry is there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 When I was a dancer, I kept in touch with all my regular clients by email. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **n****er Report post Posted June 9, 2010 I kept in touch with 2 dancers. 1 I seem to spend tons of time (and ca$h) on and she has no problems texting multiple times per week. It's surprising that they would offer given my rugged exterior, but money is a great motivator. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kate von Katz 49953 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 If both parties are in accord as to the terms of use for the provided contact information, I see no reason why not to keep in touch. That being said, if one or the other disagrees or is perturbed by the manner or content of contact, there is no fault in discontinuing. It's all a matter of trust and maturity, I think Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted June 9, 2010 In between 2001 and 2007 when I was going to strip bars 2-3 times a week, I stayed in touch with my most favorite dancers via phone mostly (Email was not very commom those days). http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=5665&highlight=favorite Since I was single and living by myself then and I knew the dancers for years I fully trusted them to give them my home phone number and sometimes they were calling me to let me know that they are dancing and invited me to come over (mostly at Barbs where we could have dinner together but a few at Playmates too) or me calling some of them inviting them home for dinner and private dances (those who accepted my invitation as some declined). On one occasion I was stalked by a dancer for a while whom I invited home for private dancing (but she had a different idea in mind) but this was a rare exception rather than a rule. Since I switched to escorts in late 2007, I almost stopped going to strip bars and gradually lost contact with all those beautiful ladies. Either they moved away (two of my very most favorites graduated from college and moved to another city) or changed bars or changed profession. The last time I was at Barbs I didn't know anyone there!!!!. I have exchanged contact contact info with few escorts out of many escort ladies that I have seen since beginning of 2008. I see an escort lady mostly once sometimes twice and on very few occasions I am hooked to one lady for a while. so one may say the mutual trust that I built with dancers over years is not there with escorts to pass each others' private contact info (with very few exceptions). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted June 10, 2010 As I mentioned in the other thread, I don't mind texts or emails; my circumstances at the present time allow me that freedom. That being said, I had a wonderful message on my blackberry today from my fave dancer... she missed me! Nothing breaks up a horrible Wednesday afternoon better than a friend letting you know that you are on their mind....ummm.... okay a friend that gets naked and rubs herself against you while letting you know that you are on her mind is better, but since they are one and the same it is a moot point! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
curious2 323 Report post Posted June 11, 2010 A close dancer friend use to often text me, just to chat, but she kept losing her phone. Occupational hazard I suppose. I think that Bell/Rogers/Telus/etc make a lot of money in this particular sector of the economy! :roll: It is fun getting texts & picture though--when a girl who I don't know/like who I don't want to see again asks for my number, I just change one digit when I give it to her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted June 12, 2010 when a girl who I don't know/like who I don't want to see again asks for my number, I just change one digit when I give it to her. I feel honoured I got your real number! :boobies: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BigBlueMachine 112 Report post Posted June 12, 2010 A few years back I kept in touch with a few ladies mostly as many have said to let me know when they were dancing next at a certain club. Recently however I haven't gone to many SC in the area but will likely revive that this summer. Hopefully I will find a few ladies to keep in touch with. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mister T 45020 Report post Posted June 12, 2010 As I mentioned in the other thread, I don't mind texts or emails; my circumstances at the present time allow me that freedom. That being said, I had a wonderful message on my blackberry today from my fave dancer... she missed me! Nothing breaks up a horrible Wednesday afternoon better than a friend letting you know that you are on their mind....ummm.... okay a friend that gets naked and rubs herself against you while letting you know that you are on her mind is better, but since they are one and the same it is a moot point! Well said. Nothing better to brighten your day... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Passmore 100 Report post Posted June 13, 2010 Actually ever since I had shown one of my all time favorite dancers how to do her own tases over a couple coffees we have been in touch ever since. I thought it odd at first and was a bit leary of it all but over the past few months it has been very fun and helpful to boot as she has a keen mind and a sharp wit. I like that. The ocassional dirty text or naughty picture is always nice too :D Passmore Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kubrickfan 12836 Report post Posted June 14, 2010 As I am not based in Ottawa, and only visit occasionally, I have been fortunate, for many years, have a good txt communication with a dancer I met a few years ago. I see her every time I am in town, and I consider her a friend as I have gone to dinner with her many times, talked for hours about our families and trials and tribulations in our lives. We usually exchange messages every few days even though it might be months before I am back in town. She is a bright wonderful person that has brought a unique perspective to my life and I treasure her thoughts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mister T 45020 Report post Posted June 16, 2010 Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and stories. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
