No face pic

[koolkev 331]

If a lady doesn't offer face pics in her ad, and you arrive and her face is unattractive to you. Is it ok to cancel your session without even stepping inside.

 

I mean the face is important and part of the experience.

 

Looking for thoughts

[cdninja 424]

Definetly, I have left 3 sessions because face wasn't up o my standards.

[Pippen23 1031]

So you guys think it'll be fair if the lady shuts the door on you if your faces wasn't "up to her standard"???

 

Be real yo :)

[koolkev 331]

Difference I think is the lady is getting paid.and of course if she isn't into it she can refuse. I would prefer she refuse me, than try to go on with it, though she isn't into it cause I'm unattractive.

 

Additional Comments:

Thanks Lily, that is what I meant, I would never offend the lady on purpose. However I think that if you are not going to enjoy your experience you shouldn't do it. That goes for the gents and ladies.

 

Additional Comments:

Thanks Lily that is what I was trying to say. I would never purposely hurt the girls feeling

[SexxxyRebecca 57990]

I would suggest sticking to girls with face pics if its a deal breaker for you

[roamingguy 300292]

If a lady doesn't offer face pics in her ad, and you arrive and her face is unattractive to you. Is it ok to cancel your session without even stepping inside.

 

I mean the face is important and part of the experience.

 

Looking for thoughts

 

Short answer NO!!!

You book an encounter with a lady with the full knowledge ahead of time you don't know what she looks like. If you don't like her looks well fine, cancel, BUT ONLY IF YOU PAY A CANCELLATION FEE EQUAL TO HER DONATION

That's no different than being a no show

How many ladies now do you think will think twice about booking an encounter with you...wondering if you'll back out at the last minute

If you commit to an encounter, you follow through with it

 

Difference I think is the lady is getting paid.and of course if she isn't into it she can refuse. I would prefer she refuse me, than try to go on with it, though she isn't into it cause I'm unattractive.

 

Additional Comments:

Thanks Lily, that is what I meant, I would never offend the lady on purpose. However I think that if you are not going to enjoy your experience you shouldn't do it. That goes for the gents and ladies.

 

Additional Comments:

Thanks Lily that is what I was trying to say. I would never purposely hurt the girls feeling

 

The lady is getting paid for time and companionship. Not for being attractive/unattractive in your eyes. Who is to judge beauty anyways.

And any guys on here sitting in judgement of beauty better score a 10/10 on the male attractiveness scale before they even start to be critical of female beauty. If you are not one hundred percent sure you will commit to a date (the lady hides her face) then don't even contact her, much less book a date with her

And while you say you wouldn't hurt a lady on purpose, I'm sure you've already offended quite a few ladies

 

RG

[ruggedgeek71 386]

I am generally looking for other "assets" than just a pretty face. however if that was a known big consideration I would try and ask for a partial face picture (maybe of just the eyes?) If unable to accommodate I would end discussion then. Before booking. No need to potentially waste either persons time.

[CristyCurves 169032]

If a lady doesn't offer face pics in her ad, and you arrive and her face is unattractive to you. Is it ok to cancel your session without even stepping inside.

 

I mean the face is important and part of the experience.

 

Looking for thoughts

 

My opinion and answer to the above scenario as it's explained is no, it is not okay. Step inside, explain that you can't stay, give some respectful reason and offer her some compensation, that is decided to be fair between the two of you.

She was there, on time, prepared, so why would you be so rude to not even step in and offer an explanation?

I would say that scenario would only be acceptable if you were mislead, felt threatened/unsafe or because of some other dishonesty. The fact that you weren't attracted is unfortunate but not her fault.

There have been many men that I've met that I didn't find physically attractive but thankfully I didn't just shut the door because most of them certainly had other traits that caused me to have a very good time! Perhaps that could happen with you and your girl, sometimes not great first impressions can turn into incredibly good times.

Many of us don't show our faces to protect our privacy, friends, family members and because of other employment, many reasons actually. It 's a personal choice.

Being a companion does give us the right to refuse a gentleman as well, in a polite fashion. Just because we are compensated for our time doesn't mean we have to be accepting of every offer.

[Ice4fun 78407]

For me the answer is pretty clear NO of course not.

 

When I started reading this thread i had to stop and go back could we really be suggesting that it was ok to back out on a booking with a lady because you were disappointed when you saw her face... wow... this must be a joke thread.

 

Most ladies who do not show their face in ads do so to keep themselves safe so walking our simply because her face was not what you had hoped for is not ok. If the lady has misrepresented herself in some way with fake or very old pictures then maybe you have something to complain about.

 

Over the years I have seen a fair number of ladies they all bring something special to the booking so limiting yourself to a yes or no based solely on the person's face is so short sighted it's hard to imagine.

 

Just imagine if the ladies applied the same test to us or charged us more if they did not like your face.... some of us would never get a booking.

 

Let's just remember this is a business but that does not mean we can't be gentlemen too.

 

Just my Opinion

 

Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

[koolkev 331]

Thanks for everyone's comments. I think I'll stick to girls with face pics, again no disrespect was meant to the ladies. This is why I asked the question so I knew what the protocol was.

 

Additional Comments:

Roaming.guy , I'm hoping you are incorrect about me hurting girls feeling as stated above that is the opposite of my intent. I asked the question on the board so if this situation were to arise I'd know how to handle it without offending anyone.

[mrgreen760 37785]

It does matter to me so I only contact those who have some part of their face showing. Accurate body shots have more interest, the ones that are just from the back end hold zero interest for me.

 

Saying that I was in a situation where it was clear immediately that there was a personality conflict, we could have met under any circumstance and we would have not like each other. Really no ones fault and staying would have been no fun for either of us so I said I really don't think this is going to work out and I don't want to be dick about it so lets working something out that's fair to both parties and part friendly. We worked out an amenable to both of us arrangement and I was on my way......no harm no foul.

 

Peace

MG

[conquistador 18487]

I think the best way would be to just pay some sort of compensation, what that is up to you and her...I'm not sure a full fee would be required, as rg suggested.

 

But for some looks are important to them, so let's not judge them on it.

 

Your best bet would to stick to those that offer face pics and go from there... So you will not be possibly disappointed when you arrive.

[roamingguy 300292]

Hum, that is very generous but although a compensation is the gentleman way to do I would not go as far as the full amount...

I've been refused a few time when I started the hobby,I was with a agency who was lying at every corner,when I went indy I got 10 years older overnight since I was able to say the truth about my age...loll

He would put pic of another brunette wearing those transparent high heels but when I would arrive and the guys would say where are the shoes like you wore on the pic ?I would not even know what he was talking about...sigh,I didn't last long as a agency girl,not my style loll

A token fee to cover the cab back and forth is appropriate...

 

Well just my take on the compensation matter. It is I, the client that initiated contact with the lady, not the lady with me. I am fully aware of what she looks like (and if her face pics are hidden I take that consideration) I also understand that the lady has set aside a block of time for me, based on me saying I want to meet her, time she could have used for another client. Me refusing to see a lady based on her looks when I didn't know what she looked like to begin with but booked her anyway doesn't seem right. So she'd get full compensation from me

Now this doesn't apply to a bait and switch situation, that's something different.

As for paying in full for an encounter I haven't shown up for, well I have

In my case I cancelled an encounter at the last minute due to illness. But why should the lady be out her donation, it wasn't her fault I didn't show.

I gave her the donation for our planned multi hour encounter, just seemed the right thing to do. And if I did any last minute cancellation of a lady it just seems to me the right thing to do

Anyhow, back to our regularly scheduled program

 

RG

[conquistador 18487]

That's great RG, and kudos to you for being so generous, def a model gentleman.

 

However, when you make things bold and capitalize things you make it sounds like the rule of law... When it's what you would do, not everyone is the same... So I would next time say "this is how I would do things..." Or "what I would offer".

 

Cheers.

[Guest A**aTo**h]

Thanks for everyone's comments. I think I'll stick to girls with face pics, again no disrespect was meant to the ladies. This is why I asked the question so I knew what the protocol was.

 

Additional Comments:

Roaming.guy , I'm hoping you are incorrect about me hurting girls feeling as stated above that is the opposite of my intent. I asked the question on the board so if this situation were to arise I'd know how to handle it without offending anyone.

 

You have handled both the criticism and advice very well Koolkev; you went out on a limb and asked for advice and opinions on something that is potentially a touchy question.

 

Good for you to take some of the advice provided to you by saying that you would stick to women with face pics. That way you will never have to worry about a scenarios that would put you out of your comfort zone.

 

I think that hypothetical questions can be healthy and provide room for animated discussion at this post has proven!

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I think that if a lady has set aside some time for you some type of compensation is in order. She may have turned down other appts to meet with you. Potentially appts with wonderful regulars! Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you are not attracted to someone it's understandable that you may not want to follow thru but being cognizant of her time is the gentlemanly thing to do.

[cinelli 22184]

I think that if a lady has set aside some time for you some type of compensation is in order. She may have turned down other appts to meet with you. Potentially appts with wonderful regulars!

 

To be precise, it costs the lady money if you change your mind on the doorstep. Even if you do not proceed she has already done a lot of prep work: she travelled to her workplace, cleaned it, dressed up, maybe wasted several dollars' worth of makeup (jeez that stuff is expensive eh?) etc. All for nothing.

 

An hour of revenue lost. Are you going to make it up to her? How do you back out without hurt feelings? "Sorry lady nothing personal but you are too ugly for me".

 

If the face is a deal breaker then go with a face you like.

[Pippen23 1031]

@cdninja...where u at now?? Would love to hear from you since you so fly :)

 

Be thankful that these beautiful ladies are here for us so don't be too high on yourself :P

[MrBlackbird 785]

It may be a business transaction but we should not be heartless people.

 

Unless there is some fraud (B&S) or some other health / safety concern you should continue the meeting. You never know what gem could be hidden under the exterior you initially objected to! If you cannot continue the meeting, be polite and excuse yourself without causing embarrassment or pain.

 

Pay, after all, she has booked the time for you and that time can't be recovered. It's like the dentist, if you make an appointment, walk in the office and hear the drill and decide to leave - your still going to pay!

[fortunateone 156618]

I am also just going to throw out there that some of the ads you are going to see that use face pics, well the face is not the face of the escort you meet. There are some shady dealers out there, and they know that there are guys like the OP who say face pic or not appt, and they do accomodate.

 

Like Lily's agency, whatever you ask for, that is what we say we are sending but when the lady arrives at the door, she will more likely be completely different.

 

In my area there is a flood of ads daily, spam really, the vast majority for micros, which are like mini massage parlours with illegal workers and locations. Every one has face pics, everyone is slim, everyone is between 21 and 23, every single one. And yet, at the door, no one you will ever meet will actually be the one in the photo. or 21 to 23 lol.

 

So. some advertisers give what clients are demanding: face pics, full menus, low rates, but when you arrive it is a different story. Sometimes going with an ad that does none of that, you have a better chance of success.